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Online Sex Therapy - CA

Does anyone have a recommendation on where to look for an online sex therapist in Cali or a recommendation of someone you’ve used? It would be to help me break through the mind barriers that stop me from being able to orgasm with others. Even by myself, it can take me over an hour and I go through two vibrator charges at times. Thank you. Submitted December 29, 2019 at 12:16AM Does anyone have a recommendation on where to look for an online sex therapist in Cali or a recommendation of someone you’ve used? It would be to help me break through the mind barriers that stop me from being able to orgasm with others. Even by myself, it can take me over an hour and I go through two vibrator charges at times. Thank you.

Have I outgrown a kink or...

So When I was 7? I unconsiously masturbated to the thought of being punished into wearing diapers/doing baby things. I always have had a rocky? Toxic? Relashionship with my overprotective mom and a somewhat distant father. I touched myself not to the thought of a sexual act but to the situation of being punished by a figure of authority in my life (usually my mom) and them making me wear diapers, do baby things. I must make it clear I don't and I didn't I have a desire to have sex with any of these people nor my "dreams/fantasies" include any type of sex. I continued to touch myself to these things, eventually found out I was masturbating all along (I thought it was an adrenaline rush eheh) and about ab/dl, Dd/lg, etc... and I thought I had a diaper kink . Until recently. I still have kinky thoughts. I am into lingerie, having a "daddy" or a dominant, spanking... but not diapers really. I am not sexually active and haven't experienced any of these fanta

If you had to choose...

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Even Best Buy is getting into the act...

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What is love?

What is love? I’ve never felt it? I don’t think I really understand what it is, what it feels like? I don’t think I will ever attain romantic love. What does it feel like? Submitted December 29, 2019 at 12:19AM What is love? I’ve never felt it? I don’t think I really understand what it is, what it feels like? I don’t think I will ever attain romantic love. What does it feel like?

Movie date but didn't know how to escalate

I, 20 year old Male, just went on a date with this girl with whom I have had 1 date before(2 if you count a workout together). This girl has been texting me quite a few times after not talking for a bit since I was doing my internship in another country and only home during the weekends. We have also been having some nice long hugs whenever we meet or say goodbye. By the way I most likely won't be seeing her for atleast a couple of months, since I am going to the UK for a study abroad and won't be able to come back during the weekends. I got out of a 6 year relationship half a year ago and I am not looking for a new one. However I would like to have some escalation with this girl (kissing/hooking up). My question is what could I do next time I hang out with her to escalate. Submitted December 29, 2019 at 12:10AM I, 20 year old Male, just went on a date with this girl with whom I have had 1 date before(2 if you count a workout together). This girl has been texting me qu

I confessed my feelings 🤦🏻‍♀️

I confessed my feelings 🤦🏻‍♀️ I (27F) have been talking to a guy (54M) I met through work for months. We talk almost everyday. He initiated 90% of the time. Inside jokes, silly stuff, tell each other personal stuff, anything. I get the feeling he’s interested in me- he teases me, sends me selfies a lot, and seems to enjoy our conversations. Well, we met for some time today to hang out and it was fun. We both enjoyed ourselves. I decided to send a text and just admit that I have feelings for him and said that I should have told him in person earlier, but I’d just rather say it. He said we’ll talk in person, it’s better than text. Which I fully agree btw. But my gosh I’m stressing. I would love to just be friends with him if the feelings aren’t reciprocated. But I have to wait a few days to hear what he has to say. Any input anyone? SOS. Silently dying because I’m impatient. Submitted December 29, 2019 at 12:13AM I confessed my feelings 🤦🏻‍♀️I (27F) have been talking to a

New record for shortest relationship

Well don’t know what to say but invite you guys to laugh at my blunder. I set the record for shortest relationship of my life haha. After dating for a month and becoming mutually exclusive on Christmas, I set the record of shortest relationship. Last night in the middle of sleep and after a night of moderate drinking I rolled over hugged her and said the words nobody wants to hear. I told her I love you then immediately froze hoping she was asleep. Nope, she heard me and this morning said we’re better off as friends. I don’t blame her, but hey you live and you learn. I learned when I think I should go home and not stay over, I should just go home. I can’t help but laugh at the situation and wanted to share. Happy holidays! Submitted December 29, 2019 at 12:14AM Well don’t know what to say but invite you guys to laugh at my blunder. I set the record for shortest relationship of my life haha. After dating for a month and becoming mutually exclusive on Christmas, I set the record o

Is it true that if a man truly wants you that he will pursue you?

