Yes.. August 25, 2021 at 11:40PM

For me, I suppose it's like eating food? The process is pretty much the same for all food, you just put it your mouth and eat it. But what you want to eat depends on how you feel right then, and your own personal preferences. Like how some people like really spicy food and others have a real sweet tooth. Someone's favourite food is something that another person would never touch. Another example could be art, some paintings might evoke emotions in a person, whereas someone else wouldn't be affected. Similarly, some allos might look at one celebrity and desire them, whereas others wouldn't be affected. That person would invoke these emotions in some people and not in others. Hope this helped! August 25, 2021 at 11:39PM

allo I'll really only speak from my own personal experience on this one. For me, sex is an important part of a committed, romantic relationship (with one important caveat which I'll get to below). It's always been an expression of intimacy. When you're romantically involved with someone, sex goes beyond being purely physical and takes on deeper meaning. It becomes an expression of trust. When I love someone, I want to share myself with them, my passions, my hopes, my fears, experiences, and also my body. Sex can feel like the ultimate expression of being physically close with someone you love. You want to hold their hand, you want to cuddle up with them on the couch, you want to hold them close to you. For me, sexual intimacy is in many ways, an extension of that, the next level. Here's the caveat, I felt different about this when I started dating an ace. I still desire sex, it's still a want or urge that I have. A desire for sex isn't something I can t...

For some background info, my boyfriend and I were each other's firsts so neither of us are very experienced with this. When we have sex in a position where we are facing each other, it's perfectly fine, but he keeps wanting to try new positions including ones where we both face the same direction (doggy for example). He gets barely halfway in before it starts to really hurt me. I'm pretty sure he is hitting my cervix? We tried using lube and it helped a little bit but not enough to make things comfortable for me. I'm not sure what to do about it but my boyfriend likes to try new positions but they're kind of limited since it is only really enjoyable for me if we are facing each other. Is there anything I can do to make this less painful? Submitted August 25, 2021 at 10:55PM For some background info, my boyfriend and I were each other's firsts so neither of us are very experienced with this. When we have sex in a position where we are facing each other, it...

Hello. I am an uncircumsized male. I am having a ton of trouble putting on condoms. The condoms I have tried are the Trojan condoms : The Classic Feel, The Thin Feel, and the Full Pleasure Feel. When I try putting on The Classic Feel and The Thin Feel, I can't seem to roll the condom down all the way. Before I put on the condom, I roll my foreskin down. However, when I try to roll the condom down the shaft of the penis, the condom gets stuck with the foreskin below the head. I can sometimes get it past the head, but it is only going halfway. I can't seem to get it down all the way The Full Pleasure Feel condom DOES go down on the way. This condom appears to be wider, and has lube with it. However, this condom is not tight at all, and I'm afraid it will tear or slip off during sex. Do you guys have any advice which condom I should buy and the exact kind? I'm uncircumsized and my penis hard is the average 5.5 inches Submitted August 25, 2021 at 10:58PM Hello. I ...

I'm a bit of a late bloomer and I feel like I should know a lot of this stuff at my age but I don't have a lot of experience. When I'm by myself, I try not to overthink it all and just do what feels good. Any responses are appreciated :) When I first started exploring my body (at 19, I'm 25 now) I wasn't sure what to do expect. I would just hump against my blanket or pillows because it felt good (which is apparently called edging) but there wasn't any explosion of feelings etc. Eventually Id do it more and more until I couldn't take the stimulation, then I'd stop and let myself calm down. I got this hot rush all over my body and sometimes my thighs would quiver, but that was it. I thought that's what an orgasm was for a while but when I looked it up online it was something different (a "climax"). I read an article saying orgasms were bigger and better, and it wouldn't be a mystery if I had one--I would know for sure. My first sexual...

I’m male so Have you ever humped nothing or like lay flat on stomach or maybe a tiny bit tilted and basically just thrusted air or like it rubs the mattress & inside your pants, thinking about what turns you on To then have a ridiculously good orgasm!!?? The mind has to be in the right mood but if I do this then it legit gives me a better than normal orgasm. It’s like a prostate orgasm type orgasm. Where it builds up REALLL SLOW and then it finally explodes can do this legit almost only by thought but when it gets to the end and real close Only a tiny bit like after 2 seconds of rather humping the mattress or rub nipples it happens? Submitted August 25, 2021 at 11:08PM I’m male so Have you ever humped nothing or like lay flat on stomach or maybe a tiny bit tilted and basically just thrusted air or like it rubs the mattress & inside your pants, thinking about what turns you on To then have a ridiculously good orgasm!!??The mind has to be in the right mood but if I do th...

