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Tell me your "strange" goals

Yesterday I got a yoga focused sports bra, that makes me feel sexy but also a little gross. (It exposes my back and stomach, which I feel insecure about but also highlights my tattoo.) It's my goal to feel comfortable wearing that and high waisted pants at a flow yoga class. I hope to either lose the fat, or to just feel powerful in my body enough to get over it! So what's your specific, personal goal? I need some more inspiration to keep me going when I want to nap.

Do you have to include “does anybody object?”

The woman at the town hall says it must be said to perform a “full” ceremony. I live in NY and the past three weddings I’ve been to I don’t remember hearing he question asked. I can’t find an easy answer if it need to be said to make it official, but some people online have said that it is legally required in some states? Submitted May 02, 2019 at 11:00PM The woman at the town hall says it must be said to perform a “full” ceremony. I live in NY and the past three weddings I’ve been to I don’t remember hearing he question asked. I can’t find an easy answer if it need to be said to make it official, but some people online have said that it is legally required in some states?

Does my husband even like me???

Background: My husband and I have been together for 18 years. We got together right after high school. Within the last year, we have grown apart. We talk on the phone in the morning when hes off to work. If I dont call him, we wont talk. He is very negative. Everything in life is shit to him. I try to be positive and then he will call me stupid. I strive to do better so we can have a better life together. If I get upset it's my fault. It's my fault that I made him mad. I made him call me names or punch the wall. I asked to talk. He got angry again. I tried to say if you loved me you wouldn't talk to me like that. Even when I am mad I never call him names. I never get violent. I honestly dont think he loves me. I think he hates me. I am not sure what to do. Submitted May 03, 2019 at 12:01AM Background: My husband and I have been together for 18 years. We got together right after high school.Within the last year, we have grown apart. We talk on the phone in the m...

Was he bi curious, was it really for the money? Help.

when i (currently 25F)began to date my bf (now husband (27M). I told him loyalty and trust are my main concern in relationships. I was bi curious at the time i met him (2015). I was about 22 then. My parents were always strict when it came to curfews and having sleep overs so i was never able to experiment before that age. My mom would also look into whom i was texting and whatnot. i made him aware that wether in a relationship or not id be also trying to experiment. in the those times i also felt like he wasn’t trying to focus on himself to do better so id break up so he could focus on himself and bettering himself. I mean i get my logic was weird at that time. I hooked up with men/women when we weren’t in a relationship in which i was honest to him about whenever he’d ask where id be or whatever question even though we weren’t together. I use to belittle him when we were bf and gf bc of his alcohol and no motivation (which i understand now it wasn’t the right approach). He always cl...

Question about ceremony for giving new wedding rings

My husband and I have been married for 11 years. He lost his wedding ring some years back. I haven’t been wearing mine for several years either because 1)I gained weight and they didn’t fit and 2) now that I’ve lost the weight they fit, but I’m allergic to one of the metals in them so I get wedding ring rash from them. So we found these silicone Qalo rings that we’d like to start wearing, but I was looking for some kind of short and sweet ceremony or just words we could say to each other. We definitely don’t want to renew vows yet, but still want to make the ring exchange special. Any ideas? Submitted May 03, 2019 at 01:56AM My husband and I have been married for 11 years. He lost his wedding ring some years back. I haven’t been wearing mine for several years either because 1)I gained weight and they didn’t fit and 2) now that I’ve lost the weight they fit, but I’m allergic to one of the metals in them so I get wedding ring rash from them. So we found these silicone Qalo rings t...

Today has been a difficult day for me. My company put me on a performance plan today and I told my wife this who doesn't work but takes care of our 4 children. So today I bought hockey tickets to take my two older kids to the game. I asked my wife if she moved the car seats out of the car.

She says " of course.. I do everything around here and you do nothing.". I was fuming but kept it cool and said "whatever I do stuff do." But then she kept attacking me and belittling me. This of course is front of our kids. I finally said "shut up you fat bitch.". She then told the kids they can't go to the game with me. Anyway I didn't say nothing and went upstairs to cool off. I'm the bread winner and today is a beyond stressful day and she still makes me feel like an awful man. What I said was evil but I will not apologize. Whenever I'm down she makes me feel worst. I'm sick of her. Our kids are 7,6, 2 and 3 months. I'm under a lot of pressure and really was looking forward to the hockey game to get my mind of off things. New to this sub and I'm sorry I'm posting such negativity but would appreciate any input. We have been married 9 years. Submitted May 03, 2019 at 03:03AM She says " of course.. I do everythi...

Is he cheating on me?

My husband and I have been married for two years and have an 11 month old son. Our marriage overall has been amazing, I love my husband very much but it’s really starting to look like he’s cheating on me. We moved away from my family right before we got married and lived in his hometown for almost two years, I was miserable the whole time but we were broke and couldn’t move. Shortly after my son was born I found Ashley Madison on his frequented websites. I kind of brushed it off (we use kissanime and they often have Ashely Madison pop ups) but I just felt like he was lying to me and never really forgave him. When we were first dating I found out about him using Facebook to add pretty girls so he could jerk off to their pictures, message women and send nudes back and forth (he said he did this before we got together). We had just started getting serious so I asked him to deactivate it and he did, I checked his phone and that profile never showed up on a search. A few days ago that Face...

