I’ve asked out many, but despite hygiene and appearance I’ve only been met with disgust or rudeness (girls have right to reject. I mean in the insensitivity it’s done with) At this point I am convinced women my age hate me. I understand everyone has a right to reject and no one is entitled to anything, but that still does not explain the level of hostility I get. I do my best not to be rude. I dress well, nice cologne, present myself well etc. I do everything I can even not dropping compliments. I am a genuinely sunny person and do my best to leave others smiling or laughing. Still all of my interactions with women in my age group have been negative. I mean all of them, from dating propositions, to simple conversations and even cashiers. I am at my wits end and at this point can only believe I’m just genuinely disliked or that women only my age hate me because all those either at least 7 years my senior absolutely adore me and I’m not including family. Submitted December 06, 2019 ...

I (22f) have been seeing this guy(24m) for 2 months. I am about to go back home across the country for 5 weeks for Christmas break. Me and him are exclusive but I’d like to define things more and be his girlfriend. He hasn’t brought it up though so I’m wondering if maybe he is waiting till after I get back? Things are going pretty well so I don’t see the point in waiting but I can understand why someone would want to. What do y’all think I should do? Should I bring it up before I leave on tuesday or just wait it out till I’m back in January? Submitted December 06, 2019 at 12:37AM I (22f) have been seeing this guy(24m) for 2 months. I am about to go back home across the country for 5 weeks for Christmas break. Me and him are exclusive but I’d like to define things more and be his girlfriend. He hasn’t brought it up though so I’m wondering if maybe he is waiting till after I get back? Things are going pretty well so I don’t see the point in waiting but I can understand why someone...

I met this artist at a art festival a few weeks back. We both do the same kind of art and we were talking. I also had a boyfriend at the time and we now broke up. I thought he was really cute and he gave me advice on how to get better. Since then I've initiated contact with him over social media a few times and we've had kind of short conversations. One night we were talking and it was late like 1am and when I woke up he had responded. We talked over a day ago he didnt respond to my last message. I'm not sure if he would be interested or not because he lives far away and seems invested into his work. He performs at shows and has a big one coming up for new years eve. I dont wanna make things weird by saying I like him even though we live far away the small art community we are apart of we know the same people so I dont want it to be weird in the future if he just rejects me or if if doesnt work out, but I also think hes really cool. I havent seen any indicators that hes s...

In a birds flight this is the situation. I (27M) have never had any form of a relationship. 3 dates 10 years ago with 1 women with no action is the only experience I got. Other than than some rejections. Met a women(27F) last year, got in the friend group wich rarely meets each other. But I feel really at home with them. Met her again last meetup. And decided to ask her out. She initially said yes. Got busy and had to cancel. So I asked if we she still wanted to meet. Than she came with a rather odd idea. Her brother will be soon in town. she thought I would like him to and hangout together with the 3 of us . I never met the guy. So a little flattered but conflicted I agreed. She would ask him. A day later I decided to make my mind up. I don't mind meeting with him to, but I am afraid( I know this is a no-no) that it will also limit the freedom to flirt. And that it will be so casual I will be Friendzoned. So I texted her that I don't mind meeting but my preference is to meet ...

I'm not talking about the obvious ones like seriel killer vibes, lack of clear pictures, too short/overweight ect. I'm talking about someone who seems great but they have a dog and you're a cat person. Or they watch baseball and you're a hocky fan. Silly things that really shouldn't be a big deal but they're a deal breaker for you. I'm asking because I've noticed that I'm a lot pickier than I probably should be. At my age I don't have a lot of time and don't put much effort into dating and I was curious what other people's thoughts were. Submitted December 05, 2019 at 03:15PM I'm not talking about the obvious ones like seriel killer vibes, lack of clear pictures, too short/overweight ect. I'm talking about someone who seems great but they have a dog and you're a cat person. Or they watch baseball and you're a hocky fan. Silly things that really shouldn't be a big deal but they're a deal breaker for you.I...

I just finished 5 Love Languages and I have no idea what my love language is. I can’t decide which is most important to me. Any tips on how to figure that out? Submitted December 06, 2019 at 12:01AM I just finished 5 Love Languages and I have no idea what my love language is. I can’t decide which is most important to me. Any tips on how to figure that out?

I've seen articles that discuss how to lower libido, but they discussed things like anti-depressants, exercise, higher soy content in your diet - and many of the recommendations had side effects that may be an issue with your HRT. It might be worth taking to your doctor about it. Here is one that I had read - https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.fatherly.com/love-money/sex/sexually-frustrated-men-libido/amp/ December 06, 2019 at 12:19AM

oooh yes! Just joined! December 06, 2019 at 12:18AM

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If you're ace and straight, then that generally means you're asexual hetero romantic Romanticality, for those who don't know, is who you'd date, while sexuality, of course, is who you'd get in bed with. Still very valid, i know some people dont think straces are part of LGBTQ December 06, 2019 at 12:18AM

I (23m) started some new anti depression / anxiety meds and it definitely has dropped my libido quite a bit. I’ve always had a super high sex drive and it can honestly get quite frustrating. I’ve always felt like I’m putting a lot of pressure on a partner to have sex and I don’t like that. I’ve been seeing a new girl lately and I find myself way more interested in the conversations and the time we’re spending together because I’m not constantly thinking about sex. We’ve had sex only once so far and it was amazing. I felt like I actually enjoyed it and could just let it happen! Maybe it’s the antidepressants also doing their magic, but I’m really not reliant on having sex to enjoy this new budding relationship. It’s really liberating! Has anyone else gone through this? Submitted December 05, 2019 at 11:56PM I (23m) started some new anti depression / anxiety meds and it definitely has dropped my libido quite a bit. I’ve always had a super high sex drive and it can honestly get qui...

