We were friends with benefits for a few months before we started dating and I knew she had gotten $50 from this sugar daddy but she told me they had only gone for coffee and met once at a cafe, I only found out that she had slept with him for money until after we had started going out and that she still had him added on Snapchat and he was trying to message her often still. I made her block him and she was happy to, I know nothing happened in the time since we were together but it is still on my mind a lot of the time and tbh sickens me a lot. I love her and have no problems trusting her, with attraction to her or anything but sometimes it’s the only thing I can think of and I wish it had never happened. I don’t know how to get past it, like if I should talk to her about it or not because I don’t want to make her feel bad for what she did when we weren’t together because I have no say in that. I don’t know what to do, should I tell her how I feel even though it’s my problem not hers o...

Long story short we had a short lived romance that ended when summer started and we went home from college. Basically we tried to make it work, distance was too much and we mutually kind of ghosted eachother. Last text I sent was a heartfelt paragraph which he didn’t respond to. Message taken loud and clear, I left him alone. School starts soon and I still have his sweatshirt that he insisted I take. Do I reach out even though we wouldn’t have talked in two months and ask if he wants it back? I don’t want a relationship with him and I don’t want to seem crazy by texting him AGAIN. I genuinely don’t want his sweatshirt because it reminds me of him, but I don’t want to throw it out because what if he actually wants it back. What should I do? tl;dr guy gave me his sweatshirt, ghosted me. Do I offer to give it back after two months no talking? Submitted August 01, 2019 at 11:33PM Long story short we had a short lived romance that ended when summer started and we went home from col...

Okay so i posted this somewhere else but why not here. and were both going into freshman year) so for a little back story, here's the problem. So towards close to the beginning of October of 8th grade, me and my friend (ill call him E.) Started hanging out after something happened and we just started hanging out. So then him and this girl that started hanging out with us (ill call her J) started dating. Now i had liked her before but she didn't like me back. So we just remained friends. So after a couple months of just being the awesome 3rd wheel this other girl (L) joined our group. I ended up getting a huge crush on her. And somehow we ended up dating. So by now we are all basically dating the other person/gender in the group. So during the summer, i had lost my phone. And blah blah blah, my gf broke up with me, E and J broke up and hate each other. So here comes the real problem lol. So J was the person who I've been talking to the most that has helped me the most. And ...

I’m going to rant a bit so I apologise if this post gets a bit ramble-y though I’ll try and keep it to the point. For the past 5 years of my life I feel like I’ve been battling who I am and who I want to be, I went through High School completely alone I just couldn’t fit in and find out who I am or who I was meant to be though these are all normal teenage experiences I admit it was harder battling it alone. I went through up and down phases of being disrespectful to teachers and having a negative attitude against a lot of people I admit this was a reaction to being lost and alone and it ended up costing me Year 12. I graduated High School with the hope of going into Media I was only 17 when I “graduated” or at least left and had my sights set on working something film related I ended up finding myself disliking the subject and dropping out. I ended up working between three jobs and in November that year I had decided to study Business instead, two semesters later and now I’m doing...

Hello reddit, I'm standing in a bit of a moral corner here. Without going into too much detail (I'll indulge if it helps the answer) I (23f) was in a relationship with my ex (23m) for about 8 months. We started dating just after he was forced to stop seeing someone that he cared about because she was dragging him through the mud and his friends pulled him out of it before he could see "if it would have worked out or not". He understands why they did it, but still never really had closure with the girl. Shortly afterwards we wound up dating and I had an extreme complex (see:jealousy) over the fact that they still talked while he was obsessive over her. I was also extremely emotionally unstable at the time (started meds 6 months ago so I'm much better now). The timing of it all and my inability to effectively communicate about the situation without getting mad, combined with his own mental issues and inability to handle me when I was in that state created a pretty...

Soon to be MIL is middle eastern and although she “likes” me she sees me as uncultured and incapable of taking care of a household and not the best match for her son. She questions what her son sees in me but he takes this as her just being curious what her son likes about me whereas I see it as her not having a clue why he would like someone like me. I use to feel much closer to his mom when I started hanging around their family more a couple years ago but at that time she didn’t know we were interested in each other. Once she found out, that’s when I felt a shift in our relationship and started to feel judged. I want to be respectful but this it’s hurtful to know she would prefer someone else for her son. My SO (29) and I (29) have been together since 2012 and at the beginning of our relationship we were in our early 20s and he had a horrible wandering eye that he would pursue. He’s grown to be a very kind loving person that is very much in love with me but I’ve always been stress...

