So it's certainly possible and there are successful relationships between those who do and don't identify as asexual. Preemptively ending things because you think that he could feel a certain way sounds like a poor idea. If he made it clear he only wants to be with someone who will satisfy his sex drive then sure, sounds like a reason to break up. It's important to understand each other's wants and needs so you guys should talk about it. Some people figure an open relationship works for them and some people find their partner is perfectly ok with infrequent to no sex. I don't think you're being selfish and if you are insecure about it, tell him. You may feel silly and need him to tell you he doesn't care about it once every so often but it is better than letting insecurities grow and messing up the relationship May 22, 2020 at 12:02AM

So I 18M don't get morning erections or random erections throughout the day. Haven't got them in a few years. My libido is high and I can get a full erection by using my imagination or when having intercourse. Could the lack of morning wood be cause for concern related to low testosterone? Submitted May 22, 2020 at 12:11AM So I 18M don't get morning erections or random erections throughout the day. Haven't got them in a few years. My libido is high and I can get a full erection by using my imagination or when having intercourse. Could the lack of morning wood be cause for concern related to low testosterone?

That's awesome. I'm glad they understood. I'm only sharing my own personal experiences. May 22, 2020 at 12:00AM

I suspect that one or both of my parents are in the ace spectrum. I’m not out to them, and I think they’d dismiss the idea if I tried to explain that I’m ace, but I’m glad they don’t often question why I’m twenty and never show interest in dating. May 21, 2020 at 11:59PM

Wow, there's a lot more people than I was expecting towards the making out side xD. Yay, for not being alone. May 21, 2020 at 11:57PM

I made a ring, so measured it as I went. After the hot ouchy parts were done. As to my specific Ace ring I went to jewelry stores and tried on rings to learn sizing. Then one day I went to a LGBTQIA+ Pride Fair and there was someone selling rings. "That one!" And walked away with it. May 21, 2020 at 11:57PM

Cool! I just started using quarantine as an excuse to teach myself how to crochet! Guess I have to buy some purple and black yarn now. May 21, 2020 at 11:56PM

Yall 29 people trying to get cooties? May 21, 2020 at 11:54PM

Noice mug. May 21, 2020 at 11:54PM

Spiderman pointing meme - May 21, 2020 at 11:53PM

The wait until you have sex thing is a giant myth, and anybody who says anything like that is completely wrong. It sounds like you could be aromantic as well. The way I figured out for sure is that I never came across the concept of sex naturally. I didn't know about anything like that until a disgusting image my friend sent to me. Is it the same way for you? Really, at the end of the day just ask yourself - Do I want to be asexual? Do I want to be aromantic? Do you want to delve into the sexual and romantic world, or not? May 21, 2020 at 11:37PM

Awesome, I think it's a great start. I like the simple design but it gets the point across to those who see it. May 21, 2020 at 11:37PM

i'm thinking that too, though i suppose it changes based on my relationship status. i don't have sexual attraction outside of a relationship. it's just really confusing comparing myself to the other young men around me May 21, 2020 at 11:37PM

I've been back in the dating scene for the past 6 weeks and have grown increasingly frustrated with my lack of potential suitors and the minimal amount of effort displayed. I am 28/M, have a career, have a savings, have traveled the world, almost have my M.Ed., workout, give a lot of effort, and can carry a good conversation. My picture is at this link: https://imgur.com/a/fsNALN3 I can show more pictures if someone wants to see. It's just my face in that picture. Sure, I am not a Calvin Klein model or a millionaire, but I am not exactly looking for a model in return. I'd like someone with a similar amount of education, someone who's fit, and someone who generally has a good personality, but, most importantly of all, I want someone who is a frequent and good communicator, i.e., someone who puts in effort to try to make something work. However, I've noticed of the 10 or so women I've added phone numbers with in the past 6 weeks seem to think it's perfec...

I would consider myself to be an ideal partner. I mean I’m the opposite of what men complain about in partners. I’m laid back, respect privacy, don’t really get jealous or pick fights. I prefer not to argue. I feel like a relationship should be a support system not a dictatorship. Yet men who I “talk to” as we say always end up gradually distancing themselves and then end up with women who are very controlling or jealous.... like why hahaha. Submitted May 22, 2020 at 12:00AM I would consider myself to be an ideal partner. I mean I’m the opposite of what men complain about in partners. I’m laid back, respect privacy, don’t really get jealous or pick fights. I prefer not to argue. I feel like a relationship should be a support system not a dictatorship. Yet men who I “talk to” as we say always end up gradually distancing themselves and then end up with women who are very controlling or jealous.... like why hahaha.

I’ve had a crush on a friend for right around a year-ish, but at the time, I didn’t want to be involved in a relationship. Fast forward to last March, I was planning to ask for her number, but a certain pandemic cancelled school before I could do so. Recently, I’ve been debating about asking for her number because there were a few things I wanted to ask, but the only way I can do so, is to ask one of her friends if she could give me her number. I don’t know whether I should or shouldn’t wing it and see what happens because I’m half expecting a buttload of questions. I’m a bit unsure of what to do, any advice would help Submitted May 22, 2020 at 12:04AM I’ve had a crush on a friend for right around a year-ish, but at the time, I didn’t want to be involved in a relationship. Fast forward to last March, I was planning to ask for her number, but a certain pandemic cancelled school before I could do so.Recently, I’ve been debating about asking for her number because there were a f...

