Just over a month ago I met a guy while visiting friends in a different city (note he lives in the US and I live in Canada). We went on a date, hit it off, and stayed in touch after I left. Almost immediately he said he wanted to come visit me in my hometown. On a whim, I ended up inviting him to my sister's wedding because I was seriously into him and the timelines matched up. He came to the wedding and we spent several days together. We left on what I believed to be good terms. After he left, we continued to text. At one point I mentioned visiting him. Before he even visited me, he already asked if I would visit him, so I figured the invite was already on the table. When I proposed a time, however, he replied by saying he might be traveling elsewhere and that was all. We texted just a bit after that, then several of my texts went without a response. No big deal to be honest, they were messages that didn't necessarily require a response. Still, three days go by with zero co...

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Nah no one was ever surprised that I was a virgin when I still was. I always got "watch out for the quiet ones" in reference to me being unexpectedly bold after being almost silent all the time. The implication was that I'd slit your throat in your sleep or something because "it's always the quiet ones" Dumb, but not too annoying. I liked that my anger was scary to people. It meant I could use it to my advantage. No one ever suspected I was secretly kinky. I came off as the most vanilla person ever. November 03, 2019 at 12:00AM

TL;DR Hello, I was downstairs eating at 2 AM while both my parents were asleep. I was charging my phone next to my dads while I ate so it would not die. He got a couple unknown number calls I let go to voicemail. He then got a green SMS text from a random unsaved number. I was being nosey and checked and it just said "Yes". I was once again being way too nosey and decided to look the number up on google to find out that it was escort located three towns over. At this I am freaking out and don't know what to think. I had to find out more so I went to his recent calls to find a "call canceled" in the phone log a couple days ago at 10 AM to the same number. It was an outgoing call so he had to have called her. I called the number to make sure and a girl did answer so I just hung up. I'm very anxious and want to ask my dad what that is and how to explain for it. But it is currently 3 AM now and they have been asleep for 5 hours. I am reaching out to you guys...

Background: I’ve been waiting for SO to propose. I’m not on the “I have to be married” boat, but I want to be. I love him very much, and he does not want to have children until after we’re married. Lately, even though our timelines originally matched, I’m realizing his moving goal posts are probably signs of a bigger issue, but having (very respectful and civil) conservations lead to absolutely no where. It ends with even more questions in my mind. He always says doesn’t want to be too specific because he wants to surprise me, but dragging me through hell to surprise me doesn’t make sense. Because of this, I figured we’d give it a rest and told him we could talk more about timelines in 3-6 months, and if they weren’t aligning, we’d decide where to go from there. I’m successful, not co-dependent, can support myself, mostly confident, etc. but I’d be lying if I said the thought of “not being good enough” didn’t creep into my head more than once. And “If you truly were ‘the one’ and ir...

TL;DR: boyfriend isn’t being a great partner, don’t know how to fix or if I should leave. I’ve been in a relationship for about 9 months. I feel I’ve ignored several red flags, but I feel like I’m in a predicament now. My boyfriend went to work 250 miles away at the beginning of August. I’m at home, working two jobs and caring for our 5 acres, puppy, sheep, goats, and chickens. He owns the house here and I live here plus a roommate. This past week he bought a house in the town he works in. I, however am not confident he and I want the same things. The first time I went out of town early in our relationship, he cheated on me and went on a date with someone else. I recently found out he let his child go up for adoption and his mother adopted the child 11 years ago. He has not made any attempt to educate me on the events surrounding that, but as the girlfriend of an uninvolved parent I feel I deserve to know. He repeatedly lied about who he was hanging out with before he took this job. ...

I (22) have been struggling to contain the changes in my house. Background: My mom(47) raised my brother (23) and I on her own. Our father left due to second thoughts. Unfortunately, his leaving was shortly after my grandpa passed away. She was keen to leave her emotions out and embark on growing us and controlling her life on her own. She had minor help from friends and family. She manage her self-employment- kindergarten in our living room. This with alimony were enough to make decent living. Side note, we won love at its best and she felt content seeing us succeed, having healthy life and getting our education together (bro started uni studies at highschool and I can enroll to a preferred major In my teenage years, outlooks were changed: my teen years made drastic changes. I started criticizzing the difference and challenges I was into. Ive learnt to make the most of my condition, But still I was shy and silent to keep my condition outside of main topics. After a milit...

