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My (23m) GF (22f) struggles with being physical after a previous bf forced her into sexual acts. Need advice

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Girl's of reddit. What's the matter with me?

I am a 23M just graduated college and still haven't ever been in a relationship, date or even had sex (one night stand) for that matter. I still haven't even remotely had my first kiss yet. All the girls that I meet either befriend me or just don't look at me in that way. And the one's I try to flirt with, luck be it, turn out to be in some sort of existing relationship setup. I just am tired of this! I would also like to point out that I am not a boring person in anyway and none of the girls feel like that when I talk to them either and proactively listen and have a conversation as well as normal people do. But none of those interaction go beyond friendship. That being the problem. What could I be doing better and I am open to suggestions in the comments? And also, I doubt it is but is this normal?! Submitted April 23, 2020 at 11:29PM I am a 23M just graduated college and still haven't ever been in a relationship, date or even had sex (one night stand) for...

When your girlfriend will let you do almost anything but won't try anything for you.

So, this is something that's weighed on me for a long time. I'm a 21M good church boy and have only had one relationship until now with a 21M good (abusive) church girl. We'd been best friends since we were five and so became very physically involved shortly after we started dating at the beginning of college. We never had actual sex but we did everything you could do while keeping your underwear on. At least, *I* did. Every time we were at her dorm or my house together, things inevitably got physical. I'd put my absolute all into making her feel great with what limited ways I could, such as rubbing her off or going down on her over her panties. However, anytime I'd ask her to even try to touch me... at all, she would refuse, sometimes even getting twitches or anxiety attacks at the sight of a tent in my pants. She was utterly *terrified* of the male anatomy, but still would let me go down on her for ten minutes straight. Then afterward, when I'd ask her to t...

Will I be allowed to collect sex toy from my local post office?

I’m a minor who has ordered a vibrator online to be delivered to my local post office (UK) is there any chance I will need to be over 18 in order to collect it?? I know that packages containing alcohol and other age restricted things usually require proof of age but I’m unsure about this. The toy was bought from Lovehoney.com and nothing on their website specifies that you have to be over 18 to receive the parcel. Please help!! I’m stressing lol Submitted April 23, 2020 at 11:37PM I’m a minor who has ordered a vibrator online to be delivered to my local post office (UK) is there any chance I will need to be over 18 in order to collect it?? I know that packages containing alcohol and other age restricted things usually require proof of age but I’m unsure about this. The toy was bought from Lovehoney.com and nothing on their website specifies that you have to be over 18 to receive the parcel.Please help!! I’m stressing lol

I eet the pee pee

Mmmm me love good sloppy toppy nom nom in my mouf Submitted April 23, 2020 at 11:42PM Mmmm me love good sloppy toppy nom nom in my mouf

Help me i can't get a proper hard on, have preejaculation issues and sexual stigma

I was bullied in my childhood and because of that i took to masturbation and have been heavily doing it. I have grown weak and thin and now my tip has discoloured, i come in three strokes, i can't get a proper hard on... What should i do? I have never cleaned down there, i have tight and long foreskin... And it used to hurt... What process should i use to clean so that it doesn't hurt much. How can i get my dick to work properly like it used to. Earlier i could twitch it witjout the use of my hand but now i cant even feel that muscle. Has it gone dead? Is it broken? Like i can get a hard on... But i can't rock it without using my hand. This is making me suffer in my sexual life... I've been declining my gf because of this because I'm afraid that she'd reject me after this. Help, please Submitted April 23, 2020 at 11:54PM I was bullied in my childhood and because of that i took to masturbation and have been heavily doing it. I have grown weak and thin and ...

I’ve just measured my penis for the first time and I’m shocked!

I’ve never actually got round to measuring my penis before, but I did for the first time tonight and I’m very much disappointed. I’ve always thought I had a decent sized penis, but when I measured it, it was only 5.5 inches when hard and 3 inches when soft. It’s quite wide, but I thought it was much longer... at least 6.5-7 inches. This seems quite small to me so I thought I’d just gage opinion and see if you thought it was on the small side. Submitted April 23, 2020 at 11:55PM I’ve never actually got round to measuring my penis before, but I did for the first time tonight and I’m very much disappointed. I’ve always thought I had a decent sized penis, but when I measured it, it was only 5.5 inches when hard and 3 inches when soft. It’s quite wide, but I thought it was much longer... at least 6.5-7 inches. This seems quite small to me so I thought I’d just gage opinion and see if you thought it was on the small side.

