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I [M] am constantly jealous towards my Best Friend [F]

I'm going to start this off saying I hate the way I am, I find it insufferable. I get it, jealousy can make me an asshole, but I want to change that, which is why I'm here. ​ B will be Best Friend and M will just be me, just to keep it simple. We're both the same age (late teens), and we're both at the same stage in our lives. We've known eachother for about a year and a half, I'm Male, B is Female. ​ Now that the formalities(?) are out of the way, I'll get to it. I've known B for about a year and a half. We've been really close friends for about 70% of that time, no issues whatsoever between the two of us since we've met, and I hope to keep it that way. The only issue I have, is how jealous I get. Partway through our friendship I started to get really attached, and whenever she spoke to a friend other than me, I'd get jealous by it. Of course, I would never mention this, even in my head I would never take this out on her. That's b...

Really bad mistake, can it be saved 26F + 27M, ~2 year

So i'm the dumbest man on earth, I made a huge mistake. I had a perfect relationship with my girlfriend then for whatever reason. While traveling abroad I received oral sex from a prostitute (protected). It wasn't something I was really seeking. A colleague brought us to bar, and they offered to take us in the back room. I went along with it for some reason thinking it would be more like a lap-dance type thing and it for some reason I just let it happen. I stopped her before it was over. I really don't know what I was thinking but clearly not through the consequences, or about my lovely girlfriend. This was the biggest mistake i've made in my entire life. I went back to my hotel, had a panic attack, didn't really sleep for several days after. I knew there was no way I could live with the thought, so as soon as I could in person I told my girlfriend about it. She was clearly very upset, but we talked about trying to get through it. We parted ways for a bit but afte...

Our relationship still feels like long-distance, even though we now live in the same city.

To give some context, I (23F) met my boyfriend (24M) while I was living in New York and he was living in Utah. We started off long distance and kept it going for two long years until I quit Wall Street and accepted a new job back in Utah which is where I’m from originally. Now that we are both living in the same city (happens to be less than a five minute drive apart!), it almost feels like we are still in a long distance relationship much of the time. He still prefers to talk on the phone rather than catch up in person most evenings. We still enjoy watching tv shows together, but he typically prefers to do so over the phone where he is in his house and I am in mine and then we just press play at the same time (super annoying at times!) - just like how it was when I was living in New York. To add another annoying layer to this, he isn’t allowed to spend the night at my place due to his parents’ preferences (he still lives at home), and I am not allowed to spend the night at his plac...

My [50F] mom thinks I [20F] should break up with my boyfriend [19M]. What should I do?

Hi Reddit, English isn't my first language, so please excuse me if there are any mistakes. First of all, my mom isn't controlling at all. Honestly, she's my best friend and she always gives me the best advice. But right now I'm really confused and scared. I don't know what to do. My current situation is that I recently got admitted to university. I'll be studying abroad for at least 3 years, so that means I'll have to be in a LDR. My bf and I have been dating for a little bit over one year. He's my first boyfriend. He's honestly the best boyfriend I could ask for. He's kind, gentle, understanding, thoughtful... He makes me feel so loved and I love him too. I really want to make this work, but my mom thinks it's a bad idea for the following reasons: - It's important that I enjoy my first year in uni without any ties to worry about. She says spending all of my time in my room talking to him on the phone while other students are buildin...

Stuck between a rock and a hard place (22M)

I apologize if this is poor formatting, and I apologize if my thoughts are a bit scattered, I don’t post that often. So I have been in a Friends with benefits type deal for around 2 months, and we have been friends for around 6 months. We’ve always had great chemistry and always seemed to be on the same page... A couple weeks back we had the ”establishment talk”, where we discussed what are intentions with this relationship was. She (21F) had said that she thought of us as friends with benefits, and we could fuck other people if we came across the opportunity so long as we told each other about it. The backstory to this was we had both mentioned that we had really only been in formal relationships for the past couple of years, and felt there was always an immense amount of pressure on both parties when talks of commitment came about. She has tried FWB in the past but had said that they have either ended badly due to lack of communication, or feelings came about for one person, but n...

How the hell do you break up with someone that is so kind and caring and not feel like a complete A-Hole?

