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Concerned about friend’s [15F] relationship with man [32M] she met online.

Let’s call my friend Amy and the man Bob. Amy met Bob when she was 12 because they played the same game. Bob was nice to Amy, helping her with homework and being there for her to talk to. By the time Amy was 13 Bob had become more than a friend and Amy was sending him nudes. A few month ago Amy said she no longer wanted to send Bob nudes. Since then she’s occasionally worried he gives her less attention than before. Amy and Bob live in different countries so they’ve never met, but Bob was planning a trip to Amy’s country to meet her this summer. However, it seems like this trip won’t happen after all. ———————————————— The above are facts as best as I know them without my personal opinions attached. I’m concerned that this friendship/relationship between Amy and Bob might be unhealthy for Amy and that Bob’s behavior might be considered grooming/predatory. When I tried to bring these concerns up with Amy she vehemently denied them. Tonight we were arguing about it again and she said t...

Am I (28F) being fair or super inconsiderate towards my husband (30M)?

Husband an I had a fight this morning and I can’t work out if I’m totally insensitive or not. My baby (10 months old) still wakes up twice a night. I’m tired, he tired and that’s what it’s all about. So My husband has Wednesdays and Sunday off work. On Wednesday bub has swimming in the morning and so we both get up 6.30/7 (bub wakes at this time so we just use him as an alarm) and on Sundays my husband and I wake up normal time. I fed bub, change his nappy and play with him while my hubby takes 30+ minutes to toilet, shower and dress. Then he takes bub on a walk to the local cafe and buys breakfast and a coffee. This takes 20-30 minutes. So my issue is.... I’m soooooooo tired. I want to go back to sleep and have a sleep in on Sundays but for that to happen I would need him to get up and ready (toilet/shower/dress) in 10 minutes or maybe just skip the shower and have it later. The problem is once I’m up for 30 minutes in the morning (it’s light/bubs awake and crawling around) there i...

My friends 21f ex 22m won’t stop bugging her

My friend broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years in November because he cheated with her brothers gf (long story) but she has a child with him so she still sees him. Backstory he’s always been aggressive and pushy about sex, not listening when she tells him no but she’s put up with it the whole relationship. Now months later he comes and spends the night to see his daughter but he will pull down her pants to try and sleep with her, tries to kiss her and touch her even when she yells no in his face. How can she get him to leave her alone TL;DR My friend is being harassed by her ex how can she get him to stop Submitted July 06, 2019 at 11:58PM My friend broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years in November because he cheated with her brothers gf (long story) but she has a child with him so she still sees him.Backstory he’s always been aggressive and pushy about sex, not listening when she tells him no but she’s put up with it the whole relationship.Now months later he comes and s...

I'm at a loss for what to do, my (f20) boyfriend (m27) doesn't care about me.

We are coming up on a year, and I love him so much. The possibility of him being the one I marry someday is in the front of my mind a majority of the time that I'm with him. He's wonderful. We always spend quality time together and do lots of fun things, we share interests and have the same values and wants in life, the intimate side of our relationship is wonderful also. BUT. When we are having a problem, it's bad. He has this thing where if he's doing something wrong and I try to discuss it with him, he just says "okay". He doesn't care if it affects me, if I say it made me sad, he says "I understand that" and when I say, directly, "do you care?" he says, completely unaffected, "nope". I don't understand? When he's upset I run to him to help him. I'm there for him all the time. And when I'm sad about something that has nothing to do with him, he comforts me and tries to make me feel better. But when it...

(F21) is There is something in me that literally can’t break up with my boyfriend (m30) even though I know I need to

We’ve been together for about a year, and he is so sure of me and I’m constantly second guessing being with him. And the annoying part is that he did absolutely nothing to make me second guess it. For some reason it’s just not clicking like it should. And I’m scared that it’s just keep going as it is, and I’ll either break his heart even worse down the line, or never be truly happy. Every time I want to break up, it just doesn’t happen for one reason or the other. Like we will have a good day, or he’ll be super sweet, or he will surprise me with stuff, therefore I’d feel bad for breaking up. He’s literally the perfect guy. A good job, attractive, caring, animal lover, and just all around a stable person. But it’s just not clicking even though I want it to sooo bad. Why is this so hard?? Has anyone else gone through this?? TL:DR My boyfriend has been nothing but the best to me, but for some reason I can’t see myself being with him forever. But I also find it incredibly hard to br...

