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Does this mean he (27) and I (28F) sees hookup differently

We've been dating for 3 months and recently had sex. We are still talking and so I had to ask... Me: I do like dating you, but this is not hook up right? I’m not rushing too. But would like to ask if dating is or not hookup? I like the last date too btw. Him: I do not have answer. I do not know why you are so insecure. I told you yesterday, no deal or contract. Just go with flow if you want. If you do not like the way it is, you can leave. Me: I like dating you and want to go with flow but don’t want it to be only hookup. I don’t know what to do? I’m not the type to just date anyone. Him: There is no guarantee for anything in this world. I do not know to whom you called hookup. Up to my knowledge, hookup is meeting once or twice, use person and leave. Do you think this happened between us? Me: No, I don’t think its hookup then. Him: I am just dating you and having good time. Nothing else. I am not asking you money. Neither you are. Then how is it hookup? Me: Ok I see, I und...

I (27F) don't know what to do about my relationship with my husband's (30M) friend (30sM)

Throwaway for anonymity. tl;dr I'm uncomfortable around my husband's friend after he made a gross comment to me while he was drunk. Not sure how to proceed. Backstory: My husband, "John" and I have been friends with a couple, "Dan" and "Jan", for a little over two years. Last summer, we started hanging out with them more regularly and going on weekend vacations about once every month. On these vacations we spend the whole weekend together, cook together, play games, do activities, etc. It's safe to say we spend a considerable amount of time together. Event: The four of us attended a mutual friend's wedding last summer, and in standard wedding fashion we were spending the night drinking and dancing. John and Dan drank significantly more than me and Jan, and soon they were considerably drunk. About 3/4ths of the way through the evening, I'm on the dance floor and Dan is nearby also dancing, while Jan and John are across the room talki...

Me(19M) this chick won’t just go away what does she want?

Not sure what this girl wants from me? So long story short this girl hit me up few months ago and we’ve been talking since and meeting up, she always calls me cute and handsome and all that, we meet up and go to places where her friend are at and we have a fun time.. We video chatted a bit few weeks ago but that stopped as I slowly distances myself and stuff, she keeps calling me husband and I call her wife but I’m not sure if I want to keep calling her thay or even have contact with her anymore to be fair. Personally I’m just scared of catching feelings or getting into a relationship again, she’s very attractive and I like her personality but we cut contact for like a week since we last met and today her friend pops up on my story and says this “Are you cheating on your wife (her name)?” To which i said of course not and then she sends me voice notes of the girl I was seeing and we talked for a bit through voice notes and she says, you don’t talk to me and you’re probably busy w...

How to get my (30F) boyfriend (32M) to actually be romantic/sexual and take me on dates?

We've known each other for a few years and became pretty much best friends. I can give a little more detail on that if needed, but wanted to state that before stating that we've only been officially dating for about a week. I'm already having doubts though and feel really unwanted. He has told me in the past that he's not a very sexual person, and it's pretty clearly true. There HAVE been times where we've either flirted on the phone/text or had sex, but it's not very often. I want our passion to be there and more often, both in talking while we're away and when we're together. I don't know how to bring any of it up though. I feel like I shouldn't already be feeling this way. We had sex about a month ago, but have only kissed a little bit since then and made our relationship official about a week ago. I've asked him before if he's asexual and he said 'no'. I actually didn't know he was romantically interested in me until...

He talked to this girl.

Hi guys, I’m new here but I really do need some advice. So yesterday me and my boyfriend were hanging out, when I found out he was talking to this girl planning to go out with her in 2018. They never went out, they just casually talked sometimes for 1 month and he kept flirting with her, vice-versa. But they suddenly stop talking and he kept cold with her. They never talked again, and I never saw a chat like that again. I confronted him about it, he really seemed ashamed and he gave me the whole story. I just feel cheated on a bit, I didn’t like finding out that he kept talking to this other girl sometimes, they never exchanged nudes or anything like that, they only flirted. I feel really bad about it and I’m just really sad. I decided to stay with him, he explained to me about his sexual insecurity with me and I know that he deals with depression since 2017, I just can’t seem to really get over it. We are in our 20’s, live together and have a cat together and I felt really happy with...

