Plus multiple clever folk say it can be healthy to do once in a while. June 29, 2019 at 12:27AM

I do not envy that super power. June 29, 2019 at 12:18AM

I have the same pin! I wear it on my lanyard at work June 29, 2019 at 12:13AM

idk I spend a lot of my extra brain time anxiously imagining worst-case scenarios that will never happen June 29, 2019 at 12:12AM

I'm not, mainly due to how alcoholism affected members of my family and just not being fond of not being in control of what I do. June 29, 2019 at 12:11AM

Any and all advice would be appreciated! I [26F] have recently started seeing someone. [27M] Thus far, it has been great. I really like him, and I'm excited to see where it could potentially go. That said, this is my first relationship. (which it is not officially, but for the purposes of this post I'll refer to it as such.) I have a physical disability, and it turns the off the vast majority of guys my age. I've been on dates before, and had my fair share of hookups in college, but this is the first time someone seems interested in pursuing something more with me. It's exciting, but it's also terrifying. I've been disappointed so many times before in the past, and I really don't want this to come to be just another disappointment. Anyway, the reason for this post. Last night we went out on a date, and when I went to bed later that night I went on Facebook. I should add here that he was in a relationship until January of this year. He hasn't gotten i...

I [F,22] have been in a sort of talking/were the only ones each other are having sex with/etc with a guy [M,21] since early February of this year. Yet over these couple of months, feelings have developed between both of us. He has told me he likes me. Yet 2 weeks ago, while I was taking him home from a night out he told me he had sex with someone else while he was “black out” drunk and on molly (I do not condone or like his drug use). He is not a regular drug user. Him and I both drink. I was very silent when he told me this. I didn’t have much to say. He did what he did and we’re not dating so I didn’t think I had room to be upset. Yet the weekend prior I told him that if he went and had sex with another girl I would be very upset. Then he went and did that. He told me he had no interest in having sex with other girls. We spent time talking about it for a couple of hours. He told me he was sorry and I could see the shame and guilt on his face. He told me he didn’t know what to say ...

I am a (26) female dating a (26) Male. We both have 2 children each from past partners. We recently started living together. He always hides his phone from me, to the point of making me paranoid. I looked through it when he was asleep. I found two things that concerned me and I am not sure if I’m overreacting or not so I want other opinions before I make something more out of nothing. One of his female friends sent him pictures of her in underwear on Facebook messenger. He heart reacted the picture. He did not reply to it, and dodged all of her attempts to hang out alone (specifically with her saying without me knowing) by claiming he had other responsibilities. He claims the heart react was an accident. The second is that he still tells his ex, who he has kids with, that he will “always have a place in his heart for her” and will send hearts in birthday messages. He has told her clearly that he will never touch her again. But some of his messages weird me out a little bit. Such a...

So to preface everything... I regret making the initial decision that led to my findings. I had some prior suspicions about my girlfriends behavior, however that's another story for another time. Anyway, I had decided to look into her old iPod touch for something that I could get upset about. I found she still had Instagram downloaded on the app and decided to investigate. I found that she had made a new Instagram account two weeks before we met. This Instagram had hundreds of photos of her and her ex boyfriend on it with no followers and nobody following. Pretty much a ghost account. But, she still frequently adds new photos to this Instagram, archived photos of her romantic past with her boyfriend. I have yet to approach her with my findings but I am very tempted to. I don't know if I'm over thinking her reasoning for having this or if I should be worried that she cannot truly love me because she still cares do deeply for this man. I need guidance please. TL;DR I found...

I've been so upset the last few days. This girl and I who work at the same place were together last year. Near the end of the summer, we decided to become exclusive. But then school started and fucked everything up. It's just such a huge burden for me and after a month or two of seeing her only sporadically, I ended it because I thought it was unfair to keep her in a commitment that I couldn't hold up. She didn't tell me this at the time, and indeed I need to work on my emotional intelligence, but apparently that ordeal fucked her up for a couple months. ​ Well we're working together again. And here's the thing: she's with someone. Not dating, just fucking, I think. It's so hard seeing her at work, but even harder when we all go out and we're at the same bar together. It usually devolves into me telling her how much I like her, her saying the same thing, etc. Our mutual friend and co-worker is the intermediary through which we've both shared a...

Hi everyone. I need some advice. I will do my best to make this as coherent as possible. Me (F21) and my boyfriend (M20) who I will call John. So, we have been together for 7 months. I love him entirely and want to spend my future with him - marriage, kids, crippling mortgage etc. He wants this too. I have had 1 relationship before him that lasted a year and 1 month long fling. I have slept with 7 people including him. I am John's first everything. We were best friends for 6 months before we started dating. We are also long distance for now - we live 2 hours apart but this is easily managed and we see each other every 2 weeks for a week and I will be moving to his city once I graduate at the end of this year to close the distance (we will not live together). He is a wonderful partner and my best friend and I want to make him as happy as I can and grow with him as we mature. I couldn't think of anyone I adore more. John has a high sex drive and will initiate sex almost every...

I don't know if it's a rant or I am seeking advice because I know most people would probably tell me to leave him, but I don't know. I don't want to be the like khloe Kardashian lol We have know each other for half a year. He used to borrow my laptop, today by accident I was on his reddit account, but thought was mine. Well, girls are always curious, so I look his PM. if you want to blame me for this, fine. It turns out he has been sexting girls, talk about how he's going to fuck them. And he never states he has gf. He also reach out to multiple girls, even they never reply. I don't know what to do. I thought we had a great relationship until this happen. I have met his family and they are all very nice. He never display any sign of cheating in life. I always thought he's honest. But this totally destroyed me. I confront him and he admitted he was wrong and asked for second chance. He said he's not cheating but you all see the stories above. So my ques...

