Am I crazy or is my girlfriend’s behaviour around my friend wierd

TL;DR I get jealous when my girlfriend is around this particular friend of my because of the actions in the past and I don’t know if I am being crazy or not

So I have been with this girl for around 3+ years now. Things are okay but I just can’t seem this feeling of jealousy every time she is in front of one of my friends. I never have that when she is around my 2 best friends but this other friend and my gfs behaviour makes things weird for me. This friend is married with a kid btw.

It started on my birthday last year, I was ticked off my the fact that on my birthday while she was next to me she kept asking my where is your friend (that friend) and your other friend. Even though she has seen my best-friend more she would name this first friend first and she would go to find them. There was also this time when they were talking for around 15 minutes in my room. I asked her why is this and she said at parties I want to make sure everyone is okay. But why would she leave from my side and go find my friend?? And she said he was talking about his wife and kids and how tough things are so I started to listen. If you are all about making sure everything is okay then why won’t you come find me? Your boyfriend? The birthday boy? On my birthday after I saw them talking in my room for so long after she left my side I got so upset that I actually left the house for a walk and came back later ...

Anyways I have been feeling weird about this for about a year now and last night we had another fight about this. We were at a restaurant and she was cold. So I took my hoodie off to give to her. My friend had a coat easier to put around someone and he offered her his jacked after I did. She said no first and then she took it. She put his jacked around her and my hoodie on her lap ... I was so embarrassed ... after the dinner I told her about this and she said I am blowing this out or proportion but AM I?

There are also so many subtle things that I just don’t like when I am in a group with both of them present. Its like I knew before last night that I will have an issue with the night because the two of them were there!

Things go so bad last night I told her about this and she was supposed to come to my place and she said she wants go to home so I told her to pull over and leg me walk home or catch an uber after me insisting she did that and I went home and have not spoken to her since

Am I being crazy? Or is it normal to be pissed off about all this?



Submitted September 25, 2020 at 11:55PM

TL;DR I get jealous when my girlfriend is around this particular friend of my because of the actions in the past and I don’t know if I am being crazy or notSo I have been with this girl for around 3+ years now. Things are okay but I just can’t seem this feeling of jealousy every time she is in front of one of my friends. I never have that when she is around my 2 best friends but this other friend and my gfs behaviour makes things weird for me. This friend is married with a kid btw.It started on my birthday last year, I was ticked off my the fact that on my birthday while she was next to me she kept asking my where is your friend (that friend) and your other friend. Even though she has seen my best-friend more she would name this first friend first and she would go to find them. There was also this time when they were talking for around 15 minutes in my room. I asked her why is this and she said at parties I want to make sure everyone is okay. But why would she leave from my side and go find my friend?? And she said he was talking about his wife and kids and how tough things are so I started to listen. If you are all about making sure everything is okay then why won’t you come find me? Your boyfriend? The birthday boy? On my birthday after I saw them talking in my room for so long after she left my side I got so upset that I actually left the house for a walk and came back later ...Anyways I have been feeling weird about this for about a year now and last night we had another fight about this. We were at a restaurant and she was cold. So I took my hoodie off to give to her. My friend had a coat easier to put around someone and he offered her his jacked after I did. She said no first and then she took it. She put his jacked around her and my hoodie on her lap ... I was so embarrassed ... after the dinner I told her about this and she said I am blowing this out or proportion but AM I?There are also so many subtle things that I just don’t like when I am in a group with both of them present. Its like I knew before last night that I will have an issue with the night because the two of them were there!Things go so bad last night I told her about this and she was supposed to come to my place and she said she wants go to home so I told her to pull over and leg me walk home or catch an uber after me insisting she did that and I went home and have not spoken to her sinceAm I being crazy? Or is it normal to be pissed off about all this?
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