I want to give my partner a sensual massage, but most things I would normally use for lubrication to give a great massage seem to be not ideal to get inside someone. I was hoping maybe someone in here had a suggestion? Submitted December 05, 2019 at 11:58PM I want to give my partner a sensual massage, but most things I would normally use for lubrication to give a great massage seem to be not ideal to get inside someone. I was hoping maybe someone in here had a suggestion?

I'm pretty conflicted about it. I have a thick German accent (I currently live in Scotland however) and my boyfriend does not (unsurprisinly he has a Scottish one). My accent never really came up in the beginning, but over time he began making comments about how he likes the look of nazi uniforms (which I get, a lot of people do find them aesthetically pleasing). Then one night we were watching a nazi themed movie (I've forgotten the name) which had Ralph Fiennes (probably spelt that wrong) in it and he kept going on about how 'hot he looked as a nazi'. Emphasis on the as a nazi part. It's escalated now to a point where he's wanting to roleplay this stuff in bed, which i'm not really down with... i'm a chilled person who is mostly down for whatever but I don't really want holocaust imagery flashing through my mind during sex. Is there any way I can shift this kink or whatever it's called onto something else? I'm wondering if there is a way ...

Example, for me, it's giving guy a handjob while he's lying on his back so when he cums it drips down onto my hand Yes, I'm pretty damn weird okay Submitted December 06, 2019 at 12:03AM Example, for me, it's giving guy a handjob while he's lying on his back so when he cums it drips down onto my handYes, I'm pretty damn weird okay

So my gf wanted to try anal with me and at first I was reluctant but I eventually came to the conclusion that I wanted to experience it with her. When we tried to do it we had foreplay before and I put on a condom. I used heaps of lube to the point my entire hand was covered in it and I tried to slowly push myself into her. When I was in I started slowly thrusting but she started whimpering/crying and screaming for more lube when my entire hand and dick was already covered. When I tried to get more lube i lost my erection from the mix of her whimpering and pulling out. I thought she was crying and I can’t stand to hurt her in any way possible but she said that although it hurts she still wanted to do it. So that kinda confuses me. Are there any good tips I could use for staying hard when trying to continuously put on more lube. Or for me to try and enjoy it more. btw our PIV sex is amazing so idk why I can’t do this and it’s really bothering me because I want it to work. Submit...

Hi! So I (24F) have a second date planned with a lovely guy I met online (25M), all going really well. But I’m super anxious and hung up about sex. It’s been about a year since I last slept with someone and I’ve always really really struggled with getting turned on, getting out of my head and relaxing in the moment. I like to have a real connection with someone before sleeping with them too. It’s early days ofc, but all this means I’m getting super upset and nervous at the thought of potential sex with him in the future, when I’d like to be excited thinking about it! Any advice on how (if we get to that stage), I can Communicate my fears to him without scaring him off? :) Submitted December 06, 2019 at 12:08AM Hi! So I (24F) have a second date planned with a lovely guy I met online (25M), all going really well. But I’m super anxious and hung up about sex. It’s been about a year since I last slept with someone and I’ve always really really struggled with getting turned on, gettin...

So my fiancée has never ever ever enjoyed sex and I really want to change that. She enjoys clit stimulation (but seems to stop as it becomes ‘too much’) but she doesn’t feel any pleasure at all during PIV sex (I’m slightly bigger than average so it’s not that I’m too small or anything). I’ve tried wearing cock rings etc but it ends up being a pain to try keep it on her. I’ve also tried finding her g spot but no joy! I’ve been looking at the We Vibe toys but I’ve read conflicting reviews. Also I am worried about ‘fitting in’ with it, with space in her vagina being taken up by the vibe! But the idea of her having hands free stimulation on her clit, AND maybe something on her g spot too, sounds so amazing. Is it worth it? Is the g spot part of it good? Thanks! Any other tips would be appreciated :) Submitted December 06, 2019 at 12:12AM So my fiancée has never ever ever enjoyed sex and I really want to change that. She enjoys clit stimulation (but seems to stop as it becomes ‘too...

So whenever I masturbate, I orgasm 2-4 times. After 15 min or so, I have an incessant need to pee. It takes time for the pee to come out. Submitted December 06, 2019 at 12:14AM So whenever I masturbate, I orgasm 2-4 times. After 15 min or so, I have an incessant need to pee. It takes time for the pee to come out.

So, as the title says, I'm wondering what's the best way to find/get a FWB. I feel as though this is my best option because I'm completely terrible at romantic stuff (pretty sure I'm aromatic so...) and do want sex. I've tried tinder but being a guy, my chances are less then zero, especially with being somewhat socially inept. I would try with some of my friends but I have very few female friends and half of them are lesbians. The rest are bi, so... All in all, What the best way to find a FWB because I'm bad a romantic stuff and dealing with people in general. Thank you in advance. Submitted December 06, 2019 at 12:17AM So, as the title says, I'm wondering what's the best way to find/get a FWB. I feel as though this is my best option because I'm completely terrible at romantic stuff (pretty sure I'm aromatic so...) and do want sex.I've tried tinder but being a guy, my chances are less then zero, especially with being somewhat social...

There’s some debate, apparently .., some take “straight” to mean “hetero,” but some take it to mean “heterosexual,” therefore sexual and not ace. I still think of myself as straight, too, but some people might give you grief about that. December 06, 2019 at 12:09AM

I am starting to wonder about whether all the crushes I've experienced in my life have just been squishes after all. I always kinda thought I wanted a relationship with them, but when really imagining it, it didn't really fit. This definition also fits well with how I currently feel about the guy I thought was my crush. December 06, 2019 at 12:05AM

I miss going to camp in the summer instead of having my family threaten to kick me out of the house if I don't get a summer job. December 05, 2019 at 11:52PM