Agh I wants it, precious... Google hasn't helped me :( January 02, 2020 at 12:10AM

Can I ask you, how did you go through dating and getting married? I desperately want marriage and to have a family, but I feel like its unattainable for me because I'm not interested in sex. Did you discuss your asexuality while dating? How does your husband feel about it? Sorry if it's too personal, it's just something I'm constantly struggling with. I'm scared I will be alone my whole life. It's great to hear that you're happily married. January 02, 2020 at 12:07AM

But the professional stuff is really annoying too. "I know the position you're in is uncomfortable, but we need a shot of your boobs." "OK, cut." "Wait while we move the cameras and lights for this next angle" No wonder it all looks faked and awkward. January 02, 2020 at 12:00AM

Thank you for sharing! I only socialise one to one with friends usually (all the close ones are married straights !) and hate the thought of big groups and noisy bars these days. At same time I am concerned that I’m going to end up community-less and very lonely the more my friends move off to the country and settle down with kids and can’t meet up as as much. So much of what folk do is geared around couples, too. It’s always bemused me. Pride is huge here and there are loads of colleges and unis and I know loads of people who are LGBT but have never thought of myself as part of that community. Just an ally. I have never checked out the flags either! Will have a look for what’s around. Or maybe I will just hang out with my dog and chat on here. . . January 01, 2020 at 11:54PM

My husband has a fast and powerful car. He is a great husband in most ways with one exception. On about seven or so occasions, he has made stupid, reckless and dangerous manoeuvres while driving with me in his passenger seat that have caused me to fear for my life in the moment. It is literally the only thing we have ever fought about in 7 years of knowing each other. It usually involves him either speeding, passing other cars on bends/hills/narrow roads without being able to see whether the road ahead is clear, or driving aggressively when another motorist annoys him. Sometimes a combination. Each time it has happened, I have called him out on his behavior and this is what happens- he gets mad at ME. Gets defensive. Denies he did anything wrong. Refuses to review his dashcam footage after the fact, or to share it with me(he has it password protected so I can’t even access it as proof.) Doesn’t apologise immediately, (nor even just soon!) afterwards for terrifying me and endangerin...

Alright so this is kind of a doozy. I met this guy almost a month ago and we’ve been no contact for about 3 days. I’ve been going through some severe mental health issues and have constantly been in conflict with the people in my life (parents/family mainly). I was able to turn to him for support and for fun times (watching stuff together) to take my mind off things. He just had a really nice way of talking and never judged me for anything. He was so supportive and sweet towards me. I had never felt more loved and cared for until I met him. We hadn’t known each other for long, but he understood me and my mental illness and didn’t judge me like everyone else did. He’s very cute, charming, well-liked and sweet. However, last week he threatened to kill himself if I didn’t start dating him (I’m not quite ready for another relationship yet). I was gonna ghost him when he did that, but I missed him too much to do that so we kept talking. After this, he didn’t threaten suicide again, eve...

I’m going to try my hardest to make this short as I can. I’m emotionally exhausted. Sorry if it’s not written well. Bf and I together 18 months. I’ve been in abusive relationships in past, healed my wounds, and met my now bf, my first real healthy love. His first love, left him for someone else 3 years ago, when he first went overseas for college. He got depressed and dropped out. He recently moved overseas again to a new college this semester, and so the same scenario is playing out between us. He found out he was moving away about 9 months ago. I was super supportive and happy for him. I fell in love with him as did he when we got together, it was amazing. We have strong foundations for our relationship - good friendship, respect, support, trust etc. Everything has been great, we help eachother through our respective issues. I thought we were good at communication, but I just found out he kept something major from me. I did notice he became a little more stressed and distanced fr...

