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I need your help guys

Sorry for my bad English, and this is my story : Before Valentine day, i recognized my gf not texted much. One day, she silent, and i asked her why did she do that. Did i not good to her?, or she had a new relationship with someone else? She said, i'm too good for her, and she doesn't have any new relationship. She also said, maybe we (me and her) not fit together, not suitable, and her love to me not much as before. She told me she needs space. As a well raised man, i'm accepted and respected her request and i said "you're still my gf, so text me when you totally feel good, i'll take care of you" I thought, oh my that's a breakup, and it hurt like hell. So i decided to do no contact, focus on my job, do something fun. Having fun with my friend. Forget her. Thank god. Time heals everything. I feel good day by day, not much but a little every day. After 2 week, she texted me "You don't miss me?" We had a short talk, face to face. Sh...

Huh?

Let’s say you and a group of girls met on vacation and it’s obvious that one of them likes you and you feel really confident about it. Also you know that she is single. Something to note is that you and this girl are a couple hours away in neighboring cities and y’all go to college. Towards the end, everyone exchanged social media and a couple days later, all the others (majority are taken) accept your friend request but the girl you like/likes you hasn’t accepted it. Why? Submitted March 19, 2020 at 12:05AM Let’s say you and a group of girls met on vacation and it’s obvious that one of them likes you and you feel really confident about it. Also you know that she is single. Something to note is that you and this girl are a couple hours away in neighboring cities and y’all go to college. Towards the end, everyone exchanged social media and a couple days later, all the others (majority are taken) accept your friend request but the girl you like/likes you hasn’t accepted it. Why?

I came back with my ex and he conffesed he needs time about sex. I feel guilty, what should I do?

Knew him 3yrs ago. Well, our first relationship took time to concrete. It didn't work bc I had a lot of trust problems that I dragged from pasts relationships but...we always liked each other. In that moment we had sex but it was always bad; we had no experience and I had no mental stability (had lots of guilty thoughts around sex). This time, after 1,5 year we reconnected. He ended up inviting me at his home at the second date. We "had sex" but he stopped it bc in his words "he felt tired". Okay, I believe him but still felt something weird. Thought something went wrong but end up believing it just was me and my bad thoughts. He kept sending me flirty messages and it thought everything was okay. Yesterday came up to his house again. I was giving him an oral and he didn't seem into it. (I asked him various time if he liked but he didn't looked exited). So I asked him If he felt right... He started saying that everytime we see each other he has a heavy d...

Yes location matters

In Toronto, Canada, rejections won't ever be sweet and warm like this "Oh you are such a wonderful sweet man but I'm not ready to date at the moment. However I have no doubt you will meet the love of your life very soon have a wonderful day"" In Toronto, rejections will go like this Guy - "Hi my name is..." Girl - "No I won't date you you disgusting animal!! I won't even think about dating you ever in my life. You have 3 seconds before I call for all cops within 50 miles radius" === Proof === http://imgur.com/gallery/mxKH3fn If you are in Toronto, it is not your fault rejections are painful. That simply is the way it is in Toronto I thought I was doing something wrong when I asked girls out and was rejected time after time, but other guys in Toronto told me they notice the same pattern when they were rejected. A 47 year old obese woman in Toronto told me she is hit on a few times a week. Imagine what it would be like for young...

I got a girl's number and don't know what to do

Last Saturday night I [18M] met two friends at a friend's house. We played a drinking game and my friend's sister [21F] joined us. We all had lots of fun and got pretty drunk. Before we met my friend had jokingly proposed to set me up with his sister because "she can't find a decent guy". That joke was mentioned again when we hung out but I didn't take it seriously. However, after we got drunk his sister started flirting with me, sitting next to me and incidentally touching my leg while we were talking. She then took my phone and entered her number. She has since texted me once, asking when the group would meet again, and we're probably gonna hang out this weekend. I have zero dating experience and don't have many friends, so this situation is really new to me. On one hand, I find it hard to believe she's interested in me since I'm younger and less experienced and really thin (I once heard her say she doesn't like thin guys). On the oth...

Read if you don't know what love is.