Grief, the third wheel of our marriage

We found out earlier this year that my dad had an aggressive cancer with no treatment options. My now husband and I (both in our early thirties) decided to move up our wedding and got married 5 weeks before my dad passed away. He was my rock through the ups and downs of my dad’s illness, as well as the rollercoaster that came with throwing (what turned out to be a beautiful wedding) in just a few weeks. I’ll be forever grateful to him that he understood without explanation how important it was to have my dad celebrate with us. It’s been just over a month since dad passed, and the grief is just as intense (if not more so). Through shit luck, I knew to expect this because I lost my mom a few years ago (before my husband and I met). The pain really settles in when everyone has gone back to their lives and you’re trying to, only there’s a huge hole. It’s awful and terrible but I’m riding the waves of grief and getting back into work and daily life. Basically I have periods of intense pai...

Why is the first year the hardest?

Married couples of reddit, I often read about how the first year of marriage is the hardest...... why? I honestly cannot wait to get past the wedding planning stage so we can move on with our lives and enjoy all of our free time doing the things we love again. Is the first year difficult because there is no wedding to look forward to? Money? Failed expectations? Tell me everything! Submitted May 03, 2019 at 04:48AM Married couples of reddit, I often read about how the first year of marriage is the hardest...... why?I honestly cannot wait to get past the wedding planning stage so we can move on with our lives and enjoy all of our free time doing the things we love again.Is the first year difficult because there is no wedding to look forward to? Money? Failed expectations? Tell me everything!

Minnesota Governor Signs Bill To Make Marital Rape Illegal

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Please stop with this

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If only Lindsay Lohan had dated more nice guys

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One last thing [Update]

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Guy I met once years ago went to prison for beating up a cab driver and now won't date me now because I don't own a home :(

http://bit.ly/2DWMaJN Submitted May 03, 2019 at 02:42AM http://bit.ly/2DWMaJN

My friend is grey. A dude we went to middle school with asked her on a date a while back, she said no. Now this happens. [DISCLAIMER: he doesn’t claim to be nice here... but if it’s not obvious from this, trust me, he’s a NiceGuy]

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Tipping Fedoras since before it was cool, why does the bot keep calling my titles unoriginal they are so dope

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These comments on a lady’s post about her abusive bf is downright disgusting

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My first post ever! Just saw this shit on a sugar baby dating site immediately after joining 🤦🏽‍♀️ already deleted my account lol

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My friend on PlayStation just got dumped

http://bit.ly/2WmqnSO Submitted May 03, 2019 at 04:25AM http://bit.ly/2WmqnSO

Ladies...If you want to be treated with respect and appreciated, you MUST contact this particular dude (according to his Ok Cupid Profile).

http://bit.ly/2DFJRKT Submitted May 03, 2019 at 04:26AM http://bit.ly/2DFJRKT

Twitter Isn't Safe From "Nice Guys"

http://bit.ly/2WmpRUS Submitted May 03, 2019 at 04:41AM http://bit.ly/2WmpRUS

Can I just fuck an obese girl because no one else will touch me?

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I lent money to this guy I thought was my friend, then tried to get him to pay me back after he sent me a video of him jerking off. He still thinks he has a chance...

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The comment hurts me

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Respect whamen..

http://bit.ly/2Wmqeie Submitted May 03, 2019 at 05:23AM http://bit.ly/2Wmqeie

Remember me? Ye well i apparently didn’t block him on my secondary acc... link in the comments to the last post

http://bit.ly/2DHbWkL Submitted May 03, 2019 at 05:29AM http://bit.ly/2DHbWkL

Translation: I’m loyal to my gf. I’m sweet to my gf. I love my gf. Too bad I don’t have a gf

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Nearly had a chance & he blew it

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Literally asked to be featured #niceguys

http://bit.ly/2WmpF86 Submitted May 03, 2019 at 06:03AM http://bit.ly/2WmpF86

POF Nice Guy

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Is getting a girlfriend really not the solution to your loneliness?

Why do people say this? Like if it's true, what makes this true? Like why doesn't having a girlfriend truly alleviate your loneliness? And why doesn't it make you happy better yet? I've seen people saying you got to be happy first before you get into relationship. Also, if other people say the reason they have a girlfriend is to make them happy while others contradict this statement, then what is the reason to get a girlfriend? Why should you have another individual in your everyday life if it makes your loneliness worse? I mean aren't most relationships gonna fail? It's not like you date that girl and then you end up marrying. I've seen people break up with GF even after 5 good years. Submitted May 03, 2019 at 03:09AM Why do people say this? Like if it's true, what makes this true? Like why doesn't having a girlfriend truly alleviate your loneliness? And why doesn't it make you happy better yet? I've seen people saying you got to be ...

Grilled on "why" I was still a virgin at 28 today, feel like giving up.