For context, we have been dating for 4 years. I was his first everything so we tried an open relationship last year which went terribly wrong because he broke the rules [Perhaps one for another thread]. We broke up but still love each other a lot so we decided to give the relationship another go. I'm just going to copy and paste the text conversation we had. This took place the day before New Year's Eve. Me: What's happening tomorrow? Him: Me and ___ got tickets for [club], assumed you weren't gonna be doing anything cos you're ill AF M: ...You didn't think to ask? H: I mean you're still welcome to come with, nothing stopping ya M: Or consider I might want to stay in? M: Why do you think that's acceptable? H: Think what is acceptable? I haven't done anything. What do you think is unacceptable? ;s M: Booking tickets to go out without thinking about me? H: I thought about you, I thought you're rather sick and won't wanna go M: There...

Hey Reddit, Long time lurker, first time poster. I know this is a super common issue, but I just need to vent/would love some input in my current situation. Hubs and I are currently in our early 30s. We have college degrees, careers, we bought a house and we've been together almost 7 years, married for 3. Last January we had our first child, and life has been chaos ever since. We have lost all connection and intimacy. I breastfeed so I'm the one up with the child every night and I work as a nurse, so only 3 days a week, so the majority of the child care has fallen on me. Its gotten to the point where I'm in this routine of taking care of the child, and husband is in the routine of taking care of himself, and we rarely interact or have any intimacy. I can count the times we've had "adult time" on one hand. Same with actually going out on a date without the child. At this point I feel like we are just super awesome room mates. He pays his half the bills, I pay...

So dating hasn't gone well for me around campus, I'm very short (5'5") and I get that its unattractive so I haven't really been successful with girls my age. I saw someone on a different subreddit talk about changing your location on tinder to see where you get more matches, so I did. I got matched with a girl from the Ukraine and she didn't mind my height she's also way out of my league looks wise. We have been talking and video chatting for 5 months now and she wants to meet. After thinking about it I agreed to it and told my friends about it, after seeing what she looks like they said there was no way she actually liked me. One of my friends girlfriend told me that a girl as good looking as her wouldn't ever give me the time of day in here in America and probably just wanted a green card. I talked to her about what my friends said and she kept reassuring me that she does like me and wasn't using me. I still want to meet her but I feel like th...

I don't really have anyone to talk to about this, so here's hoping the Reddit community can lend some ears (eyes). Apologies if this is hard to read...I'm not good at expressing thoughts into words. We've been together for 8 years and been married for 6. It started off really well. We had the same values and goals/ambitions in life which made me want to spend the rest of my life with her. We got married but we were still young and wanted some new experiences to ourselves before settling down. Our plan was to live abroad, work and travel for a couple of years, save money along the way then return home and start a family. So we moved half way across the world to a different country in a much busier city. We did actually create a lot of memories and to all of our friends and family back home it looked like we were living the glorious life style and always out travelling. It wasn't really - it was all relative. Compared to other friends who did the same thing (liv...

Me (F14) him (M14). So I have this crush on my current friend, I asked them out in summer but they said they didn’t want a distraction and might want to go out in future. It’s been awhile now and I think that plan has changed and they might not wanna do that anymore but I haven’t asked them and don’t want to. So anyway I kinda want to get over them but I also don’t cause I wanna go out in future but might not happen, plus if I start dating other ppl which I wanna, they will know that I don’t like them and we will never go out. Sorry that was hard to explain any advice in what to do? Tl;Dr - I have a crush on my friend I want to get over but also don’t. Submitted January 02, 2020 at 12:06AM Me (F14) him (M14). So I have this crush on my current friend, I asked them out in summer but they said they didn’t want a distraction and might want to go out in future.It’s been awhile now and I think that plan has changed and they might not wanna do that anymore but I haven’t asked them a...