There is a guy I have been interested in for quite sometime but most times, I make the plans, I call or text him, I keep in contact and I’m tired of it. I feel if he really wanted me he would try to talk more or plan things. When we talk, he swears I make him feel ways he has never felt before and how much he wants to be with me when it’s the right time.. (he’s under a lot of stress with school and I live 1000 miles away until May) Submitted December 29, 2019 at 12:18AM There is a guy I have been interested in for quite sometime but most times, I make the plans, I call or text him, I keep in contact and I’m tired of it. I feel if he really wanted me he would try to talk more or plan things. When we talk, he swears I make him feel ways he has never felt before and how much he wants to be with me when it’s the right time.. (he’s under a lot of stress with school and I live 1000 miles away until May)

How to navigate getting to know someone with a rough past?

I’ve been texting this guy for a few weeks and I’m really starting to like him. I haven’t met him in person yet, but he went to high school with my best friend who said he was kind of wild, but nothing too bad. She said she really liked hanging out with him. So from what I’ve gathered, he’s had a really rough life. His mom used to be an alcoholic, he was homeless at one point, he’s dated some insane girls, he’s been abused, taken advantage of etc...and I just found out he was adopted and he said his bio cousin and bio brother are literal, clinical psychopaths. I really like this guy and think he’s really sweet. I don’t want to pry and make him tell me his life story so I can properly psychoanalyze him, but I’m also kind of worried going in somewhat blind. I’m driving to their (him and my friends) city for New Years so I’ll meet him this week. Any advice? Please don’t tell me to run. I’ve dated other guys that had problems/dealt with abuse that weren’t abusive/insane at all. I don’

My [25F] mum [60F] wants me to come to her Christmas lunch, I don't want to but she says it might my grandmother's last one

My mum is begging me to come to Christmas (she was working Christmas day) but I don't want to. In her latest text she said it could be our grandma's last one and I don't know what to do. My mother used to choke and hit me as a kid and kicked me out at 16, I don't feel attached and come to things because I know it hurts her when I don't. But even now sometimes we have conversation that leave me with a bad taste, such as her making light of her past abuse, or bringing up how I hit her (somehow twisted in her mind?) when the last time she did something I held up her arms and asked her to stop. Of course normally its just a few hours and it's over, I don't usually see her bad sides anymore. Despite that, I dread spending time with her. What do I do? Should I really go? For my grandma? TLDR; Don't enjoy time with my mother, but feel bad if it is grandmas last Christmas, should I go to lunch today? Submitted December 29, 2019 at 12:01AM My mum is beg

BF cannot stop belittling me when playing games together

My boyfriend [23] & I [22] have been together for almost 2 years. We’ve met through tinder (yes you can find love there trust me) & we really connected through this game called league of legends (aka lol). We’ve found that we both had the same interests in this game & we both started playing together often. Recently we both have started playing more lol & when we do we always play with each other. Like any games, this game has a streak of making people get very emotional as it’s a competitive game & can make some ppl toxic. Again it’s just like any other game you see out there that can bring the worst out of a person (ie fortnite, cod, overwatch, etc). My boyfriend has been lashing out in games & recently I have been the one getting the baggage. We’re both gold (I’m gold 4 & he’s gold 3) & he has a lot more experience playing that game as he played it way before i did. Because of that he’s been very verbally aggressive with me through this game. He alw

Am I (31M) selfish for ending our (34F) friendship

TL;DR :End friendship with girl of my dreams because she got a boyfriend. Am I wrong? Our relationship started sexual. It grew into a beautiful long distance friendship despite all odds. I tried dating her but She told me She wasn't ready for a relationship despite previously wanting me to relocate and us trying to have a child together. She ask me to come visit her again for the fifth time because every other month we would go on trips together and hook up (cruises, flights, etc). The day before my flight she said “her boyfriend don’t like the idea of me staying with her which is understandable but I didn’t even know she got a boyfriend in the 3-4 weeks of her asking me to come see he and that she decided to tell me about it the day before I arrived. I had a great time on my trip. I respected her relationship despite seeing her with her new love of her life especially knowing that how we used to be. I decided to distance myself and emotions. Am I selfish for protecting my heart