I'm so sick of having to answer the same questions, get the same shocked looks, see the interest fade away slowly. This time I thought great hes muslim like me AND he even asked while we were texting so I thought PERFECT it wont come up in conversation. But nope, not only did it come up, I felt like I was being grilled! The questions/remarks I got: - Why are you virgin? - But you go clubbing? But you drink? (yes I have a social life, and no clubbing doesn't=sex) - So when you were dating you never got the urge? - I'm surprised a guy dated you for 3 months without having sex (thanks, claimed that was a bad joke) -Tell me your entire dating history (like legit said start with your first then goes here I'll go first ugh, I lied too said longest I dated someone was 8 months, didnt want to say the truth was 3 lol) - What about your friends? What about your sisters? (are you kidding me are you really asking if my friends and sisters are virgins too?!) - So when you s...

I (22m) can’t really figure out if this girl (23f) is into me or not?

So I didn’t wanna post this here really but tried a few other places and haven’t got much feedback. So I’ve (22m) started talking to this new girl (23) recently. I’ve known her for a while and saw her at parties here and there but she had a bf even at the time and even though I flirted w her it was done innocently so. Come to find out her and her bf have broken up. I sent her a DM a few days ago, chatted for a bit, then a day or two later got her snap. It took about 2 hours from the time I got her snap for her to come pick me up and take me back to her place. We were smoking and shit and I felt like she wanted to get w me because she came and picked me up but I felt like she wasn’t trying to sit on the same couch as me and this or that so I didn’t really make a move bc I didn’t really have an opportunity. We’ve hung out twice since then but the guest has driven themselves in both cases lmao. I guess I’m thinking that she’s not really into me and just wants to get stoned with me but I...

How do casual sex relationships get arranged?

In the case you barely know the person you're interested on, do you have to take the time to know a lot about them? Like by going on dates and stuff? I don't seem to understand this type of relationships, like how many trust is too many trust or how straightforward must you be at first. Should you keep your interest of a casual relationship to yourself until you first have sex or what? So many questions Submitted May 03, 2019 at 04:05AM In the case you barely know the person you're interested on, do you have to take the time to know a lot about them? Like by going on dates and stuff? I don't seem to understand this type of relationships, like how many trust is too many trust or how straightforward must you be at first. Should you keep your interest of a casual relationship to yourself until you first have sex or what? So many questions

My ex messaged me a link to Don't Look back in Anger by Oasis.

It was a few months after we broke off and we were sending song recommendations to each other prior. I seenzoned her message with the song cause I wanted to move on, but since it's puzzled for some reason, mostly the song choice. Am I looking in too deep in this or does it mean something? Submitted May 03, 2019 at 04:15AM It was a few months after we broke off and we were sending song recommendations to each other prior. I seenzoned her message with the song cause I wanted to move on, but since it's puzzled for some reason, mostly the song choice. Am I looking in too deep in this or does it mean something?

My crush sent me a text, and I’m not sure what to do now

Hi all, For a while now I’ve been getting to know a friend of mine and she’s developed into someone I really care a lot for and find myself being happy around. A while ago, her friends told her that I was planning on asking her to a date to which she was very stressed and was placed in a truly awful situation and told me “I’m not sure if I’m ready for a relationship right now” Many other times since then her friends have said she sees me only as a friend, but I’ve never actually told her myself. I know she knows I liked her because I’m pretty obvious but I’ve never told her myself. And I was going to muster up the confidence to tell her once and for all how I feel. However, this week she got in a huge fight with one of her best friends so I’ve been there for her and she sends me something like this: “I really appreciate having you as a friend and I really appreciate of all your support. You are one of the only people I can count on right now and that means everything to me. Goodni...

This subreddit should be renamed “r/how_to_deal_with_rejection_advice”

Basically every top post on here says the same thing lately. “If they were interested, they would make time for you.” “Don’t waste time on someone who doesn’t make time for you.” I think it would be good to discuss why people get ghosted/ignored in the first place instead of just rehashing this obvious point again and again. Submitted May 03, 2019 at 04:25AM Basically every top post on here says the same thing lately.“If they were interested, they would make time for you.”“Don’t waste time on someone who doesn’t make time for you.”I think it would be good to discuss why people get ghosted/ignored in the first place instead of just rehashing this obvious point again and again.

I feel so disconnected and unmotivated to date. No one is good enough, my standards are too high, but lowering them seems like my best option if I ever want someone.

I left my ex last month because he was sexting another girl I found out, then dated a new guy for 3 wks and he turned out to be superficial and told me the hair on my forearms weren't his favorite and basically asked me to shave it off, so I left him because eff that. I leave everyone. Why can't people just treat me like how I deserve to be treated? I want love, respect, hugs, kisses, compliments, stability, security, someone with a goddamn job, someone who is interested and invested in me. That is all. I'm tired of people using me for my money (my ex) . I'm tired of people never living up to my expectations and then I look like the bad guy because my standards are high and I leave everyone. It sucks knowing what you deserve. It's easier to just suck it up and be treated like shit...but I want what I want. I'm talking to my ex again and he just reminds me if everything I didnt want and why I left. But just having him gives me comfort. I love him. I just wish he...

So long story short, i got this girls snapchat because she’s basically into me (Found out from a friend and she gives all the signs away), but she texts one to two word responses. Wtf do I do?