My bf has a friend who likes him, and hasn't told me

Backstory: my boyfriend has mostly all female friends, which wasn't a problem until I found out he wasnt telling them he was in a relationship. I had brought it up multiple times and it always resulted in him getting mad at me for trying to "take his friends". Anyways, in April, his phone lit up around 3 am so I checked to see who it was. It was his coworker, one who he hangs out with outside of work and I had a bad gut feeling about. When I clicked on it I could see their chat history, which included her asking if he would like to go on a date. He replied with "you're gorgeous but I'm just not ready for that right now. Maybe when you get back from your internship in June". There were also messages where he called me psycho and said he wouldnt want to date me again (apparently she saw a picture of us and he explained it by saying we broke up). I was shaking with rage and decided to message the girl from my phone, saying "hi I'm not his psycho ...

My [23F] extremely sheltered SIL [23F] is moving in with my wife [24F] and me.

TL;DR: My sister in law has no idea how to do basic life skills (laundry, cooking, etc) because of her sheltered life and now she is moving in with me and my wife. My SIL and MIL live together in Massachusetts, however their house got foreclosed so they have to move out on Wednesday. I absolutely love my MIL and SIL and we all get along great. My MIL is going to go live with another family member near her current town. My SIL is coming down to Alabama (1200+ miles away from Massachusetts) to live with my wife and me which I have no problem with. My doors are completely open to her and we get along very well. My wife also gets along great with her sister as they are only a year apart so they grew up doing everything together. My SIL [23F] is overly sheltered and mentally immature for her age. She has no driver’s license, she only works about 10 hours a week at a retail job making her state’s minimum wage, and plays video games all day. She’s very nice and respectful, it’s just as if ...

Should I break up with my older boyfriend?

When I met my boyfriend, he hasn’t worked because of his sickness. However, he’s getting better now and he can somehow manage himself. We’ve been living together for 1.5 years. I’ve always worked and fulfill our needs. He has a welfare money, but it’s only like $700 CAD and I don’t even ask money from him. It’s just not in my nature. I work 6 days a week and sometimes, 2 jobs. When I complain that I don’t have money, he gets mad at me for unknown reasons. He also expects me to pay for everything, bills, food, rents and such. Yet, he gets mad if I work overtime and accusing me of cheating on him. I also do most of the household chores and he just sits there and asks me to do something for him like cooking, getting water for him and getting his phone. He gets mad if I refuse to do what he wants. His friend even encourages this behaviour and rude to me sometimes. He also doesn’t let me go out with friends or coworkers although I tell him in advance. He would just tell me that I’ll be goi...

Lied about working

My (22f) boyfriend (20m) has been lying about being at work. So I found out earlier today that my boyfriend has not been totally honest about being at work. I work all noc shifts. Where I work 12 hour shifts I only have to work 3 nights a week. He works days. We currently live with his parents while we are in school. We have a young child and his family has been amazing about helping with her while we work. I was on his phone the other day and he had gotten a text from a friend asking if he was getting off early to come over again. He hasn't been going over to another girls. So it's not a problem of cheating. He has been going to his friends to hangout. My problem comes in here: he assumes his parents will help and does not ask them if they will and so he doesnt tell them either. He will go out with friends for hours and ignore his friends. And when I message him asking how work is going he will reply that it is fine or a bit busy. It makes me feel like he doesnt trust me enou...

