I [19M] don't know how to tell my friend [19F] her attitude towards me and our friends is toxic

English is my second language so I'll try my best to keep it simple and easy to follow.

So, me and my friend enrolled in the same college and we are class mates. Everything was great in the beginning, but in the last few weeks she started to get really angry at me for some bad jokes we usually laughed at. I realised it happens when this happens in the presence of our class mates and I thought she wants to make a good impression. It seemed a little stupid to me but i said meh and got over it. But it happened again. This time she blamed me for "bad impression" she made (I usually make some stupid jokes then she punches me in the stomach and we laugh it out but the guys thought this wasn't really "normal" so they joked about her being a bad person). Then things started to get cold. I stopped doing the usual jokes but she was still getting pissed about small things. Fast forward to some days ago. She lives with 2 friends of ours (a couple) and she usually tells me if they piss her off by making noise really late/early or something else. Then she started b*tching about it on a group chat with some guys from our class. I told the couple about that and I said I'll deal with it. She's the kind who takes anything personal and thinks everyone is wrong and against her and that's why I asked the couple to let me handle so if anything goes bad we won't be under the same roof.

Some things i didn't insert in the story: she started to not talk to me as we always did, prefers to tell everyone how hungry she is on the group chat and ignores me after I texted I can bring her some food (it's a 3 minute bus ride to her apartment so it's not a big deal), we went to a halloween party she didn't want to go when I asked if she wants to go but she decided to go after some class mates said they want to go, after that she ignored me the whole night and then asked why I spent most of the smoking outside (i said i was tired, actually felt a bit lonely with all those strangers, she didn't buy it and got angry because i won't tell her). Next weekend she wants to go to a club I said we should go (for 2 weeks) and she didn't want to, but now the classmates want to go so she wants too (and keeps asking me if i want to go after i said I'll think about it). Ah, and one time she got mad at me for joking her voice message in which she said "you made me angry so I'll punish you" and started saying that my ex should "punish" insert blinking in a sexy way emoji here and told everyone some things only she and i know about that relationship, then proceeds to get mad (again) after I tell her that is something personal she shouldn't disclose to strangers. She thought she didn't do anything wrong because everything is in the past (yeah 3 months since me and my ex stopped talking definitely a lot of time passed :/). And let's not forget tonight: all of the gang came home from college and he hang out at our usual place. Most of us spent time talking with a some friends we didn't see in weeks but she ignored us and was texting on the group chat.

I can understand her liking some boy or liking our class mates more than her old friends but she gets aggressive towards anyone who tells her it's unacceptable to tell strangers personal things about the rest of us.

Again, sorry for my english I'm not used to long texts, hope you understand what the issue is.

TL;DR my friend is easily irritated by me and other friends, tells everyone from college personal things about us. I said I'll deal with it since our other friends are her flat mates so they won't have any problems living with her.

Submitted November 02, 2019 at 11:44PM

English is my second language so I'll try my best to keep it simple and easy to follow.So, me and my friend enrolled in the same college and we are class mates. Everything was great in the beginning, but in the last few weeks she started to get really angry at me for some bad jokes we usually laughed at. I realised it happens when this happens in the presence of our class mates and I thought she wants to make a good impression. It seemed a little stupid to me but i said meh and got over it. But it happened again. This time she blamed me for "bad impression" she made (I usually make some stupid jokes then she punches me in the stomach and we laugh it out but the guys thought this wasn't really "normal" so they joked about her being a bad person). Then things started to get cold. I stopped doing the usual jokes but she was still getting pissed about small things. Fast forward to some days ago. She lives with 2 friends of ours (a couple) and she usually tells me if they piss her off by making noise really late/early or something else. Then she started b*tching about it on a group chat with some guys from our class. I told the couple about that and I said I'll deal with it. She's the kind who takes anything personal and thinks everyone is wrong and against her and that's why I asked the couple to let me handle so if anything goes bad we won't be under the same roof.Some things i didn't insert in the story: she started to not talk to me as we always did, prefers to tell everyone how hungry she is on the group chat and ignores me after I texted I can bring her some food (it's a 3 minute bus ride to her apartment so it's not a big deal), we went to a halloween party she didn't want to go when I asked if she wants to go but she decided to go after some class mates said they want to go, after that she ignored me the whole night and then asked why I spent most of the smoking outside (i said i was tired, actually felt a bit lonely with all those strangers, she didn't buy it and got angry because i won't tell her). Next weekend she wants to go to a club I said we should go (for 2 weeks) and she didn't want to, but now the classmates want to go so she wants too (and keeps asking me if i want to go after i said I'll think about it). Ah, and one time she got mad at me for joking her voice message in which she said "you made me angry so I'll punish you" and started saying that my ex should "punish" insert blinking in a sexy way emoji here and told everyone some things only she and i know about that relationship, then proceeds to get mad (again) after I tell her that is something personal she shouldn't disclose to strangers. She thought she didn't do anything wrong because everything is in the past (yeah 3 months since me and my ex stopped talking definitely a lot of time passed :/). And let's not forget tonight: all of the gang came home from college and he hang out at our usual place. Most of us spent time talking with a some friends we didn't see in weeks but she ignored us and was texting on the group chat.I can understand her liking some boy or liking our class mates more than her old friends but she gets aggressive towards anyone who tells her it's unacceptable to tell strangers personal things about the rest of us.Again, sorry for my english I'm not used to long texts, hope you understand what the issue is.TL;DR my friend is easily irritated by me and other friends, tells everyone from college personal things about us. I said I'll deal with it since our other friends are her flat mates so they won't have any problems living with her.