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/u/VampireChild on My ring came!

I got mine off Amazon. Was looking at Etsy but the ones I liked didn't come in my size. September 30, 2020 at 11:59PM

/u/Yunagen on Am i asexual or do i just have intimacy issues? Im so confused.

Hi friend! While I cant tell you what you are, as that is for you to decide I can say that ive gone through similar feelings, maybe not from the same scenario but if you are interested here goes: I for the longest time wasnt even aware that asexuality existed and thought I also had intimacy issues. I then realized I was demisexual, I cannot stand the though of sleeping with someone unless I have known them for a while and am emotionally connected with them on a deep level. Do some internet research on the different versions of asexual if you havent already. Asexual is just one adjective and you may find comfort in a different word and definition. Hope this helps, best of luck to you and your struggle youve always got friends here even if you dont decide you are ace. September 30, 2020 at 11:57PM

/u/Poniie_ on Does your family accept the fact that you are on the ace spectrum?

Yes yes yes, exactly :] and ig the fact that we are all so different is beautiful ^ ♡ September 30, 2020 at 11:55PM

/u/Norpiy on romantically/socially stunted Crybaby

I’m curious but would probably say no just because I’ve never done it before. when I’ve looked at porn it’s always been from a “oh ok that’s how that works” POV never been able to feel aroused by it and sex scenes in movies feel so unnecessary. But I just feel I should know what it’s all about by now. September 30, 2020 at 11:55PM

/u/HuldraAdventures on Just found out almost everyone in my immediate family is on the ace spectrum.

Sounds like your family is just aces! (God, that was the worst pun i’ve ever made) September 30, 2020 at 11:55PM

/u/kasuchans on We could have acended a long time ago

I like them when they're done well because they add to the storyline and characterizations, and add them into my own writing because I appreciate what they add to the story and characters, but that's my onion. September 30, 2020 at 11:54PM

/u/kasuchans on We could have acended a long time ago

Because sexual tension and antagonistic tension have a lot of overlap in how they're portrayed in media -- heavy fixation on their activities, long and intense stares and eye contact, physically close activities ie fighting, etc. September 30, 2020 at 11:53PM

/u/kasuchans on We could have acended a long time ago

people don’t feel like having sex in or right after stressful situations. ...I can't speak for all allos, but in both my irl experience and from having heard from my friends, yes they do, very frequently. Even if they're not "attracted to each other." It's like the brain is like "YOU'RE STILL ALIVE. GO MAKE BABY." And then afterwards you might be like "eugh why did I do that I am not into them at all." September 30, 2020 at 11:52PM

/u/Poniie_ on Does your family accept the fact that you are on the ace spectrum?

:/ but if you are working on it then that's what matters :D <3 September 30, 2020 at 11:52PM

/u/HuldraAdventures on Ace-cat meme. i've been told by some of my friends that my tshirt radiates my own ace vibes ✨

Brilliant September 30, 2020 at 11:52PM

/u/kasuchans on We could have acended a long time ago

Sex is often part of horror movies for a few reasons. One, it's still "taboo" and especially is used to, as the stereotype goes, justify someone to then be killed by the bad guy. Two, it's a limbic system, lizard brain sort of action. Just like fear. It helps reinforce a subconscious element of being reduced to one's basal instincts. Three, it's a vulnerable activity, and helps reinforce that aspect of vulnerability. Four, people like to see boobies. September 30, 2020 at 11:51PM

/u/HuldraAdventures on Ace representation in my psychology textbook!

Yay! September 30, 2020 at 11:50PM

/u/aceSOAA on While doing some cleaning, I found this cool rock that looks like the ace flag💜

I'm not too sure, it didn't have a label and I got it like 7 years back September 30, 2020 at 11:50PM

/u/MagesticalBagel on Got some fancy new shoelaces.

ooo September 30, 2020 at 11:44PM

/u/Ramen_N00dlezz on It's great

Creeper aw man September 30, 2020 at 11:36PM

/u/LuminaryXeno on Any of you have one of "those" exes?

Thanks, and likewise. You didn’t deserve to be treated that way. September 30, 2020 at 11:33PM

/u/cointoyourwitcher55 on Any of you have one of "those" exes?

I know right! Honestly Ill never understand people like that. Like, if you know doing sexual things makes your partner uncomfortable then why try and shame them for it? why not just tell them straight up that you dont think its going to work? Using someones sexuality against them is really fucked up. Sorry you had to go through that September 30, 2020 at 11:32PM

/u/mynamealwayschanges on I'm just curious what people here think about relationships and/or children. What do you want?

Maybe a partner? To me, relationships are more like friendship, but More - I'm not sure if I know how to explain properly? - so I don't know if I'd meet someone with whom I'd manage to match up with, and I've grown to accept that I'm probably going to stay alone and just have a group of friends and my close family. Kids, though, are a definite no. September 30, 2020 at 11:28PM

/u/benbarks on Ace representation in my psychology textbook!

