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Have you ever been rejected because of your race?

I just got rejected by a girl I liked because of my race. It hurts beyond belief. I just asked her if she'd wanna be grab a coffee or something and she literally humiliated me [this is all by text but I still felt humiliated]. She literally said: "Sorry, but I wouldn't ever go near a white guy". She's white but she "only dates black guys". Honestly like it just sucks and I don't know how to handle it. Lots of people have "race" preferences I think and it just sucks, I assume this happens to a lot of people, white guys especially? Anyways, if this has happened to you please share your story because this hurts in a bad way. Sorry, I just kinda needed to get this off of my chest. Submitted March 17, 2020 at 11:34PM I just got rejected by a girl I liked because of my race. It hurts beyond belief. I just asked her if she'd wanna be grab a coffee or something and she literally humiliated me [this is all by text but I still felt humil...

Best dating app for someone who isn't into hooking up and want's a real relationship?

Most people I know have told me Bumble but there were other apps that I didn't know existed, such as Hinge and POF. I just know that Tinder/Bumble have the highest user populations. Which app is the best in your opinion? What have you guys had most success with? EDIT: I love meeting face to face and have no problem with that or socializing in general. My problem is behind the screen lol. I also don't have ANY social media (reddit doesn't count). Which app best gets around that? Submitted March 17, 2020 at 11:42PM Most people I know have told me Bumble but there were other apps that I didn't know existed, such as Hinge and POF. I just know that Tinder/Bumble have the highest user populations.Which app is the best in your opinion? What have you guys had most success with?EDIT: I love meeting face to face and have no problem with that or socializing in general. My problem is behind the screen lol. I also don't have ANY social media (reddit doesn't count). ...

Unfortunate Truth About Saltiness

Hey guys If you have ever been banned off of a dating app for no apparent reason I’m very sure that I have the answer . Ex girlfriends love to not only report their ex boyfriends on dating apps but also will send your profile to their little group chats and have all of their friends report you as well so that you are banned . I’ve heard MANY girls that I know personally tell me that they do this . I’ve also had an ex admit to me that she was upset to see me on a dating app after we broke up ( Mind you 3 years had a passed) and reported me to make herself happy. It’s an unfortunate but nasty truth that females hate to openly admit. Basically If they can’t have you , then no one can . There is no real way around this except that this may provide some closure if you ever get banned and you don’t know why. Submitted March 17, 2020 at 11:43PM Hey guys If you have ever been banned off of a dating app for no apparent reason I’m very sure that I have the answer . Ex girlfriends love to ...

My mental health is effecting our relationship

Some back story,we've been dating long enough to say we love eachother and the relationship in general is okay,the only problem is that recently she said she feels like I don't love her anymore, she said it's so much different from the start where I made her feel special and stuff. I, to say the least, have difficulty expressing my self and my life has been a mess these last few months, I have depression and bouts of amnesia, so she says I always look disinterested when we go out, she says I don't take her on dates either but we always go out together like almost every day. I guess my question is,how do I show her I still love her?I still do find her special I don't have a lot of money so I can't buy her loads but I have a big heart. I just don't know what to do. Submitted March 18, 2020 at 12:22AM Some back story,we've been dating long enough to say we love eachother and the relationship in general is okay,the only problem is that recently she sa...

Do you ever just take in your loved one while they do something so simple?

Sometimes I’ll get caught up in the way my boyfriend’s lips move when he’s talking. They’re just so pretty. Submitted March 17, 2020 at 11:43PM Sometimes I’ll get caught up in the way my boyfriend’s lips move when he’s talking. They’re just so pretty.

had sex with my lovely girlfriend for the first time in 2 and 1/2 months

I will start by saying my girlfriend and i have an incredible relationship, we are so deeply in love with each other and plan on getting married. We have been together for years, live together, and run a business together. Since the New Year began, things have been HECTIC to say the least. My parents health is failing so a lot of my time has been dedicated to caring for them and keeping my family afloat. I own an italian restaurant and in December my girlfriend quit her job to manage and run the restaurant with me and we are opening another restaurant in the fall which is also taking all of our time and energy. We work 12+ hours a day and when we’re not working, we’re struggling to get things done like housework, laundry, feeding ourselves, making room to get enough sleep, etc etc. Now with all this crazy stuff going on our business is heading into a very scary direction (we live in America and are fucking terrified of the future of our country/income/all the employees under us). We ...