No text found Submitted May 03, 2019 at 04:31AM No text found

I really like this girl and we have a great connection; however, she is giving me mixed signals.

Okay, so I am not the person who talks during school, especially during class; however, I’ve liked this girl for about 4 months now and she has been the highlight of my day. She has made me into a better and more confident person. I see her everyday when we go to school and I sit in front of her during our math period. I ask about her favorite music and have even asked for suggestions too. I ask about her day, her favorite hobbies, ect. just to get to know her more. She has started to tease me a little bit, and laugh at the most dumbest comments I make. I feel like we have gotten closer and she even waits for me to walk with her after class is over (which used to never happen). I catch her looking at me in class and she gets red when I talk to her. Over the past four months I have learned more about this girl and I have fallen for her even more. She’s starting to make more eye contact with me when I talk to her and I see her smile every time I look at her (which makes my knees nearly ...

I degrade myself and tell myself I'm not good enough for any girls I become attracted to

I'm 19m I've been in only 1 relationship and it was the worst year of my life. My confidence is pretty low and if I'm not getting rejected then its me telling myself to not even bother or it won't work,or you won't make her happy. I do this to myself subconsciously. I would love to date but I can't even get to the first part and ask a girl out. Submitted May 03, 2019 at 04:56AM I'm 19m I've been in only 1 relationship and it was the worst year of my life. My confidence is pretty low and if I'm not getting rejected then its me telling myself to not even bother or it won't work,or you won't make her happy. I do this to myself subconsciously. I would love to date but I can't even get to the first part and ask a girl out.

one of my friends [22M] likes me, [19F] but I like his friend [20M]

so my coworkers are also my friends as the place we work at is very close knit. one of my friends, i’ll call him jake, likes me (he doesn’t know that I know this) and is planning to ask me out. I told other coworkers that I think jake is cute (because they asked me, and I do think he’s cute, but I feel no attraction to him & solely want to be friends) but they relayed the message onto him, not realizing that i don’t like him in that way. now, im stuck in a situation where he’s trying to ask me out... but I like his friend (also a coworker.) and have been planning to ask his friend out for a while now. if i ask jakes friend out, does that make me a jerk? also, any tips for letting jake down lightly? I really do feel terrible letting him down, and wanna be good friends with him; he’s a great person, but I can’t force feelings I don’t have. Submitted May 03, 2019 at 05:00AM so my coworkers are also my friends as the place we work at is very close knit. one of my friends, i’ll c...

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🌹🌹🌹 सुप्रभात🌹🌹🌹 आदमी इस पृथ्वी पर अकेला पाखंडी है। बाकी सब सहज सरल हैं। जैसा है वैसा ही है। ज्यूँ का त्यूँ ठहराया। सब वैसे ही का वैसा ठहरा है। पीपल पीपल है, नीम नीम है, आम आम है। सब वैसा—का—वैसा ठहरा है, सिर्फ आदमी डाँवाँडोल है। आदमी कुछ—का—कुछ हो जाता है। कुछ भीतर, बाहर कुछ। कुछ कहता, कुछ करता। कुछ हिसाब ही नहीं है। न—मालूम कितनी पर्तें—दर—पर्तें हैं। न—मालूम कितना पाखंड है। धीरे—धीरे याद ही नहीं रह जाती कि मैं कौन हूँ—इतने नकाब लगा देता है, इतने मुखौटे ओढ़ लेता है, पहचान ही भूल जाती है कि मेरा असली चेहरा क्या है? और यह होगा ही, जब तक तुम जीवन के इस परम नियम को न समझ लोगे । 🌹 प्रेम को प्राथना बनाओ 🌹 www.hamaresant.com Submitted May 03, 2019 at 05:00AM 🌹🌹🌹 सुप्रभात🌹🌹🌹आदमी इस पृथ्वी पर अकेला पाखंडी है। बाकी सब सहज सरल हैं। जैसा है वैसा ही है। ज्यूँ का त्यूँ ठहराया। सब वैसे ही का वैसा ठहरा है। पीपल पीपल है, नीम नीम है, आम आम है। सब वैसा—का—वैसा ठहरा है, सिर्फ आदमी डाँवाँडोल है। आदमी कुछ—का—कुछ हो जाता है। कुछ भीतर, बाहर कुछ। कुछ कहता, कुछ करता। कुछ हिसाब ही नहीं है...

For all those who are afraid to lose somebody...this thread is for you.

To the men and women who feel like that person is out of your league...my heart goes out to you. You have a right to exist just like they do. There is no goddamn league. You and that person are equals. To the people who feel afraid of making one false step that will cause that person to disappear forever... It's okay. You will be fine. Things are nowhere near as bad as they seem. And you will be okay: with or without them. Dont try to control the outcome so much. If that person hasnt texted/called you back, chances are that just means they have a life outside of you. I'm currently going through a ton of insecurities about the woman I started dating. The number one way I can fuck it up is by forgetting that I'm human. Submitted May 03, 2019 at 05:09AM To the men and women who feel like that person is out of your league...my heart goes out to you.You have a right to exist just like they do. There is no goddamn league. You and that person are equals.To the peop...