My [36F] husband [35M] gives me backhanded compliments that I feel are offensive but I don’t know if I’m overreacting. Today he was was speaking about one of my girlfriends and started insulting the her features, or rather complaining that they don’t meet his high and somewhat odd standards. (He has complained about aspects my face many times too as well as my other friends and his female coworkers and celebrities and I’m kind of sick of hearing this dribble.) I’m not sure if anyone can shed some light on why he feels the need to unburden himself of these thoughts ? Or if anyone has an idea of what a good response to him would look like, please help me out. I would like him to stop and asking him politely and explaining that it’s offensive doesn’t work. Him:” Your friend is very average....her features are all smushed in the middle of her face, but you are a 10” Me: “You have told me all that is wrong with my face many times, so don’t tell me now that I’m a ten” Him: “ Exactly! ...

Original post https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/dpuo3s/is_my_insecurity_justified_or_am_i_being_stupid/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share TL; DR: currently in a "non relationship" (1 month) with a woman (28F), she is renting a room to her ex bf, father of her child. She has tried again with him previously. And doesn't want anything serious with me (33M). I ended it, wathever it was. We have talked, a couple of times. Last time, just an hour ago, she was angry. She says that because of my insecurity, everything we had is over, that I ruined it. Says she will not ask me to come back (and has not done it). I won't either, but I gotta say, almost did. I'm having mixed feelings, tbh. But have told her that I can't deal with her living under the same roof as her ex. She said, once again, that she chose me. That she is not trying again, and won't either. That the ex has a gf on his own, that she had me. But, at the same time, she see...

My ex and I were together almost 4 years. This entire relationship he has been extremely immature and lazy and as time went on I couldn’t do it anymore. We have a child (1.5 yrs) together as well. The break up really wasn’t much of a surprise and mutual in the beginning. Now it’s been 2 months since it happened and he’s more bitter about it now than he was then. I moved out and we now split time with our son 50/50. My name is still on the lease currently and I told him I would drop it from it once I had my belongings back. He says I can have them when he has a place to put everything and replace them. I furnished the entire apartment and made it a home. I don’t know if this matters but all of the utilities are also in my name still and I’m working to get them switched over once this month is paid off. The last 2 months he has consistently and at random called me names and keeps tabs on my every move. He is acting unstable and jealous and he’s playing the victim to any and everyone. ...

So I have been dating this wonderful man since about March this year. Our relationship has been the best I have ever experienced. We get along great, have similar interests/goals, and talk about a future together a lot. The only issue is that I have this nagging (almost confirmed) suspicion that he has not been honest with me about his last relationship. I got a little wary when I saw a post of them together in late 2018 and asked him about it (I actually asked him twice since he did not really elaborate the first time I brought the subject up). He told me that they dated in 2017 for 10 months and broke up in early 2018 (leaving about a year in between our relationship and this one). Recently though I took a look at his facebook profile and noticed the ex's mom had posted on his profile for his birthday in 2018 (he doesnt post anything on fb so there isnt much scrolling to do, it's just there). Again I got a little suspicious and did some detective work and found out that the...

Lately, I (23/F) have been tightening up on our finances. Every dollar I spend, any type of income I recieve, it is all tracked. I am finally moving on to my fiance's (21/M) end of things, and his bank statements are a lot more convulated. I leave on the weekends to go to my dad's, and he stays at home. Going through the transcripts, I see there is usually a purchase of $20 or so on Fridays, the days I leave. Now, there is some plausible deniability. This could be just gas, or snacks. I don't know. There have been past transactions that I can definitely say we're alcohol, but those are seven-eight months back. This week when I took off to my dad's, I had the truck and he had the car. When I left, the car had close to a full tank of gas. Interestingly, there was still a purchase at a gas station (one that has liquor) for 23 dollars and some odd change. I went to said gas station, and asked if I had the card in question, if they could pull up the transaction histor...

