I have surprisingly seen religious based hate against aces. Stuff about how it's unnatural, God wants you to have sex, God wants you to have kids, etc. September 26, 2023 at 11:36PM

Want and need, for themselves, not have a duty to, should do regardless, must do to keep a relationship or feel normal. No one should ever feel they owe sex, coerced sex is not sex, its noncon. September 26, 2023 at 11:36PM

There's a good chance that a lot of ace men just... aren't good at this stuff. In a lot of relationships, women can be somewhat passive participants. As you already mentioned, you find it unusual that you have to actually put yourself out there and make the first move. Because of that, allosexual men who are looking to date pretty much have to train themselves to be engaging, to push the conversation and to impress the women who receive however many other options. They have to stand out and they have to learn to stand out. But ace men are far less likely to have that experience. If they aren't actively searching for sexual relationships, they are unlikely to have developed those same skills that largely exist to search for relationships. An ace woman can just sort of stumble into a relationship with allosexual men. An ace man would have to actively hunt for a relationship with allosexual women. September 26, 2023 at 11:34PM

yeah i do understand about the different types of love and the fact that it can take many failed dates to get any potential but recently, like the last couple months i’ve been wondering if that’s even something i genuinely want, or if it’s just because everyone around me is doing it i like the idea of a romantic relationship but at the same time i don’t feel like i need one or even always want one, im not sure if i’ve ever had an actual crush, growing up it was more of a pick the boy who looks ‘attractive’ and is nice but i can’t really see myself in a proper romantic relationship with anyone but who knows thanks for replying btw September 26, 2023 at 11:32PM

That’s so true! I keep forgetting that there are a lot more people on Tinder than acespace or other sites Aww and congrats! Thank you so much! Hope you have a great day! September 26, 2023 at 11:29PM

yeah im pretty much the same, they are just ugly imo lol September 26, 2023 at 11:27PM