Realizing My Worth and Knowing When To Walk Away

So I have been dating this guy since November. We started talking through Bumble in September. He has been divorced for about 6-7 years now and has 5 children ages 8-19. I didn't find out about the kids until I had been speaking to him for about a month. I am a child free person however I was willing to give it a chance with him. I even stated that I didn't want to meet the kids until at least 6 months down the line or when we felt comfortable with introducing us. We started going out on dates and we both really liked each other. However, I noticed that there were some strange things about him. He claimed that he had his kids on weekends so I could never see him Friday-Sunday. When I saw him on weekdays, it was very scheduled like he could see me Monday from 3-5 or Tuesday night and he would get to my house around 5:30 but be gone by 9:00. I offered to come to his house once a week since my schedule is more flexible and I didn’t mind going once a week. He was very evasive abou...

Do I need to tell my F buddy about my dates?

Hopefully this is the right place to post this - I (34f) have been in a FWB “relationship” for the last 5 months or so with a 38m. Him and I just recently reconnected after not seeing each other for about 6 years when we previously had a 3 year fwb relationship 🙈. This time around him and I have not had the conversation about what exactly we are doing, but it’s very safe to say it’s strictly FWB although we do meet up for drinks/watch movies hang out together we are definitely not dating. Him and I both are not the greatest at communicating (something I am working on) so we haven’t discussed if we’re seeing other people etc. Yesterday morning we hooked up and I had a date later in the evening, he asked what my plans were and I got nervous and lied. My question: Should I tell him when/if I plan on dating other men or is that not his business because we are strictly only FWB and would you want to know? Edit: I had no intentions of sleeping with the other guy I was going on a date with...

What do you think of dates who talk about other people they're dating or talking to while on a date with you?

I had a 2nd date last week and conversation was easy, which was nice. We even talked about dating history a bit. But he randomly brought up a woman he's currently talking to on a dating app. It was such a one off from our conversation it made me feel like she was obviously on his mind for him to find any opportunity to bring her up on a date he's currently on. I'm pretty sure it turned me off him. I know people are dating around, especially in the beginning, but to talk about them.. makes me feel like he's not so into me. What has been your experiences with this? Submitted January 21, 2020 at 12:08AM I had a 2nd date last week and conversation was easy, which was nice. We even talked about dating history a bit. But he randomly brought up a woman he's currently talking to on a dating app. It was such a one off from our conversation it made me feel like she was obviously on his mind for him to find any opportunity to bring her up on a date he's currently on...

Should I follow my crush on Instagram??

Hello Reddit users, So I have this crush on a man who’s 10 years older than me. I first met him at my workplace and ever since, Ive seen him everyday for 30 days straight. I never knew what his name is until I checked his company’s instagram followers and found him he doesn’t know that I know his name . I’m 100% sure he knows that I like him, however, I really never spoke with him at all. Now that I left the company, I’ve been contemplating on whether I should follow his account or not. Would I come off as creepy?? Because if I follow him, he Will surely know that I looked for him on the company’s account and stalked his account lol since I never got the chance to ask for his name. What should I doo ???? Submitted January 20, 2020 at 11:16PM Hello Reddit users, So I have this crush on a man who’s 10 years older than me. I first met him at my workplace and ever since, Ive seen him everyday for 30 days straight. I never knew what his name is until I checked his company’s instagram...

