Im aroace and watch porn/masturbate. Your not alone. November 13, 2020 at 12:05AM

Its not really about feeling guilty (although that can happen too), it's more about just not liking the physical feeling of the aftermath. Feeling tired and gross or sweaty or something. Idk if youre supposed to feel physically bad afterwards but overall I just don't really like the way it feels November 13, 2020 at 12:04AM

What are you planning on making with the yarn? I’ve bought various gray yarns so far for an Ace blanket I have planned (I crochet), but haven’t decided what I’m doing specifically yet. November 13, 2020 at 12:04AM

Definitely not. Not sure why you would think this makes you a bad person. I would feel awkward too if i knew a close friend of mine was sexually attracted to me too. November 13, 2020 at 12:04AM

Sadly, you’re not wrong. Here, we actually take people seriously when they want to know something. Can’t say that about most subs that relate to sex and sexual orientation. November 13, 2020 at 12:03AM

It sounds like L hijacked your experience and reframed it around themselves instead, but it's difficult for anyone to say anything against that because their personal negative experience with the label is as valid as anyone's positive one. They're not wrong in saying that some few people really don't know what they are at that age, and that giving themselves a label only to find out later that it never fit them can cause harm. That's an experience a lot of ace people can probably sympathize with. How many of us at that age thought we were bi or straight or gay before we realized? I don't want to say anything negative about L, because, again, their experience was a valid one, but I can also see why their comment would feel problematic. It's exactly the same argument used by people who say asexuality isn't real. What happened then is that someone took a character who could have been ace and made them allo instead, and not only that but they used an aphob

Luckily I had back issues so insurance paid for it. I lied to my doc about doing it for the pain when it was really just to get everyone to stop looking at me November 12, 2020 at 11:57PM

Frosting....why is everything cake November 12, 2020 at 11:56PM

For final task I want you to have sex with person over there November 12, 2020 at 11:56PM

Ooh jealous, that’s definitely the first “luxury” I’m saving for as I get older. I just wanna be on the itty bitty titty committee smh November 12, 2020 at 11:55PM

Feck November 12, 2020 at 11:54PM

Baggy clothing can be armor. I had a breast reduction as well, and still wear minimizer bras. I don't like being looked at that way... I haven't put my newfound confidence to the test, it's winter and I'm definitely sticking with a heavy coat until it warms up lol. We'll see in spring November 12, 2020 at 11:53PM

Impostor November 12, 2020 at 11:52PM

both are valid. avowed asexuals are valid. people who question themselves and change their labels are valid i'd say the only thing that's 'invalid' is not letting yourself feel your genuine feelings, and instead relying on a label to define you. question everything. but cling to what feels true for years i clung to being 'normal' and didnt allow myself to explore my sexuality, or lack of sexuality. and that sucked. i kept thinking i'd force myself to be normal eventually, or get used to being normal eventually. and never stopped to really feel who i was inside. i was numb. and dead inside. because what i felt inside was 'wrong' . thats the danger of labels. November 12, 2020 at 11:51PM

aegosexuality and greyasexuality fall under the asexual umbrella November 12, 2020 at 11:49PM

I spent years in poly relationships despite being monogamous myself because I was convinced that I was too broken to give a partner everything he/she needed. Such a relief to be done with that! I'm glad you found happiness in yourself as well November 12, 2020 at 11:49PM

We need more data for a scientific conclusion! Let me try! FU- end credits theme plays November 12, 2020 at 11:47PM

Lol November 12, 2020 at 11:45PM

PSA: Do not sext if you want a job with a high-security clearance. Anything that can be seen as compromising material that a hostile entity could use against you as leverage could easily be grounds to disqualify you from receiving your clearance. And it's not likely that they'll overlook those photos. They're thorough. They'll go back and talk to your elementary school teachers if the clearance is high enough. ​ Opinion: I don't think people should sext anyway, security clearance issues aside. Digital devices are never 100% secure, and there's a very high likelihood that someone will see your media when you don't want them to. Someone will scroll through your messages, something will be backed up to the cloud when you didn't expect it, or the platform will be hacked eventually. Never do anything on-camera that you would be ashamed for your neighbor and their coworkers to see. If you feel comfortable sharing images of your body publicly, then more

Who needs sex when you can have a healthy friendship with someone you care about? November 12, 2020 at 11:44PM

I am at best half a functioning adult. If more people were like me, then society would cease to function. But if more people had my understanding of Asexuals, yeah, that's pretty good. November 12, 2020 at 11:43PM

I absolutely understand this, I no longer flinch when sex comes up in my mind because I know that I have a choice, and won't be forced or pressured again. I can explore the concept with an open mind and it really is freezing! November 12, 2020 at 11:42PM

Wait it out or act on those platonic feelings by treating them like family November 12, 2020 at 11:41PM