If a guy invites me over to his apartment for a second date, does he want sex?

Hi everyone. So I (F21) met this guy (M25) on a dating app last week and we clicked right away on the app and agreed to schedule a date. We met for drinks, and in person it was even better! He is super sweet and nice which is something I am not used to from a guy, which was very refreshing. The date ended up lasting a really long time because we liked being around each other. There was no discussion of sex and he did not act sexual to me in any way. The only move he really made was just hugging me and kissing me goodbye at the end. The reason I say all of this is because he invited me to his apartment for a second date so he could cook for me. He told me what he is gonna cook, and it is something we both mentioned liking to eat on our first date. I don't know if that is a code for trying to get sexual, but with the vibe I got from him on our first date, I do not really see that happening. But still, I am worried that it will happen, and because I'm starting to really like him,...

I can't figure out how to talk to this one girm I really like

So I like this girl in one of my classes and I know she likes be back, or at least is very interested in me because all she does is look at me (in class, passing period, library, etc.). The thing is, it's been almost the entire year where we just stare at each other from across the room and I 've had very minimal conversation with her, and now there's only 2 weeks of school left till finals. I don't know how she's still interested in me considering we both were waiting for one of us to make a move. But the point is, I need to something because I think this has been the first time my crush has liked me back. I was able to talk to girls without a problem last year, but I don't know what happened this year. And it's a perfect situation right now tol because she's sitting two seats away from me. I just really don't know what to do and I really need help. Edit: I'm a 16 M and I'm pretty sure she's 15 F Submitted May 03, 2019 at 06:08AM ...

should it be like this??!?

Not to long ago, about 5 days ago me and the guy that i’ve been talking to both came out and said we like each other. We both weren’t sure if either of us had the same feelings, but it worked out we both are into each other i suppose… tell me this, if a guy tells you he likes you shouldn’t he be more interested in texting you more, planning out hang outs or just wanting to see you more than you did before ?? yes, i mean i can do the same, which i have but i feel like it’s coming off to clingy and maybe annoying and just really making me doubt there’s really anything there with me and him honestly but it’s so confusing if we already know we like each other Submitted May 03, 2019 at 06:12AM Not to long ago, about 5 days ago me and the guy that i’ve been talking to both came out and said we like each other. We both weren’t sure if either of us had the same feelings, but it worked out we both are into each other i suppose…tell me this, if a guy tells you he likes you shouldn’t he ...

Is there any point in me (25M) apologizing (27F) to her?

So I met this girl off Coffee Meets Bagel last Friday, and we agreed to see The Avengers, and get dinner. Overall I think there was some chemistry and she seemed like a cool person. I told her this, ad she said I was cool too, and we agreed to try and make plans before she goes off to Mexico next week. This is where things got awkward, and I think I made a mistake. I tried to kiss her. She ended up cheeking me. Meaning I went for the lips and she turned away so my lips ended up on her cheek. I thought about apologizing,but thought that would make things worse. The next day I texted her and said it was great meeting her. She said same and that she had a wonderful time. Ok I thought to myself, maybe I didn't completely blow it. Then yesterday I reached out and asked her if she was still free this Sunday. She said she had volleyball tournament, but asked how I was doing? Ok she's busy, but asking how I'm doing seems like a way to express interest. Right? I told her I was d...

Getting back with ex, advise

So, basically we broke up due to several problems, money and third party influences, not with each other. We loved each other and had plans together, but it just wasn't the right time to keep the relation together. We decided to try and solve things alone. Does anyone have any experience in getting back with an ex after some time? Is it at all possible or even advisable? Is there such a thing as the wrong moment for the right relation? Submitted May 03, 2019 at 06:41AM So, basically we broke up due to several problems, money and third party influences, not with each other. We loved each other and had plans together, but it just wasn't the right time to keep the relation together. We decided to try and solve things alone. Does anyone have any experience in getting back with an ex after some time? Is it at all possible or even advisable? Is there such a thing as the wrong moment for the right relation?

Does anyone feel undeserving of a relationship because they're not attractive?

As a woman, its hard to not feel like your attractiveness is the only thing that matters. If I were a guy and making a post about how I feel unattractive and this girl is out of my league, everyone would encourage me to go for her and that leagues don't matter though. As a girl though, no one gives me that advice. Everywhere its portrayed of the awkward ugly guy getting the hot girl and all of that. As a below average girl though, you're mostly ignored. I go through the Tinder threads and every time the guy says he wants to get serious, it's because the girl's hot. The first thing he mentions is always how gorgeous the girl is. Honestly, like I'm trying to become more attractive and all that right now but it still feels hopeless a lot. Submitted May 03, 2019 at 07:06AM As a woman, its hard to not feel like your attractiveness is the only thing that matters. If I were a guy and making a post about how I feel unattractive and this girl is out of my league, ever...

