That’s funny because it’s the opposite for me. My friend, my mom and my boyfriend were all asexual and I didn’t really know anyone of any other sexuality lol. I was the only Bi person I knew. July 30, 2021 at 11:58PM

I was only used that term because of the context of the thread I saw July 30, 2021 at 11:57PM

Same age here, came out to my mother the better part of a year ago and she doesn’t believe asexuality is a real thing. She also told me she thinks I haven’t found the right person yet and also told me sex and sexual desire is part of what makes us human. She still keeps on making side comments about birth control and getting a boyfriend and so on, it’s annoying. July 30, 2021 at 11:57PM

I actively try to avoid thinking about anyone being sexually attracted to me. It makes me uncomfortable so as far as I’m concerned, it doesn’t happen. July 30, 2021 at 11:57PM

I personally don’t call myself a “straight ace.” I use the term heteroromantic. Since it means being attracted to the opposite gender only romantically. It just makes more sense July 30, 2021 at 11:56PM

Now that I think about it: Same. I would definitely not be comfortable with someone imagining that with me (I never really thought about it before since I don't think like that so the thought seems foreign to me). July 30, 2021 at 11:53PM

I'm exactly the same. I let my hair go long and messy, and wear cheap hoodies and jeans because I don't want anyone finding me attractive or desirable for my appearance. I don't think I'm a particularly attractive guy to begin with, but every bit helps. I guess it becomes like a test to see who can actually look past my appearance and see me for who I actually am. July 30, 2021 at 11:51PM

Yupp, I've never been diagnosed with anything but when I talked to the school councillor I was told I had forced thoughts so I think I know how you feel. I probably also have some manner of autisme but then again self diagnosis doesn't lead to anything good. July 30, 2021 at 11:51PM

Yeah, sometimes. I'm also on the autism spectrum and have PTSD, and those both come with their own myriad of issues when it comes to connecting with other people, and sometimes my asexuality feels like just another barrier to me being able to blend in. I try very hard to let those thoughts pass because I know they're not helpful for me. July 30, 2021 at 11:47PM

YES July 30, 2021 at 11:46PM

My mom would probably think it’s a disease if it said it like that July 30, 2021 at 11:45PM

The fact they have not had to live their lives in fear of knowing that they could be fired from work, or hell even murdered in the streets for being the “wrong” sexual orientation is their pride parade. Also, you talk about kids caring about what’s happening now. Right now, in some parts of the world, you can be imprisoned for being ace. Right now, in our world, you can be sent to conversion therapy if you’re ace. Right now, you could experience corrective rape for being ace. Do straight people experience things just as queer folk have? No. We can talk about straight pride when we have our fuckin liberties in tact. July 30, 2021 at 11:45PM

Oh okay, weird but I’m digging it. July 30, 2021 at 11:44PM

I has't been known to immediately leaveth and wend home at which hour yond happeneth. It’s so so gross I am a bot and I swapp'd some of thy words with Shakespeare words. Commands: !ShakespeareInsult , !fordo , !optout July 30, 2021 at 11:44PM

I have been known to immediately leave and go home when that happens. It’s so so gross. July 30, 2021 at 11:43PM

It's called foreplay! July 30, 2021 at 11:43PM

Do people self identify as straight aces? I used to be wary about the term. I felt like it was used to say hetero-aces were more straight than not and as such, didn’t belong July 30, 2021 at 11:40PM

Oh shit me too, like what if i give in and have sex some day????? And i'm suddenly sexually attracted to someone??? I really don't want that, i like being ace July 30, 2021 at 11:39PM

It is 100% an immediate turn-off to find out someone desires me sexually. July 30, 2021 at 11:38PM

I've been considering that I've not in fact been hetero my whole life and may be pan. But since I feel the same way towards all genders I just don't know for sure either way July 30, 2021 at 11:37PM

I agree that sex-averse people and asexuals have some similar experiences, such as people shaming them for not wanting sex. But at the end of the day, sex-aversion and asexuality are not the same thing. One is a sexual aversion, the other is a sexual orientation. Anyone of any sexuality can be sex-averse, and there certainly is a negative bias against those who are sex-averse. So I have nothing against standing together in solidarity. But at the end of the day, they are two vastly different things. Asexuals are discriminated against in a different way, even if said discrimination is somewhat similar to that against sex-averse individuals. July 30, 2021 at 11:36PM

The conversation I had today was probably the most interesting one I had in a long time. It was judgement free, no name calling... which is always refreshing. It was interesting because each one of the men and women I was talking with had very strong views and valid points, and anywhere other than that room, they'd have been grilled as you guys can imagine so I'll just summarise it. We were talking about sexual liberation and it somehow led to the double standard. One of the ladies said how bs the fact that men are praised and women are shamed for the same thing is. I, as a man, agreed. I don't think they should be shamed. One of the men also agreed with that but touched on the reason why men are praised (among each other) and women aren't. He said that it is no secret that generally speaking, women have pretty much zero difficulty if what they want is just sex, in which pretty much everyone agreed, and men do know that it is a complete different ball game for them.

I’ve asked her if she can take her clothes off, and she’s reluctant to do it. She has a good body from what I can tell, so I’m not seeing a reason why she would want to keep her clothes on. The most she has undressed was being in panties and a T-shirt, but I want to see her naked. Does anybody know what could possibly be the reason? All she gives me is that she doesn’t want to; and no I’m not pressuring her to do it. Submitted July 30, 2021 at 10:55PM I’ve asked her if she can take her clothes off, and she’s reluctant to do it. She has a good body from what I can tell, so I’m not seeing a reason why she would want to keep her clothes on. The most she has undressed was being in panties and a T-shirt, but I want to see her naked. Does anybody know what could possibly be the reason? All she gives me is that she doesn’t want to; and no I’m not pressuring her to do it.