Right, so my husband had this "great" idea 2weeks ago where we write interesting sex related challanges on small pieces of paper, put them all togheter in a jar and blindly pick a random one every friday. While i wrote stuff like ( try bdsm, sex in the car?, try cooking a meal while having sex.. ect) My husband thus far wrote : have a threesome(no joke that was the first shit i pulled out and second was, use a random household object as a dildo ) This was supposed to be a game where we write things that both of us would be okay with doing, so we promised eachother that we won't say no to anything no matter how weird it might be, as long as it's not crossing the line. Him pulling that shit on me thinking i'd just say, fu*k it i did promise and what not, made me furious! especially since this game was HIS idea. I remember him asking me if i'd ever say yes to a threesome a long time ago and me making it very clear that i would never be okay with that, so him ...

I've been having alot of unprotected sex, (he's been pulling out though) I'm now on my 3RD period this month 😭😭😭 SURELY this doesn't have anything to do with pregnancy does it? The last time we had sex I had taken a plan B like 2 days afterwords because he asked me to but we had slept together many times before then unprotected as well. I dont mean to sound stupid but I have no idea why this is happening Submitted August 25, 2021 at 11:15PM I've been having alot of unprotected sex, (he's been pulling out though) I'm now on my 3RD period this month 😭😭😭 SURELY this doesn't have anything to do with pregnancy does it? The last time we had sex I had taken a plan B like 2 days afterwords because he asked me to but we had slept together many times before then unprotected as well. I dont mean to sound stupid but I have no idea why this is happening

I use to be a sex addict. I got involved with sex and porn at about 6 years old. Ran into my dads videos and other little girls who had the same experience so I started early. When I got old enough to actually do intercourse, my standards were not very high but also I would sleep with anything. These were my criteria for sex only: 1. Not overweight 2. Feminine shape (I don’t like square shaped women) 3. Average face Now for dating it was higher and for serious dating it was way higher. Submitted August 25, 2021 at 11:16PM I use to be a sex addict. I got involved with sex and porn at about 6 years old. Ran into my dads videos and other little girls who had the same experience so I started early.When I got old enough to actually do intercourse, my standards were not very high but also I would sleep with anything.These were my criteria for sex only: 1. Not overweight 2. Feminine shape (I don’t like square shaped women) 3. Average faceNow for dating it was higher and for serious ...

I’m very confused about myself at the moment. About a week back, I watched gay porn out of curiosity and found I liked it. I’ve not watched it since and I was a bit ashamed about it. Fast forward to today, and me and my girlfriend went out with her best friend and her guy. For whatever reason, I was really nervous around him and I felt he was really hot. I didn’t do anything, and I would like to think I’m straight and committed to my girlfriend. He’s not gay anyway. Could it be porn screwing with my head, or could this mean something? Submitted August 25, 2021 at 11:20PM I’m very confused about myself at the moment.About a week back, I watched gay porn out of curiosity and found I liked it. I’ve not watched it since and I was a bit ashamed about it.Fast forward to today, and me and my girlfriend went out with her best friend and her guy.For whatever reason, I was really nervous around him and I felt he was really hot.I didn’t do anything, and I would like to think I’m strai...

For a while now I’ve just been having a period of just overall confusion with my life and self. Sometimes I really feel like having sex (and it’s not dependent on my menstrual cycle) and other times I’m so grossed out by it that I start to despise it. I have really wild fantasies and I always hate myself after it which is wierd too?? I feel guilty after feeling horny it’s like I’m stabbing myself in the gut???? I also don’t even know if I’m more sexual or into romance like I don’t like it when a guy is too romantic but I hate an overly sexual guy cos it just makes me feel like I’m being used for sex only. I just don’t feel like I fit in anywhere and it’s making me feel uncomfortable, so do I even want sex??? Is this normal and what may be the reason for my behaviour/feelings ?? Submitted August 25, 2021 at 11:21PM For a while now I’ve just been having a period of just overall confusion with my life and self. Sometimes I really feel like having sex (and it’s not dependent on ...

