My bf has a friend who likes him, and hasn't told me

Backstory: my boyfriend has mostly all female friends, which wasn't a problem until I found out he wasnt telling them he was in a relationship. I had brought it up multiple times and it always resulted in him getting mad at me for trying to "take his friends".

Anyways, in April, his phone lit up around 3 am so I checked to see who it was. It was his coworker, one who he hangs out with outside of work and I had a bad gut feeling about. When I clicked on it I could see their chat history, which included her asking if he would like to go on a date. He replied with "you're gorgeous but I'm just not ready for that right now. Maybe when you get back from your internship in June". There were also messages where he called me psycho and said he wouldnt want to date me again (apparently she saw a picture of us and he explained it by saying we broke up). I was shaking with rage and decided to message the girl from my phone, saying "hi I'm not his psycho ex, but his girlfriend of over a year. Can you tell me if hes been cheating on me?". Then I woke him up and confronted him about it, and he freaked out at me and basically didnt talk to me for three days, and didnt want to go back to work because "I" made it awkward. He eventually explained that he never wanted to date her, and that he just didnt want to hurt her by telling her he didnt have feelings for her. We had a huge fight over this obviously, but with a lot of communication we decided to work through it, and I asked that he just tell his girlfriends he is in a relationship, and that he didnt even have to say with me. And I asked that he tell me if any of his friends have feelings for him.

Skip to today: I checked his phone today because I still dont fully trust that he would tell me these things. Anyways, a few weeks ago one of his long term friends messaged him that she has feelings for him. I don't know what he said back, as the response wasnt saved. But I'm angry because this is the exact thing he said he would tell me about, but we also agreed that I wouldn't check his phone and that I'd just trust him to tell me. So I don't know what to do know, because he will be pissed I looked at his phone, but I know now that I also cant trust him to tell me the things I need him to. What do I do?

TLDR: boyfriend has sketchy past with other women, so we agreed he would tell me if anyone told him they have feelings for him. I looked at his messages and a good friend of his confessed feelings for him a few weeks ago, and he hasn't told me. Is it worth bringing up?

Submitted July 07, 2019 at 12:09AM

Backstory: my boyfriend has mostly all female friends, which wasn't a problem until I found out he wasnt telling them he was in a relationship. I had brought it up multiple times and it always resulted in him getting mad at me for trying to "take his friends".Anyways, in April, his phone lit up around 3 am so I checked to see who it was. It was his coworker, one who he hangs out with outside of work and I had a bad gut feeling about. When I clicked on it I could see their chat history, which included her asking if he would like to go on a date. He replied with "you're gorgeous but I'm just not ready for that right now. Maybe when you get back from your internship in June". There were also messages where he called me psycho and said he wouldnt want to date me again (apparently she saw a picture of us and he explained it by saying we broke up). I was shaking with rage and decided to message the girl from my phone, saying "hi I'm not his psycho ex, but his girlfriend of over a year. Can you tell me if hes been cheating on me?". Then I woke him up and confronted him about it, and he freaked out at me and basically didnt talk to me for three days, and didnt want to go back to work because "I" made it awkward. He eventually explained that he never wanted to date her, and that he just didnt want to hurt her by telling her he didnt have feelings for her. We had a huge fight over this obviously, but with a lot of communication we decided to work through it, and I asked that he just tell his girlfriends he is in a relationship, and that he didnt even have to say with me. And I asked that he tell me if any of his friends have feelings for him.Skip to today: I checked his phone today because I still dont fully trust that he would tell me these things. Anyways, a few weeks ago one of his long term friends messaged him that she has feelings for him. I don't know what he said back, as the response wasnt saved. But I'm angry because this is the exact thing he said he would tell me about, but we also agreed that I wouldn't check his phone and that I'd just trust him to tell me. So I don't know what to do know, because he will be pissed I looked at his phone, but I know now that I also cant trust him to tell me the things I need him to. What do I do?TLDR: boyfriend has sketchy past with other women, so we agreed he would tell me if anyone told him they have feelings for him. I looked at his messages and a good friend of his confessed feelings for him a few weeks ago, and he hasn't told me. Is it worth bringing up?