Them Losing Interest

Hi guys So The person I'm dating we're dating long distance now, and I'm afraid I'm losing interest. I'm the one mostly starting the conversation, and in a game, we normally play it's different now. No longer is it normally just us one on one or like kinda next to each other it's him and his new friend who he texted all night with (and called him hot). Am I being too uptight? What can I do to get his interest back? Submitted January 21, 2020 at 12:01AM Hi guysSo The person I'm dating we're dating long distance now, and I'm afraid I'm losing interest. I'm the one mostly starting the conversation, and in a game, we normally play it's different now. No longer is it normally just us one on one or like kinda next to each other it's him and his new friend who he texted all night with (and called him hot).Am I being too uptight? What can I do to get his interest back?

How To Let Her Down Nicely/Easily? (18M)

So yea, I'm in a bit of a pickle. Let me just start by saying that I've only dated once before this, but I don't really count it as a relationship because of how one sided it was, so this was my first actual try at, well, trying a relationship with someone. Basically long story short, we met on this dating app after I had tried for a long while to meet someone in my area with the same ethics/values as me and someone somewhat attractive at the same time - no success there, so I somewhat foolishly set my standards lower and allowed the app to show me literally anyone in the US, not just in my state. So I found her (18F, proven), and she was almost exactly like me in terms of values and what not, the only problem was that 1. She was super far away from me and 2. I didn't even get to see how she looked until after we started talking a bit that day (and from what I saw, she was admittedly only alright at best). However I thought I would still give it a try to see if it c...

“Sorry I didn’t see you responded”

But he saw my snapchat hours before. And the message said delivered. How would you take that? I would just rather him not lie if he really saw it. The last thing I want to do is annoy someone. I don’t know if I should text back or leave it how it is. He updated me on his day as if he wanted to continue the conversation but maybe he is just being nice. Also if you like someone and they hadn’t responded for hours wouldn’t you check back on the thread maybe or at least open ur texts? Idk! Submitted January 21, 2020 at 12:10AM But he saw my snapchat hours before. And the message said delivered. How would you take that? I would just rather him not lie if he really saw it. The last thing I want to do is annoy someone. I don’t know if I should text back or leave it how it is. He updated me on his day as if he wanted to continue the conversation but maybe he is just being nice. Also if you like someone and they hadn’t responded for hours wouldn’t you check back on the thread maybe or at...

Girls: have you ever avoided a guy you like?

Or have you avoided a guy because you like him? I think, as a dude, I'm experiencing this right now with a girl, and I'm very confused Why would you avoid a guy if you're into him? Appreciate any insights Submitted January 21, 2020 at 12:19AM Or have you avoided a guy because you like him?I think, as a dude, I'm experiencing this right now with a girl, and I'm very confusedWhy would you avoid a guy if you're into him?Appreciate any insights

The few months of online dating I have done have made me feel as bad as when I never left my house and didn't have a job.

I used to be a very miserable and depressed person a few years back. I had never had a job, had no license, didn't take care of myself, couldn't even walk out on my front doorstep due to anxiety, etc. In the last few years, though, I have made incredible strides. I have 2 jobs, I have my own car, I don't live with my parents, I'm taking better care of myself, I've moved to a more prosperous area, I'm just doing so much better in general. So I decided that I should start putting myself out there. They say you just need to love yourself, right? That's the line people always use anyway. Well, I do love myself (or did), but I guess other people don't think I should, because I have had no success at all. Either there is a glitch in the matrix, or it may not quite be as simple as people make it out to seem. I don't even care about the people who don't respond, the conversations that just kind of fizzle out, or the people who disappear after a bit. ...

breaking up now to prevent future heartbreak?

I (22/M) have been with my girlfriend (21/F) for 2 years or so, and it has mostly been going good. But we are gonna graduate from college in a year and most probably won't end up in close proximity, and long distance is not an option for either of us, so we will most likely break up at some point. Problem is I told her if we know we will break up in the near future, we better do it now since there is no point in going on, but she says that we should enjoy every last bit of time we have together. I very much enjoy my time with her so I do want to spend it with her but I know this is going to make the breakup harder later on. Any advice/experience??? Submitted January 21, 2020 at 12:27AM I (22/M) have been with my girlfriend (21/F) for 2 years or so, and it has mostly been going good. But we are gonna graduate from college in a year and most probably won't end up in close proximity, and long distance is not an option for either of us, so we will most likely break up at som...

