You need to move the colon till after the Bi. Asexual Bi: the numbers September 24, 2020 at 11:42PM

Oh thats lovely :) I wish i knew another ace in real life...only online sadly September 24, 2020 at 11:40PM

thank you both so much❤️ September 24, 2020 at 11:40PM

I think I got a 99% once hahaha September 24, 2020 at 11:36PM

Thank you so so much, I feel way more at ease now after reading your comment! After speaking with friends and such I finally feel like my problems are valid and I don't need to figure out things 100% September 24, 2020 at 11:36PM

The masturbation and molesting part don't matter when figuring out aces, in my opinion. There are aces that do masturbate, there are some aces that were molested, same thing with anyone who isn't ace. What does matter is that you don't seem attracted to someone sexually, and are even repulsed by it. So the way you are describing it, it seems that you are asexual. Of course, it is less about the what the community thinks and more about you. I can say I relate to this as an ace, but if the term still doesn't fit that's okay. September 24, 2020 at 11:33PM

I'm not the imposter September 24, 2020 at 11:26PM

It's hard to say for sure. I'm 26 and I still ask myself that question but so far I've never really found anyone I wanted to be in a relationship with or have sex with. It could be a product of sexual trauma, it could be you're asexual. I honestly don't know if you'll figure it out for sure until you enter a relationship or if you find yourself wanting to explore your sexuality with someone. As long as you make sure your partner knows and is okay with you being asexual, you can set boundaries with them and either not have sex with them or explore what your comfortable with. I wouldn't worry too much about what to label yourself, because there's always people out there who will relate to you and whether you never have sex because you're asexual or because you're scared, it's perfectly valid. 😊 September 24, 2020 at 11:24PM

I think that's a good point. Maybe I'm just so entrenched in the ace community that I forgot that people might not be able to fully understand right away. This workshop happened a while ago so I don't remember the specifics, but I feel like the presenter would've opened with all orientations and identities not being a choice. I don't know if it was offensive per-se, but it just seemed like an odd clarification to keep making, but I also understand your point and it could be the answer. September 24, 2020 at 11:23PM

I know it might really be different from what you're experiencing, but some of what you said sounds kind of similar to my personal experience. I've never dated anyone, but I have had a couple of crushes. In theory, I want a romantic relationship, but in practice I'm not so sure. I consider myself to be aegoromantic because of this. Not sure if that helps any, but there it is. Also, if you want a partner but aren't fully on board with the romantic part, you might want to do some research on queerplatonic relationships. They're basically partnerships (they can be poly too of course) that bend the traditional rules of romance and friendship. Obviously, a QPR is pretty hard to get into, but it's something to think about. In any case, you are not broken! There are plenty of people who don't have romantic attraction/like romance and that's totally okay. Wherever you end up, I wish you the best! Good luck, friend! September 24, 2020 at 11:23PM

they sound like a tragic person regardless of their appearance. shame :( September 24, 2020 at 11:23PM

Look into the concept of "responsive desire," which is a common subtype of allosexuality. September 24, 2020 at 11:21PM

I think it’s funny that THATs the verse he uses. Yes populate the brand new earth = you must be a sexual being now September 24, 2020 at 11:21PM

It was just demisexuality that he described this way. It was a while ago so I don't remember the specifics, but I'm sure he affirmed that sexual orientations are not a choice at the beginning of the workshop, so I'm not sure why he singled out demisexuality. Maybe because it's functionally different from other sexualities in that an emotional bond needs to be made first? It just stood out to me. September 24, 2020 at 11:20PM

Awww, I love it September 24, 2020 at 11:19PM

https://web.archive.org/web/20190212070652/https://vocationnetwork.org/articles/show/49 link: September 24, 2020 at 11:14PM

I feel like it was an important clarification since so many think that being demi is a choice; like "not being willing to have sex before establishing a bond" but it's actually "literally unable to feel sexual attraction unless a bond is established" so clarifying that it's a way the brain is wired and not a social decision like so many think is important I'd say. I'm not demi either though, so I dunno if it would be offensive to one. September 24, 2020 at 11:12PM

I know this was posted three days ago but that's just some random person in their banner for some reason. if you search up their YouTube channel you'll see that they look a looot older lol. September 24, 2020 at 11:12PM

sigh Scrolls through 99 comments I don't know what this site is. Vocation network? Why does a vocation network site even have anything about sexuality on there? September 24, 2020 at 11:11PM

I think he ment the " “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth" from the bible Genesis 1:28 September 24, 2020 at 11:11PM

INTJ September 24, 2020 at 11:11PM

I work night shifts and wake up around 3pm every day. My wife usually makes herself food at around 430 and eats it at the table while i am sitting on the couch getting ready. She has never packed my lunch, which I'm not complaining im capable of doing that, but it feels wrong that she always makes food and never thinks about me. Submitted September 24, 2020 at 11:48PM I work night shifts and wake up around 3pm every day. My wife usually makes herself food at around 430 and eats it at the table while i am sitting on the couch getting ready. She has never packed my lunch, which I'm not complaining im capable of doing that, but it feels wrong that she always makes food and never thinks about me.

I'm convinced my wife is terrible at doing her equal part at keeping our house tidy and it pisses me off to the point I don't want to be there anymore. When I make I mess I clean it up. When I do more than my part of dishes, vacuuming, walking the dog, cleaning without the need for validation all the time. If I have busy day, I don't use it as an excuse to leave a mess. I'm tired of the lack of neatness and organization. It's just adds tasks to our lives that can otherwise be handled if tackled in a timely manner. A neat house is a big deal to me and I do my best to respect my space. I'm tired of feeling guilty and ashamed of bringing this up to my wife. Nothing is working and I'm done with the bullshit. You don't need a pat on the back for for taking care of your own space. It's what people are supposed to do. Also we're damn adults. Submitted September 24, 2020 at 11:55PM I'm convinced my wife is terrible at doing her equal part at