We are both Caucasians, from neighbouring countries, but different nationalities. I grew up in a whole environment that was racist against her country, even my whole family. She is educated in the States, a successful, beautiful and very smart woman. Yet, I could not do it. She did sacrifice many things for our relationship and I know I disrespected her time and effort. TL;DR: I didn't marry girlfriend because of her nationality. She backfired saying I have a little penis. Did I deserve it? I feel hurt. Submitted August 01, 2019 at 11:50PM We are both Caucasians, from neighbouring countries, but different nationalities. I grew up in a whole environment that was racist against her country, even my whole family. She is educated in the States, a successful, beautiful and very smart woman. Yet, I could not do it. She did sacrifice many things for our relationship and I know I disrespected her time and effort.TL;DR: I didn't marry girlfriend because of her nationality. She b...

I was working with a coworker, let's call E, from another department, to solve an issue via IM one afternoon. Once it was fixed, E said "Hey I like to make friends in other departments. Would you like to meet up for coffee?" Now, I'm 3 positions his senior, in a project manager-esqe role who could troubleshoot the technical issues he was having, and have been in the company for 7 years to his 2. I also schooled him on some of the stuff in his job / department, but nicely! So, I read this as a mentoring request, and said, "Sure! Whatever time I have free on my calendar is yours." He finds a time that is open on my calendar and books it for Friday afternoon, and we continue working on a new problem. Perfectly friendly, normal conversations. I mention it a few hours later to a buddy in one of those "Look I started a conversation for an afternoon and now I'm mentoring someone!" Sort of situations. (I have a face that people just read as friendl...

I made a post on r/relationship_advice but didn’t get much response so here goes. Me and my best friend met while we were at college (2011) and we have been inseparable ever since. We tell each other everything and could easily go 4 hours on FaceTime every night (we live in different cities). She’s always been in a relationship throughout our friendship but this has never affected our friendship. Her last relationship ended a year ago. Our friendship was real special, the best I ever had, up until about 6 months ago. This guy that she used to date when she was like 14 comes back into her life and they start seeing each other again. We stopped talking as much and although it sucked I know that this happens when you get into a new relationship. She started sharing less and less with me which I thought was weird because we literally told each other everything. And when she did share something she was very vague about it. We recently went on vacation together and I noticed a ring on h...

My girlfriend and I have been dating for seven weeks and one day. We clicked right away after meeting at a party and are both very excited about the relationship. I feel such a connection with her and I care about her deeply. I have been wanting to say "I love you" to her lately. On one occasion recently, I'm pretty sure she uttered "I love you" to me as we were falling asleep, but it happened quickly and she said it quietly and the tv was also on so I wasn't positive and had to ask her what she said, and she hesitated for a second and then said she had just said goodnight. Something similar happened earlier this week. And then, the last time we were together we were sitting on my porch swing late in the evening, cuddling, and she came right out and said, "I think I'm falling in love with you." I told her I feel the same way. I think she is a little scared, as am I, but I think it was a good feeling for both of us. I certainly felt great after...

this is a kind of a weird one, I've been with my boyfriend for about 4 months, we see each other several days a week and I've seen him eat maybe like 5 times or something. I understand he is trying to lose weight but it's getting kind of worrying. He will go multiple full days without eating (he stays around my house). I don't bring it up any more because it irritates him when i do. He says he eats his diet food at home... but then why not bring it to mine. Whenever I offer him food he always says no. I've even made him stuff and he just doesn't eat it. Not even snacks. He will drink though, including alcohol. Previously, he was overweight and now he is very much a normal weight so I don't know why he doesn't start eating. I'm not good at estimating how much weight someone has lost but it's a lot. I asked him if he plans to carry on losing weight, he said he wasn't sure but he started lifting more in the gym because he wants to get more mu...

This conflict is driving me crazy. One loves me and I have been with him for two years (Joe). The other (24M) is attracted to me (Nate) and has romantic feelings for me, we dated for a few months shortly before me and Joe got together. The reason that ended was down to circumstance, and so far me and Joe have had complicated issues in our relationship. I don't think they would feel as complicated if I didn't have so many feelings for Nate. ​ Joe has always been emotionally intense, I used to question it when we hadn't known each other for long. Constant, repetitive questions, compliments and long stares before it felt quite comfortable. He was, and is, unbelievably supportive and kind though. I have had quite debilitating psychological difficulties at points that have strained him but he was consistently there for me, came to the hospital with me, held my hand through it all. We laugh a lot together, have plenty of fun, but I can only count a handful of times we've h...

