When your girlfriend will let you do almost anything but won't try anything for you.

So, this is something that's weighed on me for a long time. I'm a 21M good church boy and have only had one relationship until now with a 21M good (abusive) church girl. We'd been best friends since we were five and so became very physically involved shortly after we started dating at the beginning of college. We never had actual sex but we did everything you could do while keeping your underwear on.

At least, *I* did.

Every time we were at her dorm or my house together, things inevitably got physical. I'd put my absolute all into making her feel great with what limited ways I could, such as rubbing her off or going down on her over her panties. However, anytime I'd ask her to even try to touch me... at all, she would refuse, sometimes even getting twitches or anxiety attacks at the sight of a tent in my pants. She was utterly *terrified* of the male anatomy, but still would let me go down on her for ten minutes straight. Then afterward, when I'd ask her to try *anything*, no cigar. Not a bit, wouldn't even try.

We broke up right before this past Christmas, and this experience has made me jealous, for lack of a better word, of her. What she felt, what she experienced, I've just felt *jealous*, envious. I'd love to know if there's any guys who have gone through something like this, or women who perhaps understand either side of the issue.

Also, honestly, just wanted to get it off my chest in a place where I wouldn't have to worry about potentially getting kicked off the worship team :P

Submitted April 23, 2020 at 11:37PM

So, this is something that's weighed on me for a long time. I'm a 21M good church boy and have only had one relationship until now with a 21M good (abusive) church girl. We'd been best friends since we were five and so became very physically involved shortly after we started dating at the beginning of college. We never had actual sex but we did everything you could do while keeping your underwear on.At least, *I* did.Every time we were at her dorm or my house together, things inevitably got physical. I'd put my absolute all into making her feel great with what limited ways I could, such as rubbing her off or going down on her over her panties. However, anytime I'd ask her to even try to touch me... at all, she would refuse, sometimes even getting twitches or anxiety attacks at the sight of a tent in my pants. She was utterly *terrified* of the male anatomy, but still would let me go down on her for ten minutes straight. Then afterward, when I'd ask her to try *anything*, no cigar. Not a bit, wouldn't even try.We broke up right before this past Christmas, and this experience has made me jealous, for lack of a better word, of her. What she felt, what she experienced, I've just felt *jealous*, envious. I'd love to know if there's any guys who have gone through something like this, or women who perhaps understand either side of the issue.Also, honestly, just wanted to get it off my chest in a place where I wouldn't have to worry about potentially getting kicked off the worship team :P