I have been going out with my girlfriend for almost 3 years and has had alot of issues e.g self harm/narcissistic parents since before she met me which I have tried to help her get through and have been quite successful with as things to get to her as much and she doesnt harm herself anymore. However recently when she appears to have a problem with somebody and I try to talk to her about it she acts like im just like everyone else and doesnt accept my help. She says her reasoning is that she has a bad sterotype of guys and that I should talk her out of it. But how is she thinking like this if ive been with her throughout all of her problems for three years. Yesterday i was talking to her fine, put my phone down for ten minutes to play jenga with my nephew who lives quite far away from me and i dont get to see much, and when i get back to my phone i see an essay from her saying that I just use her for sex and dont care about her even though I have helped this girl with everything and t...

A year ago, I started dating this girl I met at my job. I honestly should never have agreed to go out with her, as I was suffering with severe untreated depression and anxiety and thought the relationship would end like the one before it had, where I never ended up feeling the same way and kept ghosting until I got broken up with. Lo and behold, it did. We stayed friends, but the thing is my other friends and I have never been the type to text each other a bunch, preferring to catch up in person(months will go by and neither of us has a problem with it), whereas my ex texts frequently and expects the same back or wants to call, so interacting with her made me somewhat anxious. I was really busy towards the end of senior year and was in rehearsal for a very intense show after I graduated, so from May-June she would text me random memes and "are you alive, I want to be your friend" after which I apologized, explaining that I would get home from rehearsal and just sleep causin...

Hi, sorry for any mistakes/formating, I'm on my mobile (and not a native speaker). So, long story short. We've been together for 3 years and he is working and I'm still studying. We do not live together. The thing is, I'm tired of seeing him being so bad with his money. He earns little more than a minimal wage and still lives at his parents (so do I). When we started dating he'd buy me little presents like snacks and drinks he knew I liked, he drove me on my fav places, etc. He still does that but rarely because I told him I appreciate all the things he does for me but I don't want him to spend money on these things and that we should save money for bigger trips and future. I also told him to stop spending so much money for my birthday/Christmas/anniversary presents but he just doesn't listen. I'm very appreciative but I'm just not happy anymore...I'm just scared and disappointed when he buys me stuff. I have always been oriented in the futur...

As the title says I had three things happen that led my SO to believe I was cheating and it seems like she is mindset on that only. A mark on my back appeared and she thought it was a hickey (it was from my necklace and me sleeping on it, I have proof that my necklace makes that mark) to her she asks why that hasn’t happened before and it just started happening recently, I’ve worn these two necklaces all year. In my defense it may of happened just never noticed until she pointed it out as something negative. I made her a twitter account to send her memes and I still had access to it because she never used it and when I went on it to see if she read my message on there it said in the suggested someone she doesn’t like so I blocked them on her account and didn’t think much of it. She saw that as me trying to hide something, and I didn’t realize I still had her on my Twitter and she got mad I was still following her when I honestly forgot I was. It was a huge honest mistake and I d...

This probably sounds ridiculous, but me and my family are out of ideas. My nan is in her 80s, her hearing is not as good as it once was (its awful). She cant hear normal people unless they shout, has the TV on twice as loud, and is adamant that everyone is mumbling and that we dont talk properly. She genuinely believes this, but I think it's just a cover story. It's really affecting her day to day life and causing a lot of issues. I think it hurts her pride to admit shes getting old and things arent as great as they used to be. So, how do we convince her she needs one? Everytime we say something she gets super defensive, gets angry etc. We've tried the sympathetic angle too, suggesting that she is missing out on conversations etc. Any help from someone who's been through something similar appreciated. Tl:dr; My nan has gone deaf, refuses to admit she needs a hearing aid, how do we convince her? Submitted January 02, 2020 at 12:13AM This probably sounds ridicu...

My gf (23) told me (25) she wants to have sex for the first time...ever, obviously She told me when we started dating that she is a virgin, I told her I would never initiate anything and to let me know when she was ready, that day arrived, and I would like some advice, mainly to make her feel comfortable, so ladies, did you enjoy your first time and how was it? What are some things you’d have liked to happen, before during and after, what to do if she bleeds, I’ve never done it with a virgin before so any advice would be highly appreciated tl:dr my virgin wants to have sex, need advice Submitted January 02, 2020 at 12:13AM My gf (23) told me (25) she wants to have sex for the first time...ever, obviously She told me when we started dating that she is a virgin, I told her I would never initiate anything and to let me know when she was ready, that day arrived, and I would like some advice, mainly to make her feel comfortable, so ladies, did you enjoy your first time and how was i...

