I feel EXACTLY the same way as you. I am 42 years old and I feel like I have been having sex just to please my boyfriend/ husband and not bc I actually really desire to have sex. My husband died almost 6 years ago and I feel horrible saying this but not having him constantly badgering me into having sex has been so nice. Anytime I even think about maybe wanting a relationship again, as soon as I realize I’d have to have sex with this person I’m immediately back to feeling like I’m better off staying single lol . I just wanna eat yummy food, talk, laugh, watch tv, cuddle, etc. and I wish sex wasn’t any part of it. I actually stopped initiating cuddling bc every boyfriend I ever had thought it meant I was giving the green light for sex. I used to use alcohol or weed to try and numb myself out of the discomfort having sex would bring me. I’m just now realizing that maybe I’m not just a weirdo and maybe there are people out there that feel just like I do and it’s definitely comforting.

Quick context: I’ve been seeing this girl 3 months now. She is only 19, says she has never dated before (or had a boyfriend or ANYTHING romantic), and is very guarded/conservative. On our third date she told me she is all new to this and wanted to be friends first and take things slow. With that said, we have been out together 7-8 more times since then and it’s gone super well. She even had me over to her small intimate familys thanksgiving, had me go to a christmas party as her plus one, and all that. With that said, I really don’t want to be strung along or used for attention. It’s abundantly clear that I’m the only guy in her life right now that she hangs out with, and honestly maybe even the only non-family member she spends time with outside work. She is a very guarded individual and keeps making comments about “how she was raised” when it comes to certain secular/mainstream things or even just girls/guys hanging out. There’s been positive signs like us flirting with each othe

My friend and I, went out to a night club that we had seen but never went to. Got in and enjoy the ambient. Sometime later, this girl that I had originally looked at when going and I thought she was pretty. She looks at me with these intense eyes and with such a huge smile. It was amazing and I was captivated. She then walks up to me and asked me to dance with her. We dance for a while and then we went to get a drink. Thereafter, we dance some more and learn a bit of each other. It turn out it was both our first time at this venue. She typed in her number on my phone after I asked for it. Afterwards we did drink a bit to much and she got too drunk and she left to the restroom to 🤮. Not sure if she was embarrassed or what happened. Later that night, I said my farewell and I sent her a message. Please see pic. Is this a lost cause? I want to se where again but something tells me it’s not going to happen. 😏😫 I said, Hi * , it’s me * ***, I really loved your smile. She hearted this m

asked them out, always fizzles out/they never get back to me. at least im trying. feeling way more confident asking girls out which feels really nice Submitted December 13, 2022 at 12:18AM asked them out, always fizzles out/they never get back to me. at least im trying. feeling way more confident asking girls out which feels really nice

I’m ace and have multiple kinks. I honestly didn’t know until recently though that you could be ace and still have kinks December 12, 2022 at 11:44PM

Even if you identify as aroace, that doesn't mean you lose anything if you have a crush. You are gaining a new experience if nothing else. It's great that the label has been helpful to you so far, but it shouldn't stop you from living your life guilt free. Let yourself feel your feelings, whatever they may be. Things will come into place. Maybe you are ace still, maybe demi but you are you, regardless of how you name this part of yourself related to love and attraction. Whether this is a crush or not, time will tell. From what you are describing it could be, but I see you're conflicted about it still so give yourself time. You're not in a rush to define it, or yourself definitively. December 12, 2022 at 11:43PM