So here you are little human, why does this title got you? You're a little bit broken, aren't you? Well, I was too, I'm only writing this because I saw a post from a close person of mine that is struggling with this, she is just so unsure of how things work and so on, so, look. Love is not something that you just discover even though you can find it on your way back home, or in college or at work, love can be 2 steps away or a cople miles away, love cries, love cares, love suffers and love heals. Love is something that you're not just gonna arrive and it will be there, no, love it's something that you will have to build. and you might be questioning yourself why does everybody says that love is something that you have to build, well it's because it is different for each person it's because you have to build the love that is good for you there are many people out there calling things love when they are actually hurting people so love is not the same for eve...

She promised another guy not to have sex with me, wtf!?

So, if you want a background story it is here https://www.reddit.com/r/dating_advice/comments/fkpsdd/i_dont_understand_her/ So we went to the cinema tonight after she rejected me sexually earlier today. We spooned the entire time and she was hugging me tightly (VIP Cinema with sofas) We were clear I wanted her and I wanted to have sex with her after and she seemed to be turned on by it too. But again after the cinema she flaked on me and wanted to be dropped off at home because she was tired. So I confronted her about it in the car, because I get the feeling there is someone else in the picture. She denies everything and just says she is really tired. After I dropped her off at home we texted some, and I told her how turned on she makes me and I really want her. She confesses to me that there is another guy, and that they stopped seeing eachother one month ago after we decided to meet up and date, because she really wanted to meet me. But she promised this other guy to not have s...

Did I misread a situation with a girl I dated?

At the start of the year I (M/21) found out a friend liked me (F/21). I seen the texts she was saying about me saying that she thought I was really good looking and nice etc. We knew eachother for over a year. So I asked her out went on two dates. We kissed a few times and we all went drinking as a group as well a few times and It didn't really work out. She said she wanted to stay friends and I agreed. She's moving to Canada for the summer (I'm certain that played a factor) What didn't help was there was a lot of meddling from our friends (were all friends) Last Tuesday night her housemate took a dig at her for not having a boyfriend while the other two housemates did. Fast forward to last Wednesday night were all out drinking at a table quiz and we're getting on fine like nothing happened. So we leave the table quiz after quite a bit of drinking to go the club and it's raining. All our friends are couples so we were the only two single people there. She ha...

I’ve initiated the first two dates with him, do I initiate the third?

So I have been on two dates with this guy and so far we have hit it off. We get along really well, have similar interests, and just have so much fun laughing together and spending time together. He seems like he likes me and tells me that he finds me really interesting and he kissed me a lot on our second date too. We’ve also been messaging every day in between dates and he’s always very playful and interested in these conversations too. The thing is, I initiated the first two dates, and while he responded extremely positively the first two times, I sorta want him to be the one to ask this time....we’ve mentioned things we’d wanna do together or movies we’d wanna watch but still no mention of when. What do I do or say? Submitted March 19, 2020 at 12:15AM So I have been on two dates with this guy and so far we have hit it off. We get along really well, have similar interests, and just have so much fun laughing together and spending time together. He seems like he likes me and tel...

What day

So i just started talking to this girl and somehow managed to get an invite to her place for a movie when I'm free, should I say this weekend or tomorrow or what? Submitted March 19, 2020 at 12:23AM So i just started talking to this girl and somehow managed to get an invite to her place for a movie when I'm free, should I say this weekend or tomorrow or what?

Been seeing a girl for about 2 months, she sends heaps of crazy mixed signals

Girl I've been seeing for nearly 2 months said from the start she wasn't looking for a relationship and neither was I, we agreed that we wanted to be friends first and anything that came after would just be an added bonus. As time goes on there's a lot of things that have changed in that aspect. We've slept together, we've fought, we spend almost all our weekends together and she even admitted 5 weeks in that she loved me. There's obvious attraction, there's obvious sexual attraction too but I'm moving onto a point where I'm kinda keen to make this exclusive and I'm not sure she feels the same. There's a lot going on in her life. She still lives with her ex because he's basically leeching off her mum for free rent and makes excuses not to move out all the time. There's definitely nothing going on between her and her ex but they do have a kid together and that complicates a lot of the shit. Her reasoning for not wanting a relationshi...

I love my gf but am not physically attracted to her

tl;dr I love my gf but I’m not physically attracted to her, I admitted it last night, now we’re on a break and I’m not sure what to do. Feeling like I [30M] don’t know what to do here. Been dating my gf [29F] for about 6 months now. She is amazing, takes care of me, is cute, fun, caring, and a good person. She’s not the typical ‘type’ I’m attracted to but thought I would be open minded and give it a chance because I still found her cute and her personality rocked. A month or 2 ago I started feeling lack of sexual attraction for her but couldn’t put my finger on it. Last night it came out and I admitted to her I wasn’t physically attracted to her, and now we’re on a break. She is absolutely incredible and I’m in love with every aspect of her except when it comes to sex. What would you all do here? Is it possible to forgo the physical piece of the relationship or to work on it somehow? A fulfilling sex life is important to me but maybe I can go without it because everything else is ...

