So there’s this girl that I knew from freshman year of high school but she moved after that year, we kept in touch on Instagram and snap. We’re both 18 now and adults. I asked her out last month and she said she didn’t really have time to go out atm. I want to ask her to be my valentine as a surprise but I’m not sure if I should ask her before or on the day of. When should I ask? Submitted February 04, 2020 at 12:34AM So there’s this girl that I knew from freshman year of high school but she moved after that year, we kept in touch on Instagram and snap. We’re both 18 now and adults. I asked her out last month and she said she didn’t really have time to go out atm. I want to ask her to be my valentine as a surprise but I’m not sure if I should ask her before or on the day of. When should I ask?

Hey all! I’ve been w my boyfriend about a year. Something I’ve noticed is he sometimes invites people along on plans we’ve made without checking with me first. I don’t necessarily mind, I just like to check in with each other first. Plus there have been a few times when I wanted it to be just us. I want to ask him to check w me before altering plans; but is this a reasonable expectation on my end? Thanks! Submitted February 04, 2020 at 12:00AM Hey all!I’ve been w my boyfriend about a year. Something I’ve noticed is he sometimes invites people along on plans we’ve made without checking with me first. I don’t necessarily mind, I just like to check in with each other first. Plus there have been a few times when I wanted it to be just us.I want to ask him to check w me before altering plans; but is this a reasonable expectation on my end?Thanks!

After a great date that lasted till bar close we ended up parked in front of her apartment making out in my truck. After a few minutes of this she pulls away and says the aformentioned quote. I was taken off guard by it and mumbled something like, "Well I wouldnt want that...?" Then we said goodbye, talk soon. Yada yada. Was this a veiled request for me to keep pursuing her upstairs? Or a weird, awkward joke? She does have an odd sense of humor. I'm really confused and feel like I might have missed the boat. This happened Saturday night. Submitted February 04, 2020 at 12:18AM After a great date that lasted till bar close we ended up parked in front of her apartment making out in my truck. After a few minutes of this she pulls away and says the aformentioned quote.I was taken off guard by it and mumbled something like, "Well I wouldnt want that...?" Then we said goodbye, talk soon. Yada yada.Was this a veiled request for me to keep pursuing her upstairs?...

I notice a lot of guys stressing and over analyzing dealing with women. Guys acting like it's torture for a guy dating, but it's roses and rose pedals for a woman dating. Looking at things this way, will cause you to put a woman on a pedestal or look at her as some supernatural being in this whole thing we call "Dating". They go thru a lot of the same things we men go thru. Yeah it's different, but trust that not every beautiful woman has a boyfriend, or a guy that's beating down her door to talk to her. Yes women get flaked on too, and also rejected. And it's not always the ugly ones. I did a complete video breakdown on this topic at /r/Alpha_Male_Dating as well. Submitted February 03, 2020 at 11:56PM I notice a lot of guys stressing and over analyzing dealing with women. Guys acting like it's torture for a guy dating, but it's roses and rose pedals for a woman dating. Looking at things this way, will cause you to put a woman on a pedest...

Pretty much the title plus what to expect if you are more on the relationship side than casual? F here Submitted February 04, 2020 at 12:16AM Pretty much the title plus what to expect if you are more on the relationship side than casual?F here

Hey guys! So I [22f] have been dating my SO [24m] for ~5 years now and it feels like we've hit a rut! We've just moved in together ~1year ago and things have been going downhill ever since. Initially I was chalking it up to my education being time consuming (graduate student) and his job (firefighter) being just as easily consuming for his time/mental wellbeing. We unfortunately are on opposite schedules due to his job and hardly get to see each other. Lately when we do, it's not uncommon for him to be short/snippy with me. For a while I was excusing it as having to do with his work and it taking a slight toll on him. Now it's gotten to the point where it makes me not want to say anything from fear of saying/doing something wrong. We also hit a point where we just had no sex or intimacy for almost 6 months; now it's 1x every 1-2 months.... so I'm definitely having a lot of "me time" as a result. So, to surprise him (and try to help things along) I bou...