Aw go them! That’s such a nice and neutral way of putting things, credit to the textbook author! September 30, 2020 at 11:27PM

Facebook coming through with the goods

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Gonna leaves this here

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Mild Incel Things.

https://ift.tt/2GhbK09 Submitted September 30, 2020 at 11:31PM https://ift.tt/2GhbK09

DTR help/advice

I’ve been seeing this guy for two months and I think things are going well. We see each other 1-2 times a week in person. We don’t really text much in between but that’s been the norm the whole time. While I don’t need the bf/gf label, I would like to know how he is feeling about “us” and if he sees this developing into a relationship. I’m looking for advice on two things: Is it too early? Should I wait until the 3 month mark (ugh... October seems so long to wait)? Help me with wording?! How do I bring it up without scaring him away? Submitted September 30, 2020 at 11:43PM I’ve been seeing this guy for two months and I think things are going well. We see each other 1-2 times a week in person. We don’t really text much in between but that’s been the norm the whole time. While I don’t need the bf/gf label, I would like to know how he is feeling about “us” and if he sees this developing into a relationship. I’m looking for advice on two things:Is it too early? Should I wait

/u/MeisterFluffbutt on I just feel confident today and wanted to say hi! Thanks for your help, i found myself. I hope you all have a great and sweet day, because YOU ARE ALL GREAT

Well thats a first for me and i'll gladly take that compliment 🐞 September 30, 2020 at 12:01AM

/u/InfiniteEmotions on It is time for g a r l i c b r e a d.

Drooling. I'm just drooling. It looks so good. :) September 30, 2020 at 12:00AM

/u/Templar388z on I just feel confident today and wanted to say hi! Thanks for your help, i found myself. I hope you all have a great and sweet day, because YOU ARE ALL GREAT

You look like Jennifer Lawrence, beautiful! Have a great day! September 29, 2020 at 11:59PM

/u/Kovitlac on Ace twitch streamers?

Damn. I need to get to streaming more often - apparently there's a market for me 😆 Though I'm not 'out' anywhere but here, so probably kinda pointless. September 29, 2020 at 11:59PM

/u/ABigMoo on It is time for g a r l i c b r e a d.

:c Thoughts and prayers. September 29, 2020 at 11:56PM

/u/funnybone__ on This needs to be said

Garlic mozzarella sticks sounds like a good idea September 29, 2020 at 11:55PM

/u/HailenAnarchy on This is all in theory as I have no confidence to come out to my family yet.

OuR SuPerioR GeNEs September 29, 2020 at 11:54PM

/u/HailenAnarchy on This is all in theory as I have no confidence to come out to my family yet.

The concept of continuing bloodlines is fucking ridiculous to me September 29, 2020 at 11:53PM

/u/nsilverman9 on This needs to be said

How about both September 29, 2020 at 11:52PM

/u/dee615 on How I discovered my asexuality

Maybe TMI. I realized something was different about me when I wasn't interested in having sex with the several attractive men I had dated. Very luckily, I was never in a coercive situation, even fully naked in bed. I enjoyed looking at them, and touching them, the way one would admire a marble sculpture. ( And yes, one of them was an 6'5" triathlete and a corporate VP in his 20's; a Yale MBA.) I'm not bragging here. Just making a point that i had no interest in having sex even with men who would be considered pretty desirable. September 29, 2020 at 11:50PM

/u/Gvccifer on This is all in theory as I have no confidence to come out to my family yet.

I don’t get it either. Passing down culture and things like that makes some sense but you can do that with an adopted child September 29, 2020 at 11:47PM

/u/Poniie_ on My ring came!

Yaaaay ace ring! ♤ September 29, 2020 at 11:45PM

/u/Gvccifer on This is all in theory as I have no confidence to come out to my family yet.

Literally me. My dad’s already pissed off that our bloodline is pretty much done (I don’t have any brothers). I haven’t told my parents I’m ace and that I don’t want kids yet... but I do have a furbaby and my parents love her so 🥴 September 29, 2020 at 11:44PM

/u/madamesaltine on Got my ace ring a while back, thought I'd share it.

Very beautiful! 😍 September 29, 2020 at 11:43PM

/u/AsakalaSoul on This is all in theory as I have no confidence to come out to my family yet.

oh no, the blood line! September 29, 2020 at 11:39PM

/u/Universal_82 on Got my ace ring a while back, thought I'd share it.

Black ring on middle right. September 29, 2020 at 11:37PM

/u/danmath50aust on This needs to be said

I can take or leave garlic bread. Like sex. September 29, 2020 at 11:37PM

/u/death_by_insomnia on This needs to be said

Agreed. Garlic Bread is super overhyped. Aw man bowling alley mozz sticks? Best thing in the world September 29, 2020 at 11:34PM

/u/LMichaelM on Got my ace ring a while back, thought I'd share it.

Please explain what makes this an ace ring? I'm not doubting you, only ignorant and looking to learn. I wear a ring identical in appearance (made of tungsten carbide) on one thumb, always. This ring I've had etched with a quotation celebrating my dad, my lifeling hero, who passed away when I was a child aged 8yrs. September 29, 2020 at 11:32PM

/u/Universal_82 on This was definitely me in high school when I learned my friends seriously had fantasies about random girls.

I don't like cofee. September 29, 2020 at 11:29PM

/u/Universal_82 on Big ace mood.

No not really. September 29, 2020 at 11:27PM

/u/Universal_82 on This was definitely me in high school when I learned my friends seriously had fantasies about random girls.

