As a now 21y.o who had (and still has) these exact insecurities, here's my take on it: You are the #1 person to care about in your life. Your boundaries are established with only yourself in mind and should be respected. Cross the line = get shot (figuratively) Being ace really feels intimidating, but don't see it like ace vs. allo . It's more like ace & gays & lesbians & bisexuals & heteros & pans & omnis (so on and so forth). I'll let you in on a secret: as Ace F, you can date lesbians, bisexuals, pans, omnis and heteros. Everyone has trouble dating, yet your (a)sexuality shouldn't be a reason to be ashamed. Quite the contrary: gays, lesbians and bisexuals say it openly; it makes it easier to navigate dating, people who aren't into them just walk away by themselves. Being open about who you are is the best way to date in a self-affirming way, and increases the chances of finding someone with whom you are compatible. Patience. Dat...