My boyfriend’s family scares me

So my (27f) boyfriend’s (28m) family is VERY different than mine. I grew up in a tight knit religious community with very strong Christian values. People don’t really have sex before marriage, children are never born out of wedlock etc. so my boyfriend who I’ve been with with four years comes from a very different family. Even though we’ve been dating for so long I really only got to know his family very well recently since we live far away from them. Anyways, both of his brothers got girls pregnant outside of marriage. His parents never went to college while my dad is a surgeon and my mom has a PHD. He has 4 half siblings because both of his parents were divorced. He has a half brother from his dad because he cheated on his mom while they were married! They lack the social etiquette that I’m used to. And countless other things that make me uncomfortable. Anyways I love my boyfriend. I think his parents are very kind people. But my parents are absolutely shocked by his life and They don’t even know what to make of it. They said I couldn’t have possibly picked someone from a worse family. And my mother constantly yells at me to break up with him and cries at the thought of being in laws with them. Because of this my parents hate my boyfriend too for no reason.

Even though my boyfriend comes from this crazy family we share the same values. He takes his education very seriously and I don’t really see his family reflected in him. The problem is that his family makes me very uncomfortable. ‏ it makes me very uncomfortable to think of raising my kids with cousins who were born out of wedlock and with a grandfather who cheated etc etc Because this stuff would never happen in my family. And I can’t even imagine what it’s like to grow up with this stuff In your family. Not to mention that my family hates him because of his family.

I’m honestly so overwhelmed and I don’t know how to deal with this. I want to marry him and I love him but the family problems are a really big deal to me.

TL:dr my parents hate my boyfriend’s family and him. I don’t know how to react or how to deal with his family



Submitted March 19, 2020 at 12:15AM

So my (27f) boyfriend’s (28m) family is VERY different than mine. I grew up in a tight knit religious community with very strong Christian values. People don’t really have sex before marriage, children are never born out of wedlock etc. so my boyfriend who I’ve been with with four years comes from a very different family. Even though we’ve been dating for so long I really only got to know his family very well recently since we live far away from them. Anyways, both of his brothers got girls pregnant outside of marriage. His parents never went to college while my dad is a surgeon and my mom has a PHD. He has 4 half siblings because both of his parents were divorced. He has a half brother from his dad because he cheated on his mom while they were married! They lack the social etiquette that I’m used to. And countless other things that make me uncomfortable. Anyways I love my boyfriend. I think his parents are very kind people. But my parents are absolutely shocked by his life and They don’t even know what to make of it. They said I couldn’t have possibly picked someone from a worse family. And my mother constantly yells at me to break up with him and cries at the thought of being in laws with them. Because of this my parents hate my boyfriend too for no reason.Even though my boyfriend comes from this crazy family we share the same values. He takes his education very seriously and I don’t really see his family reflected in him. The problem is that his family makes me very uncomfortable. ‏ it makes me very uncomfortable to think of raising my kids with cousins who were born out of wedlock and with a grandfather who cheated etc etc Because this stuff would never happen in my family. And I can’t even imagine what it’s like to grow up with this stuff In your family. Not to mention that my family hates him because of his family.I’m honestly so overwhelmed and I don’t know how to deal with this. I want to marry him and I love him but the family problems are a really big deal to me.TL:dr my parents hate my boyfriend’s family and him. I don’t know how to react or how to deal with his family
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