Been seeing a girl for about 2 months, she sends heaps of crazy mixed signals

Girl I've been seeing for nearly 2 months said from the start she wasn't looking for a relationship and neither was I, we agreed that we wanted to be friends first and anything that came after would just be an added bonus. As time goes on there's a lot of things that have changed in that aspect. We've slept together, we've fought, we spend almost all our weekends together and she even admitted 5 weeks in that she loved me. There's obvious attraction, there's obvious sexual attraction too but I'm moving onto a point where I'm kinda keen to make this exclusive and I'm not sure she feels the same.

There's a lot going on in her life. She still lives with her ex because he's basically leeching off her mum for free rent and makes excuses not to move out all the time. There's definitely nothing going on between her and her ex but they do have a kid together and that complicates a lot of the shit. Her reasoning for not wanting a relationship was to stop him from making drama at home for her family and her kid because she doesn't want him to take it out on her/her daughter. All this sounds completely reasonable right? However I can't help but think that sometimes I'm kinda getting played and she's just using this all as an excuse rather than just saying she'd prefer to sleep around or she's not sure I'm good enough to commit to. That's not insecurity, that's just reality.

She's also very fickle. Very hot and cold all the time. We call every day but you know some days I get nothing and some days (like last night) she went on this big rant about how much she misses me during the week and basically said she's staying over all weekend, no ifs or buts. It really caught me off guard because she's not one to show her emotions at all and it feels like something has clicked and she's just now all of a sudden putting heaps of effort in and making it known how much I mean to her.

Can anyone elaborate or am I going mental? Lol



Submitted March 19, 2020 at 12:26AM

Girl I've been seeing for nearly 2 months said from the start she wasn't looking for a relationship and neither was I, we agreed that we wanted to be friends first and anything that came after would just be an added bonus. As time goes on there's a lot of things that have changed in that aspect. We've slept together, we've fought, we spend almost all our weekends together and she even admitted 5 weeks in that she loved me. There's obvious attraction, there's obvious sexual attraction too but I'm moving onto a point where I'm kinda keen to make this exclusive and I'm not sure she feels the same.There's a lot going on in her life. She still lives with her ex because he's basically leeching off her mum for free rent and makes excuses not to move out all the time. There's definitely nothing going on between her and her ex but they do have a kid together and that complicates a lot of the shit. Her reasoning for not wanting a relationship was to stop him from making drama at home for her family and her kid because she doesn't want him to take it out on her/her daughter. All this sounds completely reasonable right? However I can't help but think that sometimes I'm kinda getting played and she's just using this all as an excuse rather than just saying she'd prefer to sleep around or she's not sure I'm good enough to commit to. That's not insecurity, that's just reality.She's also very fickle. Very hot and cold all the time. We call every day but you know some days I get nothing and some days (like last night) she went on this big rant about how much she misses me during the week and basically said she's staying over all weekend, no ifs or buts. It really caught me off guard because she's not one to show her emotions at all and it feels like something has clicked and she's just now all of a sudden putting heaps of effort in and making it known how much I mean to her.Can anyone elaborate or am I going mental? Lol
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