As per title, I (30M) am in a fairly new relationship with my girlfriend (30F). Last night after I left her place I had one of those moments of truth, where I had to confront the fact that I just don't feel that spark and connection between us to take things further. The problem is that she is so kind, caring and considerate . The whole time we've been together we've barely argued (I know it's still early but with previous gf's there's at least been a disagreement of sorts by that stage). I don't know how to break up with her without destroying her self esteem or leaving her with a toxic view of future relationships (her last long term BF cheated on her). It'd be a lot easier if she wasn't so nice all the time to be honest. I can tell she's become attached so I doubt it's going to be easy relatively speaking , but what's the best way to let her down gently ? TL;DR - don't feel connection with gf, want to break up with her. She...

I (20M) Recently Broke Up with My Girlfriend (22F), But Don't Want to Cut Her Out of My Life

I recently (Friday) broke up with my girlfriend of one year. We initially found each other on the subreddit make friends here, where I made a post and she replied. We had no idea we went to the same university or lived in the same city. When we talked and found out more about each other, we both felt a natural attraction. It wasn't long before we wanted to meet each other and started hanging out, which took place around late 2017. ​ This was the first real relationship for both of us, but for the most part things went smoothly. We enjoyed each others company, loved, supported and trusted each other, and had fun. Over the time we were together, it was essentially me who was making the sexual aspect of our relationship develop. She was really insecure about herself, and had no experience doing anything with anyone. I tried to be patient and took things slowly, but I pushed too hard sometimes. It was my first time doing anything with a partner, and I know I have a high libido. She ...

How to trust my (21f) boyfriend (18m) again?

My boyfriend(18) and I(21) have been together for a year and a half and we’ve had an overall good relationship except for these things that have destroyed my trust. First, about a year ago I found out that he was talking to his ex gf about how he wished he could be with her instead of me. And more similar things to that. Second, I saw on pictures that he had his arms around another girl on a Mexico trip he went on with his family. Third, a few weeks ago he was trying to flirt and contact his ex again even though we talked extensively about it the first time it happened. Each time something happened we talked about how it made me feel and he swore it would never happen again and that it never mean anything to him when he was doing it. We come from a very conservative community so I don’t know if these type of situations happen more often, but I felt broken each time and I’m not sure how to trust him again. TL;DR my boyfriend repeatedly broke my trust and I’m looking for advice on...

My (24/M) boyfriend(25/M) is becoming friends with a girl (24/F) I don't like

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months. In that time, he has begun hanging out with a girl from my friend group that I find annoying. I've known this girl for three years. She has intensely bad FOMO and as a result I think she lies and has created a personality that gets her attention. Our other friends agree that she embellishes, but don't necessarily think it is as extreme as I do. When they first started hanging out, I told him that I'd prefer that they didn't, but I also told him I can't stop him from being friends with her. it's gotten to the point now where if the three of us are together, I feel like I'm third-wheeling. Basically, I just find their friendship really irritating. To me she is so obviously fake, it makes me question his judgement. I also can't stand the idea of her knowing anything intimate about our relationship (my boyfriend is generally very open with his friends). I don't feel like I can tell him to stop bei...

Can my boyfriends crazy mom kick me out of her house or call the police on me for doing nothing (just doesn’t want me there)

My boyfriend (17) of 6 months has had issues with his foreign mother and his hobby of smoking weed or drinking occasionally as teens do. She used to let me (female 17) sleep over whenever. But that went down to once a week. And now she screams and has temper tantrums whenever i come over in the day. She has been very verbally mean calling my things such as (PROSTITUTE and BITCH) she gets mad because of the very subtle weed smell in the house sometime .. as we try to hide the smell. This problem has been one since before me and him were together. She initially now says she does not want me over because we “fight”...as all humans who are together everyday will sometime and eventually experience to grow and strengthen their relationship. (WE HAVE NOT BEEN FIGHTING LATELY) She now absolutely forbids me over and today got into a big fight slapping my bf and she pushed him away and she called the police on him. I want to keep going to his house as he wants me to but his mom is constantl...

I [28F] sometimes have big fights with family over important things. They often end unresolved. But they still act like everything is okay between us. But I feel friction. Is there a term for this so I can call it out?

I can be a very passionate person. I have strong beliefs about a lot of things. My family, it turns out, have wildly different views from me. So, sometimes we get into fights about things that are important to me. I won't go into too much detail, because really it's beyond the scope of my question and I don't want debate over them. Generally, however, they fall into one of the following 3 groups: They don't approve of my actions or choices. Despite the fact that I work full-time and have been living independently for years. They treat me in a way that upsets and hurts me. When I ask them not to, they respond with with excuses and blame. Often tied to a non-apology. In the past, they did something to me or acted or behaved in a certain way that I was really uncomfortable with. It made a lasting effect on me and took a long time for me to process and come to terms with. Sometimes these come up in conversation, so I raise the issue, and they always counter with incon...