Intimacy lost with bf over Long distance relationship and coronavirus

I met my bf in this graduate program that we have both started in the last year. It is easier to go on dates and spend time with him when we are away from our homes and on-campus (obviously). He lives about 1-2 hours away from my home, where we both live with our families as we are both in our early twenties. We are realizing now with the self-isolation process and the distances how hard it is to maintain this relationship, as we haven't seen each other for a good while as we were in different locations for our co-op opportunities for our program. ​ My worry is that we may not be able to do intimate things or go on dates as we have to proceed with the regulations of self-isolation, and he is coming back from outside of the country as his co-op was international, so he will definitely have to do the 14-day self-isolation procedure. We are not sure how to proceed after everything is back to normal in terms of dating, as it is not easy to find somewhere to be intimate when our fami...

Bf (28M) expects me to make what I(22F) consider some serious sacrifices for our relationship but I feel he won't even listen to my concerns about it

We've been dating for 1 year and things are generally great with us. We get along great, have similar values, he's loving and helpful and generally supportive. Until we get to my future, where I feel we hit a wall. For some background, I'm currently finishing my uni degree and absolutely hate it. I've always wanted to do medicine but due to being silly in the past I chose not to. At the time I was dating my hs bf and he decided last minute to do uni in another country. I decided to go with him but medicine admissions had already closed so I chose what I thought would be a related degree I would be happy with. Wrong. It didn't work at all the way I expected it to and I absolutely hated my degree and my life in a new place. We broke up and I got together with my current bf. I also decided before that that I'd give my degree a chance and try finishing it out of guilt. It's now about to end and I dread it. I want to do medicine, I've always wanted to and ...

Am I weird for living with my parents at the age of 30(M)?

I'm on mobile so sorry for bad formatting and throwaway because some friends know my real account. Also, sorry if I have grammar mistakes, English is my second language. So I've lived with my parents (50 M/F) for almost my entire life (including during my undergrad) and I only ever went away for med school/residency (which I finished last year). When I was finished with residency, I moved back in with my parents and it seems like my younger brother (22M) is having some issues with that. The reason I moved back in with my parents is because it is convenient (only a 15 min walk from work) and free (I guess you can say I'm leeching off my parents here). The reason because I don't pay my parents anything is because we have a mutual agreement. I'm around 350k in debt from school and after asking my dad if it was okay, we both agreed that it would be a smart idea to pay off my debt as aggressively as possible (like 90-95% of my salary per year because we both do not li...

My friends (group of 4 20 F and 1 20 M) have sort of kicked me to the curb and I (19F) don't really know how to let go of them and move on.

I (19F) am a sophomore in college, along with these other "friends," and they have sort of been treating me like trash. In the fall, one girl (20F) , I guess sort of a major player in the group, basically stopped talking to me, looking at me, making eye contact with me, including me in conversations, and basically all standard human behaviors for no reason. I took it for a couple of months and was still nice and hung out with the group, but her treatment of me got to the point where I felt like throwing up when I was hanging out with the group and she was there. So, I sort of started distancing myself from her. Right before Thanksgiving, I figured that I should try to figure this out and I tried to talk with her so I texted her if she wanted to catch a movie, since she is never alone or separated from the group. She responded 13 hours later, when she responds to anyone else in the group within 10-15 mins and I had seen her before she responded, hanging out with the group. I ...

How do I (22F) tell my boyfriend (26M) that crying as a male is not something he has to be ashamed of?

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now, we moved in together pretty quickly (7 months after our first date) and I feel really lucky to have found him. This is his first real relationship (so he says) and he was kind of inexperienced but I never really minded. I thoght it was cute. He is working a pretty high stress job (writes software) and is usually pretty down after work. Two days ago he was lying on the couch watching tv. I sat next to him and put his head in my lap and started gently stroking his hair. He suddenly started to sob lightly. I had no idea how to react and asked what was wrong but he didn't give me an answer. Just kept crying for a few minutes then went to sleep without saying a word. In the morning he was laughing about it saying it was just a joke. I found his behaviour really irritating (the deflecting, not the crying) and I know 100% there is something deeper going on. I always knew he was prone to depression, I have never actually seen him cry but he ...