Hey reddit, Was told the other day that my gf wanted to break up. She’s my best friend, and I’m hers and neither of us want to lose that. We’ve been living together for nearly two years as well. I’ve been sleeping on the couch for (unrelated issues) for a while, and our lease is up soon so we’re getting a three-bedroom with our roommate in a few months. Does anyone have tips for how to handle a breakup where you remain in close proximity and want to be on good terms? I am trying my hardest not to make her feel guilty or upset but I’m hurting, am quick to cry and this apartment has thin walls. I wanted to marry this girl and I’m still very much in love with her. Any advice on how to proceed would be greatly appreciated. TL;DR broke up with my gf and want to remain friends. Living in close proximity is complicating things, but I don’t want to lose her as my best friend. Submitted May 21, 2020 at 11:53PM Hey reddit,Was told the other day that my gf wanted to break up. She’s my be...

TL;DR Babydaddy cheated on GF with me My baby daddy and I have been on & off for 5 years but he currently has a girlfriend. Two months ago he cheated on her with me I told the girlfriend about it. After she asked for proof they ended up staying together. Baby daddy has cheated on her another 2 times on her. He says if I were to tell her that I'd be sabotaging their relationship if I do. I don't want our co parenting relationship to blow up if I do tell. But my question is should I talk to her about it? Or just leave it alone? Submitted May 21, 2020 at 11:59PM TL;DR Babydaddy cheated on GF with meMy baby daddy and I have been on & off for 5 years but he currently has a girlfriend. Two months ago he cheated on her with me I told the girlfriend about it. After she asked for proof they ended up staying together. Baby daddy has cheated on her another 2 times on her.He says if I were to tell her that I'd be sabotaging their relationship if I do. I don't want ...

Okay, so to start with some background, I know my roommate from high school and we have been friends for years now. I introduced her to my third friend after she moved back home and they started dating almost right away, even though I, and my other friends, warned them to be careful about dating within friend groups. They dated for about two months and made themselves and everyone around them miserable. They took a short break after that and we were all relieved, hoping that everything could just go back to normal since they hadn't been together all that long, but after only a week apart they got back together and immediately started repeating the same cycle. They fought constantly, dragged me into all their arguments and put me in the middle of things no matter how many times I insisted I didn't want to be involved. They dated for another three/four months and finally seemed to split permanently about two months ago. Again, we were all relieved to hear that they were done, ...

We were together for 13 years, broke up last February 2019. Continued to live in the same apartment while we both saved money (he to take on our rent without me, me to move out). During the five months we lived together broken up, our relationship was actually great - better communication, still cooking things together, going to movies, he would get me a ton of gifts (not important but just saying), etc. We would at times cry together and wonder if this was the right choice, that we still loved each other but needed to see how separating would go. Unbeknownst to me, he had had a 24 year old model girlfriend in another country that he traveled to often for work, that entire time. Apparently they were very close, sleeping together and spending his birthday together. They were close enough to where she was going to come stay with him on a one-way ticket after I moved out of our apartment. He told me the day after I moved out - a day after my 30th birthday, in which he went all out for m...

Throwaway because this is a pretty sensitive topic for me... I find it really hard to motivate myself to do anything if it’s not from the validation of other people (friends, family, love interests etc.) or for someone else. I feel like I can do anything I want, really, but I almost need to be watched or have the approval of someone else to feel validated in doing it. I struggle with the notion of being valued by my own self-perceptions. Call it low self-esteem or whatever, but I find it so hard to just motivate myself if I’m not doing it for something or someone. For example, when I think of my career path in life, I think to myself that I want to be “successful” so that I can provide a comfortable lifestyle for my mother (63F) who made a million sacrifices for me. When I think about shaping up and losing weight, cutting back on the drinking, or in general being a more upstanding, stable person, I think of a friend of mine I’ve had feeling these past five years for (23F). We have a...

TL:DR I feel like I'm expected to do so much more than my partner between home and work and he doesn't seem to understand why I'm stressed. I (F29) have been with my partner (M39) for two years. We are both lucky enough to WFH full time during Covid. I usually do the cooking because I enjoy it and find it relaxing. Today I didn't have time and just snacked between meetings. My partner didn't eat. I had an after hours call with my boss and while I was on the call I had to coach him through boiling pasta and heating up sauce for spaghetti-- while working through client issues (at a tech company) with my boss on the line. He then huffed around while because I wasn't ready to watch TV and relax because I needed to pack up for the day and walk the (my) dog. I'm emotionally exhausted from having to basically coach my nearly 40 year old partner through basic life skills while doing the same amount of paid work (if not more because we start at 8a and he was do...

My husband is the greatest thing to have ever happened to me. I spent so much of my life feeling unlovable, and seeing toxic or failing relationships constantly. I didn’t think it would be possible to have a healthy, happy relationship. But here I am. He (26) and I (22) got married in November, after becoming college sweethearts. Throughout our relationship, he saw me through my parents splitting up, the suicide of a close family member, and a couple of other things. His love and support for me never wavered. He is the sweetest, most pure, gentle soul I know. He’s never once even raised his voice at me. He has everlasting patience and compassion. He is intelligent and such a hard worker. I struggle with my mental health, and have since before we got together. He never questions the validity of anything I’m feeling, he only encouraged me to seek help from a professional (which I did). We’ve had to move twice in the past 6 months we’ve been married, once for a career change and then a...