Growing up I always felt that there was something wrong with me and I've always felt really isolated. Joining this community has helped me realise that being asexual is awesome, and has helped me come out to my friends and colleagues 🥰 September 18, 2021 at 01:53AM

Less stress and more simplicity/stability in general I guess? I don't mean that relationships bring only stress, I'm well aware that they're a complex and deep thing. But I think everyone will agree that with relationships come a lot of new sensations, emotions and experiences. And there will be some negative ones, that's just how life works. So yeah, by being aroace I guess I lose some, get some in terms of life stability and emotional health. Life is already pretty complicated nowadays, I honestly cannot imagine how people have power for relationships. But I mean I'm happy for those who enjoy their time together. September 18, 2021 at 01:52AM

That's awesome! It's great to be confident in who you are. Getting this engraved meant I have finally accepted who I am 😌 September 18, 2021 at 01:51AM

There's less criteria to worry about for sexual encounters. As long as we're into it, healthy, share similar sex philosophy, and are actually good at having sex?; it's golden. No ephemeral sensation of "attraction" for me to whine about making it so hard to find encounters like I've seen so oddly often. Being aroused is really distracting and I'm glad it doesn't happen at random simply by seeing people. I can say that nudity should be perfectly normal and roll my eyes at society without feeling like a hypocrite wherever I see a cute girl or something. I genuinely enjoy that my reaction to seeing someone cute is "Oh my goodness, wow! :D" and that it doesn't really go further than that, so it's really easy to give people compliments without it turning awkward. Everything else I can think of is aro related ♤ September 18, 2021 at 01:48AM

I have a friend who has serious co-dependency issues and problems with loneliness and desperation, and feels she needs a bf in order to gain personal fulfillment. She keeps going on dating apps without even having standards of any kind and flirting sexually with guys she doesn't even know and practically begging them to come have sex with her. Whenever a guy comes and meets up with her though she says she doesn't actually want sex, she just wants a normal date and it is always so clear that is lying about her intentions just to get them to show up to meet her because she feels there is no other way to get them to like her unless she does this. The guys she meets up with then always question why she lied to get them to show up, and insist that they have sex with her when she is reluctant to do so. Even though she says no initially to them asking for sex from her because that is initially what she seemed so clear on doing with them, she always caves and lets them have sex with...

during my middle to high school years I wasn't into dating.. then a couple years later probably sophomore year of college man I hormones went off the roof looking for girls.. I started dating a girl during my Junior year of university and everytime we hangout we would always trying to have screw (we had intercourse about 3 to 5 times a week. Our sexual chemistry was off the roof but we only lasted 6 to 7 months then I broke up with her Then another 6 months have gone by after breakup then my urges are coming back Is it normal? Submitted September 18, 2021 at 02:44AM during my middle to high school years I wasn't into dating..then a couple years later probably sophomore year of college man I hormones went off the roof looking for girls.. I started dating a girl during my Junior year of university and everytime we hangout we would always trying to have screw (we had intercourse about 3 to 5 times a week. Our sexual chemistry was off the roof but we only lasted 6 to 7 mo...

wondering what feels better? I know one is probably more meaningful than the other and it probably depends on the person. my brain often associates love and sex as two different things. Submitted September 18, 2021 at 02:44AM wondering what feels better? I know one is probably more meaningful than the other and it probably depends on the person. my brain often associates love and sex as two different things.

Drugs accompanied by the bliss of music is what I relate sex with another person to be like. Personally prefer that over sex because there is no real “work” or social awkwardness involved Submitted September 18, 2021 at 02:46AM Drugs accompanied by the bliss of music is what I relate sex with another person to be like. Personally prefer that over sex because there is no real “work” or social awkwardness involved

Any other males or females who’s sex lives aren’t that developed experience this ? Submitted September 18, 2021 at 02:47AM Any other males or females who’s sex lives aren’t that developed experience this ?

My boyfriend (m23) and I (f19) have been together for a year now and every time my boyfriend and I have sex its always really uncomfortable for me. When he puts it in and during its uncomfortable and when we get finished I'm always hurting. The first 3 times we had sex I either had to stop myself from crying or I cried after. Its embarrassing and I just wish I could relax. I feel bad because we haven't had sex in a while but he said he doesn't mind. I have had trauma in my past and I'm trying to work through it but its just so much work. I've thought about trying weed gummies or something to help me calm down but I just don't know. Its like I'm calm one minute but the next I'm thinking too much about what I'm doing and then I make it awkward. I barely feel horny on my own and with him. I want to feel normal. Am I the problem or if he is the wrong person to be having sex with? Submitted September 18, 2021 at 02:48AM My boyfriend (m23) and I (f1...

I think I get them? I don't really understand them. I mean, I like people, but what the hell is romance and romantic crushes? For me, I just think my "crushes" are just a strong urge to be with someone, but not necessarily in a romantic sense. That strong urge by the way feels horrible. A strong urge to constantly be around someone, touch them, not in a sexual way, and constantly want to talk to them. IS NOT PLEASANT! But I guess I've just gotten used to it. It's my life. I guess it is my way of showing attraction? I don't know it's confusing as hell. September 18, 2021 at 01:17AM

Thank you, I always worry that my answers will look like gibberish : ) September 18, 2021 at 01:13AM

35yo allo here and in my experience few people talk so openly about something so personal. Could just be the circles I run in, but I doubt it. I think teenagers worry about sex a lot in terms of wondering when they'll "lose their virginity" or if they're normal. They worry about being left out while others may seem more experienced, but even in this case I don't think there's that much talk about it. Even if there was, I would be highly suspect of what kids said. I suspect a lot of kids lie about such things to fit in. I have one very close friend who I talk to about relationships and such in private, and he has occasionally mentioned being in a dry spell and being frustrated by it, but he's far from a sex addict. His frustration seems to be more from a general lack of intimacy in general when he is not in a relationship. Speaking to How I Met Your Mother the show specifically, the show ran for 9 seasons. Having a show that long means the creative team...

That’s what I’m saying. Sexual kisses aren’t intense if you’re not into it September 18, 2021 at 01:09AM

Thanks! September 18, 2021 at 01:09AM

There’s some evidence that Jesus and John (“the disciple whom Jesus loved” 👀) had a thing, but Paul is actually someone I’ve brought up with my parents to try and help them understand! September 18, 2021 at 12:26AM

My fiance has no reason to be jealous when I go out with make friends. It's nice having a partner who UNDERSTANDS even tho has allo. September 18, 2021 at 12:25AM

My mother is asexual as well, she thought it was normal to not feel sexual attraction and not like sex much. She said she always had sex just to please her SOs, because it doesn't make any difference for her. September 18, 2021 at 12:24AM

Absolutely! There is a crazy amount of different aces- that's why it's a spectrum. Heck, you can even have a ton of sex and still be ace. The core principal is that you just don't feel sexual attraction. Nothing to do with your actual sex life! September 18, 2021 at 12:22AM

Top 10 anime character arcs. In all seriousness though, congratulations! I’m really happy your stepdad changed his mind on Asexuality :D September 18, 2021 at 12:21AM