I'm not 17 anymore, I'm an adult but this happened when I was 17. Basically I used to suffer from arthritis and I was regularly sent to this doctor. He knew I suffer from anxiety and am a generally meek person so I never said anything but this is something that really confuses me. One thing I want to say beforehand is that I don't wish to accuse him or anything, I am only asking this for my own clarity so that I can realise it and move on, I have no wish to contact him and I no longer have arthritis so I won't need to meet him again. So please don't think that I'm trying to accuse an innocent person, I just would like some clarity about this. Now, what happened is that I used to go to him and he would make me lay down and start pressing his hand over my chest (above my clothes, but sometimes I'd be wearing a V necked shirt so there would be some skin sometimes), and would press his hand really hard over my chest and the space between my boobs and a lot of...

Tl;dr - she thinks there's no depth (maybe spark) to our relationship for her but I diagree I've had a very odd moment with the girl I was dating, her thinking there's no depth (I think she sort of alluded to 'the spark') but I believe there clearly has been. She'd thought about this since I asked her 10 days ago now about letting me be her bf, and she'd come back to me over the weekend saying there no depth, that she would've expected to feel more. We've spent lots of time together over the past 7 weeks, texted everyday, gotten along very well, and stayed at each other's places. We've had 6 good dates in that time, we seemed to look forward to them, and several times she was the one to ask about the next time, and when she came over on the weekend it was supposed to be our 7th. I think maybe she freaked out and overlooked the good times? We acknowledged that she'd thought about things not working out over the past week. She was concer...

We have been dating since more than 6 years and there have been several ups and downs including him cheating on me which I forgave as I have immense love for him to make myself weak. Now I found out he is on tumbler sharing inappropriate pictures and watching them and later on he has sex with me. We have a lot of sex which is also disturbing for me at times. I think I may be over reacting at the pictures part as I forgave something as big as cheating. I also think that I am not unhappy but certainly not very happy with this relationship. We are in a live in and it’s hard to move out or take a big step as we have always dealt with everything calmly. What should I do to save this relationship? Or to regain my peace of my mind? TL;DR He’s been on tumbler sharing pictures of naked women and also asking a few of them for it. Submitted January 22, 2020 at 12:15AM We have been dating since more than 6 years and there have been several ups and downs including him cheating on me which I...

Fiance (M30) doesn’t post me (F26)on social media Before I get into it I’m just gonna admit that I know this is petty but it’s still something that bothers me. We’ve been together 3 years, engaged 1, and getting married next year. In this whole time we’ve been together he has never posted anything about me on social media until very recently. It was after I talked to him about it for the second time, about how it was bugging me and I think to make me feel better he posted me on his story. After the first time I talked to him about this he stopped posting on Instagram at all, just on his story and at the time. Before this he didn’t ever really post on his story. I didn’t even think the two things were linked. And after the second time we talked about it he posted me on his story a few days later and I thought it was a sweet gesture but honestly now thinking back to it I feel like he could have just blocked certain people from seeing his story. He also said he would post me when we h...

I (21f) live with my parents (50s). I work full time and pay rent. I've had one previous serious relationship, and currently I am 2 months into dating someone new. My ex was always allowed to sleep in my bed, although I waited longer to invite him to stay over. One of the only things I disagree on with my (usually very liberal) mom is sex and relationships. She hasn't been single since the late 70s, and I think she's very out of touch with modern dating. I remember she was shocked when I slept with my ex after a perfectly average number of dates, by modern standards. So, I mentioned that I was staying over at my new SO's place the other week, and she assumed I was staying in the spare room. I'm usually very open with my parents but... I didn't correct her. Ironically, I'm shy and haven't actually slept with my new guy yet- we just cuddled- but I didn't want to cause the drama that would inevitably come from admitting I slept in his bed. Now, the ...

I have to break things off with him. I have to. I will do it in person because he does mean something to me. But I just can't keep doing this. He is toxic and has been manipulating me. I just truly feel like I don't deserve what he puts me through. But he is my first love. So whenever I want to say goodbye, I can't do it. It just sucks getting it wrong. It sucks holding onto something just because you're hoping it will change. It sucks being wrong about someone. I just need to know that there is something after him. Like I know it's going to hurt me so badly, I'm hoping I don't hurt myself trying to cope. I just feel so scared about ending things because I don't know what's on the other side. Please help me. TL;DR- How do cope after I've lost him? Submitted January 22, 2020 at 12:33AM I have to break things off with him. I have to. I will do it in person because he does mean something to me. But I just can't keep doing this. He is ...

