Should I try to create a long distance relationship with this girl I'm already good friends with?

I'm a freshman in college and my situation is quite unique. My university has only let a certain amount of its student body on campus, due to all classes being online, so I am one of the lucky few who got in. I am a freshman, and I really only have one friend right now (making friends is way harder when everything is online), so relationships really aren't a priority for me at all right now. At the same time, there is an opportunity I have in front of me that I kinda don't want to take, but I'd like some advice either way.

So, I'm in this program the university offers and I've been working with it since the start of the summer. I've gotten to know some people in the program with me over various zoom meetings held over the summer. One of these people I met was a cutie who I connected with immediately. By the start of classes, we share the same math class, Russian teacher, and we're in a group project together for our first year seminar course. We're good friends right now, and we talk over snapchat regularly. We even joke about how we can't seem to avoid each other, because we got put together in a class activity for math too.

Unfortunately, she is not on campus, and by not on campus, I mean she is on the west coast and I am on the east coast. I will only be able to meet her in person if she gets onto campus next semester or next year, depending on how COVID is like in the future. The program that we're in is a study abroad program, and we are going to the same destination, so I'll at least meet her there if we ever get to go. I would really like to try getting into a relationship with this girl at some point in my four years here, but right now doesn't seem like a good time to try. I've pretty much already decided that I'm not going to try and make things "romantic" until I finally meet her in person, as I don't think a long distance relationship in my first year of college with the first girl I got to know is a wise idea. Then again, I'd like to here some advice on this situation. Is a long distance relationship worth it? Am I right in avoiding it? Should I be concerned that, by the time I meet her in person, dating would be awkward because we're too comfortable as friends? (that's my only concern with my approach)



Submitted September 26, 2020 at 12:13AM

I'm a freshman in college and my situation is quite unique. My university has only let a certain amount of its student body on campus, due to all classes being online, so I am one of the lucky few who got in. I am a freshman, and I really only have one friend right now (making friends is way harder when everything is online), so relationships really aren't a priority for me at all right now. At the same time, there is an opportunity I have in front of me that I kinda don't want to take, but I'd like some advice either way.So, I'm in this program the university offers and I've been working with it since the start of the summer. I've gotten to know some people in the program with me over various zoom meetings held over the summer. One of these people I met was a cutie who I connected with immediately. By the start of classes, we share the same math class, Russian teacher, and we're in a group project together for our first year seminar course. We're good friends right now, and we talk over snapchat regularly. We even joke about how we can't seem to avoid each other, because we got put together in a class activity for math too.Unfortunately, she is not on campus, and by not on campus, I mean she is on the west coast and I am on the east coast. I will only be able to meet her in person if she gets onto campus next semester or next year, depending on how COVID is like in the future. The program that we're in is a study abroad program, and we are going to the same destination, so I'll at least meet her there if we ever get to go. I would really like to try getting into a relationship with this girl at some point in my four years here, but right now doesn't seem like a good time to try. I've pretty much already decided that I'm not going to try and make things "romantic" until I finally meet her in person, as I don't think a long distance relationship in my first year of college with the first girl I got to know is a wise idea. Then again, I'd like to here some advice on this situation. Is a long distance relationship worth it? Am I right in avoiding it? Should I be concerned that, by the time I meet her in person, dating would be awkward because we're too comfortable as friends? (that's my only concern with my approach)
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