What are signs of sexual tension? Confusing work colleague me [30 F] him [29M]

I’m used to guys being a bit more obvious but... There’s a guy at work, who I’m on shift with all the time including nights, he’s a bit shy and quiet. I never thought much of him initially, but then noticed him staring at me all the time with strong eye contact, he laughs at all the dumb jokes I make (I’m not that funny), he’ll always come and find me at least once on shift, I’ll usually bump into him randomly a few times in a day compared to other colleagues. He’ll always sit really close to me, like arms and legs touching. The only thing that doesn’t add up is that our conversation is very stilted, especially when he comes and sits really close, it’s like neither of us can speak, but it’s a comfortable silence. Fairly sure we wouldn’t make a good couple and I wouldn’t date someone from work anyway (don’t shit where you eat and all...) but there’s just something there that feels magnetic, is it possible it’s just in my head? TL;DR confusing guy at work Submitted December 29,

My [24m] gf [22f] is upset at being left home alone tonight

r/relationship_advice My [24m] gf [22f] is upset that she is being left home alone tonight u/ElysianEmpire16m I've been in a depression isolation recently so I've hung out with my childhood friend group like 4 times in the past year. The last time was a Halloween party. They've finally convinced me to come over to watch fights tonight. Also the last 4 times I've hung with them, I've brought my gf, who they do not know that well at all. I think one of my friends even dislikes her a little due to some stuff she did early on in the relationship that I vented to him about. I was telling her who all was going to be at my friends place tonight. It was just a few of us guy friends and the long time gf of one of them. Then my gf got upset that the other gf is going but shes not invited. I feel like my friends want to see me without her for once and it was pretty implied that theyd rather just have me over tonight. And my gf tends to talk a lot roland talk over people w

Am I (F22) too young for engagement? Or am I overthinking everything.

Hello everyone! Coming here today with a question that I feel is kinda controversial, but I’d love any insight and advice to help me out. I apologize in advance because this will be long. So I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (M23) for over 4 years now. We met in college, I was a freshman and he was a sophomore. Dated faithfully the entire time, and while we’ve had a few bumps in the road it’s mostly been pretty smooth sailing. There have been some times where I wonder if we’re compatible long term (we have pretty different hobbies/interests, but it’s nothing too major) but for the most part he’s pretty awesome and I’ve just shrugged those feelings off as normal feelings people get once they hit a certain point in a LTR, and have those “grass is greener” thoughts. Overall, he’s really great, we’re on the same page with each other, and we’re doing good. We’re both graduated now, we live together, and we have a cute rescue pup. Life is good! And naturally, the next step w

my (17F) brother (13M) is going down a dark path. don’t know what to do.

(disclaimer: i am not against the use of weed or nicotine, it just so happens that my 13 year old brother is using them and it’s visibly deteriorating him.) my brother is 13, is 6’1 weighs around 200 pounds (also plays football) - he smokes pot every day, vapes, drinks, self-harms and has run away from home on several occasions. he is very aggressive and verbal. if he were older, it would be easier to help him out or understand what to do, but he is so so so young. our parents are separated, he doesn’t respect my mom’s boyfriend (he is a bit of a dick but never abusive) and he’s currently living with my mom. she is heartbroken and has admitted to being suicidal. whenever my brother does anything inappropriate, i never hear the end of it. it kills my motivation and my passion for life knowing that my kid brother is wasting his away. i don’t know what to do. we try to talk to him kindly, understand him and make him feel welcome in either my mom or dad’s home, and it ends up in increas

19, M. Does anyone else struggle to take risks with relationships out of fear of being “exposed”?

