This, haha. Not that I've had it happen a lot, but in some cases I still don't know what was apparently flirting and what was just being nice. How can you tell? August 09, 2020 at 11:53PM

lack of sexual attraction. I'd be fine never having sex again but I do enjoy it with the right partner. Never been sexually attracted to anyone though. I def feel romantic attraction with certain people, it's fairly rare and usually only after I know them well but it's only ever happened to men. August 09, 2020 at 11:53PM

Thanks for informing me, but I've already seen it. I live that illustration! August 09, 2020 at 11:52PM

a-spec and asexuality spectrum are different They are? Now I understand how it’s a question! In that case I’ll change my answer to...meh August 09, 2020 at 11:49PM

Lack of sexual desire for me. Since I'm still gray-ace, occasional attraction is very possible. August 09, 2020 at 11:49PM

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I love this community so much you are all so great August 09, 2020 at 11:47PM

this is the same with all mental disorders. August 09, 2020 at 11:46PM

Would it be too soon to know if you were straight? No, so it's clearly a double standard. When you're young, people will be quick to dismiss what you say, but I knew I was ace since I was 14 and I'm 21 now. What's important is that you get support from somewhere, even if it's not family, and people in the ace community will always stand by in support of you my friend. August 09, 2020 at 11:46PM

Mine is 100% on lack of attraction rather than desire. Granted, I am on the demi sure so I do still experience attraction, rarely. August 09, 2020 at 11:46PM

the split attraction model is commonly (but not always) used by aces and aros to further specify attraction. Most allo people have romantic and sexual attractions that line up, ace and aro people are more likely not to. So you could be a homoromantic asexual, an aromantic heterosexual, etc. To simplify for people outside of the community many of us will say lesbian/straight/gay ace because those terms are more understandable. So yes, sometimes a preference is added to the description of ace. As for your other question, I'm an aromantic ace and to be honest, being ace feels like an extension of being aromantic for me. Because if I'm not into dating and romance in my mind there's no way I would ever make it to sex, and therefore sex is negligible to me. Like I just kinda don't care because I don't have to. August 09, 2020 at 11:45PM

Thank you for the encouragement greatly needed August 09, 2020 at 11:45PM

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I can enjoy sex and have done so before, but I have no desire to actually seek it out or have it. If you paid me never to have it again I'd take the money and be happy forever. I'm also biromantic but I don't really have a preferred gender. I like nice people. August 09, 2020 at 11:44PM

I know it feels discouraging now, cause I mean in a perfect world theyd just believe you, but if it helps at all, by stating it now, your laying the groundwork. Itll be easier for them to accept as you get older now that this claim is out in the open vs if you told them at, say, 30 for the first time after going through the motions for their sake for so long. August 09, 2020 at 11:44PM

I think I’m straight? I mean I am mostly attracted to men but who knows if one gal is gonna show up one day and make me say “nope I guess I’m bi”. I do think the female body is as pretty as the male (aesthetically) but I’ve never wanted to start a romantic relationship with a woman. So TL;DR I believe I’m heteroromantic 😛 August 09, 2020 at 11:43PM

How do you save a marriage that seems doomed. We have together 7 years and married 4. Apparently it’s been dead for 3 years since the birth of our first child. She has pulled away drastically doesn’t “have the heart” to try again now I know what went wrong etc. I became lazy and complacent due to a mix of depression and being an asshole. I’ve tried space (moved out for a month) to find she was doing things online so I moved back in to put a stop to it. I’ve did a lot of personal growth over that period. Fixing some mental health issues and being kinder, more supportive etc. seems nothing I try will get through to her... Submitted August 09, 2020 at 11:34PM How do you save a marriage that seems doomed. We have together 7 years and married 4. Apparently it’s been dead for 3 years since the birth of our first child. She has pulled away drastically doesn’t “have the heart” to try again now I know what went wrong etc. I became lazy and complacent due to a mix of depression and being ...

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I'm a 33f and met a man off of OkCupid a few days ago. I got a weird vibe from him as soon as we started walking. I'm not sure if he was disappointed in my appearance, but I was actually having a good day and I feel my photos are representative of what I actually look like. I also noticed that he was only an inch or two taller than me at best (I'm 5'7"), but he marked on his profile that he's 6'0" and even went out of his way to clarify that he's tall in his profile. His height of 5'8"-5'9" is perfectly acceptable, but it always turns me off when men lie about this. It made me wonder if he felt like I was emasculating him walking next to him because he was barely taller than me (since he had felt the need to lie about it), so I felt self-conscious about it the entire time. I'm pretty nervous and awkward when I first meet someone, and I'm not very good at flirting when I feel that way. I felt like I behaved especially ...

Started seeing a guy 2 months + ago and he just got really serious longterm health news. I want to work through it and be there with him but my gfs say it’s too heavy for two new people. Both him and I want to make it work though...? Is it possible? And how? As we can’t really “keep it fun” as much cause nothing but serious seems appropriate at this time Submitted August 09, 2020 at 09:38PM Started seeing a guy 2 months + ago and he just got really serious longterm health news. I want to work through it and be there with him but my gfs say it’s too heavy for two new people. Both him and I want to make it work though...? Is it possible? And how? As we can’t really “keep it fun” as much cause nothing but serious seems appropriate at this time

I (F37) have been talking to a guy (M35) on Tinder for two and a half weeks. We chatted everyday and seemed to be hitting it off, both equally invested. I'm off from work so I have a lot of free time, he works full time. He's immunocompromised also, so he says he hasn't gone out too much because if covid. We pretty much talked about almost everything about ourselves already.... so the convo was going stale. Last thing I told him was that the school district I work for would be going 100% remote learning in the fall. He then told me that was really good news that way so many ppl wouldn't be put at risk. This was 4 days ago. I didnt reply back, feltvlike that was the end of that convo. But part of me doesn't want to start a new convo, I feel like we should be at the stage of at least texting or talking on the phone. Or perhaps even setting a date to meet. I don't want to keep investing time in chatting with someone who i may or may NOT actually have chemistry wit...

Did I ask about commitment too soon? I (33F) have been texting/ voice calling with a 39M for about 2 weeks now. One of the first messages he texted me was, “I don't have anything to hide or be ashamed of, I'll tell you anything you want to know.” And he’s been true to that and makes an effort to be transparent so far. Anyway, after sending him a flirty message and him sending one back, I send him this piece of work: “Ok, since you’ve been in a committed relationship for so long, do you feel the need to go out there and experience a lot of different people? Sometimes people need that to get it out of their system, which is totally fine. Just wondering where you are on that :D “ It’s been 2 hours since I sent the message, and lately he’s been pretty consistent in replying once a day or every 12ish hours. He and I both came out of long term marriages (His 19yrs, mine 14 year) Yesterday we talked for about an hour and a half about all kinds of things, he mentioned his experi...