/u/betterinfiction1 on Name some in the comments! Nikola Tesla was an erased aro/ace

He had another video interview after season 1 (I think) where he said something along the lines "sure I'd like to see him asexual and I'm sure a lot of people would. But a lot of people want him in a relationship too so that is something we have to explore and talk about." so that made me lose hope in him a smidge. Edit: found it https://youtu.be/yxIAqfKrxa4 He also says that this is a whole new Jughead so while there needs to be representation that needs to be considered too. May 03, 2019 at 06:36AM

/u/pridren on Poll: How many of us have been "the one that got away?"

True. Maybe I just keep attracting that type somehow-- I just wondered if maybe that "untouchable" vibe draws certain people in rather than keeps them away. May 03, 2019 at 06:33AM

/u/PushIt2thePop on Name some in the comments! Nikola Tesla was an erased aro/ace

Cole Sprouse did say before the first season aired that he would like to see Jughead’s character be represented as ace. It seems the writers steamrolled this. May 03, 2019 at 06:32AM

/u/DragonsAndKittens on Poll: How many of us have been "the one that got away?"

Guys flirt with me sometimes. I’m pretty sure they were trying to prank me because I’m ugly, but if that was genuine flirting then I guess I can say that they went through some pain. Especially when I gave a group of some of those guys a piece of paper telling them to leave me alone. It happened to my friend too, and she’s the quiet one who feels invisible. Maybe those guys were just horny and desperate. May 03, 2019 at 06:32AM

/u/bayroan on Poll: How many of us have been "the one that got away?"

I don't think this depends on the person you are so much as it depends on the person crushing on you. If they're the type to romanticize or dramatize their life story, or the type to pine for someone for a long time, or to fantasize about someone, etc. May 03, 2019 at 06:30AM

/u/Flowonbyboats on So that's why they call them cougars... (Sent to me by a friend who knows I'm Ace)

did anyone else automatically have this playing in their head when they read run https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eTMb2UkW4xY May 03, 2019 at 06:24AM

/u/IndifferentBeat on Name some in the comments! Nikola Tesla was an erased aro/ace

I agree 100% ​ (Even tho I still secretly headcannon every single person I like as ace. Ace, until proven allo... or even if proven allo) May 03, 2019 at 06:21AM

/u/betterinfiction1 on Name some in the comments! Nikola Tesla was an erased aro/ace

Unfortunately it seems unlikely that he will never be Ace on the TV show which is a bummer. One can hope though. May 03, 2019 at 06:17AM

/u/HavePlushieWillTalk on How to express appreciation of physical characteristics

I dunno, look, some aces can look at a person and go 'nice assembly' and I am sitting here like 'I like the part of your face that's covered in skin..?' She might be like me. Stuff I notice: you smell clean, that's good shit, yo. That shirt has the right number of holes (so it works for a new or distressed shirt). You look comfortable (comfort is underrated, I like it). Your hair was... combed? Good? Like, the stuff that says you're taking care of yourself and happy. ​ It's completely logical for you to feel concerned that you don't seem to be appreciated as you expect to be. That's something for you to work through, talk to her about it, and rearrange your expectations. If she can consciously think of saying nice things about you and says them, that is good even if it's not 'banging footwear choice today, friendo' [idfk what people say]. She might be thinking things like 'You're wearing an acceptable amount of deodorant an...

/u/gamerpisces on Stuff allos do or like that I don’t understand

This is a thing that is also deeply rooted in "woman are possessions" and misogyny over hundreds and hundreds of years. It's a deep complicated net of garbage. Woman are not allowed to be sexually active with more than one man because masculine insecurities and I guess to be sure that she is not having someone else's child and stuff. Also might be that if someone is a voegin they have no prior sexual experience so the other party need not feel inferior because they know that the virgin has no one to compare to. They will also not develop a feel for what is safe/right to do to someone else while having sex or not or develop sexual preferences. Neither virginity-glorification nor virginity-shaming should exist. I really believe that your views on virginity overall are strongly influenced by society and culture. A way to have sexual fantasies realized I guess? Or like foreplay or something. Like reading smut or watching porn, but you can yourself actually have an i...

/u/PodkayneRules on My husband decided he was ready to wear an ace ring, so I made him one!

He actually wears it with the knot side facing inward, so it's just a plain black leather band. It lays much more flat than it looks, and it will hopefully only get softer and more form-fitting/personally-conformed to his finger over time. I have a matching one in dark brown leather (since I'm not actually ace - though I do have a cheap ace ring I picked up that the mall I occasionally wear) May 03, 2019 at 06:00AM

/u/atomicsoar on Name some in the comments! Nikola Tesla was an erased aro/ace

I heard from my latin prof that he may have been gay(ish?), I can't remember the name of this other guy but they had a "very close correspondence and relationship" throughout most of their lives. The other guy was also some sort of mathematician or physicist. May 03, 2019 at 05:53AM

/u/anonymousposter357 on Does anyone else struggle with not knowing whether or not you like a friend as a friend or in a more romantic way?