I'll be waiting for you on the other side of the world to come back home.

I miss you, everyday. It scares me that you're in the military but I know you are capable of anything you set your mind to. I'll be waiting for you on the other side of the world to come back home. I love you. Submitted March 18, 2020 at 12:17AM I miss you, everyday. It scares me that you're in the military but I know you are capable of anything you set your mind to. I'll be waiting for you on the other side of the world to come back home.I love you.

Am I Overthinking?

This isn't my first rodeo, and I have a horrible tendency of overthinking everything in the realm of romance. It feels like I've gotten better, but I know that my brain is still working on overdrive. Let me fill you in: My crush (17 F) and I (19 M) have been friends for about 5 years, but started getting closer about 10-12 months ago. What started as getting food with some mutual friends has turned into midnight roadtrips to nowhere, hours on end of texting and occasional drunken shenanigans. For two people that generally can't stand physical contact, she's progressively gotten more comfortable around me. When getting scared or while laughing, she'll grab my arm or shoulders and linger there for a while. We support each other and, while I can only speak for myself, there's a remarkable development of trust between us. Hell, before I left for a trip halfway across the country (US), she pulled me out of the house to get some food and say goodbye. I had done the ...

I need your love story for our podcast! ❤️

Hello love birds my wife and I just started a new podcast called Not Your Normal Love Story. It’s about our journey through life and marriage as a same sex couple as well as our journey through TTC. We definitely feel like our love story is interesting and some might say unique, so we wanted to share it with the world! But not only ours...yours as well! Every week we will be be uploading a episode dedicated to reading your Happy, Sad, Different, and Funny love stories. So we are asking for those right here right now. ❤️ p.s please keep it short but not toooo short lol. Also go check us out on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/3Mmfvxy0CyPvoKbWKVIGNp?si=ROswrEOvQ3eLoB8z9kst9w Submitted March 18, 2020 at 12:10AM Hello love birds my wife and I just started a new podcast called Not Your Normal Love Story. It’s about our journey through life and marriage as a same sex couple as well as our journey through TTC. We definitely feel like our love story is interesting and some might s...

corona or celibate??

I'm trying to decide, is it worth it for a 10, a 9, a 7, like what is the limit? Submitted March 18, 2020 at 12:15AM I'm trying to decide, is it worth it for a 10, a 9, a 7, like what is the limit?

Confused and could use unbiased opinion about mixed signals

Met a very attractive girl on an app a while back, we went out for drinks and really hit it off. She suggests we go to another bar nearby to keep the night going, and we end up going back to my place. We fooled around for a while but nothing beyond that which I was completely fine with, and from there we were texting very frequently and went out for dinner not too long after. That date went even better, returned to my place after for more fun before she left to go home for work the next day. We made plans to see each other when she got back in town after a weekend trip she was taking. In the interim she invited me to come over in the afternoon to get lunch and hang out before she left town that night. ​ All the sudden the morning of her proposed lunch date, as we're trying to figure out details, she tells me she needs to postpone for work reasons until the next week, no big deal thats fine, that happens. We keep texting during the weekend while she is away and saw her when she g...

Guys, do you want a girl to reach out after a fun night together?

Okay, so I met this guy through some mutual friends a few months ago and we had a really fun night. It was the end of the school year so we didn’t really see each other at all after and fell out of touch. Flash forward to this weekend and we were at a party together, talked and he mentioned that he had wanted to reach out sooner but never did. We have so much in common and just genuinely really clicked. We spent the night together and I thought we had a great time again but it’s been a few days now and I haven’t heard from him. I’m really interested and haven’t been able to stop thinking about him, but don’t know if I should initiate the conversation or what to say if I do. We don’t currently live in the same city and it’s not like we’d be able to hangout for awhile anyways, but I want to talk to him and not sure what to do or say :/ any suggestions?? Submitted March 18, 2020 at 12:17AM Okay, so I met this guy through some mutual friends a few months ago and we had a really fun ...