My nieces are 19 and 17 years old. Background info on kids: They both have deadbeat dads and live with their mother. I used to watch them all the time when they were little because their mother was working or trying to find a new man or whatever. She paid me every single time because trust me I wouldn’t watch these kids for free. They have also always misbehaved and acted out and got bad grades at school, had no friends, been suspended and made to go to therapy in order to go back to school etc Let’s just say they were both pretty defiant and they would tag team against me. Their own mother rarely disciplined them. They had terrible mouthy attitudes and would frequently mouth off. Nobody else would watch them because they were that bad of kids. They even got kicked out of daycare. One time (probably 6 and 8 years old) they decided it would be a great idea to put glue all over the toilet seat at my house and put cotton swabs all over it and clog the toilet, in the middle of the night...

Me (24 F) has entered a new relationship with H (35 M) for 4 months. I've know him for 3 years as friends. He is freshly divorced and and invited me over for a playdate 4 months ago ( I'm a single mom of a 16 month old daughter and he has a 7 year old daughter from his previous marriage) things have spiralled strangely from there. I have a house key and we have had a few romantic nights. I live with my parents and don't speak with my child's father. I help him a lot financially. (I know isn't the smartest) His ex left him for his best friend after 12 years. She left a lot of her things behind which she slowly asked for one at time . He eventually gave her everything except her wedding dress. I asked what he planned to do with it and he stated he wanted to give it to his daughter. Her razor and shaving cream are still there. She has the safe and house key one of which she can't seem to find and won't return the one she has until she has both keys. When I ask...

My parents split up when I was around nine-ish, my mom went through her cycle of lovers while my dad actually stayed single up until I was seventeen. Then he met my stepmom, marrying her after six months of dating. My dad used to say how much he didn't want to re-marry and we used to hang out often, our relationship used to be a lot stronger. I went to him when I was having problems with my mom and I felt safe with him, like how most people should feel with their dad. Now, I wasn't the best child. Around 12, I started to treasure going on the internet more than hanging around with other people (including family). This caused fights and for me to dig myself deeper into isolation. Some part of me feels like this current situation is my fault. When he started dating my stepmom (eventually marrying), my dad completely changed. I was kind of okay with my stepmom when I first met her, she was a bit too extroverted for my liking but I didn't really mind her as a person. But now...

Before I start, sorry for bad formatting. I’ve never used reddit before and I’m on mobile, so just a heads up lol. So to start, my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. Things are going super great, and we’re even talking about living together this coming summer. He’s a very sweet boyfriend. I live with my sister and ever since I’ve started living with her, she’s been borrowing money from me and almost never paid me back. She’s also threatened to kick me out a few times when I first lived with her. It’s admittedly frustrating, but I’m a very patient person, so it hasn’t bothered me as much. It does, however, bother my boyfriend a lot. It’s insane to say that he and I have almost been dating for a year and he hasn’t met my sister at all, and there is a reason for that. He flat out does NOT want to meet her. He says she’s a manipulative person and steals money from me. I see where he’s coming from, but she’s been doing better lately and doesn’t take money as often, ...

I (F, 20) saw this guy (M, 22) followed me when I was in my last relationship and he always seemed interested. I ended things in my last relationship for different reasons, it just wasn’t working. So after a few weeks I messaged him and he messaged back. He seemed interested and he’s best friends with one of my cousins. And so one weekend I went out to the local bars and stuff and he asked if I wanted to come over and hang with him and my cousin and their friends. I said sure and went over. We had an amazing time, I ended up staying over (which I never do because I grew up really conservative) but I felt a connection and he said he did too and we slept together. After we talked all night about our families and our similarities and he said he really wanted to date me and I said I wanted to date him too but get to know him better. Things were really nice. Well that next morning I left to go to work and texted him later in the day that I had fun and he said ” I did too, I already miss y...