I could really use some advice on this.

How would you go about introducing your husband or significant other to sex toys? In my opinion it’s a awkward topic to bring up. I’m mainly just scared of his reaction when I ask him about it or if he says no (which I don’t think he will). I’ve been wanting to ask him about it for some time now, I just don’t know how to bring it up. Submitted April 23, 2020 at 11:56PM How would you go about introducing your husband or significant other to sex toys? In my opinion it’s a awkward topic to bring up. I’m mainly just scared of his reaction when I ask him about it or if he says no (which I don’t think he will). I’ve been wanting to ask him about it for some time now, I just don’t know how to bring it up.

Wanting to pleasure myself but feeling horribly dysphoric during and after

I'm an FTM male (Assigned female at birth, transitioned to male). For the past few months, I have been experiencing a lot of body dysphoria (mainly around my chest, voice, and lower bits) It's making looking at myself naked or clothed a big challenge, hell even talking. I used to be able to get horny, jack off and that be that. Now it's more of a: "Okay I'm horny, but that means I have to touch myself, hear myself, and see myself....all things that are going to make me feel dysphoric afterward and during that fact." I never really had this issue before and I'm pretty sure it's more than common for many people to feel guilty after indulging so I don't pay that part no mind. I've tried different products for Trans guys to use (Since our anatomy downstairs changes a bit) but they either are too small or they just don't work like they are said to. I don't mind penetrative stuff, it's most likely where I feel the best anyway but the...

How can I get my husband to spank me the right way?

I've shown and explained to my husband exactly how I want to be spanked and yet he continues to do it in a way that turns me off. Some context: a few months ago, I revealed to him that getting spanked turns me on. He was willing to give it a go. He didn't seem turned on or off by the idea - just neutral. He has since spanked me dozens of times and there was ONE TIME where he did it perfectly - right tempo, hitting the right spots, just enough so I could feel lots of sensation but it wasn't painful, etc - but apart from that one time, he always manages to spank me in a way that turns me off completely. For example - he will hit my ass too high up, so he ends up slapping my lower back (not very hot for me) or the side of my hip, where it just feels unpleasant and not sexy. He will either hit way too soft or too hard. And the most frustrating thing is when I ask him to spank me and he says "oh, sure" and then slaps my ass ONCE or maybe twice. Like, that's not...

Quick height question about online dating

I am a M 5' 9.5" legit bearfoot in the morning and also have superb posture/wide build-torso. When asked by girls chatting about my height (or in the bio) can I get away by claiming 5'10 or should I stick to saying that i am 5'9 ? Submitted April 23, 2020 at 11:22PM I am a M 5' 9.5" legit bearfoot in the morning and also have superb posture/wide build-torso.When asked by girls chatting about my height (or in the bio) can I get away by claiming 5'10 or should I stick to saying that i am 5'9 ?

Late 20’s and need advice

So..I grew up in an eastern Asian household where grades were emphasized my entire life, and boys forbidden. Fast forward 25 years, and I’m a doctor, have a great job (albeit with long hours), and comfortably paying off my loans and getting on with life. Enter a boy, who is from the same culture I am, and has been pretty fun to talk to. We have been texting and calling for a few months now, but unable to meet up due to the covid-19 pandemic. Talking has been fun and interesting, but lately he has been dropping sexual lines into the conversation, telling me how much he loves my “feet,” and how he can’t wait to see them in person, asking me if I wear dresses and if I’ll wear one for him. The latest one is that he wants me to wear lingerie for him when he comes over to my house. (I told him it was too early for that.) I’m not okay with this, and it’s a huge turn off for me. I’ve causally skirted about the subject with him and he’s never really replied or addressed my comments, just cha...