You have your own opinions and I have mine and let's say our opinions are very different. September 29, 2020 at 11:27PM

it's hopeless

I am 30 year old male and no matter what I have tried it all amounted to nothing, i have spent a little over 2 years on multiple dating apps/websites prior the pandemic, my only matches have been with scammers/spammers. i was told that i need a brand new face rebuild but nothing like that exists. anyways, i have to realize that there is a point in your life you will need to recognize you will live your entire life alone, but there aren't resources to help you with that. Submitted September 29, 2020 at 11:40PM I am 30 year old male and no matter what I have tried it all amounted to nothing, i have spent a little over 2 years on multiple dating apps/websites prior the pandemic, my only matches have been with scammers/spammers. i was told that i need a brand new face rebuild but nothing like that exists. anyways, i have to realize that there is a point in your life you will need to recognize you will live your entire life alone, but there aren't resources to help you with t

Getting mix signals from this guy

I 29f have been talking to this guy for maybe 2 months. He told me multiple times he likes me. And we talk on the phone every week for sometime up to 2 hours. He introduced to his friends and recently he went on a family vacation. Today I was joking and I responded to an Istagram story he posted of his family dog. I was like aw are you gonna bring back with you? Then I said well I am excited to see you soon and he literally wrote back haha! And that was it. I thought that it was rude and it seems uninterested to me. Am I overreacting? Submitted September 29, 2020 at 12:13AM I 29f have been talking to this guy for maybe 2 months. He told me multiple times he likes me. And we talk on the phone every week for sometime up to 2 hours. He introduced to his friends and recently he went on a family vacation. Today I was joking and I responded to an Istagram story he posted of his family dog. I was like aw are you gonna bring back with you? Then I said well I am excited to see you soon a

one thing about men i will never understand.

the whole "ghosting" thing. like, you'll be texting and everything will be going great..no long pauses between texts, you seem to have alot in common and then out of nowhere he disappears. whats that even about? Submitted September 29, 2020 at 12:14AM the whole "ghosting" thing. like, you'll be texting and everything will be going great..no long pauses between texts, you seem to have alot in common and then out of nowhere he disappears. whats that even about?

Online dating

I am a guy, and I live in the Bay Area, and I get a decent amount of matches from Hinge. However, the issue that I have noticed is that since girls have so many options, they always jump from once guy to the other, without getting to know most of them. It feels very cut throat and toxic, especially for Asian and brown guys. Not kidding, my brown friends and I match with the same girls every week. It is very disappointing and despairing tbh Thoughts? Submitted September 29, 2020 at 12:17AM I am a guy, and I live in the Bay Area, and I get a decent amount of matches from Hinge.However, the issue that I have noticed is that since girls have so many options, they always jump from once guy to the other, without getting to know most of them. It feels very cut throat and toxic, especially for Asian and brown guys.Not kidding, my brown friends and I match with the same girls every week. It is very disappointing and despairing tbhThoughts?

/u/HuldraAdventures on The egoism that comes with sex

I agree. It’s weird how so many Christians seem to miss the point behind this. That, and they completely ignore the part where Jesus and (later) the apostle Paul told people that it is perfectly okay (and ever better for some) to stay single. September 29, 2020 at 12:06AM

/u/Taizic on Batman a confirmed ace?!?!

Nahhhh, in the Animated Series, he was very much attracted to Catwoman. Most other times though, when he's "acting" as Bruce Wayne, he does the whole Playboy thing. I don't think it's legit though. His feelings for Selina though showed through even when he was Batman. Edit: Just a thought, but maybe demi-sexual? lol September 29, 2020 at 12:03AM

/u/Jida-polysavoir99 on The egoism that comes with sex

Very true; I knew that this ego driven perspective on sex affected women as well...I didn't know to what extent however (in that even other women encouraging women focus on the man's pleasure during sex). And yeah on a personal note, I wouldn't want someone's hands around my neck either especially if they were clueless about what their were doing (just because they "wanted it"). Totally agree, I wish people in general would focus more on the well-being of the other person during sex (and vice versa) as opposed to viewing it as a sort of commodity (Asexual or not). I don't know how much will change..but at least we can be honest here and work with that..so thanks for your input as an older ace (I'm younger and still questioning). September 28, 2020 at 11:59PM

/u/un-creative123 on Compliments on appearances

For the most part for me, it depends on who it's coming from and in what context (i.e. a stranger vs. a friend would give a different reaction). But I've never really understood what someone means when friends tell me I look "sexy". I get when they say "beautiful" or "pretty" but I don't have any experience of what to connect words like "sexy" or "hot" with. So sometimes it makes me uncomfortable just because I don't really associate anything to it or maybe its some mild sex aversion idk if that makes sense. September 28, 2020 at 11:53PM

/u/tailoredbubbles on How to date if you're Asexual and not go crazy?

I feel the same way, I'm almost about ready to just try to date someone else who's asexual but that's just going to narrow down my already slim options for dating. I live in a rural area too so I've kinda just accepted I'll either be alone forever or find someone online. I don't have much advice but I wish you luck in finding a good and healthy relationship. September 28, 2020 at 11:52PM

/u/ace_ventura__ on I found this screenshot I took of Puyo Puyo Tetris back in 2017 and I immediately thought of this sub. [Mild Monday]

Why is every single piece a T piece? That's kind of scaring me if I'm honest. I mean, just imagine how many points you could easily rack up if every piece was a t piece September 28, 2020 at 11:49PM

/u/prince_peacock on Batman a confirmed ace?!?!