This dating fear almost certainly stems from social media, but it’s one I’m struggling to deal with. I’m 19 and broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years in about February. Since then my self confidence has taken a bit of a dive but I’ve been trying to meet new people and make new relationships. The problem is I have the constant feeling that in the modern dating world as soon as you shoot your shot or make yourself vulnerable people just seem to want to expose you. Whether it’s posting Screenshots on twitter or telling their friends everything you said or did and laughing about it, it seems like no one is really safe from constant attempts to be embarrassed. Is this some sort of weird trust issue / low self esteem problem I have or do you think it’s an increasing problem with social media? TL;DR the Internet has fuelled a fear that I’ll be ridiculed by anyone I take a risk with Submitted December 29, 2019 at 12:18AM This dating fear almost certainly stems from social media, but

From "I am Nobody" to "I exist"

Hi, I (24m) need advices from you but let me explain first. When I was in Highschool, I wasn't very popular with girls... I didn't take good cares about myself (smoked, doing video games insted of doing some sports etc) so there were a lot of girls I "saw" but they didn't "see" me at that time (don't know if Im clear). Today, I can be proud of myself and say that I did a loooot of changes in my life (I do theatre, play some drums, do some sports etc) so I kind change than I was before. Also, I live in the same town so, I don't know if you have the same feeling or what but the past is always "around" you. I went out with some friends on a saturday afternoon to ice-skating (I'm not good at all lol) and a girl, I saw at my highschool was there too. I knew she would come but I was like : "it's cool, I'm not after anything, just have some fun with the others"... I made her laugh all the time ! For exemple, I create

How to ask out a girl [F, 19] that I [M,20] barely know?

I went to my local movie theatre two days ago closest to my college and the cashier [F,19] there recognized me. She asked me if I was a student here and was in engineering, we talked a little bit. Turns out that we had met briefly about a year ago because of my friend who lived on the same dorm floor as her. Unfortunately, my movie was about to start and a line of people was forming behind me and so I had to leave and we were unable to exchange names or anything else. I thought she was really cute and I want to ask her out to lunch but had no way to see her again except at the movie theatre. So I did a little digging. I am friends with her RA [F,21] of the dorm she used to be in and so I asked her about the girl's name which she knew and she was happy to be my wingman and try and help me out (she is a great wingman as she got my previous roommate with her current GF). I plan on waiting and seeing if my friend can get me in touch with that girl and if she can't, I should go t

How do I stop myself from becoming jealous in a relationship.

My gf (19) and I (m21) have been dating for 9 months. By far the longest relationship I've had and she is awesome for the most part. However, from time to time she presents behaviors that make me feel jealous. She has a lot of guy friends which I'm completely cool with but what ticks me off is her behavior with said friends. For example when we are hanging out at my place and she receives a snapchat from one of them, she immediately replies, like within seconds. I think it puts me off because it feels like she is not as present with me as I'd like. One time, we are watching the mandalorian, and she received a snap from a dude, opens it and starts laughing her ass off. "omg Matt just sent me the funniest thing". What was the snap you ask? Literally just him eating something with the caption "i'm exhausted". I'm no standup comedian, but wtf that was not funny in the slightest sense. tbh it felt like she was trying to make me feel uncomfortable on

I (23M) was interested in a girl (20F) from university for a while, but the whole time I knew her she was in a relationship. She's recently single, but we now live in different countries. How should I approach her with the idea of dating?

The story is as follows: I knew this girl from going to university (same major, different years), and I thought she was absolutely beautiful from the moment I met her. From her first day at school guys were flocking to her, and I had low self esteem and just thought that if I approached her I would be one more guy among dozens. I've probably known her for 4-5 years at this point, and while I wouldn't consider us good friends, we have hung out before in group settings, so there definitely is a mutual friendship. I never gave her any hints that I was interested in her (yes I was probably an idiot) and for maybe 85% of the time we have known each other she had 2 boyfriends. At the end of last year (Dec 2019) I left the country that we were both going to school in and moved back to the country where my family and sister live. Maybe two weeks ago I thought "fuck it" and replied to her Instagram story of a selfie and just said that she looked gorgeous or something like t

Online dating doesn't exist anymore

Up until they shut Craigslist personals down I have met easily a hundred different women on there, no not the pay for play but just females genuinely looking for sex. I tried a couple other sites and I've had no luck, I'm not the type to go to bars looking for tail and yes some apps do still work but it's always a shot in the dark. Would I really want is to get a new relationship but all my past relationships that started online ended in disaster, the sexual encounters where always fun tho and I met a handful of fwb but all drifted over time. Where can I go online for some casual NSA sex? And where's the best place to meet a girl that actually wants to be in a relationship. I never have never will pay for play it's not my thing, I could use some pointers right about now. I know how to talk to females and in person it's easy to hit things off but I can never seem to meet any lately U can roast me if u want but I'm being dead serious Submitted Decemb