Can't tell if he is legitimately busy, or just not interested. Did I do the right thing?

A little history on the situation: For a few months I just talking to a guy fairly regularly. We went on a handful of dates and seemed to enjoy ourselves. We both live busy lives and live a few hours apart. From around November until (April) we lost contact. Late on he messaged me out of the blue and we talked a lot! He asked to hang out and asked when would work for me. I told him the days that I could and he said he would let me know if any of thise days would work. We established a soft day, but when I confirmed the plans the day of, he said that he no longer could. He then suggested that he might be able to the following weekend, but never gave a day. I let him know that it might work for me, but we would have to hang out closer to where I live this time. He said that should work. We talked for a few days longer, then he kind of trailed of keeping in contact. So here is what I did: After not talking for a few days, I sent him a message. I'm very much into being direct and oth...

Relationship ruined during quarantine

Hi everyone hope you’re all staying safe!! So my ex and I broke up a few days ago because of the stay at home rules happing now. I’m still going to work and life for me hasn’t changed much but my ex has been on paid leave since the shutdown started. We have been friends and colleagues for a year now but started talking romantically in February and made things official mid March. We were getting to really know each other when the shutdown happened For that reason I had not seen her since st Patrick’s day. I work a lot so we hadn’t really been texting either and things just didn’t feel the same we stated that we were starting to feel indifferent towards each other. I decided that it wasn’t the best time for us to be together. We agreed to go back to being friends for the time being. I was more than willing to see her from the safety of my car just to drive by her house but she said she was already in bed and had an exam early the next day. In my head that was a test where I wanted to se...

Keeping a spark when dating virtually

I (24M) met this girl (22F) online during the quarantine about 1 week ago. We have spoken most days, combination of phone and video chat , and have a really good emotional connection, but I am worried about keeping a sexy “spark” without any physical contact whatsoever. We send each other photos, it would be good to build on that but I’ve never really been great at talking dirty particularly over the phone, and everything I do try to say just never sounds right. Is anyone in my position? Any advice would be appreciated ✌️ Submitted April 23, 2020 at 11:31PM I (24M) met this girl (22F) online during the quarantine about 1 week ago. We have spoken most days, combination of phone and video chat , and have a really good emotional connection, but I am worried about keeping a sexy “spark” without any physical contact whatsoever.We send each other photos, it would be good to build on that but I’ve never really been great at talking dirty particularly over the phone, and everything I ...

Feeling sad wasting so much time on the wrong guy

I (29F) met a man (33M) more than 2 years ago when he just got out of a long term relationship. We dated for two months but then he faded away. He said he wasn't ready. After that we met like friends off and on, but quite infrequently. He then went back to his ex for like a month but they broke up eventually. He entered into my life again as a friend and we did have sex. (I know it sounds horrible! but I didn't meet anyone else interesting and I wasn't looking for something serious at the time because of my own life uncertainties). Also I started a business that year and he helped me a lot with it. He is quite intelligent and I thought it’s beneficial to keep him in my life to ask about business strategies and asked him to do some projects for me. (and I did also hope maybe he’ll change his mind and realized how great I am…) Later last year my life and situation became more stable and I decided that I do want a committed relationship. So I know I had to cut him off and I ...

Is it wrong for me to be kinda picky

I’m not too overly picky when it comes to guys I like. In fact some of the things I like most people don’t. For example I’m more into short and stalky guys. I’d rather have a guy with a little meat on his bones then a twig. Preferably they’re not shorter then me, but the last guy I dated was only an inch taller then me. I also don’t like big noses, they gross me out for some reason. I’m also into guys that have more of an adorable personality. You know kinda awkward and gets embarrassed easily, idk I just think it’s cute. I’m also more into the country type because I’m the kind of person that likes to go do stuff, I don’t like sitting inside all day. I’ve found that country guys usually are the same way. my friends tell me I’m too picky and that I go too much off of looks. Honestly it’s kinda 40/60. Looks matter a little but the can personality change how attractive someone is. Personally I think I just have a type and I don’t think it’s a bad thing. I also think it’s good to be a li...

