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I'm 24 and I question it for some month and I am sure since january. I was thinking that I wasn't ready yet. August 30, 2020 at 11:30PM

I gotta say (& I can't really support it, although I've read a number of allusions to it in many books on the Life of Paul) but I've often wondered if Paul wasn't, himself, Ace August 30, 2020 at 11:30PM

Wow. Not the best time, bot... August 30, 2020 at 11:30PM

Honestly, unless the show slowly builds it up and it's meant to wrap up the "sexual tension" there really isn't a point. Though sex for whatever reason makes people drop their guard and say shit they shouldn't due to being high off of the dopamine, so it can be used for that too August 30, 2020 at 11:30PM

As much as I hate them, I can say that I’ve seen a necessary scene, and it makes me emotional every time. If anyone has seen Haunting of Hill House, you know that the main characters are psychologically complex. The third episode, one of my favorites, has one of those scenes at the end, that mirrors the one at the beginning. Understanding in a new light why this character does the things she does, and is the way she is. They’re not even horribly explicit, but the first one is quite uncomfortable for me, even if it’s short. Point is, it’s the only sex scene that makes my chest ache, and in effect cry. August 30, 2020 at 11:29PM

See I'm not saying that Episcopalians have it easy in terms of Christian societal expectations, but I'm a southern Baptist who lives in the middle of the bible belt, just for reference. August 30, 2020 at 11:29PM

I 41F would like to give advise to men and women who are in a relationship Marriage is a life long commitment and I hear that after so many years in marriage, everything becomes routine and some are not attracted to their partners. In my opinion both should work equally to keep the marriage interesting and the bond strong. Do not argue over pity things instead understand each others weaknesses and accept their flaws. Also always try to put your needs first and then your partner needs... remember life is so short and should not have regrets. Try not to control your partner instead give them space and freedom. Also never argue in front of kids and always respect each other in front of them. Those are my advises for married people, i am married for 23yrs and still married...if you ask me if i was given a chance would i select the same partner? my answer is NO for several reasons, but i have the best kids in the world. Thanks for reading and I want everyone to be happy Submitted Augus...

I need to do a sanity check from unbiased opinions, because I’m completely at a loss. There’s obviously a ton more back story behind our relationship, but we have been married four years and have two young kids. To set the stage, my wife’s 30th birthday is tomorrow, and we’ve spent basically the week past two days straight fighting over everything. I really did want to try to make the days leading up to her birthday special, and so Friday night I planned for my parents to come babysit the boys and to take her out to play Topgolf which she has wanted to do for years. I’d planned for one of her best friends & her husband to meet us there as a surprise. Things went well, and then Saturday morning when she and the boys woke up I had planned to take us all out for a nice breakfast. We went, had a nice meal, and then explored the farmers market that was there as well ( a fav of hers). When we got home we didn’t have anything specifically planned and so I was going to do a few things a...

Anyone else having a hard time lately? My husband works in a nursing home and so we have been quarantined since the beginning. My job switched to remote work at home. I never see my friends or and barely see my family. They don’t make an effort to wear masks and it makes me and my husband uncomfortable so I don’t really visit with anyone. Texting has become a chore lately and so I find myself disengaged when I text with friends. No one likes phone calls anymore. I’m lonely. My husband has never been the chattiest guy around and he never has much motivation to do things together like going on walks(he’s on his feet all day). I made an effort to play video games with him too so I am trying. Usually when we aren’t quarantined I try to plan our dates and we will do it about once a month. Because of obvious Covid reasons we have not done anything all year pretty much. I feel so lonely. I accept my husband for who he is and that if we do stuff together I have to plan it and know that he wil...

*posting here even though I'm not over 30 but the guy I'm talking about is.. 5 years younger* I had a "one night stand" with a guy I met while traveling in January. He approached me first but I was very attracted to him - one of his first questions was to add me on facebook then we found out we had a lot in common then we both got drunk bc it was a club and yea we had a good vibe and had sex a few times from evening till the next morning. I stayed a few hours he was really sweet and we had breakfast together - then sex again and on my way... I think we were both very attracted to each other. we stayed connected but I ended up deactivating my profile for a large chunk of the last several months.. I occasionally drunk messaged him when I was horny and he was responsive and friendly/matching my horny energy sometimes lol but I always initiated. I recently got back on social - updated my pics and ever since he has engaged with every one of my posts and I don't jus...

