My friends (group of 4 20 F and 1 20 M) have sort of kicked me to the curb and I (19F) don't really know how to let go of them and move on.

I (19F) am a sophomore in college, along with these other "friends," and they have sort of been treating me like trash. In the fall, one girl (20F) , I guess sort of a major player in the group, basically stopped talking to me, looking at me, making eye contact with me, including me in conversations, and basically all standard human behaviors for no reason. I took it for a couple of months and was still nice and hung out with the group, but her treatment of me got to the point where I felt like throwing up when I was hanging out with the group and she was there. So, I sort of started distancing myself from her. Right before Thanksgiving, I figured that I should try to figure this out and I tried to talk with her so I texted her if she wanted to catch a movie, since she is never alone or separated from the group. She responded 13 hours later, when she responds to anyone else in the group within 10-15 mins and I had seen her before she responded, hanging out with the group. I was kind of frustrated and texted her that it was totally okay and if she wanted to grab brunch or something. I waited for like 3-4 hours when I knew she didn't have class and was hanging out with my roommate. So I then texted that I knew I was boring in comparison to our other friends. She then told my roommate and my roommate came back saying that I owed her an apology and all these things. I apologized and she didn't respond. The next day she sent this long, long text talking about how she didn't like my attitude and our personalities didn't match. She also said not to involve our friends because they had nothing to do with this and that our friendship could not move beyond this. I was honestly just stunned at her response and I saw her later and asked if we could talk. She said okay, but then didn't make a move to talk for like 3 hours. So then I asked her again, and in front of all of our friends, she said that she didn't feel comfortable talking with me one-on-one and that she had said all that she had to say. I apologized for being really busy this semester and not getting a chance to talk, but she said that if I hung out with the group more and if she felt a connection, then she would hang out with me. After that, she stopped talking to me and even acknowledging me if she passed me. She would start coming into my room with my roommate and sitting on my things and moving my things, while completely ignoring me and facing her back towards me, not even saying "hi" or anything. My roommate started acting like her too and I didn't say anything. I waited after break and figured they would get back to normal after cooling down, but it got worse. A couple of weeks after break, my roommate moved out saying that I brought food into the room was a problem (now I brought salads into the room, so not really smelling things). She said that it would make our friendship better, but then after she moved out, would not text me and would make up lies about why she couldn't hang out, even though she would hang out next door and I could hear them through the walls. The group started standing outside my door and talking so that I would know that they were hanging out and was not invited. A week later, another girl (20F) from the group, who I literally had absolutely no problems with and was friends with, blocked me on Instagram and now completely ignores me any time she sees me. I see their posts and stuff on Instagram and it hurts to see them hang out. I am not sure what to do. I tried talking to the girl who blocked me, and she said that I didn't do anything wrong and then just waved me away. I don't know what I did wrong and how to move on. It just hurts and it has been a month since that last girl blocked me. They removed me from the snapchat group and started a new twitter group as well. I am not sure what to do.

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TL;DR: I have basically been having a lot of friend problems, with girls treating me like trash, even my roommate, and then a girl, who I had no problems with, blocking me. I am not sure why it hurts so much and how to get over this. I see their posts on snapchat and Instagram and it just makes me feel so sad and I was wondering if I could get some advice on what to do.

Submitted March 19, 2020 at 12:03AM

I (19F) am a sophomore in college, along with these other "friends," and they have sort of been treating me like trash. In the fall, one girl (20F) , I guess sort of a major player in the group, basically stopped talking to me, looking at me, making eye contact with me, including me in conversations, and basically all standard human behaviors for no reason. I took it for a couple of months and was still nice and hung out with the group, but her treatment of me got to the point where I felt like throwing up when I was hanging out with the group and she was there. So, I sort of started distancing myself from her. Right before Thanksgiving, I figured that I should try to figure this out and I tried to talk with her so I texted her if she wanted to catch a movie, since she is never alone or separated from the group. She responded 13 hours later, when she responds to anyone else in the group within 10-15 mins and I had seen her before she responded, hanging out with the group. I was kind of frustrated and texted her that it was totally okay and if she wanted to grab brunch or something. I waited for like 3-4 hours when I knew she didn't have class and was hanging out with my roommate. So I then texted that I knew I was boring in comparison to our other friends. She then told my roommate and my roommate came back saying that I owed her an apology and all these things. I apologized and she didn't respond. The next day she sent this long, long text talking about how she didn't like my attitude and our personalities didn't match. She also said not to involve our friends because they had nothing to do with this and that our friendship could not move beyond this. I was honestly just stunned at her response and I saw her later and asked if we could talk. She said okay, but then didn't make a move to talk for like 3 hours. So then I asked her again, and in front of all of our friends, she said that she didn't feel comfortable talking with me one-on-one and that she had said all that she had to say. I apologized for being really busy this semester and not getting a chance to talk, but she said that if I hung out with the group more and if she felt a connection, then she would hang out with me. After that, she stopped talking to me and even acknowledging me if she passed me. She would start coming into my room with my roommate and sitting on my things and moving my things, while completely ignoring me and facing her back towards me, not even saying "hi" or anything. My roommate started acting like her too and I didn't say anything. I waited after break and figured they would get back to normal after cooling down, but it got worse. A couple of weeks after break, my roommate moved out saying that I brought food into the room was a problem (now I brought salads into the room, so not really smelling things). She said that it would make our friendship better, but then after she moved out, would not text me and would make up lies about why she couldn't hang out, even though she would hang out next door and I could hear them through the walls. The group started standing outside my door and talking so that I would know that they were hanging out and was not invited. A week later, another girl (20F) from the group, who I literally had absolutely no problems with and was friends with, blocked me on Instagram and now completely ignores me any time she sees me. I see their posts and stuff on Instagram and it hurts to see them hang out. I am not sure what to do. I tried talking to the girl who blocked me, and she said that I didn't do anything wrong and then just waved me away. I don't know what I did wrong and how to move on. It just hurts and it has been a month since that last girl blocked me. They removed me from the snapchat group and started a new twitter group as well. I am not sure what to do.​TL;DR: I have basically been having a lot of friend problems, with girls treating me like trash, even my roommate, and then a girl, who I had no problems with, blocking me. I am not sure why it hurts so much and how to get over this. I see their posts on snapchat and Instagram and it just makes me feel so sad and I was wondering if I could get some advice on what to do.