Maybe a bit old school but wondering what the consensus is out there on when people ask someone to ‘get together’. And what to make of this ask? I’m asking because, I find people in their 30s ( if in a relationship ) are usually less likely to ask a single person to meet for drinks. So for example, a person wouldn’t ask the ‘hey let’s do something’ if committed due to their own time and relationship. Or am I off base - Has anyone just meant this type of hang-out as a strictly friends thing? Trying to figure out if the ask I received is a friends thing or more given it’s evening drinks with a former colleague I ran into in the grocery store haha. Submitted January 21, 2020 at 11:42PM Maybe a bit old school but wondering what the consensus is out there on when people ask someone to ‘get together’. And what to make of this ask? I’m asking because, I find people in their 30s ( if in a relationship ) are usually less likely to ask a single person to meet for drinks.So for example, ...

I’ve been told by a former date that I’m very difficult to read and it causes ambiguity and anxiety. Since honesty is kind, and I’m trying to date more intentionally, I’ve decided to be more transparent. In the past two days, I have 1) gently let go of four guys who were eagerly texting me but I wasn’t that interested in, 2) learned why a former (very hot and persistent) date suddenly stopped pursuing, and 3) put myself out on a limb to see if a guy I was crushing on wanted another date. In all three cases, I’ve gotten very positive feedback! One said that I’m very kind for being honest and not ghosting. Another said he thinks I’m incredibly mature and solid for communicating directly yet gently that he respects me more. The last one friendzoned me, but I’m grateful for his friendship and I do think we could become good friends. It feels so freeing to be rid of the ambiguity, and I’m on good terms with everyone in spite of our sticky situations. Lesson learned guys: be brave, honest,...

So I'll keep this short, but definitely looking for advice. Met a someone online, we've been talking/video calling for over a month now. Things have been going good, we laugh alot and have opened up about personal stuff from time to time. But sometimes I feel like I'm getting mixed signals on if we are keeping it casual or if there is a sign we could be more. We've made plans to meet up so looking forward to that. Part of me would like there to be more, but I am also worried if they'll respond with the same feelings. I really don't want to mess this up by moving too fast. Opinions/experiences on how to handle this would be great. Submitted January 22, 2020 at 12:17AM So I'll keep this short, but definitely looking for advice. Met a someone online, we've been talking/video calling for over a month now. Things have been going good, we laugh alot and have opened up about personal stuff from time to time. But sometimes I feel like I'm getting mixe...

Just be attractive. Unattractive/average guys don’t even try your luck, you’ll be saving lots of embarrassment. Seriously, if you are attractive you can say anything to them and it will work but if you are not, you dont have a single shot with them im sorry. If you think this is me being pessimistic its not. If you have no clue what category you fall under (attractive,avg, nonattractive) ask yourself this: do girls initiate conversation with you?, do girls check you out?, do they have interested or uninterested facial expressions when you start talking to them (this is big), and do they seem interested in talking to you or do they walk away slowly as you try to restimulate their interest in the conversation? You hopefully know the answers, if you can check off at least 2-3 of these she’s not interested. Ive been out with my attractive friends and they can say almost anything to a girl and have success. If I copy their exact moves, there is no chance. All hope isnt lost though, you guy...

I'm a 24 year old guy and I'm going on a date with a woman who is 30 years old. I know the gap does not seem that big, but the amount of life experience you go through is quite a lot. Considering that I'm still quite young, I just want to make sure that the date goes well. We have been texting back and forth and met up a few times, but she is quite mature for her age and I don't want to come off as some young guy looking for a date that ends in sex or anything that is considered something a young guy in his early 20s would do. I want to impress, any advice? Submitted January 22, 2020 at 12:26AM I'm a 24 year old guy and I'm going on a date with a woman who is 30 years old. I know the gap does not seem that big, but the amount of life experience you go through is quite a lot. Considering that I'm still quite young, I just want to make sure that the date goes well.We have been texting back and forth and met up a few times, but she is quite mature for ...

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I (27F) worked with this guy (34M) for two years and I left around a year ago. I’ve had a crush on him for a while. When I left work I tried to move past it, I wasn’t sure if I missed him or my whole life/job I had before and wanted a new start as was never sure if he liked me back. I’ve seen him twice recently and I still like him. He’s friendly, playful and kinda shy, but he doesn’t single me out for conversation- he seems to actively avoid being next to me when walking down a street, won’t sit next to me on the train etc. We went out as a group tonight as our old workplace is closing. Despite my trying I couldn’t get him alone to ask him out. I’m disappointed with myself that I didn’t ask tonight, but there was someone literally traveling with us home the whole way before we had to split off. There was always someone at the dinner table or bar. I don’t want to do it with his colleagues in earshot obviously! I don’t have his number, only work email. There’s a final event next we...