Me [30 M] with my girlfriend [26 F] 5 months, nude pics on snapchat file folder

I was asked by my new girlfriend to look at a picture on her phone. The picture was saved on a private file on snapchat. As she scrolled through the photos I saw several nude photos and videos of her and some dick picks. I, of course said "hold up what was all that?" She said it was no big deal and that she forgot all about that stuff. She said she wasn't sending out any nude pictures. However, she had saved a video from TODAY!?? tl;dr: Why am I sick with jealousy? should I just get over it or say/do something? Submitted March 19, 2020 at 12:05AM I was asked by my new girlfriend to look at a picture on her phone.The picture was saved on a private file on snapchat. As she scrolled through the photos I saw several nude photos and videos of her and some dick picks.I, of course said "hold up what was all that?"She said it was no big deal and that she forgot all about that stuff.She said she wasn't sending out any nude pictures. However, she had saved...

Did I misread the situation with girl I dated?

At the start of the year I (M/21) found out a friend liked me (F/21). I seen the texts she was saying about me saying that she thought I was really good looking and nice etc. We knew eachother for over a year. So I asked her out went on two dates. We kissed a few times and we all went drinking as a group as well a few times and It didn't really work out. She said she wanted to stay friends and I agreed. She's moving to Canada for the summer (I'm certain that played a factor) What didn't help was there was a lot of meddling from our friends (were all friends) Last Tuesday night her housemate took a dig at her for not having a boyfriend while the other two housemates did. Fast forward to last Wednesday night were all out drinking at a table quiz and we're getting on fine like nothing happened. So we leave the table quiz after quite a bit of drinking to go the club and it's raining. All our friends are couples so we were the only two single people there. She ha...

My boyfriend’s family scares me

So my (27f) boyfriend’s (28m) family is VERY different than mine. I grew up in a tight knit religious community with very strong Christian values. People don’t really have sex before marriage, children are never born out of wedlock etc. so my boyfriend who I’ve been with with four years comes from a very different family. Even though we’ve been dating for so long I really only got to know his family very well recently since we live far away from them. Anyways, both of his brothers got girls pregnant outside of marriage. His parents never went to college while my dad is a surgeon and my mom has a PHD. He has 4 half siblings because both of his parents were divorced. He has a half brother from his dad because he cheated on his mom while they were married! They lack the social etiquette that I’m used to. And countless other things that make me uncomfortable. Anyways I love my boyfriend. I think his parents are very kind people. But my parents are absolutely shocked by his life and They d...

Was that a yes or no?

Me (21m) and this girl (20f) have been getting to know each other recently, we're college mates and have been texting each other daily for almost 3 months now. I like her a lot, we had one date a couple of weeks ago and I thought it went ok..Asked her out again a few days ago, she seemed reluctant but then her response was "ok i'll let you know, I understand the idea that we need to go out to more to get to know each other better and have no problem with it" soo...was that a yes or a no to a second date? Tldr; me and girl are very close, have gone on a date and asked her out again a few days ago. Her response "ok i'll let you know, I understand the idea that we need to go out to more to get to know each other better and have no problem with it"...should I take that as a yes or a no? Submitted March 19, 2020 at 12:16AM Me (21m) and this girl (20f) have been getting to know each other recently, we're college mates and have been texting each oth...

Found a nice guy on tinder. I’m not sure why he showed up for me, my age is set to 26.

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Is this ok?

Is it acceptable to message my crush’s ex girlfriend to ask her questions about the type of person he is? (They broke up YEARS ago and she’s in a long term relationship with someone new). I feel like she’s a really nice girl & would give it to me straight (his flaws, why they broke up, etc.) because she appears to be very friendly & sweet & approachable. I just would like to know a few things before investing so much time & energy into pursuing someone new who may not even be what I’m looking for, etc. Thoughts? Advice on HOW to approach it/ask it/what specific questions to ask? I’m also going to ask her to keep it between me & her, as this guy doesn’t even know I’m crushing on him, and he may never find out depending on the answers I get from her. Submitted March 19, 2020 at 12:00AM Is it acceptable to message my crush’s ex girlfriend to ask her questions about the type of person he is? (They broke up YEARS ago and she’s in a long term relationship with som...