I [18M] feel really lost when it comes to seeing my [18F] crush's behaviour

Hello fellow redditors, i need your help. during the summer I started making lifestyle changes starting with going on a diet,going out and socialising even more. Luckily, during summer school, I met this cool girl who was so amazing and welcoming that I decided to contact and try to get to know her.She would sit with me, spend her breaks with me and ask me to walk her to the train station or wait for it with her. We talked in the last few months every couple of days since summer school is over and we started getting close ; she would tell me abt her insecurities(she really lacks self confidence and even said that to me, has a very low self-esteem, and is always anxious especially when about her studies),her daily problems and struggles with studies and I would try my best to help her overcome her problems but i don't find any conv material anymore so we just keep talking about our problems wish is kinda toxic/boring. It went on and on, and I made the next move by asking her out on a date, she would always approve, chose the place with me but we would never appoint a day. She would always say that she has to study or that her mom wouldnt let her (she's not lying). So I find myself in a difficult situation and I need your help. Do I keep trying or should I just give it Up ? tldr: met a girl, felt in love with her, we barely talk about everything, could never appoint a date with her



Submitted November 02, 2019 at 11:52PM

Hello fellow redditors, i need your help. during the summer I started making lifestyle changes starting with going on a diet,going out and socialising even more. Luckily, during summer school, I met this cool girl who was so amazing and welcoming that I decided to contact and try to get to know her.She would sit with me, spend her breaks with me and ask me to walk her to the train station or wait for it with her. We talked in the last few months every couple of days since summer school is over and we started getting close ; she would tell me abt her insecurities(she really lacks self confidence and even said that to me, has a very low self-esteem, and is always anxious especially when about her studies),her daily problems and struggles with studies and I would try my best to help her overcome her problems but i don't find any conv material anymore so we just keep talking about our problems wish is kinda toxic/boring. It went on and on, and I made the next move by asking her out on a date, she would always approve, chose the place with me but we would never appoint a day. She would always say that she has to study or that her mom wouldnt let her (she's not lying). So I find myself in a difficult situation and I need your help. Do I keep trying or should I just give it Up ? tldr: met a girl, felt in love with her, we barely talk about everything, could never appoint a date with her
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