I am 23. Have been on medication for ADHD since the age of 12. I have always struggled with being impulsive and wanting to move too fast with any sort of relationship, casual or serious. I just moved to a new city for a job. I know nobody here. I have recently met someone and have known her a week. I have impulsively texted her quite often and know that I am once again moving too fast. Women tend to be driven away by this display. I was asked to come over tonight and chat. I have a feeling it will be that she doesn’t see it working out. What advice do you have for me regarding this situation and how or if I should articulate this struggle to her? More broadly, do you have an opinion on how to not be as clingy in the initial stages of a potentially productive relationship? TLDR: this girl I met on a dating app asked me to come over and chat. I’ve only known her a week, hung out twice, it’s gone well but I have texted her often and think I am moving too fast. I am worried that I am b...

English is my second language so I'll try my best to keep it simple and easy to follow. So, me and my friend enrolled in the same college and we are class mates. Everything was great in the beginning, but in the last few weeks she started to get really angry at me for some bad jokes we usually laughed at. I realised it happens when this happens in the presence of our class mates and I thought she wants to make a good impression. It seemed a little stupid to me but i said meh and got over it. But it happened again. This time she blamed me for "bad impression" she made (I usually make some stupid jokes then she punches me in the stomach and we laugh it out but the guys thought this wasn't really "normal" so they joked about her being a bad person). Then things started to get cold. I stopped doing the usual jokes but she was still getting pissed about small things. Fast forward to some days ago. She lives with 2 friends of ours (a couple) and she usually tell...

This question probably gets posted here a lot and I might sound complainy but here's what happened: My Dad's [51M] birthday is in a few days (Wednesday) and the argument started when my Dad wanted to go out today and eat dinner and do the same on his bday but my Mom [49F] wanted to go out and eat dinner today to celebrate his bday and eat dinner and the cake at home on Wednesday because she didn't want to go out and eat dinner on the weekdays. This argument could have easily ended with both sides talking through and forming a solution that would satisfy both of them, but that's not what happened. My mom said that she didn't want to go outside on his bday because is "lazy" and wanted me to have enough time to finish my homework and studying on Wednesday. But it's most likely because she knew that eating outside today and on his bday would be expensive and she is very frugal and hates spending lots of money. She even got a gift card just for this bday...

Hello fellow redditors, i need your help. during the summer I started making lifestyle changes starting with going on a diet,going out and socialising even more. Luckily, during summer school, I met this cool girl who was so amazing and welcoming that I decided to contact and try to get to know her.She would sit with me, spend her breaks with me and ask me to walk her to the train station or wait for it with her. We talked in the last few months every couple of days since summer school is over and we started getting close ; she would tell me abt her insecurities(she really lacks self confidence and even said that to me, has a very low self-esteem, and is always anxious especially when about her studies),her daily problems and struggles with studies and I would try my best to help her overcome her problems but i don't find any conv material anymore so we just keep talking about our problems wish is kinda toxic/boring. It went on and on, and I made the next move by asking her out on...

I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and it's become apparent to me that we just aren't compatible anymore. Hes 22 and I'm 24. As time has gone on more and more issues seem to arise whether it be differences in future goals, arguments, and just day to day things. I have been telling myself for a few months now that it is not going to last forever. The problem is we work together. Like together together..like same classroom in a school together (And please save the whole dont date people you work with-lesson learned, I promise). As someone who is incredibly awkward, I really don't know how I would even act towards him if we arent together. I love him dearly, I really do, but I just dont see any realistic way this will work out. I feel like it is one of those "if you love him then let him go type situations". Even though I know it's best, any time I think I'm going to break up with him I remember all the good things, what it's lik...

okay so my bf and i are both 18 and we’ve been dating for a year and a half. he tells me he’s sexually attracted to me, but he has a fetish. he likes gay girls and fat stomachs. i’m on the skinnier side. i have a butt and i have boobs but my stomach is really flat. he says he doesn’t mind it, but lately when we have sex he goes completely limp inside me. when i ask him why, he says he doesn’t know and then he’ll say that it’s probably because of his poor diet (he eats out almost every day) or because he doesn’t exercise often. however, i don’t really believe that especially considering the fact that he has a fetish and i’m nowhere near it. just the other day i proposed that we just stop having sex altogether for a bit because it was embarrassing for me when that happened. it makes me think i’m unattractive and undesirable. he tells me he’s attracted to me, but usually i’m the initiator of sex. i don’t know what to do. please help TL;DR. my (18) boyfriend (18) goes limp during sex but...