Can I tell a guy after a hook up that I want it again ?

I know this guy for a while but we are not grinds . So finally we decide to hook up , we had a great time and great sex. He texted me good night and the next day texted how am I doing etc telling me that the last night was hot But not asking me to see him again . Does this mean he’s not interested anymore ? I want him again . How should I tell him in a normal way ? Submitted March 18, 2020 at 12:22AM I know this guy for a while but we are not grinds . So finally we decide to hook up , we had a great time and great sex. He texted me good night and the next day texted how am I doing etc telling me that the last night was hot But not asking me to see him again . Does this mean he’s not interested anymore ? I want him again . How should I tell him in a normal way ?

Any advice on how to get over the overthinking feeling?

Like idk what’s going on with me right now. Back then I would’ve gotten it over with right after I started getting the feels if you will. But damn it just kinda hard right now. Idk if it’s finals/the virus thing that has me fucked up. Like legit I want to ask them out and I feel that it might be in my favor. But I just can’t for some reason. Submitted March 18, 2020 at 12:25AM Like idk what’s going on with me right now. Back then I would’ve gotten it over with right after I started getting the feels if you will.But damn it just kinda hard right now. Idk if it’s finals/the virus thing that has me fucked up.Like legit I want to ask them out and I feel that it might be in my favor. But I just can’t for some reason.

Unsure about my [26f] boyfriend [28m] wanting my sister [19f] to go to a laundromat bc of covid

So long story short, my sister used to live with us but rented a place down the street about a year ago. She accepted the place having our agreement she could use our washing machine as the unit did not have one. She texted me at work asking if she could come over to do laundry today bc a pipe burst and wet her closet. I asked my boyfriend, more about the timing than for his permission if that makes sense? So I was pretty surprised when he said no, tell her she has to go to a laundromat until the virus has “passed”. I was stunned but this is his place too so I don’t know how much of a “right” I have to argue. But we had given our word so I asked him what I was supposed to say to her and he shrugged and walked out. I think the biggest part that bothers me is he is still going out and about and I work at a grocery store and he hasn’t said a peep about that except having me be careful about removing my clothes into bags and showering first. I know he has some anxieties but he feels t...

Seeing someone new but can’t stop comparing her to my ex

I chose to brake up with my ex girlfriend of 4 years almost 4 months ago due to not being able to fully commit to her. She was an amazing girlfriend, caring, loved unconditionally, never judged, amazing sex life, my family loved her, we shared all hobbies and interests. The intimacy was another level. However, I felt un-attracted to her at times throughout, felt like her chemistry with my friends was off even though she fit me so well and felt that her her family was extremely difficult to deal with. (They come from a different culture and are alcoholics). I recently started seeing a new girl who is also amazing but I just don’t feel as connected with. Obviously it’s very early in the relationship, but we’ve been seeing one another practically everyday and essentially living with one another for a month now. I have a strong grasp on who she is as a person and her personality. I felt emotionally checked out from my last girlfriend which is why I moved on to someone else so fast but a ...

My bf 23 (M) is upset because I 21 (F) didn’t answer phone call

I’ve been at my friends house since Monday night and my boyfriend knows this. We said goodnight and he said enjoy your friends. Fast forward to few hours ago, I’m sitting down helping my friend pack because she’s getting kicked out of her college dorm and we are all chatting and complaining. My boyfriend calls me and I don’t answer because I’m busy and I text him and say I can’t talk right now. He texts me again and says “what does that mean?” “So u can’t pick up the phone? “ And he calls me 3 more times. I leave the room with my friends and go to answer the phone in another room. He says “it seems like you were just sitting down and talking to your friends, you said you were busy but you’re sitting down talkin to your friends.” He says that he doesn’t want to speak to me anymore and hangs up the phone. He said “Dog u don’t know what in the world I was callin u for. I coulda been on the side of the road nd needed help, or my mom could’ve died or I could’ve gotten a promotion nd wan...

