Dating 2 girls need help deciding.

So Ive been on a couple dates with 2 girls and I really like them both. Lets start with girl 1, Ill call her Sarah. Sarah is really sweet we get along great, but she lives out of state and is only here for school and our families could not be more different religiously and politically which I dont mind per se but if I commit to a relationship It could cause problems in the future and she told me after our second date that she was growing really attached to me. Which kinda spooked me so I told her that we should sort of slow things down because Im still dating and don't want her to get really attached and then if it falls through she'll get hurt and thats the last thing Id want. She is also a virgin and I told her thats fine I won't pressure her into anything but if she ever wants to get intimate just let me know and if not thats ok too. We are supposed to meet in 3 days and she wants to sleep together and I agreed however I am second guessing meeting her again because sleeping with her if I might not pursue a relationship I feel would hurt her more in the long run.

Next is girl 2 Ill call her Amy. Amy is awesome we have a scarry amount of things in common and seem to share a lot of interests and get along great! She lives about an hour away which isn't too big of a deal. However I don't feel a sense of excitement as much as I do with Sarah even though we are on paper a much better fit.

Anyways Im debating who to pick to pursue a relationship with because I dont wanna potentially lead either one of them on so I wanna decide ASAP and would like some of your guy's thoughts. Also whats the best way to let one of them know that Ive decided to pursue a relationship with someone else?



Submitted September 26, 2020 at 12:12AM

So Ive been on a couple dates with 2 girls and I really like them both. Lets start with girl 1, Ill call her Sarah. Sarah is really sweet we get along great, but she lives out of state and is only here for school and our families could not be more different religiously and politically which I dont mind per se but if I commit to a relationship It could cause problems in the future and she told me after our second date that she was growing really attached to me. Which kinda spooked me so I told her that we should sort of slow things down because Im still dating and don't want her to get really attached and then if it falls through she'll get hurt and thats the last thing Id want. She is also a virgin and I told her thats fine I won't pressure her into anything but if she ever wants to get intimate just let me know and if not thats ok too. We are supposed to meet in 3 days and she wants to sleep together and I agreed however I am second guessing meeting her again because sleeping with her if I might not pursue a relationship I feel would hurt her more in the long run.Next is girl 2 Ill call her Amy. Amy is awesome we have a scarry amount of things in common and seem to share a lot of interests and get along great! She lives about an hour away which isn't too big of a deal. However I don't feel a sense of excitement as much as I do with Sarah even though we are on paper a much better fit.Anyways Im debating who to pick to pursue a relationship with because I dont wanna potentially lead either one of them on so I wanna decide ASAP and would like some of your guy's thoughts. Also whats the best way to let one of them know that Ive decided to pursue a relationship with someone else?
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