I am a Sophomore in College (Male, Heterosexual,19) and I get really lonely this time of year;I have been for a long time. I had a relationship that ended pretty badly about a year ago, and I haven’t dated anyone or even flirted since. Recently, I finally felt like I was ready to get back into dating and had this resolution to find somebody. So I nutted up and asked my crush, let’s call her “Abby” (Female, 20) out for a cup of Coffee last Friday. She said yes, but at the end of it, she told me (very respectfully and kindly) she wasn’t looking to date anyone rn and only saw me as an old friend from high school, so I moved on. However she invited me to a party at her sorority to watch the Super Bowl, since we are still friends. I said sure and I went with her to the party. I met a really nice girl there, Let’s call her “Natalie” (Female, 20) and she seemed to be into me, and I was attracted to her too. I’m just wondering if it would be wrong of me to ask out “Natalie” if she is good fri...

I think I like this girl but I have some issues with depression that leave me a lot of days feeling very emotionally detached and I can't really remember if I like her or what I feel about her at all. I am not sure if I want to ask her out or try to do anything because I don't want to have a relationship where I'm questioning whether or not I like her and I don't want to do anything that could make her feel bad either. I'm worried that is go on a date with her or something and think I'm just not feeling it then regret it later from a different perspective. My friends think that I should just go for it, I'm worried for the reasons described above. I don't know if I should try to get better first or just ask her out. What do yall think I should do? Submitted February 03, 2020 at 11:33PM I think I like this girl but I have some issues with depression that leave me a lot of days feeling very emotionally detached and I can't really remember if I li...

There's this girl at Uni that I started to hang out with over the past two or three weeks. (Introduced by a female friend of mine; we're all studying the same at Uni and often study as a group and do sports together). I am positve that her and I did hit it off from the get-go but we're almost always in a group setting. She's being flirty and touchy, giggling...all that stuff and I've also been spending time with her and two other female friends outside of University (baking a cake, drinking, etc.). I haven't really been able to ask her out because there is literally no time for us at the moment with all the exams ahead of us. Plus, she mentioned this guy from Uni who she went on two dates with though she openly told me and the others that she doesn't like him in that way. Last Thursday, we went out drinking as a group after a big exam again. She was once again flirty, touchy, etc. but then there was this third who she also seemed to have a thing for. At so...

So I have been thinking about when I use to be friends with someone we went on only one date and I'm wondering if she was leading me on. We texted everyday after that date. It started off when I asked her out for dinner on a Saturday when we were both off and she responds by saying that she would ask if her friend who always drags her into stuff has plans but never tells me. 2 days pass and I bring it up, her response is that she was sick and goes to a truck rally that Saturday. I only found out since she was texting me photos of it. I ask her out again she says she will let me know but never does. She then texts me after getting back from Olive Garden and I ask her out a final time. Her reponse was that she was working from 5-8 but 6 days later complains to me that she was working 9-5. I point this out and she claims she doesn't know what she sends. I start becoming a bit distant and she tells me that she needs time to work two jobs and be herself but wanted me to continue ...

I started talking to this one girl in one of uni classes. We’ve had a couple of coffee dates plus one dinner date. However, I cannot tell if this girl likes me more than friends or just wants a close guy friend. Here’s some of the things she’s done since we’ve started talking. She always texts me right after coffee or dinner saying she had a great time or date. She opens up to me, as well as I, about her past experiences. She actively took an interest in looking into my music tastes on her own time. She’s always confirming plans with me in person. She actually said in person today that I seemed like a very confident guy. However, this girl is very introverted and shy. She even said this herself. There’s a good chance I’ll be watching Netflix alone with her in my dorm later this week. I just would hate if I initiated any physical touch and she just backs away. Should I just go for it or what? Submitted February 03, 2020 at 11:39PM I started talking to this one girl in one of un...

I have texted (Snapchat) with this girl for a while now but iam bad at texting as I don’t really know what to say or talk about so I feel like iam very boring. I have met her 1-1 once at her place but we didn’t do anything but talk and that was 2 months ago, i don’t know if she want meet again or not because the times I have asked her she seems enthusiastic about it but can’t because of work but don’t tell me when she is free. She sends a snap almost every day but iam guessing she sends it to others to since it’s often just a picture with no text. I just feel like giving up on finding someone because it’s just too much with all the guess work and then feeling like an idiot for thinking it might be something this time. Submitted February 03, 2020 at 11:41PM I have texted (Snapchat) with this girl for a while now but iam bad at texting as I don’t really know what to say or talk about so I feel like iam very boring. I have met her 1-1 once at her place but we didn’t do anything b...