I (M29) like a friend (F32). Will it be a good idea to ask her out/tell her my feelings on Skype? Or should I tell her when we meet face to face?

The city I live in is not under strict lockdown. Jogging while maintaining social distancing is allowed in my city. So, three of us ( my crush, my roommate and I ) meet outside regularly for evening runs. Should I plan for a run and ask her to meet before my roommate arrives and then tell her my feelings? Or should I call her on Skype and tell her? Submitted April 23, 2020 at 11:40PM The city I live in is not under strict lockdown. Jogging while maintaining social distancing is allowed in my city. So, three of us ( my crush, my roommate and I ) meet outside regularly for evening runs.Should I plan for a run and ask her to meet before my roommate arrives and then tell her my feelings?Or should I call her on Skype and tell her?

Ugh

Guess who lead you on then ghost are a special kind of evil. Submitted April 23, 2020 at 11:40PM Guess who lead you on then ghost are a special kind of evil.

The best revenge is moving on and being happy, better if they can see it lol

So this girl basically used me to get over his first ex, then was talking to me and another person at the same time. Led me on, she just needed someone to make her feel better about herself. Soon as she felt better about herself and decided to get together with the other person she was talking to. Dropped me like a sack of potatoes. I can describe her as a person who is driven by their emotions rather than logic, a selfish person that only cares about she wants and doesn't care about the consequences. I still have her on social media, but only reason I decided not to delete her is so she can see how happy I am with out her! Submitted April 23, 2020 at 11:45PM So this girl basically used me to get over his first ex, then was talking to me and another person at the same time. Led me on, she just needed someone to make her feel better about herself. Soon as she felt better about herself and decided to get together with the other person she was talking to. Dropped me like a sack...

Was I being pushy?

I (29F) met a man (33M) more than 2 years ago when he just got out of a long term relationship. We dated for two months but then he faded away. He said he wasn't ready. After that we met like friends off and on, but quite infrequently. He then went back to his ex for like a month but they broke up eventually. He entered into my life again as a friend and we did have sex. (I know it sounds horrible! but I didn't meet anyone else interesting and I wasn't looking for something serious at the time because of my own life uncertainties). Also I started a business that year and he helped me a lot with it. He is quite intelligent and I thought it’s beneficial to keep him in my life to ask about business strategies and asked him to do some projects for me. (and I did also hope maybe he’ll change his mind and realized how great I am…) Later last year my life and situation became more stable and I decided that I do want a committed relationship. So I know I had to cut him off and I ...

Girl I was dating wants to wait until after quarantine to pick things back up?

Basically we were dating for two months prior to quarantine. Things were great, consistent texting, sex. You could tell she was starting to take it in a more serious direction (talking about dates she wanted to go on with me, what she was gonna get me for bday, where she was gonna take me, doing partner yoga, starting a tv show together) despite me initially thinking it was gonna be a casual hookup. Until the very end, she was talking that way. Then randomly, something changed. She started to fade away from me at the start of quarantine, but would still text me and we’d talk about our inside jokes but the consistent communication ceased, it became very sporadic. I let it happen. She didn’t mention she was really stressed/having panic attacks because of the whole situation (she is on a VISA here and could lose her job very easily). We talked about a date we planned and she was saying how it sucked we couldn’t do it together so I did it on my own (painting session). She asked to see th...

If a man tries to steer conversation to sex all the time does he even care about me?

25, F. I am having such bad luck with dating I am feeling like I might get put off for good. The last few men I have talked to have tried to get something from me in a very short space of time. They don't bother to try and get to know me or if they do they say anything to get what they want and never talk to me again. I am interested in them: I ask how they are, about themselves and stuff. I care. But they don't. I don't think I give off the vibes that I will let people use me, I am sure of myself and acceptable boundaries. I haven't dated for years til now so I am taking their treatment of me kinda hard. I just hate this. I don't feel respected or appreciated, just used. I want to be appreciated and cared about in kind. How do you find someone like that? Submitted April 23, 2020 at 11:51PM 25, F. I am having such bad luck with dating I am feeling like I might get put off for good.The last few men I have talked to have tried to get something from me in a ...