/u/Jackie-OMotherfucker on I really hate when people point out asses to me

People already assume I'm homo. I just don't care enough to correct them. Them assuming I'm homo is easier than me explaining asexuality, and dealing with the 47384883 questions essentially rephrasing "you REALLY are a virgin?" July 07, 2019 at 12:19AM

We were supposed to go on a date but I got no news from him

Hey, maybe you could help me/give me some advice : I met a guy last week at a party, he seemed to like me. So I added him on facebook after and asked him out. He was very enthusiastic about it so I wanted to know when he's free and he said "probably on friday, I'll tell you". He was very slow to answer (hours). He said he often does that (slow answer) and he told me he was very busy in his life, so I wasn't expecting much. Friday came and I got no news. And I didn't send him a text or anything. I'm currently trying to know if I'm being too dramatic about it (because I care.. I really wanted to get to know him), or if he's being a jerk. Or just, he has a life, I'm not in his mind and that is absolutely normal? I really don't know. He gave me lots of signals of him being interested though, back at the party. otherwise I wouldn't have added him on facebook... also, I'm considering the problem might be me, because he's not the...

How to take a relationship further.

Me: (M15) Her: (F15) Ok so I like this girl who I like and we have been pretty good friends for a few months but I am having a hard time progressing the relationship. I think my main problem is that she can’t tell that I like her. The other day we went on a “date” to see the new Spiderman movie together but I’m not really sure she thought of it as a date. I’m just looking for advice on how to show her that I like her without seeming like a creep any advice is appreciated. Submitted July 07, 2019 at 12:06AM Me: (M15) Her: (F15)Ok so I like this girl who I like and we have been pretty good friends for a few months but I am having a hard time progressing the relationship. I think my main problem is that she can’t tell that I like her.The other day we went on a “date” to see the new Spiderman movie together but I’m not really sure she thought of it as a date.I’m just looking for advice on how to show her that I like her without seeming like a creep any advice is appreciated.

I have a crush on my best friend. Any tips for a guy in need of help?

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Best places to in Portland, OR to meet single women in late their late 20's & 30's??

-I haven't been out much in years and recently I've been making an effort to get out more. (primarily to meet women, I'm done with online dating) But I'm having a hard time finding places to meet women in my age range (37M) in a place where the layout and vibe encourages socializing. I've found plenty of bars filled with people in their 20's, blasting DJ music so loud that it's almost impossible to start a conversation. -The kind of places I'm looking for would be casual and nice, but NOT uber trendy. And the ideal demographic is people who are out for a few drinks, NOT getting shitfaced drunk. -ANY RECOMMENDATIONS ARE MUCH APPRECIATED Submitted July 07, 2019 at 12:08AM -I haven't been out much in years and recently I've been making an effort to get out more. (primarily to meet women, I'm done with online dating) But I'm having a hard time finding places to meet women in my age range (37M) in a place where the layout and vibe enco...

How do I talk to a coworker/friend to find out if there's any chance we could date?

I (27m) want to talk to my coworker and friend (24f) about whether we could possibly date. We've worked together for a few years, but it's only in the last few months we actually started hanging out. We've gone out for drinks, we've seen each other on weekends one on one. It was only recently when she helped me shop for clothes (I'm pretty bad at picking myself) that something flipped in my head and I basically realized that I liked her. I don't want to lose her as a friend if she's not into me, and I also don't want to make talking to her about this some big moment that makes us instantly start trying to turn it into a relationship. I really just want to know if I'm way off with this feeling. I'm perfectly comfortable with the idea that she doesn't think it'd ever work out. I'm not afraid of rejection like that. I am afraid of is losing my friendship with her, making work weird, or accidentally giving her the impression that I wan...

Should I text her?

I guess this isn’t exactly dating but the advice would still be appreciated... Back in grade 12 when I moved schools I thought this one girl Laura was really attractive. I never really spoke to her initially but we became good friends throughout the year. We hung out a lot and talked on the phone a lot too. I never really had a crush on her. After grade 12 she took another half year in school and I went to college. As time went on we talked less and less but remained good friends. Once she had gotten a new boyfriend naturally she was spending more time with him and less and less with me which was OK. However, she kept blowing me off and it came to where she blew off my birthday which was the breaking point for me. When she tried making plans to hangout I kind of her dry texted her and gave no interest. We stopped talking. About a year later I texted if she wanted to hangout which she happily agreed. Found out she was single and some feelings for her came back. I asked her out a week ...