I need advice to get over a serious relationship

Hello, I already posted one of these but I took it down because I thought everything was getting better between us. How stupid am I lmao. Background: I met this girl on snap over the summer through a mutual friend. We started to snap a lot and we really hit it off. We found out that we were going to the same school and we were both gonna do crew. We started dating on September 10, 2019. And last week Monday, she broke up with me. We had gotten into a really stupid argument and she just said she still loved me but we weren’t right for each other. That we kept hurting each other. The next day she said how she wanted us to work and we should get back together but take is slow, at the end of that day she broke up with me. A day later, she said that she’d be fine starting all over from scratch and it was smooth sailing until yesterday, where she broke up with me again right after we had just hung out together with a few other friends. Then today, she told me that she still loved me and ...

My (f18) [kind of] boyfriend (m20) refuses to eat on dates

TL;DR: I’ve gone on a few dates with someone and they don’t eat anything. I really like them otherwise, so I don’t know what to do. What do I even say to him? I have known H for about a year as friends. We were pretty close friends and I felt like I knew him decently well. I ended up getting romantic feelings for him a few months ago and asked H out. We just hung out and walked around our uni, and it went super well! We had hung out as friends before, but this was our first date date. It was a tad awkward at the end because I asked if I could kiss him and uhm he said no. There was some context making it less bad, but essentially he said he didn’t want to kiss me because “we” (read I) had just gotten ice cream. Legitimately, the date went well enough otherwise that it made up for this moment. I was kind of expecting him to ask me out for our second date, so we kind of didn’t do anything for like 2 weeks. I eventually just asked him what his thoughts were about if he still wanted ...

I (F,22) think my boyfriend (20, M) is obsessed with games and Youtube

Just some background information: I have been in a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend for a year now, going on two this year. When we first met, he told me he enjoyed playing computer games and watching youtube and that was totally fine with me. Everyone has the things that they enjoy and I told him that if it made him happy then that's okay. I also told him that I wouldn't mind watching his games either and or playing with him if I could. At first, of course, everything was fine. He made a lot of effort towards communicating without gaming or youtube. We could spend hours talking to each other, which we still can do, but it would just be us with no distractions. Some days he would tell me that he and his friends would play online games, it would last hours but I had NO issues with it whatsoever because he gave me the one-on-one communication with no distractions. He could play games for all I cared and I let him. We met for the first time in person and it was WOND...

Not sure if this has been posted, but here's a link to a Ted Talk on Online Dating and hacking it

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d6wG_sAdP0U Submitted March 17, 2020 at 11:16PM https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d6wG_sAdP0U

Women - kids after 30?

How many women still want kids in their 30s? 38/M this year and want to still have 2-3 if possible and not looking to date 10 years plus younger Women feel the same? Submitted March 17, 2020 at 11:33PM How many women still want kids in their 30s? 38/M this year and want to still have 2-3 if possible and not looking to date 10 years plus youngerWomen feel the same?

Someone used my former-married-date phone number and called me?

Hi guys, I have a random situation here that idk what to do. I met a guy online and after about 2 months of dating, I found out he is still married though separated. I told him we can stay platonic friends since I enjoyed his companionship but nothing more if he's still married which he's agreed to. We keep some light texting daily but haven't met any more time since last month. Today, someone (saying he worked with him) used his cell phone number to call me and asked for a very similar name to me (like Amy and Tammy). I said they have called the wrong number since that's not my name. It might have a genuine wrong call, but it still bugged me that someone had access to his phone and called me out of all people. I'm not sure what I should do now. Should I text him to notify or just stop all communication altogether? My only concern is I don't wanna be in the middle of any kind of dramas that come from being his former-uninformed date. Submitted March 17, 2...