In short, I saw a guy over the course of a month and everything was electric. We had great chemistry and honestly it was some of the best messing around of my life. But he made several statements that clashed with his actions such as the title and: 1 Complaining that people only wanted his muscular body for sex... yet would frequently state that I turned him on only and would only contact me for sex past the first date. 2 Frequently complimenting my looks and appearance... yet never wondering or asking about me as a person. 3 Hinted that I only was with him for his body... yet he specifically had a type, and, moreover, he basically only talked about my body, face, how I'm gorgeous, and on. 4 When I refused bareback, he balked. When I told him we could do it later if I trusted him, he became more compliant, but then he vanished after, never contacting me or responding to me again. He penetrated me once, but I said no after. Then he ghosted. Was this all a love bombing ploy t...

Was having great chats with my crush and suddenly one day she stopped replying... Idk shat to do anymore, i texted her 3 times with no replies and stopped for 6 weeks... Submitted February 03, 2020 at 11:45PM Was having great chats with my crush and suddenly one day she stopped replying... Idk shat to do anymore, i texted her 3 times with no replies and stopped for 6 weeks...

Im 21 male. As I said above, how do I start? My main question is how do I start taking to a girl whom I haven’t talked to before. Then what happens after? Submitted February 03, 2020 at 11:53PM Im 21 male. As I said above, how do I start?My main question is how do I start taking to a girl whom I haven’t talked to before. Then what happens after?

25 year old dude here and for the life of me I can’t figure out why I keep getting ghosted. Within months or less of talking to a girl, things go silent. Everything is just rinse and repeat at this point. I pretty much expect to get ghosted when I talk to a new girl now. I’m not one to come on too strong, I’m respectful, I’m not a too nice kind of guy or at least I haven’t been told yet lol For a example, recently a girl and I had been talking for a good amount of time but we could never meet up because she lived an hour away and life got in the way. The whole time we talked, FaceTimed, and texted everything was great. No awkward silences while talking or anything. Well we finally met up and stayed with each other for the weekend and it went really well. We went out on the city, I took her to a nice restaurant, had some drinks and what not. When we got back to our hotel we cuddled(I hate that word but...) and fell asleep watching a movie together. The next morning I was so happy, t...

I am a Sophomore in College (Male, Heterosexual, 19) and I get really lonely this time of year;I have been for a long time. I had a relationship that ended pretty badly about a year ago, and I haven’t dated anyone or even flirted since. Recently, I finally felt like I was ready to get back into dating and had this resolution to find somebody. So I nutted up and asked my crush, let’s call her “Abby” (Female, 20) out for a cup of Coffee last Friday. She said yes, but at the end of it, she told me (very respectfully and kindly) she wasn’t looking to date anyone rn and only saw me as an old friend from high school, so I moved on. However she invited me to a party at her sorority to watch the Super Bowl, since we are still friends. I said sure and I went with her to the party. I met a really nice girl there, Let’s call her “Natalie” (Female, 20) and she seemed to be into me, and I was attracted to her too. I’m just wondering if it would be wrong of me to ask out “Natalie” if she is good fr...

Basically, been on three dates so far. The only issue is on our third date when he kissed me and I pulled away after a few seconds, he continued to kiss me and bring me back in for more kissing. This happened like 4x... I can understand that he likes me and is attracted to me, but I was uncomfortable after we parted ways. I don’t know if I should address this with him over text or in-person. Or not at all and stop seeing him. He texted me after the date to make sure I got home ok and then again today to see how my day was going. So he assumes everything is peachy keen. Submitted February 03, 2020 at 11:59PM Basically, been on three dates so far. The only issue is on our third date when he kissed me and I pulled away after a few seconds, he continued to kiss me and bring me back in for more kissing. This happened like 4x... I can understand that he likes me and is attracted to me, but I was uncomfortable after we parted ways.I don’t know if I should address this with him over te...