Hey, I know most people here are over 30 and just simply unlucky to be without a partner even though they do desire a relationship. I would like to know what relationship advice you would give to younger people. Perhaps most of relationships ended because you were immature or maybe you investing you 20’s in your career and forgot about relationships. Nonetheless what’s your advice for finding love at a younger age? Submitted August 30, 2020 at 11:17PM Hey, I know most people here are over 30 and just simply unlucky to be without a partner even though they do desire a relationship.I would like to know what relationship advice you would give to younger people. Perhaps most of relationships ended because you were immature or maybe you investing you 20’s in your career and forgot about relationships.Nonetheless what’s your advice for finding love at a younger age?

Not sure why my first update post was taken down, but trying it again. Original Post Here: Link I ended up following your advice and sent her a message that it would be best if we stopped seeing each other, but left the door open in case she ever became ready to date. I don't expect to see or hear from her again but who knows. Her response was short and about as meh as I expected which shows this was the right choice. Honestly, it's more of a relief to finally know where we stand than it is sad. I really liked this woman, but I can focus on finding people who want what I want, and that is most important. I realize now I had been pretending that I was ok with this going nowhere, but I wasn't, so I'm glad I cut this off. Anybody else meet the right person at the wrong time? Submitted August 30, 2020 at 03:54PM Not sure why my first update post was taken down, but trying it again.Original Post Here: LinkI ended up following your advice and sent her a message th...

Do any of you go through this? Do you feel like you're not really attracted to many people physically because you've got a certain type and you know THAT is why really turns you on/makes you feel attracted? Everything else is kind of... meh. I come across women that there is literally nothing wrong with them at all, and they could be definitely pretty to other guys, but I just don't feel it. There's also been dates where I get along with a woman really well, but, I don't know I'm just not into them, physically and it kind of kills it for me. Obviously, I totally understand not everything is about physical attraction, but you definitely want to like looking at the person. I just know my type is this "look" that Mediterranean/Argentine women have. In no way do I belong on the cover of GQ and I'm not trying to sound superficial, but I am genuinely trying to understand if you guys go through it and what do you do in those situations if you're no...

My best friend has become single for the first time in the years I've known her, and while I was never "pining after her" or hoping I'd some day have an opportunity, the change in status has brought out an infatuation in me that I didn't realize was there. In the long run, I don't believe I'll actually pursue it, because I'm pretty convinced she'd never see me that way, and she means too much to me to jeopardize losing what I do have with her. Plus, I came to be on friendly terms with her now ex, and even though he's moving out of state, I know there's sort of a "bro code" thing there. Still, I haven't been able to shut up the voice in my head that still keeps asking "What if?", and I honestly feel like a pretty bad person, and certainly a bad friend, for feeling that way. I've never been able to date or connect "romantically" with women, so I can't be too surprised that I'm stuck on someone I...

Hey Everyone, Just figured I'd post this. Been single for about a year now and just about ready to delve back into the dating world (joy). A lot's happened in the last couple years for me. I graduated college and got a great job. My job is located about 15 minutes from my brothers house so I moved in with him. It's a three bedroom three story condo so we always have our own space. I'm no mooch - I pay my way and split the housework. My brother and I have always been very close. I'm saving a ton of money right now (over $1000 a month) by living with him. I pay rent, but not nearly what I'd pay living in an apartment (I pay $500 whereas rent is about $1500 here. I up it every year when I get my salary increase). Living here has given me the opportunity to pay off all of my debts and start saving for my own place. I don't think I want to buy a house just yet, and I'm very happy living where I am. Originally I was going to give it until he decided to be ...

Hi everyone, this is my first post to this sub and also my first post to reddit! I'm going to just get straight to it... I (30F) had been taking virtual French lessons with a guy who lives in my city (40M). After the lessons were over, he friended me on FB and asked me out. I honestly wasn't very interested at first, but decided to give him a chance since I am trying to reform my own emotionally unavailable/ self sabatog-y behaviors (like rejecting people who like me and chasing after people who don't care about me). It turns out IRL he was cute and I enjoy being around him. We have been on 3 wholesome dates- a bike ride, the museum, taking walks, having lunch and beer, and basically spending the whole day together every weekend. Yesterday was our 3rd date. There was a huge rainstorm that canceled our outside plans so I said it would be ok if he came to my house. We had a good time listening to music and talking, and made plans to see each other again this week. He is alw...

