My boyfriend (21M) and I (20NB) have been together for exactly 7 months now. I think I could speak for us both when I say that this is the best relationship either of us have ever been in! He goes beyond to do things for me and make me feel loved and he spares no effort in our relationship. However, we live in a small, tight-knit community where everything seems to get around and it was common knowledge that even before we started dating, BF had an obvious thing for Katie for about a year. Katie had Tyler really young and often brings him into my boyfriend's work (her father runs the operation so they spend time with him). I don't know how old he is, but he's a toddler. BF is obsessed with Tyler and loves him to death, so much so that for a really long time, a picture of him and Tyler was his Lock Screen on all of his devices. At the beginning of our relationship BF would always show me pictures of Tyler that he took when he got back from working, but I think he stopped w...

Been approx 1 year since I [28M] ended things with someone [26F] who I genuinely would have married and built a life with and since then, I feel fine by myself but in the women I’ve spoken with as potential future partners or dates I’ve gone on, I often am uncertain in that I don’t entirely feel like they’re someone I could build a life with. I think that because of how intense and deep my last relationship was, I feel a bit skeptical / guarded in other future ones. Am I the only one who feels this after a relationship? Tell me it gets better lol. Submitted March 23, 2022 at 01:15AM Been approx 1 year since I [28M] ended things with someone [26F] who I genuinely would have married and built a life with and since then, I feel fine by myself but in the women I’ve spoken with as potential future partners or dates I’ve gone on, I often am uncertain in that I don’t entirely feel like they’re someone I could build a life with. I think that because of how intense and deep my last rela...

…I don’t think they know what the word “introvert” means March 22, 2022 at 11:37PM

Well, maybe someone should educate them about it. I never said it was from maliciousness. And do you really think it’s allos posting aro stuff on ace subreddits? Most of it comes from aroaces who aren’t aware that asexuality and aromanticism aren’t the same thing. March 22, 2022 at 11:37PM

As it happened to me (M33 back then, 37 now), many men that just get out of a relationship fall into the mistake of getting into the dating pool ASAP. As I have seen in myself and many cases of friends and relatives, that’s a huge mistake. Not gonna stop for too long on the part of “healing and letting go of the ex” because many people writes about it, but I’d like to explain why I think it just basically messes up with your game. There was a huge before/after once I understood all of this: So the first thing I did was to make sure I've fully healed from my past relationship. Otherwise, I'd bring a lot of emotional baggage that will simply stop me from truly enjoying the great experiences that I could have meeting new women, since I'd be constantly comparing, dreading or missing, and that took my ability to be present away from me. Now, once I felt that part was done, I started to enjoy being on my own, before thinking on any tricks, places or dating apps. I enjoyed bein...

Gen z March 22, 2022 at 11:36PM