The original commenter asked that we generally use the term for people. I responded letting them know why not everyone is comfortable with the term. You then commented in a way that I interpreted as you saying that you were tired of people saying they felt uncomfortable with the term. I also got the idea that you were saying not liking being called queer was buying into terf stuff. If that’s not what you meant then I do apologise, but certainly this comment thread has not just been about how people want themselves to be called. Also, I’m not identifying with the full acronym. When talking about people being lgbtq+ we aren’t saying they identify with every aspect of the acronym we are saying they belong to it. For example, I’m not intersex, and saying I’m lgbtq+ doesn’t mean that I am. It’s an easy way to refer to someone under the umbrella if you aren’t familiar with the specifics. Just like how u want queer to be used, but I’m just saying when in doubt it’s safer to use the acronym w...

First a bit of backstory. Me (13m) and my crush (13f, new girl) both are in the same grade (7th) and class. Lots of rumors have been going around about me (mainly positive I think. Haven’t gotten TOO much insight.). One of the first things was that my crush like me (no one to this moment knows 100% I like her without making a 50/50 guess (I OBVIOUSLY DO). I thought she liked me, BEFORE the rumor got to me, but then she stated that she never liked and doesn’t like me. (I tried to find 100% certainty that she was saying that to get rid of embarrassment, but I never could COMPLETELY convince myself. Anyway, the main factor that gave me conscience a chance thinking she still liked me was the constant Mixed Signals. Now to the question : Does she like me? My crush is a lot more open towards me I feel, but I’m not sure if thats a good thing or a bad thing, as being more could mean less awkwardness for her (doesn’t like me), or it means she wants to hang out, talk, and have fun (she like’s...

I’ve been talking to a guy for a month. We’ve gone out twice. I asked him if he wanted to hang out and his answer was “not this weekend. Maybe next weekend.” That answer sounds very lukewarm to me. We have not made any plans to hang out again. He still is the first to text me every day. Is it ok for me to ask if he still has an interest in seeing me or is that too clingy? Should I wait to see if we plan anything next week? Submitted January 27, 2023 at 12:05AM I’ve been talking to a guy for a month. We’ve gone out twice. I asked him if he wanted to hang out and his answer was “not this weekend. Maybe next weekend.” That answer sounds very lukewarm to me. We have not made any plans to hang out again. He still is the first to text me every day. Is it ok for me to ask if he still has an interest in seeing me or is that too clingy? Should I wait to see if we plan anything next week?

Oh interesting, thanks for your honest answer. It makes me understand celebrity crushes better and how other people may experience them too January 26, 2023 at 11:37PM

I asked one of my male ace friends about this once and, in short, he said that there's a really big assumption from other people that he's just lying, or failing to perform his gender properly, or homosexual, or actively "punishing" a potential partner. I think that's fairly unique in some ways compared to women. From what I can tell, women still have to deal with "you're just lying", but there's an added "you're being selfish"/"Well, I can change that". It's almost as if with women, there's an assumption that she's just playing hard to get, or is refusing to provide sex (which is apparently a bad thing to some people), while with men there's an assumption that the lack of sexual attraction also removes his gender, or makes him unjust. What I find interesting, as someone who is agender, is the way non binary people are treated. Now, a lot of it will still match up with someone's assigned gender, but...

not increase wages beyond the heightened cost of living in any area outside of the middle of nowhere Very likely a consequence of them not allowing much of any immigration. Everyone talks about the "downsides of immigration" but few talk about the real and observed downsides of not allowing it. Immigrants due to increased propensity to take risks, diverse perspectives, and self-selection are more likely to start a successful business and drive innovation. January 26, 2023 at 11:31PM