This will be long so I apologize in advance. Some background info before I get into it. I am a female, a senior in HS, 17. My ex (will call him S), is a junior in HS, and 16. Yes, I’m well aware of the stigma around high school relationships and i’m well aware that the both of us are young. Please don’t use those things as an excuse to attack me and/or him for being young, foolish, etc.. I’m just looking to rant and get some outsiders advice about how the breakup went. So, me and S have been friends for a good year now. I met him when I was dating someone else (that relationship lasted about a year, wasn’t that great, that BF would often be an asshole and ignore me and lie and shit, ended with him cheating on me and me dumping him after i found out). the breakup ended a few months ago, and I was able to move on fairly quickly as I made sure to get my emotions out there right away. Didn’t bottle anything up. If I wanted to cry, I cried. If I wanted to be sad, I was sad. Etc.. I also k...

It's personal and I'm not sure who to ask so I thought I'd give this a go. My boyfriend and I are currently long distance. We recently discussed our thoughts if I get pregnant from the times when we meet up, and found we had different opinions. I don't want kids until we're together for good next year, but he said he couldn't handle me ever having an abortion. He says this because other people he's loved and dated got one, which destroyed the thing they created together out if love, and he can't go through that with someone he loves again. I almost cried on the phone when he told me how broken it made him feel. I don't want to hurt him, and I would never lie to him or go behind his back and secretly get an abortion, either. I understood and agreed to not get one, because I love him, but now I feel a little manipulated or at least unsure. I don't want kids any time soon, but I'm serious with him so I want him to have a say in family planni...

My husband and I met about 5 years ago while on vacation. We’re citizens of different countries, but decided to date long distance. We’re really fortunate that we’ve been able to see each other pretty frequently over the years, but it’s been difficult to be apart for so long. We decided to get married about 2 years ago. It was understood that once the immigration process was settled, that I’d move to his country. Because of his kids and job, he cannot move to mine. He’s been exceedingly patient (he is a great guy) but occasionally seems to resent me being so far away for a lot of reasons. It’s been a lengthy immigration process, but it seems to be finally coming to an end. Since this process started, I’ve been promoted several times in my job, one I’d be giving up to move (I make more money than him). I’m trying really hard not to be angry or resentful about this, but Reddit, I am. I’ve worked really hard to get to where I am, and I’m upset about having to give it up. I feel really...

M (23) GF (23) we are in relationship for 1year and 6months but my girlfriend told me that sex is not healthy like what the hell bro in past 1year we both have legendary sex everytime. I told her that i love her and i don't want to fck other woman because i don't have a feelings for them but she said we can have a relationship without sex seriously brothers I can't stay in a relationship without sex i told her she said her friends stay in a relationship without sex. She is comparing me to her girlfriends boyfriend to stay in a relationship with no sex. I didn't do anything wrong we go out we have sex i understand if i just do is fuck her but no. I keep the balance i date her go watch movies with her but damn she is comparing me to her bestfriend boyfriend. Which is sucks what to do i don't know anymore i love her I don't want to cheat but i can't stay in this kind of relationship. TLDR; after 1 year girlfriend told me that sex isn't healthy and compari...

I've been dating someone I met at work, and before everyone says bad idea, I will be transferring to a different workplace not to far away. When I'm not a drunken moron, things have been great. Things feel like they are slowly progressing, however there have been two incidents in which I fucked up. They've both been when I have browned out/black out and I obviously act like an idiot. Both incidents are kind of identical. 1 We went to a show with some other friends. I guess during the show she asked if she could make out or if it would be cool if she make out with one of her friends(also a girl). I dont really remember what happened, but i think I got kind of butthurt and tried to leave. she caught up with me and we had an awkward uber ride. First thing she said was "I made out with Debs 2". I got butt hurt. She tried to leave when we got back to my place, and then I sent a bunch of really dumb texts. Some involving saying theres plenty of girls that want to mak...