It sounds like you maybe want a QPR ? I dunno. May 03, 2019 at 05:52AM

/u/Ruruskadoo on Name some in the comments! Nikola Tesla was an erased aro/ace

On the one hand I'd love some historical representation, but on the other I don't really like applying labels to others when we don't personally know how they really felt. It's one thing if there's decent recorded evidence that they wrote/spoke to others about not having sexual/romantic desires, but it's another to see that they didn't have partners and extrapolate from there. They're dead so it doesn't really matter, but I don't really want to assume just because I want it to be true and it would be nice representation. I don't like to assume ace and ask questions later just like I don't like how online it'll be like literally any historical figure who didn't have any known partners of the opposite sex: existed the internet: "Definitely 100% gay there are literally no other possible reasons this could be the case" :( It's not that they weren't , they very well could have been, it's just that there coul...

/u/gamerpisces on What is a squish?

A squish is a "friend crush" or "platonic crush". A squish is by nature platonic. Now as to how a squish manifests this differs from person to person. For me personally my squishes seem to be very similar to how a lot people experience a crush, except I know that my feelings are not romantic in nature. I want to interact a lot with said person, I want them to like me, I think about them and I want to display affection for them of differing levels. My biggest squish us my BFF. When it comes to him I want to hang out with him and talk to him a lot and such, and I also want to tell him a lot that he is great and I love him (platonically). I also want to hug, kiss and cuddle with him because for me physical affection is not inherently romantic, it's simply one of the ways I personally display affection with really close people. I do however NOT want to date him or introduce a romantic element into our relationship, which is one of the reasons I know 100% that I h...

/u/PodkayneRules on My husband decided he was ready to wear an ace ring, so I made him one!

It's leather, I just suck at taking photos 😏 May 03, 2019 at 05:46AM

/u/Kyler112 on Do you enjoy kissing?

Kisses are nice for me as long as it's closed mouth or on like the cheek, forehead etc. Those are the best bc they express how much you care about someone easily and aren't gross May 03, 2019 at 05:44AM

/u/anonymousposter357 on I do not know if I am asexual, confused, or just have not found anyone I feel for?

You didn't give that many details, so it's hard for any of us to form an opinion as to what the answer might be. You could read the FAQ , though. May 03, 2019 at 05:43AM

/u/anonymousposter357 on How to express appreciation of physical characteristics

The issue of appearance may not really be high on her radar, but if you let her know (gently) that it's bugging you, she might be able to think of something nice to say about your appearance. May 03, 2019 at 05:40AM

/u/Tyranid_Swarmlord on I feel like most of us would be safe.

Iunno, i'd probably approach the clown and give him some garlic bread. That's the biggest 'send a message'-thing i could do honestly. Plus, Clown might be hungry. May 03, 2019 at 05:39AM

/u/anonymousposter357 on My husband decided he was ready to wear an ace ring, so I made him one!

Well, that's nice and supportive. Go you. May 03, 2019 at 05:37AM

/u/anonymousposter357 on My husband decided he was ready to wear an ace ring, so I made him one!

It looks like some kinda leather maybe? IDK. May 03, 2019 at 05:36AM

/u/jpAtmosphere on Me beginning to figure out my sexual orientation:

I'm pretty sure Brendan is pansexual as well so this works on multiple levels. Every interview I watch with him just makes me like him even more. Such a genuinely nice and likable dude. I love Panic! May 03, 2019 at 05:35AM

/u/mallyngerer on My husband decided he was ready to wear an ace ring, so I made him one!

Is it made from fabric? May 03, 2019 at 05:34AM

/u/Tyranid_Swarmlord on This is what most of us want

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I can't wait to see my girlfriend again

I miss her a lot, I always do when I haven't seen her in a while. But now that it's exam season I understand that she needs that extra free time for studying and school work. I do miss her though. Her visits are always the highlights of my week, they keep me going. I always wake up on the mornings of those days and think, 'Hell yeah, today's gonna be good." And sure there are sometimes when she can't actually make it because things come up and I have to wait longer, and I get upset, but that's only because I hype myself up so much and then have to deal with the comedown. It's worth it though, it just means I'll be even more excited when I actually do get to see her. I can't wait to hold her again, give her kisses, hold her hand, run my hand through her hair, tell her I love her. Submitted May 02, 2019 at 08:42AM I miss her a lot, I always do when I haven't seen her in a while. But now that it's exam season I understand that she ...

Help! Ifound this one story of how love is built and its like how our ancestors build beautiful temples and i lost it. Can anyone help me find the post :)

No text found Submitted May 02, 2019 at 09:00AM No text found

I love you more than anything in the world but you are not chained to me.

If along this long road we endure hardships that break your sprit. If something helps you lose your self while your with me and for some reason you need to explore. You are free, I will not force you to stay no matter how bad I want you to never leave. I love you in full. I am confident in us that if you need time to explore. If you need to take the time away from me in order to discover your self more. To dig deeper into you and wether that be with someone else or by your self I will always love you. In truth can we stop loving someone. I will let you soar. I will let you be free and discover every aspect of your emotions. Let you find what makes you happy. What makes you become more you. If our love is true. Our love will prevail and find one another. Our love will always come back. I will not fight you on this. I will not encourage you to stay even if it causes me suffering. I will be patient because love is patient. You are to leave and find what you need. Just remember I will lo...