It was more complicated than the title implies and I think it was mostly my fault, but I'm not sure. We have been dating for 2 weeks and generally make out after every date, but she's said that she wants to go slow so we mostly just kiss. Yesterday after the date we went to her place and I told her while making out that I wanted to go a little further than we have gone all these times. She said that she wasn't ready yet and I thought, OK, that's fine. About 10 minutes later I was feeling very excited and asked her if I could touch her breasts. She got mad and said "no, you can't, Jesus!" and pulled back. She said that guys were always trying to get her to do stuff she didn't want to do and it was infuriating and she was tired of it, then said she thought I was a better guy than that and she was kind of disappointed. I apologized and said it was a heat of the moment rush and that I didn't mean to make her feel uncomfortable. I left shortly afte...

My boyfriend (now ex I guess :'( ) and I have been together since October of 2017. We were so in love, but it never really started in a healthy place in the first place, he was hurt since his ex cheated on him and broke his heart, and he was seeing this other girl about a month before we got together, so I guess I was the second rebound. He was my first boyfriend, and he took my virginity. We dated throughout my senior year (he is 2 years younger... this gap probably made everything harder), throughout my freshman year of college, and now it is the summer before my sophomore year of college. He broke up with me this morning. ​ Before I get to the events of last night, I just wanna give some background info. I am not the most stable person, in fact, I am very depressed. I have always been very depressed since the beginning of our relationship, and he knew that, but I guess he was in pain at the moment too, so it was something we had in common. We got so close so fast, and ended u...

TLDR: Sister is a difficult child, mom makes it worse. I'm worried for how my sister will grow up if this behaviour from both of them continues. What should I do? Sister [11F] was born at an inopportune time for my parents. We were short on money, our electricity/heating would go out every couple months, and my parent's business was failing. My mom's pregnancy was also very complicated, because unfortunately, sister [11F] has a heart condition (which added some expense to her birth). We got evicted 3 years after sister [11F] was born, and 2 years after sister [11F] was born, we both got a new younger sister [0F]. Sister [11F] has always been a "problem child". She struggles to make/keep friends in school. She is angry because she is constantly yelled at, which makes her yell more, parents punish her instead of trying to understand her, etc. She is bullied; kids steal her lunch and the teacher doesn't do much about it. Kids post mean things about her online....

My mom's side of the family decided to do a family reunion after several elders passed including my grandmom. We have a lot of family all over the States and in Europe. So we got together for a long weekend last week and I met a bunch of cousins/aunts/uncles I had never met before. I hit it off (friends) with one of my guy cousins. He's like a 3rd or 4th cousin. Anyway, on our last night together we were both drunk and he tried to kiss me. He apologized profusely. I felt super weird, but kind of just left it. I just logged into instagram and saw he sent me a request. I don't know if I should accept. I have pictures in bikinis and others I wouldn't want him to see. ​ TL;DR: Cousin tried to kiss me and add me on IG. What do I do? Submitted June 29, 2019 at 12:11AM My mom's side of the family decided to do a family reunion after several elders passed including my grandmom. We have a lot of family all over the States and in Europe. So we got together for a long...

Hi, so basically I’ve known his guy for about five years now, and we’ve been on and off friends. I’ve always known that he liked me, but he knew I would date other people and we have never been exclusive. We really were just good friends, but then we’d stop talking for a while for one reason or another. So basically, we were friends again about two years ago or so, and I think he got super embarrassed about some things and no longer wanted to talk. Well I also didn’t reach out because I didn’t know what to say (I could tell at this point that he was in love/infatuated with me, and I didn’t feel the same so I thought it’d be best to let it be). Well then, I fell head over heels with a guy and got married. I am now divorced after less than a year being married. And I never reached out to the first guy and haven’t yet, but I started thinking about him A LOT when I was married (which I feel horrible about, but we got divorced for different reasons. Just basically not knowing each other en...

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Partner and I have been together long enough and had enough conversations to know we're on the same page and want to start a family. The ideal setting for a proposal is coming up in the near future and I have a ring, it just occurred to me that I have no idea what I should say besides "will you marry me" and I'm terribly not creative when I'm staring at a blank canvas, what kinds of things did you or your partner open with, or did they just go zero to sixty and ask straight away? Submitted June 29, 2019 at 12:08AM Partner and I have been together long enough and had enough conversations to know we're on the same page and want to start a family. The ideal setting for a proposal is coming up in the near future and I have a ring, it just occurred to me that I have no idea what I should say besides "will you marry me" and I'm terribly not creative when I'm staring at a blank canvas, what kinds of things did you or your partner open with, o...

Yep, it just seems disgusting to me, and there's social reasons like you mentioned. It's probably a good thing since my family has a history of alcoholism. June 29, 2019 at 12:06AM

I think about dragons far more than I probably should. June 29, 2019 at 12:02AM

Same here. I get why people want relationships but personally I haven't had any romantic feelings for anyone and don't think I'd enjoy being in a relationship myself. June 28, 2019 at 11:58PM

Jesus Christ that's too me irl...Back when I was young and didn't know ace is a thing, I was almost influenced into being with multiple friends of the opposite gender (yeah my environment was very heteronormative too) just because they think it's the right thing to happen...Heck, I don't even know if I am bi-gray or I'm actually gray lesbian simply because people expect me to be attracted to men. It's really hard to feel valid when the majority of people around me are allo, even when I know matter-of-factly being ace/gray is valid... Tbh I just want really deep meaningful friendships and maybe some physical contact too (hugs and snuggles) but I don't want to fuck or be fucked by anybody... June 28, 2019 at 11:56PM