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How do I know what she wants?

I'm attracted to a friend of mine. Have been for about 6 months. We see each other 4 to 5 times a week. I suck at picking up ques and anytime I thought she was flirting with me, I dismissed it as me looking too much into it and she is probably just being nice. It wasnt until mutual female friends of ours started pointing it out after we all hung out that i actually started paying attention. We would hang out together outside of our friend group and have had some pretty intimate conversations. I Recently found out she has boyfriend though but in the 5 months of us talking she never once mentioned it and always gave the impression she was single. Then the small amount she did say about him wasn't anything positive. "Didn't work, didn't cook/clean" those are the kinds of things she said. I ended up telling her I liked her and she told me that she is loyal to her boyfriend. Which I respect and accept. Yet since then she still seems very flirty and our friends sti...

Sudden Change in Behavior After Lots of Time Together

Posted this elsewhere, but looking for more input. Incoming wall of text. About 4 weeks ago, I met this chick at a bar while out on a Friday. I approached her because I thought she was cute, and we talked a little a hit it off. I texted her that night that I was taking her out on a date that week, to which she playfully asked me if I did that with every girl I meet at the bar. We mutually agreed on a place to go and the plan was set. First date went well (4 hours) and I kissed her at the end, second date (three days later) was even better (4 hours) and we made out in my car. This night, she invited me to go on a trip with her to Miami at the end of July, to which I told her I'd think about it (she really wanted me to go). Third date was at a drive-in in which we got intimate in the back of an SUV and spent seven hours together (however, I was not able to get it up, and this continued to be a problem until recently due to performance anxiety). After that night, we basically saw e...