Cringe acting like the Nolan Batman trilogy is the only version of the character. Not saying he’s ace (I’d say demi honestly) in them, but acting like an authority and then citing movies is definitely cringe September 28, 2020 at 11:46PM

/u/Moxlovesyou on In case anyone needs a reminder

I flipping love this!! September 28, 2020 at 11:45PM

/u/Painted_Wolf-1221 on How to date if you're Asexual and not go crazy?

Idk I found out that my girlfriend is ace too, but it seems like a good idea to date on the ace spectrum September 28, 2020 at 11:44PM

/u/ace_ventura__ on Kinda belongs here too

What is sex You wouldn't get it Don't get it Still don't. (Of course, this comment is meant to be read to the tune of "what is love") September 28, 2020 at 11:43PM

/u/JadeBadel on How do I deal with asexuality and high libido?

Porn? If you can find some you’re into, that is. Otherwise, maybe just invest in some quality toys. September 28, 2020 at 11:36PM

/u/aidenmce on Batman a confirmed ace?!?!

None of y’all have read the comics, he used to be attracted to every single female villain September 28, 2020 at 11:35PM

/u/WaggyTails on I'm in a relationship with a girl who is starting to think she is asexual. I, a person who is definitely not asexual, would like to be supportive.

That's beautiful and I'm so happy for you:) Communication is super important already and I think the main thing is for me to kind of get used to it. It's a little weird for me, but I really don't want her to feel guilty or like she owes me anything or something like that, which she has stated in the past. I think the key is communication, without being reactive, and assuming the best. September 28, 2020 at 11:35PM

/u/jamieluke97 on Batman a confirmed ace?!?!

Have any of you watched the dark knight trilogy? Your batman knowledge is poor and pure cringe lmao. He loved a woman she was killed by the joker. He promised never to love again but Alfred slapped him out of it and then he got married to cat woman and they both left their old lives in Gotham and lived happily ever after. The end. September 28, 2020 at 11:23PM

/u/aod42091 on Bring a vampire would be cool though.

I've heard it has its good points but also that it really bites so I have mixed feelings. September 28, 2020 at 11:12PM

/u/VpV64 on Am I actually aspec or did I just misunderstand what it means to be?

Yeah I've looked into it before, and double-checking what it means to be aego just doesn't seem like me. The main point on the wiki says: Aegosexuals may (or may not) do any of the following. - Get aroused by sexual content but not actually want to engage in any sexual activities." The thing is, is that I do want to do it someday. There are other things such as aegos typically being neutral or repulsed, whereas I consider myself do sort of fluctuate between neutral and favorable, when/if I do fantasize it isn't in third person, etc. I read through some other grey-types and maybe cupio fits, but for some people I do feel a sexual attraction after an emotional bond is formed. Is it possible to be cupio and demi? September 28, 2020 at 11:11PM

/u/arianeb on :3

Happily single all my life, and I see it all the time. It's a social construct and it is called Amatonormativity - society's obsession with coupling and marriage. Couples and married couples have many social and economic advantages because of it, which makes life tough for us perennial singles. On the other hand we don't have to worry about every decision we make affecting our relationship. September 28, 2020 at 11:09PM

Why is it so hard for husband's at the grocery store?

Sent husband to the store for a forgotten item. You'd think I sent him to a foreign country, he always has to call me to discuss about items available. I basically stay on the phone with him the entire time he's at the store. Cracks me up 😂😂 Submitted September 28, 2020 at 11:50PM Sent husband to the store for a forgotten item. You'd think I sent him to a foreign country, he always has to call me to discuss about items available. I basically stay on the phone with him the entire time he's at the store. Cracks me up 😂😂

Divorce because lack of trust??

My husband (32) and myself (27) have been married for just over a year. Together for two. I need to start off by saying that I do in fact love him, a lot, and I know he cares about me. No relationship /marriage is perfect, but this issue digs at me. It's literally consuming me. I don't trust him. We're still young, and we don't have kids. My worry is that he will most definitely cheat on me at some point in our marriage. Prior to us dating, he's never been faithful to any girl he's dated. He's the type that would sleep around, a lot. He told me this because he wanted to come clean and swore he changed. He wanted to be better. He's also a narcissist. He refuses to admit it, but his ego is enormous. He rarely apologizes, he thinks highly of himself (I think to make up for his lack of self esteem as a child) and is the most charming man you'll ever meet. I don't think he's cheated on me. I do, however, think he's actively chatting with

How do I stay calm when dating?

