my relationship is ending because of me, Should I just own up to my mistakes instead of proving my innocence, or just keep fighting? I want to continue with her but the road seems hard.

As the title says I had three things happen that led my SO to believe I was cheating and it seems like she is mindset on that only.

1. A mark on my back appeared and she thought it was a hickey (it was from my necklace and me sleeping on it, I have proof that my necklace makes that mark) to her she asks why that hasn’t happened before and it just started happening recently, I’ve worn these two necklaces all year. In my defense it may of happened just never noticed until she pointed it out as something negative.

2. I made her a twitter account to send her memes and I still had access to it because she never used it and when I went on it to see if she read my message on there it said in the suggested someone she doesn’t like so I blocked them on her account and didn’t think much of it. She saw that as me trying to hide something, and I didn’t realize I still had her on my Twitter and she got mad I was still following her when I honestly forgot I was. It was a huge honest mistake and I didn’t realize at all and just blocked her on my SO twitter Incase she she blew up.

3. It was New Year’s Eve, I brought out all my old memorabilia. We were going to go thru it, I told her I had to go to the bathroom, and when I left and came back my laptop went into idle mode and it started playing a slideshow I recently put on there. I did that three days prior to that day and I put only one folder in the mix which was my digital art. For some freak reason it added two other folders one being my pictures folder and then a pictures folder I did not know existed and I thought I deleted a long time ago. It was a folder of nudes of a girl from before our relationship, I was shocked when I saw it but she was even more shocked and just said yikes and had to go. I felt the coldness that I fucked up super hard despite them being older nudes they somehow got onto my laptops lock screen and I couldn’t fathom why and I sat there for 40 minutes with my mom looking for this folder and eventually I found it in a duplicate of my windows user and it was the only thing on there. A few weeks ago I remembered I had those photos because I saw a photo of the girl, I tried looking for them but couldn’t find them to save my life so I gave up and assumed I deleted them along with all the other old ones I had. It was the biggest mistake I’ve ever made in my life.

So what I’m asking is, should I even bother fighting for my innocence even though I am?

Should I just admit to my mistakes and cut ties?

Should I admit to my mistakes and say I’d still want to try?

I’m not sure what to do, I’m going to talk to her one last time in a few hours I’m scared anxious and nervous. And to be clear the nudes have proof that they were from before we dated so they weren’t during to prove I wasn’t cheating. It was just the act of seeing them on my lock screen is what upset her the most. To me it would make no sense for me to put it there on purpose because my mom sees my laptop and she wouldn’t be okay with that. Anyways thank you y’all happy New Years.

TLDR; I’ve made a lot of mistakes and fuck ups in a concentrated time, should I cut my losses and admit to my mistakes, or admit to my mistakes and try to get her back . I know I haven’t cheated but she won’t believe me, it seems like an endless fight..

Submitted January 02, 2020 at 12:12AM

As the title says I had three things happen that led my SO to believe I was cheating and it seems like she is mindset on that only.A mark on my back appeared and she thought it was a hickey (it was from my necklace and me sleeping on it, I have proof that my necklace makes that mark) to her she asks why that hasn’t happened before and it just started happening recently, I’ve worn these two necklaces all year. In my defense it may of happened just never noticed until she pointed it out as something negative.I made her a twitter account to send her memes and I still had access to it because she never used it and when I went on it to see if she read my message on there it said in the suggested someone she doesn’t like so I blocked them on her account and didn’t think much of it. She saw that as me trying to hide something, and I didn’t realize I still had her on my Twitter and she got mad I was still following her when I honestly forgot I was. It was a huge honest mistake and I didn’t realize at all and just blocked her on my SO twitter Incase she she blew up.It was New Year’s Eve, I brought out all my old memorabilia. We were going to go thru it, I told her I had to go to the bathroom, and when I left and came back my laptop went into idle mode and it started playing a slideshow I recently put on there. I did that three days prior to that day and I put only one folder in the mix which was my digital art. For some freak reason it added two other folders one being my pictures folder and then a pictures folder I did not know existed and I thought I deleted a long time ago. It was a folder of nudes of a girl from before our relationship, I was shocked when I saw it but she was even more shocked and just said yikes and had to go. I felt the coldness that I fucked up super hard despite them being older nudes they somehow got onto my laptops lock screen and I couldn’t fathom why and I sat there for 40 minutes with my mom looking for this folder and eventually I found it in a duplicate of my windows user and it was the only thing on there. A few weeks ago I remembered I had those photos because I saw a photo of the girl, I tried looking for them but couldn’t find them to save my life so I gave up and assumed I deleted them along with all the other old ones I had. It was the biggest mistake I’ve ever made in my life.So what I’m asking is, should I even bother fighting for my innocence even though I am?Should I just admit to my mistakes and cut ties?Should I admit to my mistakes and say I’d still want to try?I’m not sure what to do, I’m going to talk to her one last time in a few hours I’m scared anxious and nervous. And to be clear the nudes have proof that they were from before we dated so they weren’t during to prove I wasn’t cheating. It was just the act of seeing them on my lock screen is what upset her the most. To me it would make no sense for me to put it there on purpose because my mom sees my laptop and she wouldn’t be okay with that. Anyways thank you y’all happy New Years.TLDR; I’ve made a lot of mistakes and fuck ups in a concentrated time, should I cut my losses and admit to my mistakes, or admit to my mistakes and try to get her back . I know I haven’t cheated but she won’t believe me, it seems like an endless fight..