Confused and could use unbiased opinion about mixed signals

Met a very attractive girl on an app a while back, we went out for drinks and really hit it off. She suggests we go to another bar nearby to keep the night going, and we end up going back to my place. We fooled around for a while but nothing beyond that which I was completely fine with, and from there we were texting very frequently and went out for dinner not too long after. That date went even better, returned to my place after for more fun before she left to go home for work the next day. We made plans to see each other when she got back in town after a weekend trip she was taking. In the interim she invited me to come over in the afternoon to get lunch and hang out before she left town that night.

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All the sudden the morning of her proposed lunch date, as we're trying to figure out details, she tells me she needs to postpone for work reasons until the next week, no big deal thats fine, that happens. We keep texting during the weekend while she is away and saw her when she got back in town. It went well but not a 10/10 like the first 2 times but did make out at the end for a while and confirmed we would see each other again soon to get the postponed lunch/hang out in.

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The next day she did not reply to my last text after I answered her last messages early in the evening, in the brief time I've known her she's always replied and even gone as far as to apologize for any lengthy delay, which she really doesnt need to do, she doesnt owe me an explanation.

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Next morning, the morning of the lunch date, since I havent heard anything from her, I just sent a text asking where she wanted to get lunch. She replies right away that shes busy with work but wants to push for later in the week. I reply "Sure no problem" and left it there.

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She hasnt replied or said anything since then. I really like her and was excited that it was going so well it seemed and now Im afraid she's no longer interested. Obviously things come up like work, I understand that, but that combined with the sudden change in the text routine has me confused. Last thing I want to do is drive her away by coming off as desperate or needy, but would really like to keep getting to know her and see where this might lead.

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Any thoughts on how best to proceed here? Unfortunately with the pandemic, the options are very limited as far as what we can do, even lunch now would likely need to be take out. There are some great parks in the area but the weather is still quite cold here and will probably be like that a while longer. As far as I can tell me options are: play it cool and wait for her to come back and restart the conversation (if she even does it all), resume the conversation as if nothing happened, or just ask her out directly, and I don't really think any of these options are very good. Just don't want to give up on this girl already and would love a chance to keep getting to know her more.

Submitted March 18, 2020 at 12:16AM

Met a very attractive girl on an app a while back, we went out for drinks and really hit it off. She suggests we go to another bar nearby to keep the night going, and we end up going back to my place. We fooled around for a while but nothing beyond that which I was completely fine with, and from there we were texting very frequently and went out for dinner not too long after. That date went even better, returned to my place after for more fun before she left to go home for work the next day. We made plans to see each other when she got back in town after a weekend trip she was taking. In the interim she invited me to come over in the afternoon to get lunch and hang out before she left town that night.​All the sudden the morning of her proposed lunch date, as we're trying to figure out details, she tells me she needs to postpone for work reasons until the next week, no big deal thats fine, that happens. We keep texting during the weekend while she is away and saw her when she got back in town. It went well but not a 10/10 like the first 2 times but did make out at the end for a while and confirmed we would see each other again soon to get the postponed lunch/hang out in.​The next day she did not reply to my last text after I answered her last messages early in the evening, in the brief time I've known her she's always replied and even gone as far as to apologize for any lengthy delay, which she really doesnt need to do, she doesnt owe me an explanation.​Next morning, the morning of the lunch date, since I havent heard anything from her, I just sent a text asking where she wanted to get lunch. She replies right away that shes busy with work but wants to push for later in the week. I reply "Sure no problem" and left it there.​She hasnt replied or said anything since then. I really like her and was excited that it was going so well it seemed and now Im afraid she's no longer interested. Obviously things come up like work, I understand that, but that combined with the sudden change in the text routine has me confused. Last thing I want to do is drive her away by coming off as desperate or needy, but would really like to keep getting to know her and see where this might lead.​Any thoughts on how best to proceed here? Unfortunately with the pandemic, the options are very limited as far as what we can do, even lunch now would likely need to be take out. There are some great parks in the area but the weather is still quite cold here and will probably be like that a while longer. As far as I can tell me options are: play it cool and wait for her to come back and restart the conversation (if she even does it all), resume the conversation as if nothing happened, or just ask her out directly, and I don't really think any of these options are very good. Just don't want to give up on this girl already and would love a chance to keep getting to know her more.