Hi there, Does anyone have any advice for me? I am 31f, and I’m looking for someone to love for life and have a family with. I dated and lived with someone for several years in my 20s and i just assumed it would materialize into marriage at some point, because he always said it would when I asked. I eventually realized that it wasn’t going to happen because he didn’t actually want that. So now I’m afraid of making the same mistake. I’ve experienced first hand that people can say they want one thing and give off all the good vibes while stringing me along. And I’m really scared of anyone I date now pulling the same crap. My biological clock is ticking hard. I already have a known issue that my doctor warns me will likely make achieving pregnancy take longer (but not impossible). What’s more, I’d really like at least 2-3 kids. I’ve had a relationship since the ex that have lasted 12 months, but I cut bait because the person wasn’t seriously discussing or thinking about marriage with

I just need to vent

I usually don’t get super annoyed at most things, but I am extremely annoyed. I matched with a guy and got along well enough. We made it obvious we weren’t looking for anything serious. I don’t have social media because I have an official job and really just don’t need the possible drama that could come with it, so I told him I would FaceTime or send pictures of me to prove it’s me and not some catfish. He would NOT accept anything that wasn’t either a nude or equivalent and said that I needed to explain myself multiple times on why I didn’t want to send him those kinds of pictures. I’m not risking my salary for some internet idiot, and I am just so frustrated at how bad he tried to make me feel for saying no. If he’s this pushy over pictures I cannot imagine how pushy he would be in real life. Thanks for listening. I’m still annoyed and live alone and needed to vent to more than my pets. Submitted September 28, 2020 at 12:05AM I usually don’t get super annoyed at most things,

Why am I getting flaked on?

I’m trying not to let it get to me but getting flaked on sucks. It has happens so often to me. I’m an attractive girl, I’m cool& not overbearing. Dudes will ask if I want to go out then not go through with the plan. Or say okay let’s go eat diner at so and so on Saturday then Saturday rolls by and they still never made a meeting time or anything. Wtfff. Why ask me out then? I feel like it’s just me so I’m thinking where am I going wrong. But I’m not doing shit wrong🤷🏽‍♀️. Can someone tell me I’m not alone in this? If you’re like this, WHY? I must know. Submitted September 28, 2020 at 12:12AM I’m trying not to let it get to me but getting flaked on sucks. It has happens so often to me. I’m an attractive girl, I’m cool& not overbearing. Dudes will ask if I want to go out then not go through with the plan. Or say okay let’s go eat diner at so and so on Saturday then Saturday rolls by and they still never made a meeting time or anything.Wtfff. Why ask me out then? I feel

/u/takomoFA on My families denial of me being Ace.

Oh nooo September 28, 2020 at 12:06AM

/u/dee615 on Me before discovering asexuality was a thing

I'm guessing you are in exalted company - Newton, Tesla, and others of that caliber. September 28, 2020 at 12:03AM

/u/Dr_Chair on Me before discovering asexuality was a thing

Combine this with a high-ish libido and you get confused aego screaming. September 28, 2020 at 12:03AM

/u/dee615 on Me before discovering asexuality was a thing

I'm 57 now, and just very recently ( as in a few days ago) realized that allosexuals desire sex without a specific target in mind. Mind blown! I knew that even allos in commited relationships felt desire for people other than their partner, but I took it as a given that the desire was directed towards specific people. September 28, 2020 at 12:00AM

/u/igotloggedoutbyredit on Overwatch aphobic person gets on my nerves.

Look I'm a veteran of overwatch switch this has gone on for a while and its against blizzard TOS online dating on a game isint cool. It can catfish or be a prank people stopping it is a good thing so yeah I get were both in the wrong for me joining and the LGBT person making aphobic comments. It should just be a simple question on why I asked. Why are you making a group like this this isn't grindr or tinder so dont make groups like this. That's all I asked that wouldn't be offensive if really not calling them anything or talking about them I just asked why did you make a group on a game not about dating. That wouldn't be a good thing to do since there are hundreds of kids on the console. September 27, 2020 at 11:58PM

/u/Traflorkian_ on I have a high and low libido simultaneously..

It wasn't always like this, though. Maybe within the past 2 years.. September 27, 2020 at 11:42PM

/u/ArguablyADork on Me before discovering asexuality was a thing

May I just say, from an "old" heckin dork to apparently another, I very much appreciate all the memories that were attached to, but also somehow not involving, that image. September 27, 2020 at 11:39PM

/u/StevieGalli on I'm listening to the 1984 audio book

seems like all fundamentalists are just like that, no matter their creed or policies September 27, 2020 at 11:39PM

/u/ArguablyADork on Me before discovering asexuality was a thing

Hup, look! Missingno! September 27, 2020 at 11:36PM

/u/EmilaiG on Ignore the aphobes who don't know you cuz y'all are valid like the rest of LGBTQ+

I wrote this in a reply below but just to let more people know! There's a sub called r/aretheexclusionistsok where people can re direct the hate posts they've seen and take it away from the main ace sub. It's a small sub but helps take away hate/triggering posts from ace safe places September 27, 2020 at 11:30PM

/u/EmilaiG on Ignore the aphobes who don't know you cuz y'all are valid like the rest of LGBTQ+

There's a sub called r/aretheexclusionistsok where people can re direct the hate posts they've seen and take it away from the main ace sub. It's a small sub but helps take away hate/triggering posts from ace safe places September 27, 2020 at 11:29PM

/u/I-need-to-sneeze on Hey aces ♠️, I’m doing a series of Among Us Pride characters, here’s yours 🏳️‍🌈

https://www.reddit.com/user/I-need-to-sneeze/comments/iz7wpj/pride_flag_among_us_characters_taking_any_and_all/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf September 27, 2020 at 11:28PM

/u/dragongirl132 on Asexual or aegosexual?

