How to get my (30F) boyfriend (32M) to actually be romantic/sexual and take me on dates?

We've known each other for a few years and became pretty much best friends. I can give a little more detail on that if needed, but wanted to state that before stating that we've only been officially dating for about a week. I'm already having doubts though and feel really unwanted.

He has told me in the past that he's not a very sexual person, and it's pretty clearly true. There HAVE been times where we've either flirted on the phone/text or had sex, but it's not very often. I want our passion to be there and more often, both in talking while we're away and when we're together. I don't know how to bring any of it up though. I feel like I shouldn't already be feeling this way. We had sex about a month ago, but have only kissed a little bit since then and made our relationship official about a week ago. I've asked him before if he's asexual and he said 'no'. I actually didn't know he was romantically interested in me until he told me he was in love with me after we had sex last month. We haven't gone on any one-on-one dates in a long time, either. The last few date-ish things we did besides hanging out at his house (not a date imo) were with a couple he is friends with, as basically a double date.

I want more romance and passion, in bed and out. We don't even usually kiss goodnight? I don't feel like I'm really in a relationship. It's really confusing and I don't know how to address this at all. I don't even know where to start because it's not just one specific thing. It's several things that are all contributing to me already being unhappy in my relationship. We talk everyday, and usually on the phone talking everyday too, not just texting. We're definitely best friends. He tells me all about his life, and I talk about mine; we share so much with each other. I definitely do love him and I can't imagine him not being a part of my life anymore.

Minor update without rewriting this entire message: I just told him on the phone and he is jokingly saying things like "Oh, shut up" and when I asked if this relationship is really what he wants, he said he does. I had to get off the phone because I'm crying. I want to feel wanted and I'm starting to fear we're just too different with what we want in a relationship. Is there a way to compromise? How can I be clear about my needs without breaking down/crying and having him act like everything is fine even though I'm upset?

tldr; Friend of a few years and I fell in love (he says he is, but I don't get the feeling from him very often. I am in love with him though); but haven't had sex in a month. I don't feel wanted and I'm feeling really insecure. We don't really do "date night" and if we do, it's with other people tagging along. There's no real romance, sweet words, flirting, etc. I need some advice on how to talk about it and create some spark.

Submitted January 21, 2020 at 12:31AM

We've known each other for a few years and became pretty much best friends. I can give a little more detail on that if needed, but wanted to state that before stating that we've only been officially dating for about a week. I'm already having doubts though and feel really unwanted.He has told me in the past that he's not a very sexual person, and it's pretty clearly true. There HAVE been times where we've either flirted on the phone/text or had sex, but it's not very often. I want our passion to be there and more often, both in talking while we're away and when we're together. I don't know how to bring any of it up though. I feel like I shouldn't already be feeling this way. We had sex about a month ago, but have only kissed a little bit since then and made our relationship official about a week ago. I've asked him before if he's asexual and he said 'no'. I actually didn't know he was romantically interested in me until he told me he was in love with me after we had sex last month. We haven't gone on any one-on-one dates in a long time, either. The last few date-ish things we did besides hanging out at his house (not a date imo) were with a couple he is friends with, as basically a double date.I want more romance and passion, in bed and out. We don't even usually kiss goodnight? I don't feel like I'm really in a relationship. It's really confusing and I don't know how to address this at all. I don't even know where to start because it's not just one specific thing. It's several things that are all contributing to me already being unhappy in my relationship. We talk everyday, and usually on the phone talking everyday too, not just texting. We're definitely best friends. He tells me all about his life, and I talk about mine; we share so much with each other. I definitely do love him and I can't imagine him not being a part of my life anymore.Minor update without rewriting this entire message: I just told him on the phone and he is jokingly saying things like "Oh, shut up" and when I asked if this relationship is really what he wants, he said he does. I had to get off the phone because I'm crying. I want to feel wanted and I'm starting to fear we're just too different with what we want in a relationship. Is there a way to compromise? How can I be clear about my needs without breaking down/crying and having him act like everything is fine even though I'm upset?tldr; Friend of a few years and I fell in love (he says he is, but I don't get the feeling from him very often. I am in love with him though); but haven't had sex in a month. I don't feel wanted and I'm feeling really insecure. We don't really do "date night" and if we do, it's with other people tagging along. There's no real romance, sweet words, flirting, etc. I need some advice on how to talk about it and create some spark.