Some cliche love story

[STORYTIME LOL] my enemy.. who turned into my bestfriend.. turned into my lover.. sounds SO cliche right? It might sound cringey but, it really did happen to me So back in eigth grade, I really hated this guy named Lucas (not his real name), we were in the same volleyball team (except he was on the men's volleyball team duh), so we trained together alot. He would always bug me, annoy me, and would start crying over petty stuff. The feeling was mutual, because it was evident that he hated me too. So we basically shaded each other for like six months. Adding fuel to the fire, our teammates would ALWAYS tease us to each other. I felt so disgusted. Fast forward to sports week, I was having alot of problems back around that time, my grandmother was very ill, I was very ill (I was in and out of the hospital) and to top things off my guy bestfriend had left me. His reason? That I was a jealous freak. (This is another story LMFAO). So, I was lonely at that time. I went to the cafeteria...

I am so proud of my girlfriend!

She's been singing as a hobby for 10 years and now she's going to have a professional music video! Her singing group won a competition and that's the prize. I can't express how much I love this girl. Everyone's been bashing her for her dream to be a singer, saying there's no bread in that (her dad especially). She told me I'm the only one who believes in her and that's all that mattered to her. Now I'm beyond happy! We've been together for over 2 years now and she keeps inspiring me every day! ​ My dream is to be a filmmaker and her successes make it easier to believe in this dream. Submitted May 02, 2019 at 04:03PM She's been singing as a hobby for 10 years and now she's going to have a professional music video! Her singing group won a competition and that's the prize. I can't express how much I love this girl. Everyone's been bashing her for her dream to be a singer, saying there's no bread in that (her dad espe...

Commitment

So I don't know how it's gonna sound to you people out there (especially girls) but what I wanna ask is do girls think about having a future with their bf/gf ? I always fall in love with a girl keeping one thing in mind that I want to marry her in The future, I have been in a relationship with a girl before and she proposed me to marry her but I told her that she'd have to wait for a couple of years because I have to complete my studies and she agreed but as we progressed through our relationship we fought on useless topics such as what friends she should be with (because her friends (guy friends) texted her really pervert sounding texts and I did not like them...was I wrong to do so?? Cuz she lashed back at me saying " that's how they are "...but I did not like them sending those kind of messages to her)...second was the kind of clothes she was wearing, she deliberately wore short clothes which were revealing...and she has the freedom to wear whatever she wa...

April showers

Bring may flowers We have seen rain before But if...Sunday morning, lets that sun in What are we waiting for Love leaves an open door Submitted May 02, 2019 at 05:39PM Bring may flowersWe have seen rain beforeBut if...Sunday morning, lets that sun inWhat are we waiting forLove leaves an open door

If you guys mind a story here's one..

I'm in highschool and I never had any sort of sexual interaction (not even a kiss) up until X of April this year when we went on a field trip.. My two best female friends and I were siting on a bed. We were all the same age and I had a tiny crush on one of them after two years of friendship(she was a virgin as well)... We spent most of the night talking my crush was resting her head on my chest and I had my arm wrapped around her waist and the other girl was on her phone and she soon fell asleep (that was in about 2 am).. We kept talking and cuddling and soon she ended up sitting on my legs (like riding but further away from crotch).. I kept scratching her legs and she kept getting closer.. Soon I stood up and our faces were almost touching and I removed her hair from her neck and kissed it lightly several times and the kisses were moving over her jaw then cheek and finally we kissed mouth to mouth.. Soon we were both shirtless and her bra was off too and she whispered into my ear...

Getting together again

Last year on summer camp I met one girl. After a few days we were together. Everyone knew about it including my friends on the same camp, and family. We broke up after 2 months, because we were in different schools and our feelings weren't so strong as at the begining. We decided to end this relationship. After a month we started talking again and until now our relations are really good again. In July I'm going on the same camp again with same friends and she is also going the be there. And here is my question: What do you think about getting toghether again? After the summer break we might go to the same high school, so there propably won't be the same problem as before. Submitted May 02, 2019 at 07:43PM Last year on summer camp I met one girl. After a few days we were together. Everyone knew about it including my friends on the same camp, and family. We broke up after 2 months, because we were in different schools and our feelings weren't so strong as at the b...

I love my girlfriend, she's the greatest thing that ever happened to me.

Together forever, I hope all y'all redditers can find love like this some day :) Submitted May 02, 2019 at 08:13PM Together forever, I hope all y'all redditers can find love like this some day :)

And here is the rest of the story.. For now

We went to the bathroom and we agreed we have to tell the girl that was sleeping what happened and we went back out there and waited for her to wake up.. and that happened surprisingly soon after we came out. She said the air was stale, opened the window and said she couldn't breathe so she woke up. That morning me and my crush couldn't find courage to talk to her so that day went on mostly in silence (and that was the last day of the field trip) In the bus we were sitting apart and when we came back to the city we were in to much of a hurry for anything.. even for good-byes. The day after we agreed to talk to our friend about what happened while she was sleeping and we told her just about everything(In group chat on IG since we were too embarrassed to talk about it face to face with her).. Surprisingly she was not angry or shocked but rather happy for us! But she threw the worst possible question at us "What are you now" and in hopes of dismissing the question I ju...