I’m(30f) not sure how to leave my relationship with my (34m) boyfriend.

TL;DR: boyfriend isn’t being a great partner, don’t know how to fix or if I should leave.

I’ve been in a relationship for about 9 months. I feel I’ve ignored several red flags, but I feel like I’m in a predicament now. My boyfriend went to work 250 miles away at the beginning of August. I’m at home, working two jobs and caring for our 5 acres, puppy, sheep, goats, and chickens. He owns the house here and I live here plus a roommate. This past week he bought a house in the town he works in. I, however am not confident he and I want the same things. The first time I went out of town early in our relationship, he cheated on me and went on a date with someone else. I recently found out he let his child go up for adoption and his mother adopted the child 11 years ago. He has not made any attempt to educate me on the events surrounding that, but as the girlfriend of an uninvolved parent I feel I deserve to know. He repeatedly lied about who he was hanging out with before he took this job. Now that he’s not home, it’s not necessarily that I miss him. I more worry I’m a fool for staying to hold down the fort and let him do whatever he wants(albeit work is a large part of his time). I don’t know how to leave, because I’m not in a financial position to leave. I’m also worried about how it would impact the puppy and other animals. I feel like I’m in a relationship I’m not happy with, but I don’t know if I want to attempt to repair the damage. When I’ve mapped out what I need from a partner, he acknowledges it, but doesn’t follow through. I don’t have any outlandish requests, but to be verbally acknowledged and appreciated for managing everything at home without him. I don’t feel like my needs are being met, but I am not one to just quit.

Submitted November 02, 2019 at 11:28PM

TL;DR: boyfriend isn’t being a great partner, don’t know how to fix or if I should leave.I’ve been in a relationship for about 9 months. I feel I’ve ignored several red flags, but I feel like I’m in a predicament now. My boyfriend went to work 250 miles away at the beginning of August. I’m at home, working two jobs and caring for our 5 acres, puppy, sheep, goats, and chickens. He owns the house here and I live here plus a roommate. This past week he bought a house in the town he works in. I, however am not confident he and I want the same things. The first time I went out of town early in our relationship, he cheated on me and went on a date with someone else. I recently found out he let his child go up for adoption and his mother adopted the child 11 years ago. He has not made any attempt to educate me on the events surrounding that, but as the girlfriend of an uninvolved parent I feel I deserve to know. He repeatedly lied about who he was hanging out with before he took this job. Now that he’s not home, it’s not necessarily that I miss him. I more worry I’m a fool for staying to hold down the fort and let him do whatever he wants(albeit work is a large part of his time). I don’t know how to leave, because I’m not in a financial position to leave. I’m also worried about how it would impact the puppy and other animals. I feel like I’m in a relationship I’m not happy with, but I don’t know if I want to attempt to repair the damage. When I’ve mapped out what I need from a partner, he acknowledges it, but doesn’t follow through. I don’t have any outlandish requests, but to be verbally acknowledged and appreciated for managing everything at home without him. I don’t feel like my needs are being met, but I am not one to just quit.