I've been living in an area for 2 years but I don't have an apt or house. I book monthly Airbnbs and Craigslist rooms because it is cheaper. Should I try to date at this point? Is it too much of a red flag? Submitted January 21, 2020 at 11:50PM I've been living in an area for 2 years but I don't have an apt or house. I book monthly Airbnbs and Craigslist rooms because it is cheaper. Should I try to date at this point? Is it too much of a red flag?

Hey guys, I( 19/M) need some advice on how to approach a girl(18/19). I saw her at a party last week and wanted to talk to her, but there wasn't a chance. Luckily I know the place she's working at and I really want to talk to her and give her my number. I'm sorry for my english, it's not my first language Submitted January 21, 2020 at 11:51PM Hey guys, I( 19/M) need some advice on how to approach a girl(18/19). I saw her at a party last week and wanted to talk to her, but there wasn't a chance. Luckily I know the place she's working at and I really want to talk to her and give her my number. I'm sorry for my english, it's not my first language

Soooo every crush I’ve had I’ve pretty much dated (luck I guess) but when I start dating them, I loose a bit of interest. Is there something wrong with me? Is this a thing? Can I fix it? Submitted January 21, 2020 at 11:55PM Soooo every crush I’ve had I’ve pretty much dated (luck I guess) but when I start dating them, I loose a bit of interest. Is there something wrong with me? Is this a thing? Can I fix it?

I can’t get my bf out of my head and I find myself waiting for him generally always. It’s not fun at all... Submitted January 21, 2020 at 11:59PM I can’t get my bf out of my head and I find myself waiting for him generally always. It’s not fun at all...

So this is something I’ve become aware of and is adding additional fear when dating. I love my parents, but I’m aware their relationship isn’t healthy. I don’t want to go into detail, but I realised the afterwards that last guy I was seeing had a lot of similar traits to my father. I also noticed I expressed similar behaviour to my mother and it scared the hell out of me. I really want a healthy partnership but I’m afraid I’m not attracted to people who don’t remind me of these negative dynamics. So I’m doomed to repeat them. I’ve tried to speak to a professional about these concerns and she brushed them away; saying as long as I’m aware of them I will be fine. Has anyone successfully broken this cycle? How can I influence who I’m attracted to? Submitted January 22, 2020 at 12:01AM So this is something I’ve become aware of and is adding additional fear when dating. I love my parents, but I’m aware their relationship isn’t healthy. I don’t want to go into detail, but I realised t...

As in the headline really- this is a guy that I (F- 24) have a bit of a thing for, and really want to get to know better, but I just can’t understand this mindset! Or if it’s best to just stay away and move on? Submitted January 22, 2020 at 12:02AM As in the headline really- this is a guy that I (F- 24) have a bit of a thing for, and really want to get to know better, but I just can’t understand this mindset! Or if it’s best to just stay away and move on?

Had a date planned with her on Friday, but we went out with a group of mutual friends as well on Thursday. She ended up cancelling the date for the 2 of us on Friday because she felt hungover from the night before. I replied saying it was fine and that we should plan something else another time and she agreed. I’m usually the one starting the conversations over text, but I usually just leave the texts for organising dates as she is an awful texter. She hasn’t gotten back in touch since Friday - but like I said it’s always me that initiates. She does sometimes send the first text, but it’ll usually be a pet picture. She has suggested a date idea once, but it’s only happened once so far. I would take the lack of serious initiation as a sign of disinterest, but she always agrees to the dates that I plan, but there’s only so many times I can initiate before I have the thought in the back of my mind that she is only accepting because she thinks we’re friends or is uninterested but won’t ...

(M 21) Currently in my last semester of undergrad, and I made it a goal this year to meet someone or at least up my dating game since I haven’t had really any luck my first three years, and this is my last kind of big opportunity around this many like-aged and minded people before starting full time work after graduation in May. Since I turned 21 at the end of last semester, I decided that the bar scene might offer a better experience than my previous attempts at dating apps, since getting to interface in person is at a minimum more genuine than swiping on a screen IMO. I went with some friends on Thursday and Saturday this week when semester started, and while I did feel better about the prospects socially and had fun, I haven’t really broken through fully understanding the culture and how i should act that comes with meeting people in this environment, yet. Currently, I’m a somewhat introverted individual outside of close friends. Not totally to the point I’m excluded, but fairly...