I have ADHD and anxiety, so dating is not easy for me. I tend to come off either too strong or too distant and it’s led to a lot of ghosting. I don’t pick up on social cues very easily. Can you guys give your opinions on how often you should be talking in the early stages, and then after x amount of dates? I personally really like when people are asking me questions and actively trying to get to know me, but apparently that’s asking for too much early on, hence me coming off too strong. So if they aren’t doing that, or if they don’t reply for like 24+ hours, I get offended, which I know probably isn’t right. In my defense, both of my previous relationships moved at warp speed, so I’m trying to unlearn that behavior Thanks everyone. Submitted August 10, 2022 at 12:15AM I have ADHD and anxiety, so dating is not easy for me. I tend to come off either too strong or too distant and it’s led to a lot of ghosting. I don’t pick up on social cues very easily.Can you guys give your op...

I was 15 when I knew for sure I think I started questioning at about 14 tho August 09, 2022 at 11:28PM

19, right before aces had an official flag August 09, 2022 at 11:26PM

I’m actually very terrified of this very thing. People tell me no it won’t matter your sexual history or my case the lack of. But I feel like people sometimes just don’t understand it actually does. I’m truly sorry this happened cause once they know it’s like an end deal for any relationship even friendship cause of how they think. I’ve cried once because a guy didn’t even want to be my friend after like damn you don’t even think down the line it might work out lol. And I probably would have cried if you yelled at me too so that also says something lol. But like why aren’t people open to it? Like can we still finish the date cause like there’s more to me than sex and it’s not like you said you would NEVER have it it’s just why you haven’t. Sorry for making your post about me 😬 but felt very seen in this post in too many ways lol. My future plans are me in solitude and I had a hard time being okay with that but now that I am I’m gonna buy a dog, buy a baby, and a secluded cabin like ...

I mean, it's mostly just up to your own personal definition of sexual attraction. To me, what you are describing with porn is not sexual attraction - as you are not getting aroused by the content or subject and are instead just preforming an action for a "reward" (dopamine, escapism, stuff like that). You aren't doing anything wrong when you decide to do something, because frankly no one else can/should put you into a box. There are ace/demi people who do have sex. They don't necessarily have a drive for it, but they also do not have a negative opinion of it. There are people who do not want to even think about it. The label of ace, demi, you name it, should be for yourself - and as long as you aren't forcing yourself into or out of anything then you are being a good, wonderful, asexual. August 09, 2022 at 11:20PM

Holy garlic bread y’all, thank you so much for all the upvotes!!!!☺️💜🤍🖤 August 09, 2022 at 11:19PM

I don't recommend trying to change yourself. I got frustrated with my asexuality too (gf broke up with me after 5 years because if it) so i entered a new relationship and thought i could just change myself and pretend my way through. Its a miserable way to live. That fear of not meeting expectations lingered in my head every day. My partner knew something was off. And eventually called me out for it. Sex drive isnt easy to imitate i realized. It made me unhappy and wasted my time and effort anyway. I hope you recover from this and find peace with yourself. You deserve to be happy and shouldn't change for anyone August 09, 2022 at 11:15PM