What happened?

Just over a month ago I met a guy while visiting friends in a different city (note he lives in the US and I live in Canada). We went on a date, hit it off, and stayed in touch after I left. Almost immediately he said he wanted to come visit me in my hometown. On a whim, I ended up inviting him to my sister's wedding because I was seriously into him and the timelines matched up. He came to the wedding and we spent several days together. We left on what I believed to be good terms.

After he left, we continued to text. At one point I mentioned visiting him. Before he even visited me, he already asked if I would visit him, so I figured the invite was already on the table. When I proposed a time, however, he replied by saying he might be traveling elsewhere and that was all.

We texted just a bit after that, then several of my texts went without a response. No big deal to be honest, they were messages that didn't necessarily require a response. Still, three days go by with zero communication. In fact, this had only just happened two weeks prior; I didn't hear from him for an entire weekend. At that time, I made sure to bring up the fact that his lack of communication concerned me and he was very apologetic, so I was all the more surprised to see it happening AGAIN.

Eventually, I ended up texting him to ask how his day was, to which he replied he was busy with work. At this point I was sensing some distance so I told him to go get it and that I couldn't wait to hear more.

Anyway, that was a couple of days ago and I haven't heard anything but I've already decided to move on. Regardless of his reasons, I'm not getting what I need.

We never had any talk about being “official” because honestly it was just too soon. We did agree we were “friends getting to know each other.” Still, his actions (as well as mine) seemed to dictate something more...or, at least, the prospect of becoming something more.

Submitted November 02, 2019 at 08:32PM

Just over a month ago I met a guy while visiting friends in a different city (note he lives in the US and I live in Canada). We went on a date, hit it off, and stayed in touch after I left. Almost immediately he said he wanted to come visit me in my hometown. On a whim, I ended up inviting him to my sister's wedding because I was seriously into him and the timelines matched up. He came to the wedding and we spent several days together. We left on what I believed to be good terms.After he left, we continued to text. At one point I mentioned visiting him. Before he even visited me, he already asked if I would visit him, so I figured the invite was already on the table. When I proposed a time, however, he replied by saying he might be traveling elsewhere and that was all.We texted just a bit after that, then several of my texts went without a response. No big deal to be honest, they were messages that didn't necessarily require a response. Still, three days go by with zero communication. In fact, this had only just happened two weeks prior; I didn't hear from him for an entire weekend. At that time, I made sure to bring up the fact that his lack of communication concerned me and he was very apologetic, so I was all the more surprised to see it happening AGAIN.Eventually, I ended up texting him to ask how his day was, to which he replied he was busy with work. At this point I was sensing some distance so I told him to go get it and that I couldn't wait to hear more.Anyway, that was a couple of days ago and I haven't heard anything but I've already decided to move on. Regardless of his reasons, I'm not getting what I need.We never had any talk about being “official” because honestly it was just too soon. We did agree we were “friends getting to know each other.” Still, his actions (as well as mine) seemed to dictate something more...or, at least, the prospect of becoming something more.