How do I stop myself from becoming jealous in a relationship.

My gf (19) and I (m21) have been dating for 9 months. By far the longest relationship I've had and she is awesome for the most part. However, from time to time she presents behaviors that make me feel jealous. She has a lot of guy friends which I'm completely cool with but what ticks me off is her behavior with said friends. For example when we are hanging out at my place and she receives a snapchat from one of them, she immediately replies, like within seconds. I think it puts me off because it feels like she is not as present with me as I'd like. One time, we are watching the mandalorian, and she received a snap from a dude, opens it and starts laughing her ass off. "omg Matt just sent me the funniest thing". What was the snap you ask? Literally just him eating something with the caption "i'm exhausted". I'm no standup comedian, but wtf that was not funny in the slightest sense. tbh it felt like she was trying to make me feel uncomfortable on purpose. Furthermore, her sexually experience FAR exceeds mine, she told me her number and I lowkey freaked out on the inside, but at the same time I get it bc I would probably sleep around a lot too if I was a girl. I do not want to ask her to change how she interacts with her friends, I feel like that is a bit intrusive. I wanted to ask you guys and girls with more experience in life than me on what I can do to stop feeling jealous. Obviously it has to do with my insecurity, but I would not say that I am an insecure person in general. How can I become okay with her promiscuous past and how she interacts with other guys now?



Submitted December 28, 2019 at 11:58PM

My gf (19) and I (m21) have been dating for 9 months. By far the longest relationship I've had and she is awesome for the most part. However, from time to time she presents behaviors that make me feel jealous. She has a lot of guy friends which I'm completely cool with but what ticks me off is her behavior with said friends. For example when we are hanging out at my place and she receives a snapchat from one of them, she immediately replies, like within seconds. I think it puts me off because it feels like she is not as present with me as I'd like. One time, we are watching the mandalorian, and she received a snap from a dude, opens it and starts laughing her ass off. "omg Matt just sent me the funniest thing". What was the snap you ask? Literally just him eating something with the caption "i'm exhausted". I'm no standup comedian, but wtf that was not funny in the slightest sense. tbh it felt like she was trying to make me feel uncomfortable on purpose. Furthermore, her sexually experience FAR exceeds mine, she told me her number and I lowkey freaked out on the inside, but at the same time I get it bc I would probably sleep around a lot too if I was a girl. I do not want to ask her to change how she interacts with her friends, I feel like that is a bit intrusive. I wanted to ask you guys and girls with more experience in life than me on what I can do to stop feeling jealous. Obviously it has to do with my insecurity, but I would not say that I am an insecure person in general. How can I become okay with her promiscuous past and how she interacts with other guys now?
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