I saw aegosexual, a subset of asexuality, described on a website: “Some people define it as a kind of sex positive identity, where they understand why people would want sex, they may even enjoy sexual content in films or books but they don’t want to have sex themselves. “ I thought it was interesting and somewhat identified with it! September 27, 2020 at 11:27PM

/u/sasaloti on Asexual or aegosexual?

I am not sure but I’m the exact same as you :-) I think I’m also occasionally turned on by the idea of it rather than the act itself. I’ve always just considered myself asexual so it’s interesting seeing this new word! September 27, 2020 at 11:15PM

/u/totally-not-an_ALT on I have made balls of the ace and demi flags

more specifically r/lgballt September 27, 2020 at 11:14PM

/u/EmilaiG on I don't get exclusionists who say "aces/aros are stealing resources from ACTUAL LGBT people"

They are stealing our sexual attraction and that's why we have a lack of sexual attraction :0 September 27, 2020 at 11:12PM

/u/a-really-big-muffin on Can I take a moment and vent, please?

Okay so you can't kidnap the daughter but you could definitely arrange an accident for mom... I kid, but that sounds like a terrible and infuriating situation, especially if the rest of her family won't even defend her from her mom. I wish you guys all the best (and you personally while you're dealing with your fam). September 27, 2020 at 11:11PM

A nice guy complaining how a woman who suffered a severe brain injury is the reason why he's single

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A nice guy after plans were canceled due to construction on my house and I told him I didn’t want to meet face to face

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Lack of Chemistry - What to do?

Background: I (30F) and my husband (31M) have been together for 10 years, married for 3. I had an abusive childhood and my barometer for a healthy relationship was way off. My husband is the kindest, most patient person I've ever met and with his help and with therapy, I've become a much better partner. We generally communicate well and when we spend time together, we have fun. Over the past year, I've been feeling unhappy. My husband and I have a great friend group and we spend time with them as often as possible while socially distancing these days. If we do anything as a group, he is excited and would bend over backward to see them. If I suggest we do something just the two of us, he is resistant. He wants to be sold on why it's worth his time. When I bring up this double standard, he agrees that it's present, but doesn't see a problem with it. It makes me wonder if he enjoys hanging out with me. When I bring up these concerns, he's surprised that I fee

How to deal with trauma baggage in new relationship?

I started seeing this new guy for three months now - he’s great and I can see myself with him in the long term. Except we went drinking with friends last night and he came home very drunk and when he tried to initiate in bed I wasn’t really having it...and while he didn’t force himself on me, he asked “why are you resisting?” And it triggered some bad memories of a prior relationship from a decade ago. And I took my stuff and went to the second bedroom where I felt “safe” even though I knew he would never actually hurt me but the trigger was enough for me to go into flight mode. We haven’t spoken much about our past relationships- and it’s painful and I almost feel ashamed - and yes I’ve seen therapists in the past but it hasn’t helped with these situations where I get transported back emotionally. I tried to tell this new guy (ineloquently I’m sure) and he said “it sounds like you’re alluding to some past abuse or assault” and I shut down because it felt like he just threw a label o

/u/KitKatAndDog on Hey y’all quick question

I feel exactly the same way! September 26, 2020 at 11:50PM

/u/Pharmasochist on I'm like 100% sure I'm demi

Wow I didn't notice you in my head, how long have you been able to read my thoughts? September 26, 2020 at 11:50PM

/u/Headpatter030 on I'm like 100% sure I'm demi

What does not masturbating have to do with anything. September 26, 2020 at 11:50PM

/u/Headpatter030 on Hot take

I'm sorry did you not read his post where he said he was horny, and wanted to have sex? September 26, 2020 at 11:49PM

/u/WheelOfTheWagon on I'm like 100% sure I'm demi

Was it the part where they said they hadnt had a relationship for 5 years or the part where they said they literally wouldnt care if they lost all sexual function that made you think they were allo? 🤔 September 26, 2020 at 11:46PM

/u/ragtimeholly on People say allonormativity does not matter, im currently trying to convince someone its not a reason for suicide

correct. the term ARCsexual is to describe allosexuals who are averse/repulsed. September 26, 2020 at 11:41PM

/u/ed_spaghet12 on I'm like 100% sure I'm demi

Why do you say that? OP did say they hardly ever even masturbate September 26, 2020 at 11:35PM

/u/WheelOfTheWagon on Hot take

how do you know that person isnt ace? i dont like checking profiles but their most recent post implies they are asexual 🤔 September 26, 2020 at 11:33PM

/u/hotshowerman on I don't know if i'm aegosexual

It is kind of confusing to figure everything out. I realized I am grey in that I am only about 99% not interested in having sex but that 1% is still there if the right person came along. September 26, 2020 at 11:31PM

/u/discipula26 on I'm like 100% sure I'm demi

Congrats on figuring yourself out! September 26, 2020 at 11:31PM

/u/amNotNero on Asexuality is the only sexuality under the ace umbrella.

Bruh the fuck? September 26, 2020 at 11:28PM

/u/hotshowerman on Am I gray-asexual?? What am I?

