I totally quit dating sometime in 2013 and I have to admit that I'm happy I did that although sometimes I do experience feelings that perhaps I'm missing out on something. I entertain myself, enjoy my own company more than the company of others, do stuff by myself, and have to admit that having totally quit on relationships has made me either happy or at least content. I like pleasing myself and don't really care to share my life with someone else. That sometimes it does feel a bit lonesome, especially on a festive day or holiday, it does. But most of the time, the idea that I don't have to please another person, or make a sacrifice for another's sake, I like that kind of freedom, I really do. Submitted June 08, 2019 at 12:09AM I totally quit dating sometime in 2013 and I have to admit that I'm happy I did that although sometimes I do experience feelings that perhaps I'm missing out on something. I entertain myself, enjoy my own company more than the ...

I've been single a year, even then my last relationship was only a few months and prior to that I'd been single two years. I'll admit to being socially isolated as I've no friends, it's not for lack of trying but nothing seems to stick in terms of hobbies and going to social events alone rarely ends in meeting new people as everyone else is there with other people. I literally don't meet people...let alone single men I might be interested in/who might be interested in me. A we know dating apps are all kinds of hell, not to mention slim pickings locally, it's also just genially not a good way for me to meet people as I'm not great chatting online and I hate the pressure of meeting someone with the knowledge it's a trial to date (I'd rather meet organically and have someone get to know me outside of the idea of dating me). So what else do I try, how do I increase my chances of meeting someone? Submitted June 07, 2019 at 11:35PM I've b...

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I’m not sure what it is that I am doing wrong but I keep falling for the same types of men - I must admit at first I have to find someone appealing it for there to be some chemistry but once that is established it’s always the emotionally immature - dismissive - neglectful gossipy type of man. I was with a man like this for 6 years who was also verbally abusive.. I left to only find another man that wasn’t verbally abusive but was negligent .. it’s been three years now that I have sworn off sex - dating and men ( men notice me a lot because of my looks so it’s been easy to attract some ) but I have and am still scared Lately my married supervisor has been flirting with me (I know he is off limits and I would never) but i often fantasize about him a lot - he tends to talk down about his wife other coworkers and just wants to show off about his fancy upbringing - house - etc but that sometimes still doesn’t turn me off and it scares me! What is wrong with me I need to stop bevause dee...

I was reading through responses to post where people asked if they thought aces belong in the lgbt+ and all the response where really positive towards aces. Even when they said that didn’t belong they were really respectful.it made me really happy after see so much ace discourse. June 08, 2019 at 12:09AM

Remember that art is open to interpretation. June 08, 2019 at 12:09AM

I feel this sometimes and it makes me sad that the few loud exclusionists can make us so unconfident. You're not alone and you deserve to be proud of who you are 💜💜💜 June 08, 2019 at 12:07AM

Yeah I feel like it an umbrella term as well as a specific because the aro community overlaps majorly with the ace community. June 08, 2019 at 12:07AM

Eh. I feel like Hufflepuffs are probably the ace house in my head in terms of representation. Like they are constantly the ones that are belittled and there actually aren't too many decent secondary characters that I can think of. June 08, 2019 at 12:07AM

I just use asexual as an umbrella term to leave the possibility of dating (greyaro) open. I know that ace and aro are two different things but the communities have a huge overlap and it is easier to use ace as an umbrella term then maybe later get more specific. June 08, 2019 at 12:06AM

Just to expand on to this, not everyone is binary male/female. Some of neither, both, something in between, or in our case, just kind of neutral/nothing. The umbrella term for those people is usually non binary, and simply means a gender outside of the binary. I've used non binary a while, but learning that agender feels more accurate for myself. Everyone is different. Some socially transition to feel better, others do hormones, some do surgery. Less so changing to a gender(as we've always been this gender), but to feel better/more comfortable with ourselves. I'm on hormones, and planning on some form of surgery, but that doesn't make me a woman. Agender itself can mean a few things. I use it because I don't see myself as a gender. I'm not transitioning to be a gender, I'm just trying to be comfortable and myself. If someone asks my gender, I don't really have a useful answer, not because i don't understand it, just because there isn't real...

Lmao I remember this, good thing you stopped because I forced myself through the next two books since I liked the rest of the plot. There are more unnecessary sex scenes in the other two books, the most ridiculous one being "girl climbs a mountain with a boy and a bear to find world-saving artifact, has sex in a cave halfway up the mountain." Lmk if you want any YA or fantasy book recs without sex scenes; I got a ton. Lmk if you have any book recs :) June 08, 2019 at 12:01AM

no worries!! June 07, 2019 at 11:58PM

I'm 55. I've been on 1 date in 5 years since my marriage ended. I've been chatting with this guy on Match. He is into falconry. I said I'd like to see his falcon. He invited me to see the falcon (his house) and he said he would make me dinner. Is it safe to meet him at his house? I've only chatted with him online. He seems nice from his pictures and from chatting with him. Submitted June 07, 2019 at 11:40PM I'm 55. I've been on 1 date in 5 years since my marriage ended. I've been chatting with this guy on Match. He is into falconry. I said I'd like to see his falcon. He invited me to see the falcon (his house) and he said he would make me dinner. Is it safe to meet him at his house? I've only chatted with him online. He seems nice from his pictures and from chatting with him.