How to truly get over my ex

My ex broke up with me for some other girl, lied to me about why we’re breaking up, made things official with the other girl a week after we broke up and is moving on just fine. This happened about a month and a half ago and for the last 3 weeks, I’ve been doing so much better. I go to the gym almost every day, hang out with friends more, been looking for jobs, etc. I’m not in contact with my ex and I muted him on social media so that I don’t see what he posts. However, these past couple of days, I’ve been missing him alot. Not sure if I’m just lonely or what but I’ve just been sad and been stalking him on social media and I feel so dumb for even missing him because he’s a dickhead. I feel like I backtracked my progress. I just need some advice on how to get over him completely or some other things to do because I hate feeling like this. I feel like I’ve been doing everything and it’s not working. It’s not fair that I feel it all while he’s living his life. I just want to be me again...

How do I(18M) revive my relationship with my crush(18F)?

I reconnected with a girl I hadn't talked to since middle school about a month ago and we've been texting/snapchatting since then. We've also hung out in group settings a few times and have gotten along well. I know that she has feelings for me because mutual friends of ours had told me so and she has asked to hang out a few times although she was somewhat flakey about making plans. But as of the last couple days I've started to get the feeling that we're drifting apart. We text less often and she doesn't seem as enthusiastic. I may be overreacting but I wanted to know how I should revive our relationship before it's too late? ​ TL;DR: My crush and I are starting to drift apart after talking for about a month. How do I revive out relationship? Submitted June 24, 2019 at 12:04AM I reconnected with a girl I hadn't talked to since middle school about a month ago and we've been texting/snapchatting since then. We've also hung out in group se...

Why do i want this relationship? Do i? help

my boyfriends mom is mean to me and does not accept me in the first place me and my boyfriend(17) of 6 months fight a lot. Less so now, but sometimes he makes me really want to hit him(and i have before) he gaslights me and whenever i bring up an issue he turns it on me and gets mad at me for something i “reminded him of”. Before we were together we were talking and one night i wanted to go to a party with my friends...so i did. I ended up making out with this guy and a week later he found out and confronted me. A WEEK AFTER THAT i found out that the exact same night he had sex with this girl. He did not tell me while he was confronting me for making out with the guy at party. THAT WAS SOLVED....then 3 days after we are finally officially dating i find out he made out with a girl in his car 3 days into our relationship. I forgave him again. Then 3 weeks ago we got into a pretty bad fight which left us almost broken up. WE solved things but i still had a suspicion that something wa...

M49 seeking advice on fixing relationship with wife (W40)

I screwed up yesterday and have a very angry and upset wife. And instead of making things better, I am making them worse. I need to help with how to fix things Here's the background. Yesterday me and my wife went out to eat. After we left the house, she told me something, and instead of following up, I said "ok". She got a little upset. So I said I was busy trying to drive, which she interpreted to mean that I didn't want to talk to her. So she got more upset. And I became quiet, which made things worse. We got to the fast food restaurant, where things spiralled worse. We had a big argument in the car and came home where we talked things through and the fight was over. We ate late and I had to work so I turned in around 1130. 5 mins later my wife comes into the bedroom to make up some more and I am masturbating. First I deny it, which was a big problem. I should not have lied. It has been a busy week and we have not made love in 6 or 7 days. So my wife is very upset...

I [m 30] broke up with my gf [f 31] because of herpes [HSV2]

Our first date was on Valentines Day eve and it ended with a first kiss a few mins after midnight. We have been doing alot of things together ever since. We have seen concerts, movies, watched shows, gone on hikes, white water rafting and even an amazing road camping trip through the Rockies over memorial day weekend. On our third date she told me about her condition and I took my time reconciling the issue. I have since talked to a sex therapist and a dermatologist about it and the risk. It shoulds that the experts are quite certain that as long as she takes antivirals and I always wear protection, that I will not contract the virus. I took my time and we were doing having fun doing stuff besides sex. But it got to the point that this weekend we just concluded that it was over. I feel like I am making a mistake. Her and I connect in such a natural way and it took along time to find someone like her in the first place. I truelly still have feelings for her and could see it going th...