I'm gray, I like the idea of sex and viewing sex but I don't have a motivating desire to have sex the vast majority of the time. It would take someone really special for me to want to have sex. September 26, 2020 at 11:28PM

/u/RABlackAuthor on I don´t know how to explain my asexuality

Time is your friend. Time will give you more experiences that will help you figure out who you are. Time will introduce you to new possibilities. Time will give you the confidence to ignore what other people say. And time will show the people in your life that you really are who you say you are. I didn't "discover girls" until I was 20 and in college. (My college friends found it very amusing, let me tell you.) I thought that meant I was "normal" and started trying to do "what I was supposed to do." I was even married for 5 years, which was a total disaster. This was back in the 80s and 90s, before asexuality was a thing people talked about or identified as, so I had to figure things out on my own. Looking back with what I know now, it's apparent to me that I never experienced this mysterious "sexual attraction" that people are supposed to feel. At age 36, I decided to reject "what I was supposed to do" and just be on my own.

/u/Headpatter030 on I'm like 100% sure I'm demi

I would say you're allo, and you just haven't had the need to feel anything until now. September 26, 2020 at 11:26PM

/u/hotshowerman on This is going to sound like a bad joke but I realized something...

Haha this is great. Yea for me its like a faint signal that I never want to act on so its pretty much not interested 99% of the time. September 26, 2020 at 11:26PM

/u/hotshowerman on I don’t know if I’m asexual.

I find that I am graysexual. I don't really feel sexual attraction that often but it happens time from time. It's never been strong enough that I want to act on it though. September 26, 2020 at 11:25PM

Does this give anyone else "nice guy" vibes?

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✨ u n c o m f o r t ✨

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I'm sure he doesn't get any second dates, but I'm also sure it's not for the reason he thinks...

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Raise your hand if you know this guy. 🙋‍♀️

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Clashing with husband over things related to my daughter

Hello everyone, I got married on Valentine's Day 2020. It's my first marriage. When I was 22 I got pregnant by my college boyfriend. He died in an accident when I was five months pregnant. I was devastated and I'm still not completely over his death. I had my daughter, focused on finishing college and starting my nursing career. For a long time I didn't date. I started dating five years ago and eventually met my husband. He doesn't have kids. He loves my daughter and my daughter loves him. There's been adjusting to different things for all of us. My daughter and I are very close and she has a best friend who she she has known since pre-school. I sort of consider her best friend like a daughter. I've taken them on trips for several years now. My husband and I decided to started planning a possible trip to Disney World next year in the spring depending on how things go with covid. Two years ago, I took my daughter's best friend with us and on a Disney

My wife has put our kids needs before her own for so long that her health is suffering...

I tell her that I care about her health and she says, oh don't worry about me and then proceeds to talk about something the kids need. I want to tell her that she should stop telling me not to care about her, or one day, I just won't anyone. Spoiler alert: I feel like that day has already come. Submitted September 26, 2020 at 11:56PM I tell her that I care about her health and she says, oh don't worry about me and then proceeds to talk about something the kids need. I want to tell her that she should stop telling me not to care about her, or one day, I just won't anyone. Spoiler alert: I feel like that day has already come.

Wife says she doesn't want to be married anymore, suggests separating

First time posting, not sure where else to then to. My wife (F33) and I (M27) have been married for 2 years and together for 6. I apologize for the length of this but I'm trying my best to explain how I feel we got to this point. My wife made it clear early on that she wanted to settle down quick and start a family because she has endometriosis and was approaching her 30s, I was very apprehensive at the time because I was in my early 20s and we had low paying jobs and no college degrees. I loved her more than anything in this world and told her we would be married soon. Well soon came and went and she watched me blow 500$ i recieved from family on everything but an engagement ring. If I loved her as much as I said at the time I should have made it a priority. Eventually I did save up again for a ring and we got engaged and married the year following. We started trying for a baby right after due to her having endo and her clock ticking so to speak. At the time she had quit her job

My best friend who is a SAHM might be an alcoholic!

A good friend of mine (27f) might be an alcoholic, or at least is traveling down that path, but I don’t know how to talk to her about it. I know to expect denial and possibly anger, but I want her to know that I am not criticizing or judging her, only that I am concerned. She is a full time stay at home mom and her husband will be deploying soon. She has started home schooling recently, while simultaneously taking care of an infant. She has many other responsibilities burdening her and I can tell that she is extremely stressed. Whenever she comes over to our house we usually have wine, but lately she has been drinking to the point of intoxication. Last night she was drinking with her husband until 5 in the morning. While it’s very possible that she may not be an alcoholic, the binge drinking is extremely concerning. The last time she was over we had to take the baby from her. I don’t mind caring for her or her baby, but I just don’t know if she realizes how dangerous this is, or that

Am I crazy or is my girlfriend’s behaviour around my friend wierd

TL;DR I get jealous when my girlfriend is around this particular friend of my because of the actions in the past and I don’t know if I am being crazy or not So I have been with this girl for around 3+ years now. Things are okay but I just can’t seem this feeling of jealousy every time she is in front of one of my friends. I never have that when she is around my 2 best friends but this other friend and my gfs behaviour makes things weird for me. This friend is married with a kid btw. It started on my birthday last year, I was ticked off my the fact that on my birthday while she was next to me she kept asking my where is your friend (that friend) and your other friend. Even though she has seen my best-friend more she would name this first friend first and she would go to find them. There was also this time when they were talking for around 15 minutes in my room. I asked her why is this and she said at parties I want to make sure everyone is okay. But why would she leave from my side a

I (f30) fell in love for my FWB (m40) but he went back to his ex. Why he didn’t want to be with me ?