Nice guys are about to have a field day with this 😒

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Where do I put this?

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someone added this to their Instagram stories

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Women of Reddit, Id like to hear your opinion

Ok, so Ive already made a post about the situation Im in, but things get weirder and weirder with this girl. Shes sending me photos of herself about 3 to 4 times a week on instagram (for the last two weeks). Last photo was of her when she was a teen (previously selfies and photos from workplace). Initiates short conversations, replys to my stories, says she wants to hang out, comments on my posts, tells me she wants a photo of us. All signs shes into me, Id guess. Then I suggest something and she initially agrees, just to come up with an excuse a few days latter. I suggested dinner, she canceled a few days later. Im confused, especially since shes the one suggesting stuff and bailing. I like to read books and now she apparently also reads books. Is she just fucking with me for her own amusement or what? Or is she testing my limits. I have never experienced anything like this and am somewhat fed up with this bullshit because I have stuff to do and she is just a distraction. It fe...

Not sure what's wrong with me

I like to think I'm a good person and would be a good catch. I'm funny, smart, witty, considerate, honest, loyal.. I'm a good person. I keep getting ghosted and I don't understand why. Guys date me and go back to their exes.. what is wrong with me that I drive guys back to their exes? I feel like I'm just the "fun" girl and not the girl anyone actually wants/tries to lock down. What can I do? I'm sick of this. I want a genuine, loving, fun relationship. I don't put out on the first few dates as I don't think that's a great start for a genuine connection.. but I don't think that's the issue. I've had really great, deep conversations with guys and we hang out a couple times and still text and whatnot... then theyll randomly be trying things with their ex again or simply ghosted me all together. Submitted January 21, 2020 at 12:00AM I like to think I'm a good person and would be a good catch. I'm funny, smart, witty,...

Single 12 years, I’m afraid to date anybody and get hurt.

My parents died when I was a kid. Growing up as an orphan gave me a lot of attachment issues. I really want to be loved. I would like to be in a relationship. But I have a lot of messed up belief systems about the whole thing that come from my childhood. I don’t think anybody loves me, or cares about me, or will ever love me. I’m very clingy and get attached to people way too easily. I could fall in love with somebody within minutes of meeting them. At the same time, I’m always on the lookout for signs that people are going to leave me or abandon me. If somebody did want to date me, I would cut things off before they got serious and I got hurt. I usually go on a first date and never talk to the person again. I want to be loved, but I have no idea how to go about letting love into my life. It’s been years since I’ve been in a relationship. I don’t remember the last time anybody told me they loved me. I’ve tried talking about this with my therapist but it wasn’t helpful. Submitted...

About that phone number?

(26m) went on 2 dates with (22f) and have been using snapchat and hinge (where we met) to talk. Before the first date she mentioned she didn't like snapchat so I offered my number, maybe not the best way to go but anyway...she never used it so I still don't have hers. We are still talking, do I reiterate that she has my number or do I ask her for hers? Submitted January 21, 2020 at 12:03AM (26m) went on 2 dates with (22f) and have been using snapchat and hinge (where we met) to talk. Before the first date she mentioned she didn't like snapchat so I offered my number, maybe not the best way to go but anyway...she never used it so I still don't have hers.We are still talking, do I reiterate that she has my number or do I ask her for hers?

How long should I wait before asking if they want to go on a date?

I'm (19, M) not experienced at all when it comes to dating. I just wanted to know how long I should talk to a girl over text before I ask them on a date. I don't really like constantly texting back and forth, but I don't want to come across as too desperate, if that makes sense. Submitted January 21, 2020 at 12:10AM I'm (19, M) not experienced at all when it comes to dating. I just wanted to know how long I should talk to a girl over text before I ask them on a date. I don't really like constantly texting back and forth, but I don't want to come across as too desperate, if that makes sense.