So I (30F) am perpetually single. I think one of my problems is I just never developed the right social skills growing up or into young adulthood and I have sort of learned to be very independent, probably partially as a coping mechanism I think. The problem though is that it now makes it really hard for me to meet people. I was at a bar the other day that I went to by myself just because I go places by myself. I am pretty sure I got wingmanned. I said no, partially because of the intimidation of having to successfully socialize (I’m not good at banter and small talk) in a situation like that but also because I felt like they were just a bit younger than the people I am looking for at this point in my life as friends or as a significant other. This has legitimately never happened to me though. I don’t get hit on, and I found myself regretting not going frankly. It was practice I clearly needed. Do you all just say yes? To me it seems like it could also be a bit mean. I don’t know. ...

I'm writing this using the app, sorry in advance. My friend (32F) and Tom (37M) dated for about six years. They (mutually, I guess, she never really told me what had happened. I do know that there was no cheating or violence.) broke up four years ago. She's now happily married and gave birth a few weeks ago. Tom and I (31F) didn't really know each other while they were together. We knew OF each other, but the three of us never hung out. A month before my friend gave birth, Tom and I started working on a project together (we are performers for different companies and because of this horrid virus, we had to band together to get work). First, it was all done through emails and chats, we met in person only after about a month and really clicked. Right at that time, my friend had her baby. Tom and I started casually seeing each other. In a perfect world, I'd tell my friend immediately and ask her if she'd be okay with me dating Tom. But I honestly didn't want to ...

I just deleted all dating apps, I feel like it’s just a waste of time. Anyone has any creative suggestions of how to meet people during this pandemic? I’m not saying I’m completely against dating apps but it’s clearly not working for me so might as well try something else. Submitted August 30, 2020 at 11:29PM I just deleted all dating apps, I feel like it’s just a waste of time. Anyone has any creative suggestions of how to meet people during this pandemic? I’m not saying I’m completely against dating apps but it’s clearly not working for me so might as well try something else.

Hi everyone! I need some advice. My boyfriend and I (over 30) have been dating for roughly four months. I’ve realized I love him, although we haven’t said it to one another, and I could see a really great future together. We have a pretty healthy relationship and have been very open with each other from the beginning. However, there’s been some recent things that have come up and I’d like to ask the people on here what their opinion is before I talk to him about how I feel about this. So here’s what I’d like a little perspective on: In the beginning of when we were dating, he mentioned taking sex pictures/videos with his last ex that he still had on his computer. I didn’t really think anything of it because we had just met and were in that dating kind of phase. However, last night, while playing a game with our friends, one of the questions was, do you still have pictures or videos of your ex of a sexual nature and he said yes. He noticed I kind of tensed, and asked if I was mad, b...

I (33M) started playing a mobile mmorpg almost a year ago. About 5 months back a girl came and began playing, she (26F) is 45mins away in a nearby city. We hit it off and began talking frequently on voice chat on discord, we also talk within the game everyday. We have amazing conversational chemistry and we vibe well, making endless jokes about random topics. We talked quite a bit about our sex lives and sexual interests. Ive been trying to get her to meet me and has resisted, saying she isnt interested in a relationship, or fwb (sex is emotional for her). The reason is that her ex messed with her head and she has no interest in men at this time. Thats why she signed up on the mobile game during covid - to get away from online dating sites. Lately Ive been pushing her to meet or at least give me her number (she was stalked pretty intensely in the past so she is very private with her number and its tied to her landline so one could find her address with it). However, we have had a lot...

(x-posted as a comment in another thread) Been talking to a guy for a month. We both aren't the "daily texts and daily check-ins" type, so it took us about 3 weeks of sporadic texting and flirtation before our schedules aligned to meet up for a first date. Went well, but now I don't know quite how to feel about this particular moment I've run into. Our first date was Thursday of the other week. Thanked him for a good time, he reciprocated and said he definitely is looking forward to the next time. We didn't text again over the course of the weekend. Last Monday, I specifically told him that in lieu of texting, I'd prefer to have a quick phone call at or near the end of the week, just to check in and catch up. He said it sounded like a good plan. He's busy, I'm busy, and we've already familiarized ourselves by having a good, hour long phone call prior to our first (and only) date. We don't talk again the rest of Monday or Tuesday. Out of...