So me and my friend were at the gym last weekend and my friend introduces me to one of his female friends a hot short chick to make a long story short she invites us over her place to "hangout" so we get to her to place to her bedroom we start making out and I start taking her clothes off and we start having sex but am noticing what suppose to be a MMF my friend not participating he just at the end of bed watching us go at it so after 30 mins having sex I cum in her mouth and my friend got off seeing me get off after we got done she went into the shower and my friend told me that was hot af and asked if I would be down letting him watch me fuck girls he known I was like sure this was 1st time having sex with an audience and was kinda hot . Am curious what is this called? I've only done 1on 1 play with chicks and the MMF he's invited me to join. Submitted August 25, 2021 at 11:24PM So me and my friend were at the gym last weekend and my friend introduces me to o...

So I had my first kiss with a guy I am extremely attracted to tonight. It was a lovely kiss and I’m so happy. I got extremely wet whilst kissing but it didn’t lead to any feeling of ‘fuck me now’. I dunno if I should feel that after a first kiss, why do I always get aroused but never an immediate sexual urge? Submitted August 25, 2021 at 11:25PM So I had my first kiss with a guy I am extremely attracted to tonight. It was a lovely kiss and I’m so happy. I got extremely wet whilst kissing but it didn’t lead to any feeling of ‘fuck me now’. I dunno if I should feel that after a first kiss, why do I always get aroused but never an immediate sexual urge?

I’ve been with my BF 1 1/2 years and lived together for 6 months. We have a good sex life but I want to give him a surprise that’s different to the usual surprise BJ. I’d like to give him a striptease but don’t want to freak him out as I think he thinks I’m not into ‘showing off’. I’m not shy with my body but have never given a striptease before. I also want it to be a surprise so don’t want to ask him about his dream tease otherwise he won’t be surprised. There’s a few things I need advise on: 1) Does every guy like a striptease? I know it’ll turn me on but I don’t want to loose confidence if he doesn’t like it. 2) Music or no music? We both have different music tastes and don’t usually play music whilst having sex so I don’t even know where to start! 3) I have a good idea of what kind of strip tease I want to give him but do you have any tips for things I might not have thought about. TLDR: want to give bf a striptease but want it to be a surprise so need second opinions! ...

My boyfriend and I have quite a big age difference - he’s in his early 40s, I’m mid 20s. We’ve been seeing each other for a couple months now and we have oral sex often. He’s great at it and I enjoy giving oral as well but we don’t have penetrative sex as often and it’s starting to upset me. There are times where we’ll hang out and only give each other head. He says he’s attracted to me and is constantly horny around me but rarely initiates actual sex. There’s been a couple times where he’s lost his erection during sex but he’s fine during oral. Could it be ED? Psychological? Something I need to change? Submitted August 25, 2021 at 11:28PM My boyfriend and I have quite a big age difference - he’s in his early 40s, I’m mid 20s. We’ve been seeing each other for a couple months now and we have oral sex often. He’s great at it and I enjoy giving oral as well but we don’t have penetrative sex as often and it’s starting to upset me. There are times where we’ll hang out and only give e...

I’ve never tried masturbating with a cucumber before and I was thinking of trying it. Is it safe to use? Should I just grind it instead of inserting it? Submitted August 25, 2021 at 11:37PM I’ve never tried masturbating with a cucumber before and I was thinking of trying it. Is it safe to use? Should I just grind it instead of inserting it?

Hi everyone! I'm writing here because of a problem I've put off for a couple of years now. I enjoy PIV very much but normally I only last between 2-3 minutes, and that's when I can the one thrusting and in charge of the intensity.. as soon as my partner goes on top of me, in 30 seconds or so I'm done. I'm starting a relationship with a new girl and although I take care of her with oral prior to PIV, and she seems to be Ok with me (or that's what she has told me when I asked), I still enjoy PIV and would like to improve not by much, I'd like to reach something like 8-10 minutes. I'm 27 and a very anxious person. The fact that I last so short haven't helped with my anxiety, and I haven't had a lot of experience, just 2 sexual partners which where also my girlfriends. Normally I need to know very well a person and build some kind of trust before trying to be sexually with her... a month ago we've had sex for the first time and it was amazing,...