What the hell is going on with me [23 M] and my ex [21 M] on Birthright? [LONG]

Context: Me and my ex were together for a year. He's in my fraternity (this was a mistake, looking back). I told him we needed a break in mid March, because we both needed to work on some stuff (My insecurity can keep me from doing stuff, for instance). A few weeks later, before spring break, he asks me to sleep over, and I do, and then a day or two later he kisses me before leaving for the airport. This has me thinking "alright, things are good, we're just working on stuff but we're okay." He goes to a rave, and then home, for spring break. Some more context: his mom has stage three breast cancer, he hasn't seen her since before the diagnosis and before the treatment began, so I'm sure that's a big part of what's coming up, but... He comes back from spring break a complete 180. We're done. But we're not? Won't really tell me why. I try talking to him about this probably too many times, but eventually he says that he just needs some ...

I (33F) told my boyfriend (29M) a lie about my ex boyfriend in the heat of the moment when he asked me. Is it worth it to tell him the truth over something so small, even though its been three weeks since then? Should I just let it go?

This has been kind of eating me up inside lately for some reason. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 15 months now. He asked me about my ex boyfriends and we discussed it. I told him about a guy I dated for 2 years after college, and he asked what he did, and in the heat of the moment I just said he was an electrician. The reality was that the guy was a model. I just felt suddenly so weird in that moment to say he was a model because I know my boyfriend can be incredibly insecure about his looks and his weight and I don't know why but I just figured he would never find out. It feels so silly in retrospect, that was 10 years ago, why would he care if I dated a model 10 years ago? It felt so out of character for me to lie about that in that situation, but I didn't want him thinking that he was a 'downgrade' from my hot model ex boyfriend or something. ​ Its been three whole weeks since then and I just feel bad about it still. I hate lying and this was reall...

Cheek kiss

Ladies, have you ever given a cheek kiss on the 3rd date or after as a way to signal that you’re into more, and where your head is at? Curious about guys who don’t make a move and how a cheek kiss could be interpreted. I don’t like the idea of forcing a kiss if the other person doesn’t seem ready so a cheek kiss seems like a good entry point, along with asking consent. Submitted June 24, 2019 at 12:07AM Ladies, have you ever given a cheek kiss on the 3rd date or after as a way to signal that you’re into more, and where your head is at? Curious about guys who don’t make a move and how a cheek kiss could be interpreted. I don’t like the idea of forcing a kiss if the other person doesn’t seem ready so a cheek kiss seems like a good entry point, along with asking consent.

What are some good date ideas or things to do in general?

I'll be honest, I haven't been on a date in a long while, but I always wonder what do people do on their dates? Or what do they do in general? I feel like all there is to do at this point is just to go out to eat or drink (or "the cliche" - bowling, mini golf, movies, etc.). I'm 33, in Northern NJ, and am looking for new things/hobbies to explore (I'm really into photography, concerts, and biking - but I feel like I've done a lot of those things already). Submitted June 24, 2019 at 12:16AM I'll be honest, I haven't been on a date in a long while, but I always wonder what do people do on their dates? Or what do they do in general? I feel like all there is to do at this point is just to go out to eat or drink (or "the cliche" - bowling, mini golf, movies, etc.).I'm 33, in Northern NJ, and am looking for new things/hobbies to explore (I'm really into photography, concerts, and biking - but I feel like I've done a lot of t...

I haven’t felt this way in a while, and it feels so good.

I was a three year relationship with a girl in undergrad. We parted ways last summer (summer 2018) and it’s been a year since I’ve dated or even attempted to connect romantically. I got myself in shape, got myself focused on my future and career and have gladly moved on from that whole mess of a relationship. There’s a girl that works at the gym I go to and for a while I was a bit nervous to talk to her and shoot my shot. After a while of enough is enough, I started talking to her and dare I say, I really enjoy talking to her. I asked her personal questions about her interests and she even shared a secret or two with me. She said that she noticed the times of day that I go into the gym that caught me by surprise. After our first conversation she asked for my name with a smile. It all feels exciting but don’t know how to step things up from here Life’s feeling pretty good these days. Submitted June 23, 2019 at 11:47PM I was a three year relationship with a girl in undergrad. W...

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What is the flag on your middle finger? June 24, 2019 at 12:01AM