Hi there. I'm 18y/o, living in my own flat in a block of three. I have two female neighbours who are fit as fuck, and their both single. For their discretion I'll call them Jess (18), and Emily (20). I have growing feelings towards Emily, but in really not sure how I drop hints to her. I think she's been dropping hints to me(?) she keeps messaging me on Snapchat asking how I am, and asking me if I'm up in the mornings, and if I'm awake at night so on... When we've been hanging out Emily has been pressing her shoulder up against mine. Like we're comfortable with eachothers personal space. Emily has said in a few occasions that I'm a really nice guy, and I got a hug off Jess the other day. They both came to my flat tonight to hangout and all they talked about were the lads they thought were fit. Jess is out to get the D, and Emily is just following her about. This did make me feel a little upset, like I had opportunities before tonight to show my intere...

It’s been weeks since he’s messaged back now I’m just confused. Here are the texts from him from beginning to last text sent: “Let me know when you’re passing through, I’m doing this and that but sometimes I’m free and sometimes I feel adventurous” “I’m delighted by the offer, let me sit with it” (after telling him I’d love to see him) “I’m also single and trying to find out how to be that again” “I’m delighted you’re interested” “I’m not ready to step outside into the world yet. Im still overwhelmed by shit that went down for me these past months” (he’s divorced) “Truth be told. I’d love some affection when I feel a little more stable” “You seem to be a very capable person, attractive, good idea of what you want, looks pretty good” “You aren’t being anything but charming” “I’ll teach you some greek” (after I said I’ll teach him Spanish) he wasn’t talking about the language. “I regret not seeing you when you were here btw, I could do with a sprinkle of you” “I wanna catch ...

I’ve never been in a relationship. I just turned 24 and have been told to make dating a priority because it’ll only get harder to find someone the older I become, which is sound advice. I’m vetting guys on Coffee Meets Bagel, and the only guy I’ve matched with whom I’m extremely interested in is this extremely attractive 6’2” 38-year old professor who did his PhD at my undergrad institution (think Berkeley/Duke). He asked to meet up to talk, but I’m super busy for the next week or so. Then he said he can’t meet until late June because he’s leaving the country in mid-June. I’m matching with other guys and arranging dates too, but I can’t get this guy out of my head. I’m terrified of meeting these attractive guys in real life because it seems too good to be true that they’d want anything more than just a one night stand for me. Anyway this 38-year old professor sounds too good to be true. I feel like I always crush on guys I shouldn’t be liking. He’s probably single/not married for ...

26m, i Have been broken up with my ex of 7 year .after she cheated on me with another guy, denied it(OG), then moved in with him less than a month later after blocking me on every social media site changing her number and telling her friends and family not to tell me any info on her whereabouts, given that when we broke up she said that she "couldn't be with anyone right now' and that she was mentally sick. goes to show that even when u think you know someone you can never really trust them also the way i found out she had left me for another guy was because he was the one to actually call me (about 20x) and tell me thats she was with him, she also gave him my address and information about me, he's come by but never seen his face, i still haven't met them because i decided i don't want to do something i will regret. But basically I have been imploding in front of my ex gf and her new bf and everyone else that knows me. i can tell that they have been spreading ...

Just like the title says. I find I have absolutely no problem kicking off an initial conversation with someone I'm interested in, having a good chat, getting a phone number or date, etc. ​ But I have real trouble with how to follow-up on that. Even if our initial conversation and/or date was great, I find that the next time I talk to them it just comes out stunted. I just don't know what to say. Does anyone else have this problem and what can I do about it? Submitted June 07, 2019 at 11:56PM Just like the title says. I find I have absolutely no problem kicking off an initial conversation with someone I'm interested in, having a good chat, getting a phone number or date, etc.​But I have real trouble with how to follow-up on that. Even if our initial conversation and/or date was great, I find that the next time I talk to them it just comes out stunted. I just don't know what to say. Does anyone else have this problem and what can I do about it?

The best advice of dating is being a creative person very enthused with the one you love. Breaking away from the discouragement of rejection and having the confidence to finally ask your admirer for a date even though I do not think date are strong enough to win the love of a person for I see men are looking for women who is decent has a lot of social life. Submitted June 07, 2019 at 11:58PM The best advice of dating is being a creative person very enthused with the one you love. Breaking away from the discouragement of rejection and having the confidence to finally ask your admirer for a date even though I do not think date are strong enough to win the love of a person for I see men are looking for women who is decent has a lot of social life.

So there's this girl in one of my college classes, we'll call her Sarah. I've only sat next to her a couple times. First time, she asked if I had an Instagram after talking for a few minutes. I only had the time to tell her no then. Next time I sat next to her in class, I explained why I said no was because I didn't really use social media anymore, and asked if she used whatsapp. She said not anymore, and I said "well if you still had it I'd add you". She kept making convo after that, and after that class, it seemed she went out of her way to follow me. She was going up a stairwell while I was walking down a hallway in the completely opposite direction. She ended up turning around and going the same way as me and kept talking to me. So that class is now over because our semester has finished and none of us are going back to college for a whole month. On the last day of class I noticed Sarah was turning her head and looking at me heaps. Instead of asking...

I totally quit dating sometime in 2013 and I have to admit that I'm happy I did that although sometimes I do experience feelings that perhaps I'm missing out on something. I entertain myself, enjoy my own company more than the company of others, do stuff by myself, and have to admit that having totally quit on relationships has made me either happy or at least content. I like pleasing myself and don't really care to share my life with someone else. That sometimes it does feel a bit lonesome, especially on a festive day or holiday, it does. But most of the time, the idea that I don't have to please another person, or make a sacrifice for another's sake, I like that kind of freedom, I really do. Submitted June 08, 2019 at 12:09AM I totally quit dating sometime in 2013 and I have to admit that I'm happy I did that although sometimes I do experience feelings that perhaps I'm missing out on something. I entertain myself, enjoy my own company more than the ...