Hi there. My wife (35)of 8 years has admitted she would like to have sex with other men. One reason is she’s slept with just 4 men including me and feels she’s missed out on casual sex and one night stands. She’s always concentrated on being a mum and a wife. The second reason is I has incurables premature ejaculation. A very normal penetration to ejaculation is about 1 minute 30 seconds. Sometimes I can edge and hold it for two minutes and sometimes I cum in seconds. My round two is 3-5 minutes. She has always been very understanding. Iv got her off with my tongue but she has admitted to missing long lasting sex that she had with her ex. I asked her if she would like to have sex with another man to which she replied, yes. I naturally presumed she would like to do swinging or swapping but she is against it. She does not like the idea of me having sex with another woman and she doesn’t like the idea of me being in the same room with her having sex with another man. She thinks me cuming...

For a while I used to not be able to get off to vanilla sex, as I had a fetish that was my only turn on, until recently. Normal sexual desires sorta just showed up. I've been considering cutting down on my porn usage, and was wondering if my normal sexual desires are permanent, or if abstaining from them will make me go back to only being able to get off to my fetish. if this sorta thing has happened to anyone on the sub, I'd love to hear your thoughts! Submitted August 25, 2021 at 11:52PM For a while I used to not be able to get off to vanilla sex, as I had a fetish that was my only turn on, until recently. Normal sexual desires sorta just showed up. I've been considering cutting down on my porn usage, and was wondering if my normal sexual desires are permanent, or if abstaining from them will make me go back to only being able to get off to my fetish. if this sorta thing has happened to anyone on the sub, I'd love to hear your thoughts!

I (24F) usually am aroused most of the time, I masturbate regularly with just my hand. I used a vibrator (hitachi) for the first time thinking it would be fun. It took a while to feel good, I managed to orgasm (it was just not very strong) and then I was just numb. I figured it wasn't a big deal but my libido + my normal vulva sensation hasn't returned and this was now 5 days ago. This is making me crazy anxious and sad. Does anyone else have a similar experience or advice about getting back to my normal arousal level? Submitted August 25, 2021 at 11:58PM I (24F) usually am aroused most of the time, I masturbate regularly with just my hand. I used a vibrator (hitachi) for the first time thinking it would be fun. It took a while to feel good, I managed to orgasm (it was just not very strong) and then I was just numb. I figured it wasn't a big deal but my libido + my normal vulva sensation hasn't returned and this was now 5 days ago. This is making me crazy anxious...

Me and my best friend said we'd have sex with each other. She brought it up very strangely though. I was just casually talking about how I was demi and need a deep connection (which I have with her) to have sex. She seemingly used that as an opportunity to be like "I.. I.. I'd have sex with you.. if you wanted" (she sounded a tiny bit nervous bringing it up. Seems cool, right? But to me, it sounded more like "I'd be fine with it", not "I want to". Then again, I have really bad paranoia, especially when it comes to thinking about how people value me. A lot of sex to me is being wanted so that kinda hurts to think about. Then again, she did say something along the lines of "Good thing I claimed you first" when I said someone else said they would fuck me which would imply want otherwise why would she care about "claiming me first"? Anyways, tonight we're talking and she was talking about how she might meet another friend...

i (f21) want to give my boyfriend (m21) the best head possible. I sometimes gag when i try to go deep. and i have a bad habit of letting my teeth get in the way some home. i try my hardest to keep my teeth away but sometimes i slip. i’ve only ever been with two guys in my life. my current bf, and my ex. whenever my ex came in my mouth it was so incredibly salty and i couldn’t stand having it in my mouth. i always spat it out and even threw up a couple times because the saltiness and warmth. my current bf will sometimes cum in my mouth but it literally has ZERO flavor. like i was so shocked the first time he did it bc i thought every guy had salty cum. but he has literally no taste to it. but i still gag from the warmth and just the thought of it being in my mouth. and i threw up last night from him cumming in my mouth. advice? tldr- advice to not gag when giving head Submitted August 26, 2021 at 12:08AM i (f21) want to give my boyfriend (m21) the best head possible. I sometimes...