Did I misread the situation with girl I dated?

At the start of the year I (M/21) found out a friend liked me (F/21). I seen the texts she was saying about me saying that she thought I was really good looking and nice etc. We knew eachother for over a year. So I asked her out went on two dates. We kissed a few times and we all went drinking as a group as well a few times and It didn't really work out. She said she wanted to stay friends and I agreed. She's moving to Canada for the summer (I'm certain that played a factor)

What didn't help was there was a lot of meddling from our friends (were all friends)

Last Tuesday night her housemate took a dig at her for not having a boyfriend while the other two housemates did.

Fast forward to last Wednesday night were all out drinking at a table quiz and we're getting on fine like nothing happened. So we leave the table quiz after quite a bit of drinking to go the club and it's raining. All our friends are couples so we were the only two single people there. She has an umbrella and the couple's are together. I'm beside her but a little bit behind. Next thing she reaches back and grabs my hand.

I'm a little bit taken a back by this so I couldn't collect my thoughts quickly enough and say anything so I kind of went with it. After maybe 15 seconds she let go. So I was going to speak to her in the club and ask her what was that all about but the bouncer wouldn't let me in because unfortunately the same girl accidentally spilled a pint on me like an hour before. So I said to my friends enjoy your night and I got a taxi.

So I have a few thoughts about that. Did I misread that situation but I feel you don't misread something like that when a hand literally grabs yours. And if it was intentional what does she want. Was it a power move to see what I would do? Was it her reacting to what her housemate said and was freaking out because she has never been in a relationship and neither have I.

All I know is I don't feel for her like that after the two dates.

tl;dr went on a few dates didn't work out. Few weeks later she grabs my hand and I didn't get to ask her what was it about



Submitted March 19, 2020 at 12:07AM

At the start of the year I (M/21) found out a friend liked me (F/21). I seen the texts she was saying about me saying that she thought I was really good looking and nice etc. We knew eachother for over a year. So I asked her out went on two dates. We kissed a few times and we all went drinking as a group as well a few times and It didn't really work out. She said she wanted to stay friends and I agreed. She's moving to Canada for the summer (I'm certain that played a factor)What didn't help was there was a lot of meddling from our friends (were all friends)Last Tuesday night her housemate took a dig at her for not having a boyfriend while the other two housemates did.Fast forward to last Wednesday night were all out drinking at a table quiz and we're getting on fine like nothing happened. So we leave the table quiz after quite a bit of drinking to go the club and it's raining. All our friends are couples so we were the only two single people there. She has an umbrella and the couple's are together. I'm beside her but a little bit behind. Next thing she reaches back and grabs my hand.I'm a little bit taken a back by this so I couldn't collect my thoughts quickly enough and say anything so I kind of went with it. After maybe 15 seconds she let go. So I was going to speak to her in the club and ask her what was that all about but the bouncer wouldn't let me in because unfortunately the same girl accidentally spilled a pint on me like an hour before. So I said to my friends enjoy your night and I got a taxi.So I have a few thoughts about that. Did I misread that situation but I feel you don't misread something like that when a hand literally grabs yours. And if it was intentional what does she want. Was it a power move to see what I would do? Was it her reacting to what her housemate said and was freaking out because she has never been in a relationship and neither have I.All I know is I don't feel for her like that after the two dates.tl;dr went on a few dates didn't work out. Few weeks later she grabs my hand and I didn't get to ask her what was it about
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