"It's not my fault, it's their fault for being sluts!" (Found in the comments of a music video with men twerking)

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/u/exhicmxdwc on If there was a pill to feel sexual attraction, would you take it?

Is it permanent or temporary? That's kind of important. July 07, 2019 at 12:06AM

/u/palindrome247 on If there was a pill to feel sexual attraction, would you take it?

I think I’d be too freaked out honestly. In theory, I’d like to try for a very short time just to see what the feels are, but if the option were placed before me, I highly doubt I’d have the guts to really do it. July 07, 2019 at 12:04AM

Men, what is the difference between kissing a woman on the forehead versus the mouth?

Kind of a stupid question I know but I've always heard that it's actually a better sign when a man kisses you on the forehead versus your mouth because it's a protective thing. Is this true? Like to kiss somebody on the mouth signifies lust but to kiss a woman on the forehead means that you want to protect her. Again I know kind of a stupid question but it's just always kind of something I've wondered whether it's true or not. Submitted July 06, 2019 at 11:45PM Kind of a stupid question I know but I've always heard that it's actually a better sign when a man kisses you on the forehead versus your mouth because it's a protective thing. Is this true? Like to kiss somebody on the mouth signifies lust but to kiss a woman on the forehead means that you want to protect her. Again I know kind of a stupid question but it's just always kind of something I've wondered whether it's true or not.

Does love exist?

Let me start with the topic right away. I am the kind of person who wants to believe in love but can't for any reason. I'd always liked to have a cute Girlfriend but for some reason i never fell in love with anyone. I mean i had girls i liked a lot and i thought they were cute and shit but for some reason i never felt real love. I even had a girlfriend for quite some time but i never felt that tickling sensation that everyone claims to be love. So hands down: Am i the only one that thinks love is made up or are there others who can relate to my question? Submitted July 06, 2019 at 11:51PM Let me start with the topic right away. I am the kind of person who wants to believe in love but can't for any reason. I'd always liked to have a cute Girlfriend but for some reason i never fell in love with anyone. I mean i had girls i liked a lot and i thought they were cute and shit but for some reason i never felt real love. I even had a girlfriend for quite some time but i...

Falling in love all over again for the 1000th time..

Sometimes there are moments where I absolutely hate my boyfriend, like he annoyed and made me mad to a point where I think "damn, just shut the f*ck up".. then a few moments later I look at him/think of him and just think "he is the most annoying but sweetest fool".. I never believed in that cliché "falling in love again all the time" and all the other stuff but ever since I have realized "yeah, I love this man with all my heart" I understand what it means to be in love with someone.. you won't love them 100% of the time, there will be moments where you hate them, but there are moments where you love them even more than before.. . . Between him and me, I would say that he is the nicer person to strangers. I always say that I'm the crazy one, but really he's the crazy one for being able to handle me.. :) Submitted July 07, 2019 at 12:09AM Sometimes there are moments where I absolutely hate my boyfriend, like he annoyed and ma...

I want to date but I have no job and live at home. 32/M

Bluntness aside, Let me explain now. Almost a year ago, I moved back home to my Parent's house. The reason being was the Job I took in another City did not work out and I realized I was not getting where I wanted to in my Career. So they (my parents) offered the option of living at home while I went to school full time to get my remaining hours necessary with the responsibilities of me helping around the House, etc. Since then, I have really put my nose to the grindstone in getting good grades (all A's and B's), exercising, occasionally volunteering when I have the time, and visiting with friends. But I realize at 32, it's only going to get harder to meet someone and I really don't want to just wait until I have my Ducks all in a row. More importantly, I realize it doesn't work like that. You just have to seize the moment (I hate how cliche that sounds). Today I was just able to talk to some of the opposite Sex and it felt really good. I've felt like I ...