Am I being ghosted? What do I do?(both in college)

I (F, 20) saw this guy (M, 22) followed me when I was in my last relationship and he always seemed interested. I ended things in my last relationship for different reasons, it just wasn’t working. So after a few weeks I messaged him and he messaged back. He seemed interested and he’s best friends with one of my cousins. And so one weekend I went out to the local bars and stuff and he asked if I wanted to come over and hang with him and my cousin and their friends. I said sure and went over. We had an amazing time, I ended up staying over (which I never do because I grew up really conservative) but I felt a connection and he said he did too and we slept together. After we talked all night about our families and our similarities and he said he really wanted to date me and I said I wanted to date him too but get to know him better. Things were really nice.

Well that next morning I left to go to work and texted him later in the day that I had fun and he said ” I did too, I already miss you”. And we snapped and texted on and off all day. Well the past few days he’s left me on read and opened and barely responds. I was afraid he was ghosting me so I messaged him saying “hey I like you and would like to hang out again. If not I completely understand” and he responded “yeah absolutely I’d like that”. So I thought it was good.

fast forward to the next couple of days and he’s doing it again, left me on read and open. And I know he works and that he’s busy, I completely understand that. But it’s happened a lot. And since I did sleep with him so soon I grew like a special feeling or something. I didn’t think he was one of those guys who sleeps with a girl and then ignores her. But maybe I’m wrong.

The night we spent together he keep on saying how perfect I was and how much he wanted to date me. So I’m really lost. Idk what to do. My self esteem is ruined and I feel humiliated. Please help.



Submitted February 03, 2020 at 11:24PM

I (F, 20) saw this guy (M, 22) followed me when I was in my last relationship and he always seemed interested. I ended things in my last relationship for different reasons, it just wasn’t working. So after a few weeks I messaged him and he messaged back. He seemed interested and he’s best friends with one of my cousins. And so one weekend I went out to the local bars and stuff and he asked if I wanted to come over and hang with him and my cousin and their friends. I said sure and went over. We had an amazing time, I ended up staying over (which I never do because I grew up really conservative) but I felt a connection and he said he did too and we slept together. After we talked all night about our families and our similarities and he said he really wanted to date me and I said I wanted to date him too but get to know him better. Things were really nice.Well that next morning I left to go to work and texted him later in the day that I had fun and he said ” I did too, I already miss you”. And we snapped and texted on and off all day. Well the past few days he’s left me on read and opened and barely responds. I was afraid he was ghosting me so I messaged him saying “hey I like you and would like to hang out again. If not I completely understand” and he responded “yeah absolutely I’d like that”. So I thought it was good.fast forward to the next couple of days and he’s doing it again, left me on read and open. And I know he works and that he’s busy, I completely understand that. But it’s happened a lot. And since I did sleep with him so soon I grew like a special feeling or something. I didn’t think he was one of those guys who sleeps with a girl and then ignores her. But maybe I’m wrong.The night we spent together he keep on saying how perfect I was and how much he wanted to date me. So I’m really lost. Idk what to do. My self esteem is ruined and I feel humiliated. Please help.
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