Ive been in a recent break up and as my EX was someone to talk to everyday im left on my own and im getting a bit lonely. i have friends but they have girlfriends and we message maybe once or twice a day so im left with most of the day and in my free time with nothing to do. And frankly i want to have a bit of fun whilst im still young and single. Id say im a okay looking person who often goes out on the weekends with my mates and goes drinking, however my social media says otherwise. I only have one picture up of myself on facebook and instagram and its quiet a old one of a year or two ago(Im quiet scared to upload another because i become really insecure about likes and stuff as im not the most popular person). Plus i never really interact on it. Like i dont bother to add people or like anyones pictures as i mostly use snapchat but you cant really add people on it. I dont want to be creepy and start adding random girls and messaging them as thats the last thing they want to see. S...

Hey Reddit, Long time lurker, first time poster. I know this is a super common issue, but I just need to vent/would love some input in my current situation. Hubs(32M) and I(33F) are pretty well "set up" in life, we have college degrees, careers, we bought a house and we've been together almost 7 years, married for 3. Date night and intimacy were a very regular thing with us. Last January we had our first child, and life has been chaos ever since. We have lost all connection and intimacy. I breastfeed so I'm the one up with the child every night and I work as a nurse, so only 3 days a week, so the majority of the child care has fallen on me. Its gotten to the point where I'm in this routine of taking care of the child, and husband is in the routine of taking care of himself, and we rarely interact or have any intimacy. I can count the times we've had sex on one hand. Same with actually going out on a date without the child. At this point I feel like we are ju...

Long story short, I have bipolar amongst other things. This girl also does. But I have had it longer than she has and I am further in my recovery. She’s been pretty thoughtless in the past (making fun of my room, looking at people’s phones etc) and I have been trying to keep my distance. But a few days ago she sent me messages telling me to stop taking my meds. I understand where she is coming from, psych med issue is a lot more complicated than most people understand and there is a lack of research on them, and some people do honestly do better without them, and many people just swap their mental health symptoms for side effects which are just as bad. But at the same time, I also understand they help some people. Most fucked me around but the one I’m on is GOOD for me. I also am not close to her, and don’t think it’s appropriate to tell me to do something like that if you aren’t close. I tried to be understanding, I said something like’hey I understand but I am happy,please don’t ...

As a firstborn Asian son, I've been trying to figure out my entire life why I see so many more white male/Asian female couples and so few Asian male/white female couples, and, more importantly, why Asian parents seem so much more comfortable with WMAF couples. I've also been trying to figure out why Asian sons in particular are so discouraged from dating and learning basic attraction/romantic interactions with young women. I always assumed it had something to do with arranged marriages and how traditional Asian men don't learn how to attract and date in the Western sense because a wife is arranged for them, but the true answer is all of these phenomena are results of Confucianism itself. Confucianism places a burden on Asian sons, particularly firstborn Asian sons, to take care of the parents. Parents shelter their firstborn sons because their firstborn sons are completely and totally responsible for their retirement, passing on the family name/resources/traditions/cultur...

I have no problem matching with people, but when we match we have a very brief conversation at most or nothing at all, and then that's it. They're liking my profile, I don't say enough to put my foot in my mouth, and this has happend at least 5 or 6 times now, so what gives? Submitted January 01, 2020 at 11:33PM I have no problem matching with people, but when we match we have a very brief conversation at most or nothing at all, and then that's it. They're liking my profile, I don't say enough to put my foot in my mouth, and this has happend at least 5 or 6 times now, so what gives?