FYI- I have no experience with romantic relationships. I’ve never dated before and I am pretty bad at picking up social cues :/. I had been asked out through DM by a person on Twitter. (I do know this person, and they are not crazy or creepy). They started out by introducing themselves and we had a chill conversation about the upcoming school year and situations with friends. Then this person asked how my week was looking, and I said it was pretty boring as I had nothing planned. They said that it might be better if I went on a date with them. I said sure a date would be fun. We then started talking about potential plans and this person said that they were going to think about potential date ideas, and I replied okay sounds good. I texted them the next day asking hey how is it going? And they left me on read for two days. I swallowed my pride and texted them that I would like to maybe go to a movie. The person responded saying they could not do this weekend maybe next. I replied may...

(19 m) hey, i never have really used the internet to seek help in relationships other than asking friends and stuff so im sorry if this sounds dumb. i met my boyfriend (20m) in highschool when he was a senior and i was a junior. we went through his senior year and my senior year after he graduated okay. so we have been together for almost 3 years? but a lot of things have happened to me and my family that makes it hard to move out of the state. my mom had a blood clot burst in her head about 7 years ago and the entire process traumatized me. she had to get surgery a year or two back which made me even scared, considering the same issue could come up again. essentially, my severe anxiety and literal paranoia permits me from leaving my home state, mn. i took a gap year for college and am quickly approaching my first year of school. my boyfriend wants to move out of state, all the way to california. we both want to continue this relationship since we have had it steady for awhile. we b...

Other than move out, I don’t know what to do. I can’t move out yet (I don’t even have a job yet, aside from self employment stuff). I’m gonna try to make this short. I have a great life that I am grateful for. I’m not trying to be complaintitive, I just have no clue what to do, aside from push to get a job, and save as many months of rent as I can. Save for furniture, maybe rent a storage unit if I wanna buy, and then leave when I can stably do so. My dad sees everything as a business. He earns 6 figures, paid for a stranger to go to Morehouse for all four years, raised all three of his step kids, invests thousand s of dollars monthly into multiple stocks. But he paid child support for me for one year according to my mother, and refuses to spend a dime on my tuition. He has money set aside (more than enough) in savings, because he and his mom are thoughtful and money-smart. I didn’t earn many scholarships because I’m not eligible, because one of the parents providing for my tuit...

Hi Reddit, this is my first post on here because I don't know where else to go for advice. So I'll do my best to get to the point. So, my gf (25F) and I (25M) have been dating for almost 6 years now. For the longest time we've had a very healthy sex life, having sex about 2-3 times a week. Until about 8 months ago, now we maybe have sex twice a month and every sexually encounter feels very forced on her part, to the point where I've had to tell her that if she's not feeling it then don't force it. I've tried talking to her about it, but she just gets mad or doesn't want to talk about it then, so I've just dropped it. During that time I've noticed some really odd behavior on her part. First, a couple months back she had me check something on her phone, so I unlocked it and after I was done checking it I went to dismiss all the unused apps (it's a habit of mine) and I noticed that her internet was open what looked to be a porn site. Curiosit...

damn. you sure did forget about me. so tell you what today, i’m getting super drunk, gonna go buy myself a liquor bottle and drink till i loose the thought of you. i’ll be doing this all weekend. since i’m off. and it sadly sucks because i know deep down how much i try i won’t forget about you. you are the one. and you can’t even realize that. you can’t realize how deep my love is for you. and that shit cuts deep, like as if knives are in my heart, watching you live your life without me. i need you. and i wish you needed me. i can’t escape the way i love you , so because of that i’ll be drunk on you. even though i wish i was getting drunk with you, or even just spending this weekend with you... instead i’ll be alone. Submitted August 01, 2019 at 11:59PM damn. you sure did forget about me. so tell you what today, i’m getting super drunk, gonna go buy myself a liquor bottle and drink till i loose the thought of you. i’ll be doing this all weekend. since i’m off. and it sadly sucks...

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I had a similar reaction but unfortunately I am deeply repulsed by sex so after my best friend mentioned it I sort of withdrew to sort my shit out. That still happens to this day. August 02, 2019 at 12:03AM

My wife (30F white) and I (34M black) have been married for 2 years and argue a lot. She suffers from depression and I always have to be careful what I say because anything can trigger her. We both live in the US but she's from Europe. When someone from my family visits she isn't particularly friendly with them or would make excuses not to spend a lot of time at home or make last minutes plans so she doesn't go out with me and and the guests. She also makes a lot of passive-agressive comments about black women and obesity or how hard working people are in her home country back in Europe compared to people from my community. I've called her out on this before. We don't use each other's phones and she's always been secretive about hers. Today she left her phone in the bathroom and I got curious and correctly guessed her PIN unlock code. I checked her browser history to see what she's been secretive about and I saw some distraughtful searches on her pho...

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