The guy (40) I was having casual sex with once a week for four month but know each other for years . He always used to like me but never asked me out directly , he always used to say I’m out of his league . I never considered dating him as he used to have kind of a womanizer reputation so I initiated a hook up. We were having conversations and had fun times, hanging out for a few hrs after sex. He cooked dinners. The chemistry was crazy. It was pretty obvious that we are just hooking up and I once even asked him if he’s going on dates . He once said he’d love to watch a movie together but didn’t really reciprocate. At the beginning all I wanted was just sex and didn’t plant to date him but I started to get attached to him. For the past month or so he started to become distant and pulling away and ignoring me. I asked him to hang out twice and he made excuses that he had to work but he’d love too. I finally confronted him and texted him whats the deal , told him that I really like

My brother (30M) ignores me (27F) almost completely for the past 5 years since he got married, and I finally got mad at him for it. Now my mom and rest of the family is mad at *me*? Am I not seeing things correctly??

My older brother and I used to be best friends. But once he got married, his wife told him that he was too close to me and he needed to give some of our relationship up to be with her. So, it’s been 5 years of him slowly pulling away from me, to the point now where he hasn’t initiated a conversation with me in over a year, never responds to my attempts to call, rarely if ever responds back to my texts (has responded three times in this year). I also went through a really terrible abusive relationship about three years ago, and my whole family really rallied around me but he never even reached out, and the one time I reached out to him about it he just told me he didn’t want to talk about my situation because it would be hard to hear. The rest of my family is extremely close (as in we talk several times a week to each other.) The reason I’m writing is, my mom. My mom has communication with me all the time but rarely also speaks to my older brother. So I hear allllll of her thoughts

I'm proud of him (trigger warning on SA)

My (F21) fiance (M24) and I have just hit the two year mark and I couldn't be happier. After having previously dated (M24) for 2 years on and off someone who 1) always used suicide to keep me in a relationship 2) held knives to my throat thinking I liked it 3) sexually assaulted me while I was sleeping and I spent 6 months thinking it was my fault. 4)threw me against a wall when I accidentally hurt him with someone minor and held me while biting hard on my face. My fiance, without fail, will 1) calm me down from panic attacks with breathing methods. 2) kiss me on the forehead when he is on his way to work 3) turn over in his sleep and rubs my back in circles 4) holds me when triggers have happened between us. 5) implement a traffic light system in bed for my safety and mental health. There are good guys out there who will love you and care for you and I couldn't be more grateful. I couldn't be more thankful for someone who will go above and beyond and look after me. His

Exclusivity and social media deletion

Hi, this is my first time posting..here's my thought and I could really use some input. Here's a little backstory, I discovered the app " Meetme" not too long ago and I would stream on there, I don't anymore because that app is full of low life's, druggies and is just a waste of life basically so I don't do it anymore but there was a guy who would come to my streams ( he gave me his number) and even though I was skeptical of him I did message him because I was slightly intrigued.. we did meet and while I wasn't super attracted to him there was a comfort level there so we've been spending some time. He basically started love bombing me straight away, he told me he loved me within the first week of us meeting. I honestly thought he was trying to use me for some financial gain (I'm not rich, I'm a single mom lol) then I later discovered he lied about technically still being married but looked past it because I took a liking to his company and

Only Dating: Be Interesting

With online dating, it is a great way to meet other single people in your area. The most possible way for success with online dating is not for those that are the most beautiful or handsome, but rather being the most interesting. You can get the interest of others with your profile and this should be unique, fun and defiantly honest. Your online dating profile should be your first priority for your online dating experience. There are many ways that you can improve your profile so that you have the online dating success story that you are looking for. The first idea that you can improve your chances of attracting the perfect online person is by placing your pictures online. If you do not place your pictures it will look like you have something that you want to hide. This can be even if you are not trying to hide anything. Placing pictures will show a person what you are like and not just in looks but also in personality. It is a good idea to place at least one head shot so that people

How common is it to date just for fun?

Background: I’m 21. Gender neutral, any pronouns. He is 28. He/they pronouns. I come from a very conservative Christian state and it’s common to be married and already have kids by the time you’re 25. Single people in my home state only date with the intention of getting married and having kids. I’ve always hated that mentality and tried to avoid it as much as possible. I moved out of state a few months ago (and I don’t plan on going back anytime in the foreseeable future) and met this really cool guy. We hit it off as friends at first and now we’ve been dating for just over a month now and it’s been going really really well. I communicated with him early on that I have no intentions of getting serious (marriage is the last thing I want right now) and that when my uni opens up again I have plans to move across the country to live on-campus. He was totally chill about it and had no complaints. We don’t have any future plans, only to enjoy what we have right now. I don’t even know if